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Post by scrappysurfer on Apr 14, 2016 4:04:10 GMT
I'm worried that things really haven't changed. Me too. On a good note, I start a new job in 2 1/2 weeks in the NICU at the local Medical University Hospital... My dream job!! I'm excited but nervous because it will require a lot of training in areas I have no experience in... critical care and neonatal care. But I'm thrilled and scared and excited and anxious!
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paget
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Post by paget on Apr 14, 2016 4:19:09 GMT
I have an interview tomorrow at 8am. I really want this job. I have a job, but I just got my masters and this makes more money. Plus there are some funky dynamics happening at my office and it's time to get out. I have some soxial anxiety so interviews can be tough- this a panel interview.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Apr 14, 2016 10:16:04 GMT
I am battling advanced breast cancer, which isn't responding to chemo. It is also my sons senior year, and trying not to miss his important award banquets, and concerts and his last events in high school. Mommy guilt at its finest today. (((hugs)))
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Apr 14, 2016 10:28:04 GMT
Ugh, where to even start? I found the courage to get out of an abusive marriage last Spring. Domestic Violence Services connected me to an attorney and helped me get a protective order to get him out of the house. The boys and I have been in counseling ever since. It's been 10 months and we've only had 2 days in court. We thought we had a deal in January, but every time it's time to sign the papers he finds a reason not to, and places more demands or "we'll go back to court". He's a narcissist so he doesn't seem to care that I have a mountain of evidence against him and would love to go back to court at this point!! (Well I wouldn't "love" it. I just want this to be OVER!!) The marriage was financially abusive too so I had no access to any of our financial information or to any accounts. Everything went with him and I got left with nothing. Except an automobile that had already been deemed unsafe to drive by a mechanic. He didn't care and wouldn't get it fixed even though his kids have to be in it every day! I put every dime I could scrimp together into repairing it over the summer and managed to get it to the end of the year before it fell apart. My parents went together and bought me an older car...that now has the exact same problems as my last one!!! My attorney assured me that he couldn't stop paying on the house during the divorce proceedings. He did. The house is now in foreclosure and I don't know what we're going to do. So, there's that stress too. He has a new girlfriend that he's convinced I made all the abuse up, etc so she posts all over FB how awful I am to do this to HIM. Granted she's never even met me!! We have mutual friends so it's aggravating. I refuse to respond and stoop to her level. I had to pull my youngest out of school 6 weeks ago to homeschool him due to problems with his PTSD (resulting from abuse) so I had to quit my part time job and rely only on my direct sales job. I've been working hard to build, but it's stressful and scary to know I HAVE to make this work. It's just been one disaster after another and I am so down right now. Trying to regroup and prepare to keep fighting and see this to the end. But I'm TIRED. I don't have any family where we live. Everything is on my shoulders. from one DV survivor to another, ((((hugs))) It's a hard, unfair road, but it will get better.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2016 11:29:52 GMT
octoberbeauty Sorry that things are so crappy right now, I hope things get resovled and start to improve very quickly.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 14, 2016 12:53:40 GMT
octoberbeauty I'm sorry he's still able to control aspects of your life. I hope things get better soon. Hugs.
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Post by debmast on Apr 14, 2016 13:26:01 GMT
My D is having her wisdom teeth (3 of them) out tomorrow and I'm just nervous that it all goes well and her recovery is smooth. My son is having his out Monday, and I'm worried too. Sending healing thoughts your daughter's way. I'm also totally stressed out and anxious about a confluence of things that I don't really want to talk about. But it's been keeping me up nights. I seriously cried myself to sleep the other night. Good luck to both your kiddos! My older DD had hers out in January when she was home from college on Christmas break. Her's were easy peasy. No dry sockets. Never even took pain meds (just Ibuprofen). Went back to work 2 days later (would have gone back the next day, but we may her stay home one more day)
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Post by peasapie on Apr 14, 2016 13:35:27 GMT
Oh wow, some pretty heavy things to deal with. Computer problems are a pain, no two ways around it. Nothing like job insecurity too. Yikes! Debmast-I'm sorry for your community's loss. My son is in high school (15) and the school lost a young man over spring break to suicide. DS knew him as he had previously been in band. So heartbreaking for everyone. My daughters friend just committed suicide. 30 years old. Doctorate in pharmacology. We've known him since kindergarten. I've been sad for several days since the news.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2016 13:41:26 GMT
We're trying to figure out if we should sell our home and move across the currently (living in NC and wanting to move to AZ). We've tried to sell it for years but the market isn't great here. So now we're in the process of doing upgrades (my house is a construction zone) which may finally help it sell. My DH is also considering retiring from the Army (served for 25 years) and we have 2 kids headed to college soon. So much is up in the air and my stress level is extremely high right now. We also just moved back to this house a mere month ago (we had it rented out for a year), so I'm completely exhausted.
