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Post by underwatermama on Apr 20, 2016 0:04:39 GMT
He is so excited LOL. The invitation lists the ceremony and then party afterwards at the same location. I have many questions.
1. I'm assuming he would go to both the ceremony/party? It's being held at a church.
2. Gift? I'm also assuming he would bring her something, but what? If $$ or gift card, what amount (range)?
3. If he goes to both ceremony/party, does he go alone to the ceremony. I don't want to be the helicopter Mom, but what's normal? (I'm assuming it's a Mass and then the party).
4. What else do I need to know, if anything? Invitation says formal so at least we know what he needs to wear.
Thanks!!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 20, 2016 0:46:10 GMT
Are you sure he hasn't been asked to be an escort?
If not, Don't worry about him being alone.
Money is the usual gift.
These parties tend to be one step below a wedding.
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Post by underwatermama on Apr 20, 2016 1:16:56 GMT
Are you sure he hasn't been asked to be an escort? If not, Don't worry about him being alone. Money is the usual gift. These parties tend to be one step below a wedding. The invitation says "You are invited to xx Quinceañera" and "Join Us and Celebrate" on the inside of it. No mention of escort. |
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Post by zookeeper on Apr 20, 2016 1:28:52 GMT
I love a beautiful Quinceanera!
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Post by gorgeouskid on Apr 20, 2016 1:31:01 GMT
Most likely, if he were being asked to be an escort, you'd know as there are usually extensive dance practices and rehearsals.
I'd go with him to the church, and see if the parents expected me to come... "The mass was lovely. What time should I pick up Steven from the party?" If they want you there, they'll tell you to stay. Do you have a relationship with the parents? I've been to quite a few quinceañeras and they're very fun.
My usual gift is $50, but that's as a former teacher. It was considered very generous.
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Post by underwatermama on Apr 20, 2016 2:00:15 GMT
Most likely, if he were being asked to be an escort, you'd know as there are usually extensive dance practices and rehearsals. I'd go with him to the church, and see if the parents expected me to come... "The mass was lovely. What time should I pick up Steven from the party?" If they want you there, they'll tell you to stay. Do you have a relationship with the parents? I've been to quite a few quinceañeras and they're very fun. My usual gift is $50, but that's as a former teacher. It was considered very generous. I've never met the parents (the kids go to school together). Until today I had no idea he was friends with this girl, but he's turned into a social butterfly recently so I'm going to roll with it (so different than DS#1). I asked him about being asked to be an escort and he looked at me like I suddenly sprouted a third eye on my forehead.  |
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Post by librarylady on Apr 20, 2016 3:09:08 GMT
We have been to one...that is my only experience.
We were not invited to the mass, just the party.
It reminded me of a wedding reception.
The girl being honored had attendants. The couples came in and were "presented" to the crowd. There was a huge cake--many tiers. Food, gifts and dancing...That is what I remember from the party.
I have NO idea if this is what happens in other areas or not. But, around here there are "sponsors" at the party. These are friends of the parents of the girl. The sponsors help pay for the huge party. At this party, the sponsors dress in a particular color. It is a code to let guests know who are helping host the party. I had no idea that this was a custom. I just picked a dress to wear. Unbeknown to me, I selected the color the sponsors were wearing. I found out when people came by to thank us for the nice party etc. (My husband worked with the father of the important girl.) I was very embarrassed.
Father of guest of honor let us in on what was going on. I'm sure he chalked it up to cultural ignornace.
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Post by bc2ca on Apr 20, 2016 4:02:57 GMT
Around here, unless you know the parents/family, the invitation is just for your son and he should have plenty of friends to sit with during the ceremony. Cash and a card would be the usual gift and $20 from a classmate the norm. As gorgeouskid said, if he was being asked to be an escort, he would have been involved in dance rehearsals and been given specific instructions on what to wear, possibly renting a tuxedo. If you search Quinceanera Court you will find they look very much like bridal parties. |
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Post by lostwithout2peas on Apr 20, 2016 4:47:09 GMT
Around here the kids just go to the party not the mass.
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Post by underwatermama on Apr 20, 2016 14:15:23 GMT
I have NO idea if this is what happens in other areas or not. But, around here there are "sponsors" at the party. These are friends of the parents of the girl. The sponsors help pay for the huge party. At this party, the sponsors dress in a particular color. It is a code to let guests know who are helping host the party. I had no idea that this was a custom. I just picked a dress to wear. Unbeknown to me, I selected the color the sponsors were wearing. I found out when people came by to thank us for the nice party etc. (My husband worked with the father of the important girl.) I was very embarrassed. Father of guest of honor let us in on what was going on. I'm sure he chalked it up to cultural ignornace. Wow, I can't believe no one told you about the color thing. Was color mentioned on the invitation? At least with sending a boy to the party, I don't have to worry about that! Thanks for the information! |
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Post by underwatermama on Apr 20, 2016 14:19:28 GMT
Around here, unless you know the parents/family, the invitation is just for your son and he should have plenty of friends to sit with during the ceremony. Cash and a card would be the usual gift and $20 from a classmate the norm. As gorgeouskid said, if he was being asked to be an escort, he would have been involved in dance rehearsals and been given specific instructions on what to wear, possibly renting a tuxedo. If you search Quinceanera Court you will find they look very much like bridal parties. Yes, I know I'm not invited to the party (invitation is only addressed to him), but I wasn't sure about the kids/ceremony part. Thanks for the hint to search for QC too - the court photos are like looking at bridal parties! |
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Post by mommythree on Apr 20, 2016 14:27:45 GMT
My son was invited to quite a few last year,,,and was an escort in one. If the invitation does not say the color theme, then he can wear whatever color he likes. The usual attire is dress pants dress shirt and a tie,,,vest are common too. I usually give a gift card to sephora for $25.00. The mass can be quite long, and sometimes all in spanish, so I wouldnt suggest he go to that. Like the other posters stated, Quince's are big business and are very formal..very similar to Bat Mitzvahs. He'll have a blast!
