artsydaisy
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Post by artsydaisy on Apr 15, 2016 4:43:05 GMT
Hi Peas, I am a longtime lurker from the old board...I hope to become more chatty here, but I am one of those weirdos who is more shy online than in real life. It's a hard habit to break!
I have some questions about blocking people (or being blocked) on Facebook. This is going to be a long post, so please bear with me.
I am starting to think that my sister-in-law has blocked me. We are not friends on FB but we are not friends IRL, so that's not a big deal. However, she is friends with all of MY relatives, people she doesn't interact with at all IRL. She sees them once a decade at most, only at my house. She friend requested them (they told me).
She often posts things on their walls. I comment on what she posts on their walls, just for shits and giggles. She has never acknowledged my posts, which I would totally expect given our relationship (did I mention it was NOT GOOD?), but she is also one of those people who likes every single comment on whatever she posts. So that made me think she might have blocked me, because otherwise I think she would have been compelled to like my response to her post, if that makes sense.
If she blocked me, does she see my comments on her posts on my friends' walls?
If she can't see my posts, but they respond to me, does she see their response just hanging? That seems weird but I'm wondering if that's what's happening.
Does it make a difference if it's a nested comment vs. a comment chronologically after my comment?
Also, if you block someone, can they tag you in a post?
I realize I could probably experiment with this with one of my FB friends but I just thought I'd put it out for the peas in case anyone else has firsthand knowledge of this situation. I'm not mad at her for this -- our relationship is long past this being a factor -- but I am honestly curious about the blocking mechanism in FB. It seems faulty to me but I haven't had any experience with it to know if my instinct is right. I haven't blocked her, because I feel like I need to see what she says to my Dad or my Mom or my second cousin.
The reason we are not friends on FB is a whole 'nother post. She is also not FB friends with her brother, my DH, just in case anyone was wondering. But she's friends with my second cousins who she has never met.
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Post by freecharlie on Apr 15, 2016 4:55:10 GMT
If you see anything at all that belongs to her, a post or even a search of her name, then you have not been blocked.
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artsydaisy
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Post by artsydaisy on Apr 15, 2016 4:57:59 GMT
Oh, thanks! I thought it worked the other way around (that if you blocked someone, you didn't see what they posted). Sorta like here.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 15, 2016 7:42:41 GMT
It goes both ways. She doesn't have you blocked or you wouldn't see her. If she had you blocked, you wouldn't see her and she wouldn't see you.
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Post by wholarmor on Apr 15, 2016 9:17:17 GMT
I asked an acquaintance the other day if they had me blocked, or they were just ignoring me because I noticed that they always 'liked' every other post but mine, and responded. They gave me some weird excuse that they didn't know me well enough to consider me as a friend, and that their generation was not comfortable liking things that people they barely knew commented on or something stupid to that effect. It kind of took my breath for a minute because before she had moved away, I had helped her move, we had her and her girlfriend over for dinner, my husband was "friends" with her at work, and I felt completely stabbed in the back. I've also been completely supportive of her and her marriage, her GLBT threads, and her once girlfriend, who came out as a transgender and changed their name after they were married.
Sorry for the rant, but it sounds like your sister in law is just ignoring you.
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Post by mvavw on Apr 15, 2016 10:45:36 GMT
I don't know all of the ins and outs of Facebook settings, but is it possible that you have your posts only visible to friends? I'm pretty sure that was an option at one time.