ETA: I'm sorry for all the things other Peas are going through. Life definitely hands you lemons sometimes.
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Post by peasapie on Apr 14, 2016 13:42:45 GMT
I am battling advanced breast cancer, which isn't responding to chemo. It is also my sons senior year, and trying not to miss his important award banquets, and concerts and his last events in high school. Mommy guilt at its finest today. Damn. Hope you will be able to attend the ones most important to you, and that they find a treatment that works. Sending prayers your way. xo
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 14, 2016 13:46:11 GMT
Just trying to figure out
1. if I'm going to be able to save my business or not and
2. if I really care I feel ya. Im kinda in the same spot. Me three. I've taken a year off and need a big time reboot and I'm just not sure it will be worth the effort.
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M in Carolina
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Post by M in Carolina on Apr 14, 2016 14:22:34 GMT
ahh you peas are great! I probably do need to get a stool or stairs for them, lol. They are big dogs so it's not usually to hard. I hope he did just playing to hard and that didn't help. He's doing better today but he's just been laying in here or in the living room No yelping today.. Pia his sister Lab/Akita stays with him. They are sorta joined at the hip. BIg hugs for all the worries! Some pretty serious stuff. I feel for those of you struggling with health stuff and other stuff too. We need a pea worry free bubble! Check out Homegoods/TJ Maxx/Marshalls --Dh got our bed steps for our cats there. It's brown canvas over thick foam--our elderly cat could no longer jump up on our bed. I've seen wooden steps of different sizes there. A low bench that could fit at the end of the bed might work as well. I'm so sorry for all the different pea problems. Those struggling with cancer, job difficulties and moves, and those going through divorce and abuse. coffeetalk I hope you keep the strength that you have. I think MS could be described as a slow descent down stairs--when you finally accept that you are slowly declining, you slip and tumble down several steps at once. I hope you can find a treatment or med that can help. octoberbeauty I'm so sorry you're being put through all this crap. I think your friends know that your dh's girlfriend is lying--not a lot of people will actually confront somebody like that, but it says more about her than it does about you. Your sons will be better for what you're doing. I'm so sorry for your financial pressures, but when you're through all this I think you'll find it was all worthwhile. (((hugs)))
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DEX
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Post by DEX on Apr 14, 2016 16:24:11 GMT
So much has happened over the past several years; husband died, sold home to move closer to family. I started a very part time job for extra income to supplement Social Security but it is not a match for me so I resigned. I am worried that I won't find anything at my age.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 14, 2016 17:53:52 GMT
I am battling advanced breast cancer, which isn't responding to chemo. It is also my sons senior year, and trying not to miss his important award banquets, and concerts and his last events in high school. Mommy guilt at its finest today. Hugs and prayers. I know how hard it is keeping up with kids when you feel good. I can't imagine how it must be when you are struggling with your health too.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2016 18:02:40 GMT
Right now, the only thing I'm worried or nervous about is the fact my oldest will be taking driver's training in June. It's not the costs associated with it. It's the fact he's driving! Add in the fact that next summer, my youngest will be taking driver's training as well. Two teenage drivers. I think my nights of sleeping soundly are coming to an end.
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Post by Chips on Apr 14, 2016 18:16:51 GMT
((((Hugs)))) and lots of love, positive thoughts, strength, healing, support and uplifting being sent to all the Peas. Feeling very thankful for you all and for sharing with us.
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Post by zishisak on Apr 14, 2016 20:34:15 GMT
I'm already a huge worry-wort, and I'm worried that my doctor let me know women tend to worry more as we get older....I was really hoping to relax a bit as I get older!
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Post by octoberbeauty on Apr 14, 2016 21:21:37 GMT
Thank you all. I've been feeling so lonely this past week. It was good to write that out. I cannot wait to be on the other side of this divorce where he has no control over me anymore!!
