valleyview
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Post by valleyview on Apr 13, 2016 19:57:18 GMT
I'm so sorry reading all of the worries on this thread. Positive thoughts for you all!
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flute4peace
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Post by flute4peace on Apr 13, 2016 19:58:18 GMT
So many hurting here. Sending my love and prayers to all.
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Post by dewryce on Apr 13, 2016 20:07:13 GMT
Wow, what a strong group of women we have here! It was nice to vent, so thank you OP for that. And it helps reading that I am not alone, and to recognize that while this sucks there are people who understand.
To all of you with stressors right now, I wish you well!
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Post by PepsiGal on Apr 13, 2016 20:12:49 GMT
Thanks luvnlifelady !!!! Yes, dealing with plumbers and not knowing what exactly is going on is a pain. The bill is going to be unbelievable !!!!!
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 13, 2016 20:14:55 GMT
We meet with DH's oncologist Monday to see what next. He's out of the clinical trial that kept his cancer stable for the last year, due to a heart attack two weeks ago. I will keep him in my prayers. Hugs to you. Thank you
I really appreciate it.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2016 20:17:08 GMT
I'm so sorry for all the worries that people are coping with
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 13, 2016 20:18:25 GMT
Due to my cancer and the side effects of treatment I'm on the verge on no longer being able to work. I've always worked. I don't know what I'm going to do all day. Oops...didn't mean "Like". I'm sorry you are going through this.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 13, 2016 20:19:47 GMT
I am in the process of being assessed for being placed on the liver transplant list. I go in to the hospital on Monday for 2 days of all sorts of tests (to make sure that all other systems are okay.) I've done that part before, when I was healthier, so I know what to expect. The worst will be the stress test, which they have to do with drugs that make me feel AWFUL very suddenly and harshly before slowly getting better. So I'm nervous about that particular test, on a smallish scale. On the larger scale is the whole "what's next" of getting on/being on the list, including having a procedure on my liver that will help me be healthier while waiting but has it's own risks (google TIPS procedure). And you wouldn't even be able to tell I'm "sick" if you looked at me. But I'm used to that, having lived with fibromyalgia and chronic pain for more than 2 decades. Wishing you the best!
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 13, 2016 20:20:45 GMT
We are in the contract phase with a gestational carrier (surrogate). Once this is completed we will start the frozen embryo transfer cycle with the last two embryos using my eggs. So, this is our last chance for my biological child. I made the decision long ago to proceed with donor eggs, and I am 100% certain that is the right decision, but it's also a hard pill to swallow. I hope you get your longed for baby. Hugs.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 13, 2016 20:22:02 GMT
I am battling advanced breast cancer, which isn't responding to chemo. It is also my sons senior year, and trying not to miss his important award banquets, and concerts and his last events in high school. Mommy guilt at its finest today. I'm so sorry. Cancer sucks.
I have been so grateful that our children were in their 20's when DH was diagnosed. I can't even imagine how hard this is for you.
I'm wishing you the very best, dear Pea.
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tincin
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Post by tincin on Apr 13, 2016 20:29:53 GMT
My dog has a sore leg. We think he has a pulled muscle or sprain. We called the vet today she said if he's not better in a week or so to bring him and they can check him out to make sure it's not worse. He jumps up and down on our bed. Which sits up pretty high. And he plays catch with the tennis ball that's their favorite so I don't know how he did it. And it doesn't bother him all the time. He's walking and running on it. But he'll just yelp every once in a while. Otherwise he seems his normal self. The yelping had us a little worried.I put the gate up in our room. He loves our bed. So hopefully if I can keep him off the bed for a few days and down time no playing etc..he'll be okay. My cocker hurt her hip jumping on and off my son's bed. We couldn't keep her off it so we built a step stool for her to use. It was a big help.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2016 20:30:07 GMT
Thinking about everyone and hoping everything works out for the best for all the peas (((hugs))))
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Post by nitad on Apr 13, 2016 20:35:48 GMT
My DH was laid off from his job last August and he still hasn't found work. He employment insurance runs out next month then it will just be my salary. It won't be enough. Thankfully my job is secure and DD's tuition is almost done...only one more semester and books of course (which top over $500 this semester!). Last year at this time I thought PHEW almost done and now we can start working on the debt we have incurred. NOPE!
At work our section is undergoing a large change up including supervisor and at least 3 staff which could mean a change to my hours of work. I work straight afternoon shift right now and that pays almost a dollar an hour more so if I lose that on top of my husbands income loss it's just another blow. Not to mention the stress of breaking in so many new staff members.
We are also facing issues with DH's aging parents and them not coming to terms with the fact that they need more care than they can manage on their own.
That's the top three right now! I am thankful for my furgirls because they give me a reason to get up and get out everyday. I'm sure they are lowering my already soaring blood pressure for at least a couple hours a day!
I hate seeing so many people struggling with so many issues but it is nice to know we aren't alone in these things and it helps you to keep a bit of perspective.
Thanks for giving me the space to vent.
