UGH! My older brother and I have discussed this many times. It is one of his BIGGEST pet peeves and the
reason he refuses to engage in small talk with strangers who are chatty. I hadn't realized it until he pointed it
out, so now I'm VERY sensitive to it. I don't know if this particular issue has been commented on, but what
about when you're talking, and you can just TELL the other person is NOT listening, because they are
already so eager to tell you what THEY think !??!!
I admit, I can be VERY guilty of something SIMILAR to this-----
In my case, I AM listening to the person very closely; however, if it's something that's very exciting / interesting to talk about, I interrupt (TERRIBLE habit I'm working on !!!!), because I'm afraid I'll forget a point I want to make if I wait too long....I have
decreased this rudeness a LOT by just reminding myself that IF I forget what I wanted to say after they're done talking, then so be it !
My parents taught us very good manners; one of which is----don't ever go on and on talking about yourself ! Ask people about themselves!
My siblings, hubbs, and some close friends have a "thing" where we say ***KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE!!!*** It AMAZES us how
some people are SO self-involved and oblivious to the people around them, they don't realize that telling a NON-STOP story with absolutely NO breaks for others to talk is just so rude. I used to be a LOT chattier in the past, then realized it was time to
let OTHER people speak, too! LOL!
Like a few others of you said, in a group situation where there is/ are a shy person(s) who never gets a chance to say
anything because of the dominators, I will purposely ask them something to get them into the convo. What I hate is
when that quieter/ shy person FINALLY gets a chance to speak, but the dominator interrupts them----!!! Arrrghhh!
Arrghhh PHONES !!
I give people a LOT of leeway about their phone thing **IF** it's things like emergencies, they're waiting on a call about a sick loved one, waiting on their child to call about something important, etc). But WOW----last summer I was SO disappointed when a bunch of friends I hadn't seen in a while were constantly
checking FACEBOOK while we were all together. These are NICE gals I've known many years--- they are not normally rude or unmannered, and they USUALLY have social graces. I reallly couldn't deal with it after a while!! I wanted to chat with them, catch up, giggle, etc, since we rarely see eachother. And hey, I can go on a facebook binge once in a while, too----but I can't imagine being on facebook when I'm hanging out with friends !!
Sure, we all sometimes QUICKLY post on FB and/ or Instagram where we are with a pik or two---that's fine, and it's fun. But in the case
of the time I described above, some of the ladies were just scrolling FB casually! (were they bored? Maybe a bit.....but I also
think for some people, it's become a habit/ addiction, and maybe they don't even realize how rude it is? )
I give people a LOT of leeway about their phone thing **IF** it's things like emergencies, they're waiting on a call about a sick loved one, waiting on their child to call about something important, etc). But WOW----last summer I was SO disappointed when a bunch of friends I hadn't seen in a while were constantly