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Post by genny on Apr 14, 2016 23:26:32 GMT
DS is flying to Kansas tomorrow morning to see his kinda sorta girlfriend (who is the oldest child of one of my dearest school friends). He's a freshman in college, she's a senior in high school. He's flying up to take her to her prom Tomorrow is also his birthday and I am sad about him not being here for his birthday and very worried about him flying alone…not so much the flying, but checking in and getting through the airport, not missing his flight etc. I know it's kind of silly - he's a smart young man (19 tomorrow) and is smart enough to figure it all out. It's just that this mommy is super sad about her little boy growing up way too damn fast. One of our very close friends pretty much demanded that I let him drive DS to the airport and not me. I was like , um okay but why? He said you will cry the whole way there and the whole way back and he'll be nervous and worried because you're going to make him that way, he'll be better off if he doesn't leave you crying at bag check LOL. I also have a lot of pressing business stuff going on that is keeping me up at night, but his trip tomorrow is front and center right now.
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Post by seikashaven on Apr 15, 2016 3:10:35 GMT
I just want to know this baby has a heart beat and is doing ok. Two more weeks before I have my first appointment with my midwife. I'm going crazy.
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Post by monicad on Apr 15, 2016 5:32:57 GMT
I am battling advanced breast cancer, which isn't responding to chemo. It is also my sons senior year, and trying not to miss his important award banquets, and concerts and his last events in high school. Mommy guilt at its finest today. Thinking of you Lisa...so sorry you're having to go through this, especially right now. Please let us know if there's anything we can do. ((Hugs))
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Post by joblackford on Apr 15, 2016 6:10:20 GMT
There is always someone out there with a bigger problem that you have, but that doesn't mean smaller problems aren't important too. My problem is pretty big, but it shouldn't be life threatening. So I count myself lucky in that. I'm sorry for everyone out there suffering from worries, big or small. I'm facing some pretty scary spinal cord surgery in a couple of weeks, but I'm not too worried... yet. It's SO out of my hands. The consequences have already been determined, for the most part. Not doing the surgery would lead to paralysis, doing the surgery will have lesser effects that can't be predicted until it's done - maybe a numb patch, maybe a loss of motor function in part of my lower body. I'm worried about lying flat on a hospital bed for 3 days, unable to even sit up, at the mercy of nurses for the most basic care. (I'm hoping I'll be on enough drugs that I won't even care). I'm worried that the surgeon might have to cut a nerve that controls either bladder or bowel control. I'm worried that everyone else is freaking out about the surgery, much more than I am. I don't want them to worry, but I understand they will. I trust that we'll manage, whatever happens. But it's pretty scary to think of someone moving all your nerves around inside your spinal column. Luckily my surgeon has 35 years experience AND a sense of humor, and he reminds me of the dad from Family Ties, so you know, that's good, right? And he has 4.6 stars on the hospital review site. I told him if he was on Amazon I'd buy him
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scorpeao
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Post by scorpeao on Apr 15, 2016 6:18:32 GMT
I've been on vacation for two weeks. I applied for an internship I was fairly confident I'd get...well, I didn't. My supervisor (a terrible one at that) has told me and another coworker that we have two months to learn how to perform embryo transfer surgeries on mice....TWO MONTHS! It's unreasonable. I guess I'll be looking for a new job or career.
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RosieKat
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Post by RosieKat on Apr 15, 2016 19:57:11 GMT
Waiting for my 7y.o. son to get out of (planned) surgery. Normal mommy nerves.
Hugs to all of you...no worry ever feels small, does it, even when you know it is.
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Post by lisa on Apr 16, 2016 18:26:49 GMT
Hugs to everyone! This post shows how everyone has some struggle in life, and how nice it is to have a place to come for a little support. I hope all of you are finding some peace today.
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Post by compwalla on Apr 16, 2016 18:42:16 GMT
I had a nightmare the other night in which the entire cast and all the understudies of Hamilton were stricken with some kind of pox, causing the cancellation of the show for the night we have tickets.
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luvnlifelady
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Post by luvnlifelady on Apr 16, 2016 19:02:50 GMT
Just checking in on everyone. I hope some worries have diminished at least somewhat.
I got a second job (felt like I nailed the interview). I start Tuesday so need to cram this weekend and get as current as possible on things. Work a huge event for my other job today/tonight. Appraisal is Monday. Need to breathe.
I've decided too that I'm going back to dancing even though my knee isn't all the way ready for it. I miss it like crazy and not getting out is making me have cabin fever.
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