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tincin
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Post by tincin on Apr 13, 2016 20:38:19 GMT
Sorry to hear about everyone's worries and troubles. Life can be so tough sometimes. I will be thinking of you and hoping for good outcomes for all of you dealing with health and financial issues.
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M in Carolina
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Post by M in Carolina on Apr 13, 2016 20:39:12 GMT
My dh has been in a lot more pain recently, and his doctor who is supposed to be coordinating the new implant he needs is not helping anymore. Not having a surgery date puts us in limbo about moving for dh's job in Boston.
I've also been feeling horribly lately. I'm in a lot more pain--my doctor did up my meds a few weeks ago.
Two nights ago I was feeling really sick, so I went to lie down in bed and watch a movie because I wasn't sleepy. I wound up vomiting so quickly that I didn't have time to grab my bucket. While trying not to vomit nasty green bile (from the pancreatitis) all over my white feather comforter and sheets, I aspirated some. OWWW. I had felt like my heart was bothering me all day. When I felt like I was going to pass out, dh called the ambulance.
The EMS were able to do the EKG that the ER would do, so I didn't have to go. Everything was ok--thankfully it wasn't the SVT arrhythmia that requires me to be emergently "converted"--either a nasty med that feels like being kicked in the chest or the paddles. My worst fear is electrocution. I was so glad I didn't have SVT.
I'm feeling so much better, and my lungs are fine now. So glad I didn't get pneumonia.
My MIL is also really sick, and she hasn't talked to me since I was suicidal in October and had to get treatment. sigh
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Post by mom on Apr 13, 2016 20:45:17 GMT
I am in the process of being assessed for being placed on the liver transplant list. I go in to the hospital on Monday for 2 days of all sorts of tests (to make sure that all other systems are okay.) I've done that part before, when I was healthier, so I know what to expect. The worst will be the stress test, which they have to do with drugs that make me feel AWFUL very suddenly and harshly before slowly getting better. So I'm nervous about that particular test, on a smallish scale. On the larger scale is the whole "what's next" of getting on/being on the list, including having a procedure on my liver that will help me be healthier while waiting but has it's own risks (google TIPS procedure). And you wouldn't even be able to tell I'm "sick" if you looked at me. But I'm used to that, having lived with fibromyalgia and chronic pain for more than 2 decades. Bless your heart. My mom had TIPS done and while I don't think the proceedure itself was a big deal for her - it was a very scary time. I will pray for you!
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Post by coffeetalk on Apr 13, 2016 20:50:51 GMT
I am losing the strength in my right arm and dexterity in my right hand and fingers due to Multiple Sclerosis. It's my last ''good/working'' limb and I'm worried as it gets weaker and weaker. As of now, I'm still able to feed myself and work my computer mouse, both of which help me feel somewhat normal and independent. It's got me very worried what the future holds for me.
I'm sending positive thoughts and hugs to all of you who need them.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2016 20:51:24 GMT
My Dad has had to move care homes again, he's now in nursing instead of residential care. I'm worried that this hasn't been the best move for him even though it was necessary, he has less lucid moments now and his physical health is declining. Selfishly I worry that I'm not strong enough to get through this.
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*Marjorie*
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Post by *Marjorie* on Apr 13, 2016 21:02:38 GMT
I just sent cyber hugs to all of you with worries, large or small. I am worried that my DH will either have a stroke or a heart attack before he can figure out how to either sell his business or close it or get out from under it someway. Another huge worry about that is that our son works with him but cannot afford to buy the company. It's construction related, that's always been a roller coaster and right now they are booked for the next 2.5 years solid with big jobs but the contracts my DH has to sign are scary and it's just all too much. DH has a partner that wants to walk away (with a huge check) in 1.5 years and we are not 65 and ready to retire. Yet my DH is too stressed to shoulder the entire burden of this company alone. There is a lot more to all this and it's overwhelming. Please, please, please do something if you can. I lost my husband to a heart attack because of our business and all for nothing. When he passed, I had no choice but to close the business down.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2016 21:12:22 GMT
I just sent cyber hugs to all of you with worries, large or small. I am worried that my DH will either have a stroke or a heart attack before he can figure out how to either sell his business or close it or get out from under it someway. Another huge worry about that is that our son works with him but cannot afford to buy the company. It's construction related, that's always been a roller coaster and right now they are booked for the next 2.5 years solid with big jobs but the contracts my DH has to sign are scary and it's just all too much. DH has a partner that wants to walk away (with a huge check) in 1.5 years and we are not 65 and ready to retire. Yet my DH is too stressed to shoulder the entire burden of this company alone. There is a lot more to all this and it's overwhelming. Please, please, please do something if you can. I lost my husband to a heart attack because of our business and all for nothing. When he passed, I had no choice but to close the business down. I'm sorry for your loss Marjorie. I don't know what I can do to make the end result better. I've been his support and kept the home fire burning all these years....what happens is out of my hands. I'll just pick up and go on...and try to keep him uplifted. That's all I got. We may lose everything...but we may end up in a comfortable stage. Who knows.
