scrappyesq
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Post by scrappyesq on May 3, 2016 21:21:47 GMT
Magical. Actually my anniversary is tomorrow. Even with everything that's going on it was the best day of my life.
6 bridesmaids/ 6 groomsmen. 150 guests. Church ceremony, beautiful reception held in a refurbished movie studio with a clear view of the NYC skyline from Brooklyn. I grew up in Brooklyn and I was determined to get married there, which led to huge fights with my mother because we were living in New Jersey at the time. I eventually got my way and it ended up being planned by me with only a little bit of input from anyone else. Absolutely perfect.
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Post by peano on May 3, 2016 21:21:51 GMT
Just us two married by our town's probate judge at the Town Hall. It was February 12 and I was 3 months pregnant. I wore a cream brocade suit that I could fit into for the ceremony. Afterward, we had dinner at a nearby restaurant in front of a huge fireplace. Then home to bed 'cause I was in my first trimester and I was exhausted.
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Post by brandy327 on May 3, 2016 21:26:35 GMT
My mom and dad planned pretty much the entire wedding since they asked us to get married in MI where they lived (and I grew up) and we lived in MA. I picked out my dress and my parents paid for it (only a few hundred dollars). We bought the invites and mailed them out. My parents paid for the hall and the dj and photographer. We didn't really have much of a rehearsal dinner. Everything was SUPER laid back and was stress free. It was perfect. At the time we didn't have the money for a honeymoon, so we just stayed and hung out with my parents for a couple of weeks. I'm SO glad that we did because just a couple of years later, my dad died.
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Post by jeremysgirl on May 3, 2016 21:31:12 GMT
We had planned a trip to Vegas right before we got engaged. Then 4 days before we went DH said let's just get married while we are there. The kids wanted a big party but didn't care about the ceremony so we just decided at the last minute to do it. We had a nighttime gazebo wedding and went and had dessert afterward. My whole wedding ceremony took six minutes. And I got to wear a pink sundress. It was perfect. My mom planned a big party a couple of months later. I appreciated that it was just the two of us. And then I liked having the separate celebration with family and friends. My wedding felt spontaneous and intimate.
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Post by Delta Dawn on May 3, 2016 21:33:52 GMT
Image Peiking Opera and then you'll get an idea of how silly it was! Or google Kabuki. That, too will show some silliness.
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Post by kckckc on May 3, 2016 21:39:52 GMT
Very small. Maybe 50 people. My MIL made my dress and my bridesmaid dresses. Blue dotted swiss!! We had our ceremony in a church and the reception where we served cake, nuts, mints and punch in the fellowship hall.
My Dad paid for our cake and DH and I paid everything else.
We were married in May of 1980 and will soon celebrate our 36th anniversary!!
And just my 2 cents worth here...weddings have gotten out of control!!! I can't imagine spending as much money as some people are spending on wedding now days! DS's best friend just got married in October and the reception alone was $11,000! Crazy!
This sounds just like my wedding. Small. I did buy my dress, but my mother made the bridesmaid's dresses. Ceremony in church and reception was just cake and punch in the fellowship hall. My grandmother did the flowers, which were minimal. I wouldn't change it - I can't imagine us spending thousands of dollars on a wedding. We were married in 1978, so 38 years this December.
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Post by purplebee on May 3, 2016 21:52:06 GMT
April of 1972. Traditional church wedding, white dress, MOH, 2 bridesmaids, best man, 2 groomsmen. Reception at local restaurant/catering house, dinner, cocktails, wedding cake, band. Typical Catholic Long Island wedding. About 100 people in attendance. Mom and I planned it with absolutely no problems, and it was lovely. Found my dress, after shopping in Manhattan and not liking anything, at the local Mays Department store - $100, and the lady across the street who did sewing and alterations, hemmed it for me, the only modification it needed! My folks paid for most of it, around $2,000. I was 20.
We're still married.
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Post by Tamhugh on May 3, 2016 22:05:50 GMT
DH and I were 23 when we got married. We paid for almost the entire wedding ourselves and it cost about $8500 back in 1988. We had:
*200 people *FIL married us *5 attendants each *held at my childhood church *included all siblings on both sides
We did give in to pressure from family a lot. My MIL changed the tux orders because she didn't like the ones we chose. She thought the wedding party was too big and convinced me not to include one other friend (which I regret to this day). My mom pressured me to order my cake through a friend and to use another friend to videotape the wedding. The cake was ugly and the video was awful. I wanted to get married at the chapel at college but my mom insisted it had to be in our hometown because it was silly to make both families travel.
There were other little things, but in the end, it doesn't matter. We had a great day and we are still married almost 28 year later. I hope I can remember to "shut up and wear beige" when my boys get married.
