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Post by Deleted on Apr 21, 2016 9:41:06 GMT
How can I be the best house guest? Because of my health I can't do a lot of things around the house that I would like to. I do however load the dishes in the sink if I see them sitting in there. I watch the baby if they need to go somewhere and she is taking a nap. (She is nine months and teething right now) I will also walk outside with her when she gets fussy. I have also folded laundry.
I always try to make a point in saying thank you for everything. I am extremely blessed and grateful that they have invited me into their home.
I try to be involved with the kids in any way I can. I take the dog for walks too.
These friends are truly like family to me. I want to make sure when all of this is said and done we still love each other. I know this isn't an ideal choice but right now it's the only option for many reasons.
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Post by gsquaredmom on Apr 21, 2016 9:49:39 GMT
Don't use anything in excess. Water, tv, your presence ( let them be in their livingroom on their own for a bit), etc. They need their own family time and you need some alone time to read, relax, etc.
Buy a few food items occasionally or offer a little bit of money. Even a couple dollars. They may refuse, but the offer will be important.
If they are driving you, same thing.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 21, 2016 9:56:45 GMT
Don't use anything in excess. Water, tv, your presence ( let them be in their livingroom on their own for a bit), etc. They need their own family time and you need some alone time to read, relax, etc. Buy a few food items occasionally or offer a little bit of money. Even a couple dollars. They may refuse, but the offer will be important. If they are driving you, same thing. They have a huge house but their electric bill is only $40 a month. My friend was really proud to show me that. In the beginning I spent A LOT of time in my room to not disturb family time. They told me not to do that. That they wanted me out of my room and with them. (My friend who is like my brother had a long talk with me about that.) They want me involved with meals, family prayer, etc. It's still awkward for me finding that balance because I didn't have a family growing up. He even told me he wants me up earlier. With pain that's not always possible. I did buy my own toilet paper. Since I only have a tint bit saved and don't have an income right now it's a bit tough. I have my car here so at less they don't have to drive me places. He stayed with me many years back. I just charged him rent in spider killing skills.  ? |
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Post by TankTop on Apr 21, 2016 10:21:51 GMT
The fact that you are aware and asking means you are trying.
I would just continue what you are doing. Help where you can. Clean what you can and especially be respectful of the wife. Do you have a skill she might be interested in learning? Something to bond over?
Maybe a large project they have been putting off, like photo sorting? Putting pictures in albums? Maybe ask in a way of saying you need to keep your hands busy.
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Post by peano on Apr 21, 2016 12:10:08 GMT
Why is it that a considerate person who is already doing what she can is the one asking this question, when we know there are thousands of disrespectful houseguests running roughshod over their hosts, and would never even entertain this question?  Why? Why?!!! I guess it's in the same category as why is it that the same 6 people are the only ones who volunteer in the school. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 21, 2016 12:22:24 GMT
The fact that you are aware and asking means you are trying. I would just continue what you are doing. Help where you can. Clean what you can and especially be respectful of the wife. Do you have a skill she might be interested in learning? Something to bond over? Maybe a large project they have been putting off, like photo sorting? Putting pictures in albums? Maybe ask in a way of saying you need to keep your hands busy. That's a great idea! |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 21, 2016 12:23:34 GMT
Why is it that a considerate person who is already doing what she can is the one asking this question, when we know there are thousands of disrespectful houseguests running roughshod over their hosts, and would never even entertain this question? Why? Why?!!! I guess it's in the same category as why is it that the same 6 people are the only ones who volunteer in the school. Thanks! It just hit me maybe I should just ask them too. |
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Post by schizo319 on Apr 21, 2016 12:32:44 GMT
Do both adults work? Do you cook? Maybe putting together a simple dinner once in a while would be helpful - especially if the children have busy schedules (ball games, music lessons, etc.)
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Post by Deleted on Apr 21, 2016 12:52:20 GMT
The fact that you are aware and asking means you are trying. I would just continue what you are doing. Help where you can. Clean what you can and especially be respectful of the wife. Do you have a skill she might be interested in learning? Something to bond over? Maybe a large project they have been putting off, like photo sorting? Putting pictures in albums? Maybe ask in a way of saying you need to keep your hands busy. I forgot to say, the wife was actually the one to invite me. I am grateful he married her. She's such a sweetheart. She considers me an aunt to the kids. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 21, 2016 12:54:10 GMT
Do both adults work? Do you cook? Maybe putting together a simple dinner once in a while would be helpful - especially if the children have busy schedules (ball games, music lessons, etc.) She's a stay at home mom so she's home most of the day. But I like the cooking dinner idea. |
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Post by Darcy Collins on Apr 21, 2016 14:30:22 GMT
I often have extended house guests. Truly the only thing I ask is that they feed themselves and clean up after themselves for breakfast and lunch. It's never an issue to add someone to our family dinner - guests, neighbors, friends - I'll feed anyone dinner. But we run an everyone fends for themselves for breakfast and lunch household. Our mornings are busy. I'm trying to get everyone out the door, and don't have time to fry you up some eggs. Help yourself to any food - if it's in the fridge/pantry eat it. If you want or need anything - write in the shopping list and I'm happy to buy it. But feed yourself and clean up after yourself when you're done.
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Post by calgal08 on Apr 21, 2016 15:53:36 GMT
Give them lots of their own space. When the husband gets home from work make yourself scarce. I know the few times we've had houseguests one of the worst things for me was coming home from the office and not having some alone time with dh and kids. On a night, if they're sat watching TV, go to your room and read, not necessarily every night, but a few each week.
Although you might not be able to do any heavy housework, constantly picking up, cleaning counters, etc. is a huge help. Just generally making sure the house is neat and tidy.
I agree with pp, just the fact you're wanting suggestions show you're a great guest to have.
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