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Post by lesley on Apr 19, 2016 18:19:00 GMT
DD said her GF was commenting on how DD eats a limited diet, and how we seem to eat a lot of pasta, eggs and soup. For some reason, I'm feeling really defensive, even though I don't even know that she meant it as a criticism.
I feed DD and her GF, and DS and his GF every Friday and Saturday night. DD has Aspergers and is wary of trying new foods. Both she and DS dislike spicy food (even though I've been trying to sneak some heat into our meals for years). DS's GF is basically anorexic and barely eats anything at all. She also can't chew very well as her jaw dislocates very easily. DS is the pickiest of eaters, although at 18 he is a lot better than he was as a child. Trying to find dishes that everyone will eat is not easy. Also, I'm on a really strict budget these days, and pasta, eggs and soup are CHEAP!
Why am I fretting about this? I like the GF, she's a nice polite girl who gave me a TK Maxx gift card last weekend to thank me for letting her stay here every weekend.
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Post by J u l e e on Apr 19, 2016 18:34:07 GMT
It was probably just an observation. Try not to overthink it. But maybe invite the four of them to plan dinner and see what they come up with.
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Post by joelise on Apr 19, 2016 18:36:41 GMT
I think you are being over sensitive, but I am guilty of that so probably would feel the same as you. You said yourself that your DD is wary of trying new foods. It sounds like her GF was making an observation and not criticising your menus. I don't think you should dwell on it, she sounds like a nice thoughtful girl. :-)
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 19, 2016 18:38:35 GMT
I agree that it was probably an observation. It is one of those things that GF will probably learn all about when she has kids of her own. The good thing about being an adult (for many people) is that you learn that what works for others doesn't always work for you and there is nothing wrong with that.
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Post by disneypal on Apr 19, 2016 18:39:16 GMT
Perhaps so....I think she was just making an observation. She didn't mean it as a criticism.
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Post by momto4kiddos on Apr 19, 2016 18:45:27 GMT
I was going to say the same, have them plan a meal  Probably an observation, but i'd consider inviting her to plan something with you. My youngest and I are big soup fans, but my boys are not. It's not easy to always please everyone, especially on a budget. |
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Post by peasapie on Apr 19, 2016 18:48:11 GMT
Sounds like you cook what your family likes to eat.
Maybe at her house they have a lot of something else and she was just noticing differences.
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Post by lesley on Apr 19, 2016 19:14:10 GMT
You're all right, I am overthinking it. Thank you for putting this in perspective for me. I think I'm just feeling a bit down just now, and I tend to overanalyse stuff when I'm low. Peas rock!  |
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 19, 2016 19:19:21 GMT
You're all right, I am overthinking it. Thank you for putting this in perspective for me. I think I'm just feeling a bit down just now, and I tend to overanalyse stuff when I'm low. Peas rock! So… what's for dinner tonight?  |
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Post by calgal08 on Apr 19, 2016 19:22:48 GMT
Purely an observation. Everyone is different
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Post by freebird on Apr 19, 2016 19:55:52 GMT
DD said her GF was commenting on how DD eats a limited diet, and how we seem to eat a lot of pasta, eggs and soup. For some reason, I'm feeling really defensive, even though I don't even know that she meant it as a criticism. I feed DD and her GF, and DS and his GF every Friday and Saturday night. DD has Aspergers and is wary of trying new foods. Both she and DS dislike spicy food (even though I've been trying to sneak some heat into our meals for years). DS's GF is basically anorexic and barely eats anything at all. She also can't chew very well as her jaw dislocates very easily. DS is the pickiest of eaters, although at 18 he is a lot better than he was as a child. Trying to find dishes that everyone will eat is not easy. Also, I'm on a really strict budget these days, and pasta, eggs and soup are CHEAP! Why am I fretting about this? I like the GF, she's a nice polite girl who gave me a TK Maxx gift card last weekend to thank me for letting her stay here every weekend. Probably because it's something you've worried about for a long time, so for someone to verbalize your anxiety freaks you out. I'm sure she didn't mean it as a bad thing considering she's a good person otherwise. Invite her over to cook a meal with you but don't say a word about why. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 19, 2016 20:26:44 GMT
DD said her GF was commenting on how DD eats a limited diet, and how we seem to eat a lot of pasta, eggs and soup. For some reason, I'm feeling really defensive, even though I don't even know that she meant it as a criticism. I feed DD and her GF, and DS and his GF every Friday and Saturday night. DD has Aspergers and is wary of trying new foods. Both she and DS dislike spicy food (even though I've been trying to sneak some heat into our meals for years). DS's GF is basically anorexic and barely eats anything at all. She also can't chew very well as her jaw dislocates very easily. DS is the pickiest of eaters, although at 18 he is a lot better than he was as a child. Trying to find dishes that everyone will eat is not easy. Also, I'm on a really strict budget these days, and pasta, eggs and soup are CHEAP! Why am I fretting about this? I like the GF, she's a nice polite girl who gave me a TK Maxx gift card last weekend to thank me for letting her stay here every weekend. Probably because it's something you've worried about for a long time, so for someone to verbalize your anxiety freaks you out. I'm sure she didn't mean it as a bad thing considering she's a good person otherwise. Invite her over to cook a meal with you but don't say a word about why. I agree, you probably know that most adults look down on other adults that do not eat in a more sophisticated/grown up way. We have seen the discussion here. You are trying your best with your family. The GF may have meant it in a snarky way....but only if she is immature and does not understand the different challenges of feeding your gang. Or, she may not have meant it to be snarky at all. |
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Post by anniebygaslight on Apr 19, 2016 20:40:03 GMT
Sounds like an observation as opposed to a criticism. Forget about it.
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Probably an observation, but i'd consider inviting her to plan something with you. 