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 3, 2016 22:08:11 GMT
The entire time DH and I were engaged, we always talked about eloping and running off somewhere and doing something simple (and cheap!) followed by a fantastic honeymoon. When push came to shove, DH decided he wanted a church wedding because he was afraid he would feel like he "missed out on something later in life," even though he hadn't stepped a foot in a church since he was about 6 years old, ugh. So he booked the church and hall where he was going to school (college), and I got stuck doing everything else. I did have control over most of my decisions because DH didn't care (and in most cases didn't even go along to choose, my sister did!) and we were paying for it on our own. The wedding itself was small but very nice considering we were paying for almost everything ourselves and we had a shoestring budget. My mom made my sister's MOH dress. It was crazy hot, like 95 degrees, with about 85% humidity and there was no A/C in the church. It was miserable. The reception was dinner, cake and that was it. We didn't have a dance or any alcohol because both of his parents were alcoholics and his grandma was a Baptist who didn't drink (fun times!). After everyone ate both DH and I were "stolen" separately and dragged around town to various bars where we both got stumbling drunk. At the last bar I was about ready to cry because I was so hot, tired, hungry, drunk and my stupid stiletto heels hurt. I was so happy to see DH sitting on the other side of the bar so we could go home. Except we couldn't GO home, because everyone was waiting for us at my mom's house to open the gifts. So there I was, totally drunk with my head swimming, sitting at my mom's opening stuff with DH. When that was done, we had a hotel for the night only because the very next day we were driving five hours south to Iowa with his parents and grandma to have a funeral for his cremated grandpa who had passed away six months prior. Yeah, there's nothing quite like going to a funeral the day after you get married! Our honeymoon was an equally *awesome* experience. His grandma wanted to pay for an all expenses paid trip to Hawaii as her wedding gift to us, which would have been amazing if we would have planned it ourselves. But we didn't, MIL did, and she cheaped out on every.single.thing. She booked the cheapest economy air travel at red-eye times, hotels miles away from any beach (with giant cockroaches!) and blocks away from anyplace that the tours left from, the tiniest compact rental car, and the only money we had for food was what came in the wedding cards so we literally ate at McDonald's every day. We were thankful to be able to go there, don't get me wrong. But I know the trip we took was NOT the dream honeymoon trip his grandma had envisioned for us. Oh! I almost forgot! We had to sue our photographer in small claims court to get our wedding photos! It took three years to get them. Needless to say, after that sort of beginning the rest of our marriage has been mostly smooth sailing by comparison! If I had it to do all over again, I would absolutely choose the same man but that's about the only thing that I wouldn't change. If I knew then what I know now, I would have insisted on eloping and if he absolutely HAD to get married in a church, I would have found one for him somewhere other than here and avoided all that extra nonsense.
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Post by leannec on May 3, 2016 22:10:37 GMT
What was your wedding like? We got married in Las Vegas with 10 guests ... it was pretty traditional in that I stuffed my wedding dress and dh's tux into the overhead bins of the plane so that we looked "normal" in our photos Our ceremony was not with Elvis We had at at-home reception the following week for everyone who couldn't join us.
Were you in control or did your family (or your partner's family) have a lot of control? I was 30 when I got married so my Mum definitely didn't have control of anything and neither did dh's parents ... we took care of it all and did it the way we wanted it to be
What (if anything) would you have done differently? Absolutely nothing ... it went without a hitch ... Vegas knows how to do weddings
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Post by inkedup on May 3, 2016 22:25:55 GMT
In the short time I have been here I have seen a LOT of threads related to weddings. So, I am curious.
What was your wedding like? Were you in control or did your family (or your partner's family) have a lot of control? What (if anything) would you have done differently?
I will answer my own questions in a separate post. Our wedding was great. We dispensed with a lot of tradition and had a great party that we happened to get married at. I wore a beautiful yellow dress, and I still love looking at our photos of that day. A lot of things went differently than I'd hoped or planned for, but it was a joyful, beautiful day nonetheless.
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Post by hop2 on May 3, 2016 22:28:47 GMT
We were married at an old mansion turned banquet hall by a Rabbi and I have zero idea if everyone or anyone shaved. I can't even tell you if any men had beards I'd have to actually go look at some pictures.
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Post by ladytrisha on May 3, 2016 22:36:43 GMT
1980 big - 150 people. I don't think I can count on 2 hands who we knew, aside from relatives.
We were too young (20) and my Mom took over LOL Her wedding had been awful and she had a blast making a party with a band and at a restaurant venue that everyone talked about.