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Post by pierkiss on Apr 15, 2016 11:00:50 GMT
If you can see any of her posts on Facebook I do not believe you have been blocked. When you can no longer see her posts, then you have been blocked. Also, once someone blocks you you cannot search for them and get results on facebook. My cousins ex-wife and I used to be friends on Facebook. Which I loved because my cousin isn't on there but she would post all the pictures of their kids and they're super cute and we didn't get to see them often. Anyway, after the divorce had been final for like a year we all noticed that we were no longer seeing any of the pictures of their kiddos. Checked my friends list and she was gone. Ok, no biggie, I figured she I friended me. I tried searching for her and nothing came back. I did some facebook stalking on her moms page (which is not locked down) and suddenly every comment that this woman had ever made to her mom is suddenly also gone. There is no way this woman deleted her Facebook page, she loves the attention too much.  So yep, she blocked every single one of her ex-husbands relatives. |
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Post by M in Carolina on Apr 15, 2016 11:00:57 GMT
I do have my BIL blocked and my SIL hidden (long history of completely evil, assholish behaviour on their parts). But if they asked me, I would tell them the truth. Not that they would. I think people are weird about what they comment on and don't. I also don't always see everything somebody posts in my feed--until I click on their wall, so sometimes I don't see stuff I'd comment on until a few days later. Those same friends make comments on other friends' posts, and we will comment to each other if the post has a conversation going. So I know that they see me and are friends with me. Some people just like statuses and never post. Others only comment on certain types of posts. Everyone is different. Some friends like to have conversations on posts--others never do. Like I'm friends with happymomma but don't always see all her statuses. I love her statuses, they make me happy, but I don't always comment because if I scrolled through my feed every day, I'd be on Facebook 24/7. I do kinda get a bit junior highish when nobody ever posts or likes my statuses. I don't post many, but then I realize that I don't see all of all of my friends' posts and I'm being ridiculous. What matters is that they're there when I need them. If somebody was more negative than positive, I'd get rid of them. I don't care if somebody blocks me or hides me or whatever. I use Facebook for me, not to see how popular I am. |
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Post by STBC on Apr 15, 2016 13:59:18 GMT
She often posts things on their walls. I comment on what she posts on their walls, just for shits and giggles. She has never acknowledged my posts, which I would totally expect given our relationship (did I mention it was NOT GOOD?), but she is also one of those people who likes every single comment on whatever she posts. So that made me think she might have blocked me, because otherwise I think she would have been compelled to like my response to her post, if that makes sense. Like the others said, if you can see her, you're not blocked. If you've been blocked, she can't see what you post/comment and you can't see what she posts/comments. In a thread of responses, it would be as if your comment wasn't there. If you're blocked, they can't see you at all - so they can't tag you in a post. It's as if you did not exist. If the person who blocked you tries to look up your page, it won't come up in a search. If you hide someone, you won't see what they post, but you will see if they comment on something of yours or if they comment on another friend's post. Sounds more that she's purposely ignoring you. |
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Post by artsydaisy on Apr 15, 2016 18:44:57 GMT
Thanks everyone! I didn't realize blocking worked both ways on FB. So I'm being purposefully ignored, which makes me want to comment more on her posts on my family members' walls. And then maybe she WILL block me, haha!
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Post by artsydaisy on Apr 15, 2016 19:01:56 GMT
I don't know all of the ins and outs of Facebook settings, but is it possible that you have your posts only visible to friends? I'm pretty sure that was an option at one time. My posts are set to friends only, but she is posting on my sister's wall, so I can see it. I comment on what she posts, but then I started to wonder if she had blocked me because she never reacts to what I say and she's compulsive about liking comments on her posts. I'm not offended, I just was curious how blocking worked. I do admire her willpower for ignoring me so thoroughly, haha! |
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Post by myboysnme on Apr 15, 2016 19:05:20 GMT
Just change her on your settings to acquaintance and you won't see her stuff all the time but you can go to her page and look when you are interested. 90% of my facebook friends are acquaintances so I see very few people in my feed.
Now my sister and my son's ex both have me blocked, and when I type their names into search it comes up with nothing. I cannot see that they even exist on facebook.
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Post by STBC on Apr 15, 2016 19:27:11 GMT
Just change her on your settings to acquaintance and you won't see her stuff all the time but you can go to her page and look when you are interested. Can your FB friends see if you have done this? |
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Post by myboysnme on Apr 15, 2016 19:49:43 GMT
Just change her on your settings to acquaintance and you won't see her stuff all the time but you can go to her page and look when you are interested. Can your FB friends see if you have done this? No they can't see it. They have no idea what settings you have. When they post things they may or may not show up on your feed, but they usually don't show up. |
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Post by mnmloveli on Apr 15, 2016 22:31:26 GMT
Not sure, but I think there's also something called "following". You can be friends but not "follow" someone. If she "unfollowed" you, she would not see your posts on her wall but you would still see all her posts. I don't think there's anyway to tell if someone has "unfollowed" you.
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Post by artsydaisy on Apr 16, 2016 3:58:54 GMT
We are not friends on FB though. That's the tricky part. She is friends with my parents, my siblings, my cousins, all my relatives but she's not friends with me. It's a long story, but the ball is in her court to be FB friends with her brother (she's not) and then I would follow their lead and friend her. I've become friends with his relatives after he's become friends with them. However, she has friended all of my relatives, even people she doesn't know, without friending me. So I was wondering if she had in fact blocked me, but apparently she hasn't.