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Post by elaine on Apr 13, 2016 21:18:40 GMT
Double eye surgery 1 week from today. Should hopefully correct my double-vision though, so that is a HUGE plus!
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azredhead
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Post by azredhead on Apr 13, 2016 21:24:57 GMT
ahh you peas are great! I probably do need to get a stool or stairs for them, lol. They are big dogs so it's not usually to hard. I hope he did just playing to hard and that didn't help. He's doing better today but he's just been laying in here or in the living room No yelping today.. Pia his sister Lab/Akita stays with him. They are sorta joined at the hip. BIg hugs for all the worries! Some pretty serious stuff. I feel for those of you struggling with health stuff and other stuff too. We need a pea worry free bubble!
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Post by justkat on Apr 13, 2016 21:44:25 GMT
Due to my cancer and the side effects of treatment I'm on the verge on no longer being able to work. I've always worked. I don't know what I'm going to do all day. Oops...didn't mean "Like". I'm sorry you are going through this.
No worries. I didn't see it and if I had I would've known what you were saying. Positive thoughts and prayers going out to everyone.
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Peal
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Post by Peal on Apr 13, 2016 21:44:36 GMT
We are buying a new home and moving to a new state (where dh has lived for the past year) in 6 weeks. It's set in stone. The house we live in now still isn't on the market due to things completely out of my control. I have some repair work that must be done on the roof before we can list, the workers were supposed to be here this morning, but we had a major hail storm last night and they cancelled on me to go take care of emergency damage. I don't know when I will see them. I was hoping to be on the market by the end of the week.
The last day at my job is in 2 weeks, so I won't be able to help cover expenses for much longer, and the guy I hired to do my landscaping has dropped off the face of the earth. At least I didn't pay him first.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2016 21:51:04 GMT
So many heavy concerns. Hugs and prayers for all of you to have peace. ♡
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Post by Minty118 on Apr 13, 2016 22:04:23 GMT
My DH started a new job 6 months ago and it was supposed to make life better. Unfortunately, even though he has gotten through training, he can't make his full salary and bonuses until he takes the three final tests. The tests are each only held once a month and they are so backed up that it could be months more before he can take the tests. We are trying to survive on 2/3 of his previous pay. My 17 year old car, that we were hoping to replace with job, just had $1400 worth of work on it and is now dripping oil. So now we are back to job hunting for DH, and I am trying to figure out how to get less money to stretch even further.
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Post by octoberbeauty on Apr 13, 2016 23:06:44 GMT
I am battling advanced breast cancer, which isn't responding to chemo. It is also my sons senior year, and trying not to miss his important award banquets, and concerts and his last events in high school. Mommy guilt at its finest today. Hugs and prayers for you.
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Post by octoberbeauty on Apr 13, 2016 23:24:27 GMT
Ugh, where to even start? I found the courage to get out of an abusive marriage last Spring. Domestic Violence Services connected me to an attorney and helped me get a protective order to get him out of the house. The boys and I have been in counseling ever since. It's been 10 months and we've only had 2 days in court. We thought we had a deal in January, but every time it's time to sign the papers he finds a reason not to, and places more demands or "we'll go back to court". He's a narcissist so he doesn't seem to care that I have a mountain of evidence against him and would love to go back to court at this point!! (Well I wouldn't "love" it. I just want this to be OVER!!) The marriage was financially abusive too so I had no access to any of our financial information or to any accounts. Everything went with him and I got left with nothing. Except an automobile that had already been deemed unsafe to drive by a mechanic. He didn't care and wouldn't get it fixed even though his kids have to be in it every day! I put every dime I could scrimp together into repairing it over the summer and managed to get it to the end of the year before it fell apart. My parents went together and bought me an older car...that now has the exact same problems as my last one!!! My attorney assured me that he couldn't stop paying on the house during the divorce proceedings. He did. The house is now in foreclosure and I don't know what we're going to do. So, there's that stress too. He has a new girlfriend that he's convinced I made all the abuse up, etc so she posts all over FB how awful I am to do this to HIM. Granted she's never even met me!! We have mutual friends so it's aggravating. I refuse to respond and stoop to her level. I had to pull my youngest out of school 6 weeks ago to homeschool him due to problems with his PTSD (resulting from abuse) so I had to quit my part time job and rely only on my direct sales job. I've been working hard to build, but it's stressful and scary to know I HAVE to make this work. It's just been one disaster after another and I am so down right now. Trying to regroup and prepare to keep fighting and see this to the end. But I'm TIRED. I don't have any family where we live. Everything is on my shoulders.
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Post by stephgg on Apr 13, 2016 23:34:02 GMT
Hugs to everyone. Scheduled a CT scan for early May. Hoping the pain in my left side is just muscular and not something more serious.
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purplebee
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Post by purplebee on Apr 13, 2016 23:39:28 GMT
I won't even mention my worries, most of which are minor when compared to what many of you are dealing with. I sincerely hope that things improve for everyone facing hard times. Prayers and hugs....
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