His parents were against it (mainly his mother) and she refused to buy a dress for it - until we dropped the bomb that his dad was flying in from Hawaii. Wow, she bought a dress!! But she refused to allow his brother to be best man or in the wedding and categorically refused to pay or get involved in ANYTHING (yup the same POS that has Alzheimers now). They told us they got us a honeymoon in Hawaii - they actually got us airfare and refused to help find a hotel. We stayed at the Holiday Inn at the Honolulu Airport. They also refused to help with a car so we rode the bus around the island. His bio Dad and his wife gave us a Hawaiian reception there - foggy blur but it was a great way to meet the island family And his Mom was furious (we've been at war since I was 15 - this was just another notch in the belt) It was big and cost around $20k. Funny my dress was only $395 and I remember everything for me being very reasonable, my Mom worked for the photographer - but then it just got huge!
Years later, our wedding book was in a scene in the Wedding Singer movie - apricot, ivory and 2 kids getting married. 5 bridesmaids, 5 groomsmen, 2 flower girls (my sisters) and 2 ring bearers.
At least we're still married 36 years later so Mom got her monies worth! LOL
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 22:37:07 GMT
I have been married 3 times <gasp>
#1: totally stupid cheap wedding with tacky center pieces and only cake. No sit down meal at all. I tired to help my mom plan it but I was 3 states away so we had a hard time getting it together. Fortunately she didn't spend a lot since that marriage was in the toilet before it started.
#2: In the back of a limo at the drive through wedding chapel in Vegas. It's what we wanted and we never regretted it. Regret the marriage now but not the wedding itself.
#3: Small intimate wedding on the beach in Carmel CA. We had about 30 of our friends and family. It was so pretty and stress free. We hired a wedding planner and he did it all - it was great. It was pricey for a small wedding but I wasn't ever getting married again so I figured go for exactly what I wanted.
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Post by sunnyd on May 3, 2016 22:37:14 GMT
1990, JCPenney catalog wedding dress, homemade bridesmaids dresses, homemade wedding cake & homemade fake flower bouquets. We MOST DEFINITELY should have eloped, lol! Luckily the last 26 years have played out better than the wedding day, lol.
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Post by Princess Amy on May 3, 2016 22:37:35 GMT
We eloped in Las Vegas 25 years ago yesterday. We've never, ever regretted it. We didn't have the money for a wedding and weren't willing to go into debt for one. Also, neither one of us like big shindigs .
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 22:44:03 GMT
Ours was pretty much a Pinterest wedding. An outdoor ceremony, babies breath and hydrangeas, chalkboards and mason jars. Our theme was romantic vintage. I had so much fun planning that wedding!
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 23:05:39 GMT
We had a lovely wedding. It was on Sunday of Labor Day weekend and most guests made it a long weekend and stayed for three nights. We had about 120 guests. Four attendants each. It was mostly pretty traditional, but not religious. I loved pretty much everything about it. The only thing I wish would have been different was our photographer. The pictures aren't bad, but they aren't anything special either. But the guest list, the location, the flowers, the food, the invitations, my dress, the bridesmaids' dresses, the music, all of it was great.
We had a few optional events throughout the weekend for those who didn't feeling like exploring on their own, but there was no obligation. We rented out a small inn; the ceremony and reception were there and all of the wedding party plus our immediate families stayed there. We blocked rooms at other local lodgings that were in walking distance for the other guests, if they wanted to stay nearby.
The ceremony was outside, followed immediately by cocktail hour and then dinner, dancing, etc. Since we had the whole place, we went late into the night. The party didn't break up until after 2 AM. It was a ton of fun and people still talk about how much they enjoyed it, almost 17 years later.
My parents paid for the wedding so my mom had some input - mostly wanting to invite some people (family friends and business associates who we knew - not strangers) - but they didn't control the look and feel of the wedding in any way. I was respectful in sharing options with her and seeking her input, but I made the decisions and that was totally ok with her.
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Post by keesha on May 3, 2016 23:09:52 GMT
First Marriage - Court House with 2 witnesses Second Marriage - Drive Up Window in Vegas (just us 2 and the limo driver!)
As you can see I never had a desire for a wedding. Ironically I work in the wedding industry now. I see the appeal, but wouldn't do anything different in my situations. I have 3 children in their 20's so I am sure weddings will be in my future.
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Post by cmpeter on May 3, 2016 23:13:01 GMT
We eloped and got married in Jamaica. Best decision ever.
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on May 3, 2016 23:13:27 GMT
Yesterday was our 30th anniversary.
Our wedding was a traditional church wedding. My mil and sils planned most of it. I used to be shy and got steam rolled on a lot of things.