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Post by lovetodigi on Apr 17, 2016 2:23:42 GMT
I don't know all of the ins and outs of Facebook settings, but is it possible that you have your posts only visible to friends? I'm pretty sure that was an option at one time. My posts are set to friends only, but she is posting on my sister's wall, so I can see it. I comment on what she posts, but then I started to wonder if she had blocked me because she never reacts to what I say and she's compulsive about liking comments on her posts. I'm not offended, I just was curious how blocking worked. I do admire her willpower for ignoring me so thoroughly, haha! If your posts are set to friends only, then she probably is not seeing your posts. If you want to test it, change it to allow friends of friends to see your posts and see if she comments then. Chances are, she is just not seeing your posts. |
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Post by AussieMeg on Apr 17, 2016 3:15:46 GMT
However, she has friended all of my relatives, even people she doesn't know, without friending me. Sounds like she's really trying to make a point! |
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Post by artsydaisy on Apr 17, 2016 22:39:58 GMT
My posts are set to friends only, but she is posting on my sister's wall, so I can see it. I comment on what she posts, but then I started to wonder if she had blocked me because she never reacts to what I say and she's compulsive about liking comments on her posts. I'm not offended, I just was curious how blocking worked. I do admire her willpower for ignoring me so thoroughly, haha! If your posts are set to friends only, then she probably is not seeing your posts. If you want to test it, change it to allow friends of friends to see your posts and see if she comments then. Chances are, she is just not seeing your posts. That's just for posts on my wall. For someone else's wall, it's whatever their settings are. Since she's their friend, she can see all posts on their wall, just as I can (which is why I see her posts in the first place). You don't have to be friends with someone to interact with them on a mutual friend's wall. |
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Post by artsydaisy on Apr 17, 2016 22:49:43 GMT
However, she has friended all of my relatives, even people she doesn't know, without friending me. Sounds like she's really trying to make a point! Yes, she is! She hates me. And now that I know that she hasn't blocked me, I'm going to make some outrageous comments on her posts just to make her squirm. haha! I didn't want to waste my time if she couldn't see what I was saying. |
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Post by lisacharlotte on Apr 18, 2016 0:26:45 GMT
You're not friends on Facebook, you're not friends IRL. Why are you spending so much time worrying about what she's doing online? She is under no obligation to acknowledge your posts and I'm not surprised she doesn't, considering your non-friendship. It sounds like you are trying to stir up drama with her online. Why?
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Post by seikashaven on Apr 18, 2016 0:59:52 GMT
Yes, she is! She hates me. And now that I know that she hasn't blocked me, I'm going to make some outrageous comments on her posts just to make her squirm. haha! I didn't want to waste my time if she couldn't see what I was saying. Why even bother poking the bear? Be the bigger person here. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2016 1:23:34 GMT
Sounds like she's really trying to make a point! Yes, she is! She hates me. And now that I know that she hasn't blocked me, I'm going to make some outrageous comments on her posts just to make her squirm. haha! I didn't want to waste my time if she couldn't see what I was saying. Why? It is only going to make you look like a raving idiot being a jerk. She will end up smelling like the proverbial rose. She isn't your friend irl or on facebook. So why do you want to poke a bear that is just going to verify that you are the @$$? |
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Post by artsydaisy on Apr 18, 2016 5:44:04 GMT
Yes, she is! She hates me. And now that I know that she hasn't blocked me, I'm going to make some outrageous comments on her posts just to make her squirm. haha! I didn't want to waste my time if she couldn't see what I was saying. Why even bother poking the bear? Be the bigger person here. Yes, she is! She hates me. And now that I know that she hasn't blocked me, I'm going to make some outrageous comments on her posts just to make her squirm. haha! I didn't want to waste my time if she couldn't see what I was saying. Why? It is only going to make you look like a raving idiot being a jerk. She will end up smelling like the proverbial rose. She isn't your friend irl or on facebook. So why do you want to poke a bear that is just going to verify that you are the @$$? OK, message received! I will not poke the angry bear that is my SIL. I promise I wasn't going to be as much of an asshole as it sounded like, but I will take the high ground and not be obnoxious. Sometimes that's a challenge! |
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So yep, she blocked every single one of her ex-husbands relatives. 
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