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Post by utmr on Apr 20, 2016 15:14:36 GMT
Agree with the comments above. Dress pants and tie or suit and tie, $20-40 in a card would be a good gift. For the ones we've been to, it was acceptable for parents to attend the mass, the party was a drop off event. Very similar to a bar/bat mitzvah. Party will likely include dinner, dancing and presentation of doll, shoes, etc. There will likely be school friends to sit with. He will have fun.
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Post by Leone on Apr 20, 2016 15:20:30 GMT
Interesting...many of the priests in the Phoenix area highly discourage these. They are very elaborate and expensive. They preach that it makes far more sense to use the money to educate your children and not go into debt. My TA where I taught in Tempe explained all of this to me. The families usually ask different relatives to foot the bills for specific things....the bar bill, the limo, the band, the 15 dresses. She got stuck for $1500 for the mariachi band. She found a convenient excuse for the next one to not attend as they wanted her to pay the bar bill for everyone.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 20, 2016 15:41:08 GMT
My son is in his 2nd quinceanera next month. But he is an escort not just an invitee.
Yes to a gift - we do $50 gift card.
Mass is followed by the actual party. In our case the mass is hours before the party so double check times. The first one mass was at noon but the party didn't start until 4pm. The one he is in next month there is a 5 hour difference between mass and party. First one we went to mass, he stayed with the kids and then we (parents) went back for the party.
I think since he isn't an escort, probably just have him go to the party. Most likely everything will be in Spanish, including the mass. We understood very little and I think we were the only non-Hispanic family there. Also since he isn't an escort, the invite is probably just for him and not the parents. It's different when your child is in the actual event.
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Post by underwatermama on Apr 20, 2016 17:30:33 GMT
My son is in his 2nd quinceanera next month. But he is an escort not just an invitee.
Yes to a gift - we do $50 gift card.
Mass is followed by the actual party. In our case the mass is hours before the party so double check times. The first one mass was at noon but the party didn't start until 4pm. The one he is in next month there is a 5 hour difference between mass and party. First one we went to mass, he stayed with the kids and then we (parents) went back for the party.
I think since he isn't an escort, probably just have him go to the party. Most likely everything will be in Spanish, including the mass. We understood very little and I think we were the only non-Hispanic family there. Also since he isn't an escort, the invite is probably just for him and not the parents. It's different when your child is in the actual event.
We wore church dress and will to the next one too. Yes, I double-checked and the mass is right before the party. Plus it's at the regular Sunday mass time which is also right before the youth ministry classes, so I'm assuming not in Spanish. I think we might go to the Mass just to see what they do at one (it's at our regular church so assuming I don't get hit by lightening for not having been in awhile) it is easy enough to go. And have my son sit with his friends if they are there with us hiding in the back. Thank you all for the information. It's been very informative. |
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Post by stepht5 on Apr 21, 2016 16:56:45 GMT
Interesting...many of the priests in the Phoenix area highly discourage these. They are very elaborate and expensive. They preach that it makes far more sense to use the money to educate your children and not go into debt. My TA where I taught in Tempe explained all of this to me. The families usually ask different relatives to foot the bills for specific things....the bar bill, the limo, the band, the 15 dresses. She got stuck for $1500 for the mariachi band. She found a convenient excuse for the next one to not attend as they wanted her to pay the bar bill for everyone. I have never understood why you would have a bar available at a CHILD's 15th birthday party! It makes no sense! |
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Post by brina on Apr 21, 2016 19:20:00 GMT
Interesting...many of the priests in the Phoenix area highly discourage these. They are very elaborate and expensive. They preach that it makes far more sense to use the money to educate your children and not go into debt. My TA where I taught in Tempe explained all of this to me. The families usually ask different relatives to foot the bills for specific things....the bar bill, the limo, the band, the 15 dresses. She got stuck for $1500 for the mariachi band. She found a convenient excuse for the next one to not attend as they wanted her to pay the bar bill for everyone. I have never understood why you would have a bar available at a CHILD's 15th birthday party! It makes no sense! oh my - this argument again. The bar is for the adults in attendance. A quinceanera is not a kids' party - it is a family celebration. The ones I have attended there are at least as many adults as kids and many adults like a cocktail while at a social event. |
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Post by missmiss on Apr 21, 2016 19:28:50 GMT
These are a HUGE deal in the Mexican culture. They go all out like prom on the dresses. They even have like a "court" of friends and they practice some dance they will preform generally. This party is pretty much saying their daughter is now a woman. I do not think parents are invited unless you are family or family friend. For the present it is like a birthday party. If money then what would you give a 15 year old for a birthday gift? people.howstuffworks.com/culture-traditions/cultural-traditions/quinceanera.htm |
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