At the time I was new here (Alaska) I had moved up from California. I was working at a flower shop so I did get to choose my flowers and the owners mom made a gorgeous cake.
My wedding dress cost $250.00 !!
I also did pick our invitations.
Looking back on things I would change some things but not the man I married. I love him more than I did then!
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Post by Merge on May 3, 2016 23:15:22 GMT
Just the way my mom wanted it. She planned pretty much everything. We had hoped to be married in a little church in the town where DH and I met and attended grad school, and have a small stand-up reception with cocktails and nibbles only. Mom wanted to make sure her whole family could attend, so I was "persuaded" to have the wedding in my hometown at my home church, which coincidentally made it harder for DH's family to attend. There was some bad blood about that. She also felt that if people were traveling from out of town, we owed them a sit-down dinner, so we had that. Very traditional, but not at all expensive. We were married in the church I grew up in, which was ugly and thus charged only a nominal fee for weddings. We made all the table decorations ourselves, and the dinner was a buffet with paper plates. I wish that I had 1. Waited a few more years to get married - I was 23 2. Insisted on the wedding I wanted. I never felt close to mom's family, and having them all there wasn't important to me. I would have been much happier with just a few friends in the alumni center on campus. 3. Been more inclusive of MIL in the process.
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Post by ntsf on May 3, 2016 23:30:26 GMT
I married in 1983..and we were both living in SF..and the wedding was in Seattle. so I had to give up some control. both families lived there..and most of our friends. after dress shopping, I decided to make my dress..big sleeves, french lace bodice and lots of taffeta..made my own veil for about $10..and used my grandmother's fake orange blossoms crown. I am trying to persuade my dd to use them for a 4th generation next year. I sent patterns and material to the bridesmaids..so the dresses all looked a little different, I didn't care. church wedding..very short (no special music, no special verses) about 100 people. inlaws gave a rehearsal dinner at their house..very laid back. dh wore a formal cutaway..looked fab. for his side of the family..we had a reception at a local country club..dj, cold cuts, my mom provided fresh fruit..sister in law made the cake.
so all in all about $5000..cheap price. the only thing I regret is the photographer who I didn't pick and didn't do a great job. Dh was worried that his parents wouldn't want to go to a church for the ceremony..not religious..but it went ok.
both of us had terrible colds that just got worse on the honeymoon. we went to new england and spent the first week both super sick..at my old landlady's house. We were just outside boston..drove to Mt Washington (70 degrees).. and stayed at her old schoolhouse/ski cabin in woodstock vermont. visited relatives and old boyfriends/girlfriends. toured around for one week.
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Post by workingclassdog on May 3, 2016 23:55:24 GMT
I already posted but thought I would throw in my friend's wedding cause it is pretty funny:
She and her boyfriend went out to lunch, they come back late to work and got married!! LOL... Office manager got mad cause she was late because she is a b*tch!! Anyways, they are still married and their last kid is about graduate from high school.
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on May 4, 2016 0:07:31 GMT
My wedding was the worst wedding I've ever been to. We got married by a very conservative Cathoilc priest that insisted my dress have long sleeves and a high collar. I was 20 and felt 50 in my dress. We got married the middle of June in Vegas. It was 115 degrees. The morning of my wedding the AC at the reception hall went out. Since it was going to be so warm in the hall, catering took it upon themselves to change the dinner from a seated meal to a buffet of low quality cold cuts, cheese, rolls and a couple of salads. The booze at the bar was watered down, and the beer was flat, yet my FIL managed to get drunk enough to try and dance under my dress all night. Other than the cake topper I provided, the cake didn't resemble what I ordered, even a little. It was suppose to be vanilla cake with chocolate mousse. I got chocolate cake with coconut mousse. I despise coconut. It was suppose to have pale pink roses and I got deep burgundy. Needless to say, that venue wasn't around long. Oh, and the wedding started almost an hour late because DBIL4 (ring bearer) thought it would be funny to jump in the pool, in his tux, as they were leaving for the church.
The next day we left for Hawaii. Our luggage was lost for the first 2 days, and the 4th day DH got food poisoning or a stomach virus. We spent the rest of our honeymoon watching TV in bed with a trash can. When we got to the airport our flight home got canceled. We spent 13 hours waiting for them to get us on another plane. I spent the entire time crying.
We've been married for 29 years in June. The only thing about the wedding and honeymoon I wouldn't change is the groom.
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Post by Skellinton on May 4, 2016 0:20:21 GMT
Halloween, Nightmare Before Christmas themed, 17 years,ago. It was perfect and I wouldn't change a thing. My dress as beautiful, I would wear it everyday if it were socially acceptable! It was small, about 50-60 people. We had both ceremony and reception in an old gothic style church. My aunt helped do all the decorating and it was Halloweeny, but very elegant. We had a dessert reception which was lovely. We served cider from a cauldron with dry ice, which makes for one of my fAvorite pictures from the night. Our favors were delicious bat shaped cookies with a Jack Skellington tag. People commented on those cookies for years, they were so good. We had some cool Nightmare decorations from my collection, a small aluminum tree with Nightmare ornaments on the piano, my gorgeous Jack cookie jar, and Jack and Sally as our cake topper. Our procession song was Whats This from the movie on the special organ at the church, it was so cool. My husband still jokes it should hAve been What Have I Done from the movie. We did the planning with my mom, but I was the one making the decisions. Our photographer was great, very natural photos along with the obligatory posed ones. Orange roses for my bouquet, lots of orange gerba daisies and Japanese lanterns as centerpieces. It was amazing. Oh, and my brother read Poe poems, which was perfect as well.
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Post by bc2ca on May 4, 2016 0:27:45 GMT
Our wedding was very small with immediate family only, the way DH and I wanted it. Other than getting married in the Orthodox church, we did not do what his family expected (huge dinner/dance, huge wedding party, etc.) and did have to deal with attempts to manipulate us. My parents were wonderfully supportive and went along with whatever we wanted.
I adored my cream colored, tea length dress and flower wreath in my hair. We each had one attendant and the wedding was followed by a lunch reception at our favorite Thai restaurant.
A month after the wedding we had a large (150ish? guests) lamb roast at Peace Arch Park on the US/Canadian border. It was casual, relaxed and a ton of fun.
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Post by jenjie on May 4, 2016 0:47:03 GMT
Perfect for us. The only downside was that his one sister and bil, who were supposed to be part of the wedding party, missed the wedding because she went into labor. And now I have a beautiful niece who shares our special day. Ours was a traditional wedding at my home church. My stepsister got married right after we got engaged and we both knew we wanted the same service. One thing the pastor always said was that one time he wanted to marry a couple with the couple facing the audience. We offered to do that and it was our little "different" thing. I guess it's not a big deal today but at the time in 1991 it just wasn't done. I was pretty close to him, so after we got engaged I got down on one knee and asked the pastor to marry me/us. My flowers were multicolored roses, the same as the first bouquet he ever gave me. I wanted the bridesmaids to each carry a single rose, each a different color. It didn't come out quite the way I envisioned. We didn't have dancing or alcohol at our wedding, my dad was disappointed on both fronts. Our music was a mix tape. I don't know if I shared this with you guys but in our safe 25 years later is a daily schedule Fred made for the two months prior to our wedding, receipt for my wedding gift (a bride and groom snow globe), his itinerary for the day of the wedding and the reservations and plans for our honeymoon. That was a sweet thing to find. ETA apparently the food at our reception made an impact. People talked about how good it was for awhile.
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Post by cath4k on May 4, 2016 0:50:05 GMT
My wedding was the worst wedding I've ever been to. We got married by a very conservative Cathoilc priest that insisted my dress have long sleeves and a high collar. I was 20 and felt 50 in my dress. We got married the middle of June in Vegas. It was 115 degrees. The morning of my wedding the AC at the reception hall went out. Since it was going to be so warm in the hall, catering took it upon themselves to change the dinner from a seated meal to a buffet of low quality cold cuts, cheese, rolls and a couple of salads. The booze at the bar was watered down, and the beer was flat, yet my FIL managed to get drunk enough to try and dance under my dress all night. Other than the cake topper I provided, the cake didn't resemble what I ordered, even a little. It was suppose to be vanilla cake with chocolate mousse. I got chocolate cake with coconut mousse. I despise coconut. It was suppose to have pale pink roses and I got deep burgundy. Needless to say, that venue wasn't around long. Oh, and the wedding started almost an hour late because DBIL4 (ring bearer) thought it would be funny to jump in the pool, in his tux, as they were leaving for the church. The next day we left for Hawaii. Our luggage was lost for the first 2 days, and the 4th day DH got food poisoning or a stomach virus. We spent the rest of our honeymoon watching TV in bed with a trash can. When we got to the airport our flight home got canceled. We spent 13 hours waiting for them to get us on another plane. I spent the entire time crying. We've been married for 29 years in June. The only thing about the wedding and honeymoon I wouldn't change is the groom. I liked your post as a way to acknowledge it and say "thanks" for contributing to the thread, but I don't like that everything turned out wrong for you two!
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Post by TankTop on May 4, 2016 0:56:17 GMT
We eloped to Jamaica. It was perfection.
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