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Post by Scrapbrat on Jul 31, 2014 19:35:04 GMT
Another one I've noticed is when people in service jobs use the 'no problem' phrase being substituted for 'you're welcome'. I haven't noticed the generic "this" and "that." When I waited tables, I always said "here's the Tequila Chicken" (or whatever), because it helped me remember who had what meal as I was setting stuff down. But -- to the part that I quoted . This is AN ENORMOUS pet peeve of mine, and it happens all the time. It actually bugs me when people who SHOULD be thanking you for your business don't (like waitpersons and grocery store cashiers). So I like to say "thank you" because it seems like it would then remind them that THEY are supposed to be the ones doing the thanking But, instead, they say "no problem," and then I want to smack them.
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Post by rumplesnat on Jul 31, 2014 19:48:30 GMT
That wouldn't necessarily bother me, but once I did want to punch a waiter in the neck because he CONSTANTLY replied, "certainly" (pronouncing it "suuuhhhtainly") each and every time we spoke to him. May I have a water, please? Suuuhhhtainly. I'd like a cheeseburger. Suuuhhhtainly. Would I be able to get my dressing on side, please? Suuuhhhtainly. May we have a to-go box? Suuuhhhtainly. I'd like apple pie ala mode for dessert, please. Suuuhhhtainly.
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Post by auntkelly on Jul 31, 2014 19:52:19 GMT
I've noticed that in my area people are starting to say "my pleasure" when I say thank you. I don't know if they are former Chick fil A workers or if that phrase has just caught on lately. It sounds more polite to me than "no problem."
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Post by Aheartfeltcard on Jul 31, 2014 20:13:04 GMT
A bit off the subject but while I was car shopping the salesman used "actually" about every 2nd statement that came out of his mouth. It was cringeworthy. Much to my convenience my 14 year old daughter who was using the word actually far too many times noticed. She has stopped doing it.
There is a positive side to everything .
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Post by sisterbdsq on Jul 31, 2014 20:21:41 GMT
Another one I've noticed is when people in service jobs use the 'no problem' phrase being substituted for 'you're welcome'. But -- to the part that I quoted . This is AN ENORMOUS pet peeve of mine, and it happens all the time. It actually bugs me when people who SHOULD be thanking you for your business don't (like waitpersons and grocery store cashiers). So I like to say "thank you" because it seems like it would then remind them that THEY are supposed to be the ones doing the thanking But, instead, they say "no problem," and then I want to smack them. So to the grocery store cashier who is doing her job by ringing up my purchases should thank me for walking into a store she doesn't own, but merely works at? I feel I should be thanking her for doing the job of serving me. If she's the owner she should thank me, but no thanking by an employee is needed IMO. I'm satisfied with have a nice day. Sure, a server should thank us for coming in or tell us they hope to see us again or welcome us back or whatever, but I don't need gratuitous thanking for being a consumer.
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Post by Princess Amy on Jul 31, 2014 20:25:41 GMT
I just want people to be polite and be able to hold a basic conversation. This is becoming less frequent, because you don't have to be polite or communicate with a screen
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Post by queenofkings on Aug 1, 2014 0:26:11 GMT
I say "no problem" or "not a problem" all of the time. I guess I will have to curb that. The restaurants I go to usually have food runners deliver the food instead of the waiter/waitress, so they have to say the item's name because they don't know who ordered what. If servers used the method we were taught when I worked as a server years ago, they wouldn't have to ask. You take the order in a certain order, around the table, and then the food belongs to the person sitting in that position. Maybe it's changed over the years.
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Post by padresfan619 on Aug 1, 2014 0:27:56 GMT
But a food runner wouldn't know which order belonged to which patron because they weren't present when the order was taken. They just take the food from the kitchen to the table.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Aug 1, 2014 0:29:59 GMT
I never noticed but I wouldn't be bothered by any of that.
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Post by queenofkings on Aug 1, 2014 0:42:13 GMT
But a food runner wouldn't know which order belonged to which patron because they weren't present when the order was taken. They just take the food from the kitchen to the table. Sorry, it's been years ago, but I thought that I recalled that the method was specifically for that purpose. So the person delivering the food didn't have to ask "Who had the chicken?" Or what have you. Maybe there was a kitchen ticket that went out with the food? But, I guess that's all off topic anyhow.:-) I guess I've never really noticed much about what they say anymore. I'm mostly just checking that I get the correct plate and that it's how I ordered it. As long as the server sounds polite I am not nitpicky either. I may also be guilty of saying ,"no problem" in place of "you're welcome" in certain situations. I don't know how or why it started, but I'm having a hard time stopping now. It doesn't really bother me as long as the tone is pleasant.
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Post by inkedup on Aug 1, 2014 0:54:24 GMT
It would have never occurred to me to be bothered by this as long as the person waiting on me is polite and doing their job well. The minutiae that works the (former) Peas up will never cease to amaze me.
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Post by peasapie on Aug 1, 2014 1:46:08 GMT
I've had people say "not a problem" in response to thank you, too. It seemed like an odd response to me, as I didn't think there was a problem, so there was no need to reassure me it wasn't one. A 'You're welcome" or "sure thing" seems like a more appropriate response to me.
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Post by wandawoman on Aug 1, 2014 1:49:28 GMT
I haven't had that happen, but we did get a chuckle a few days ago when at a drive through. After taking my order the person asked, "Is this for here or to go?" I paused and said, "I think I'll have it to go."
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Post by melanell on Aug 1, 2014 1:54:45 GMT
It would have never occurred to me to be bothered by this as long as the person waiting on me is polite and doing their job well. The minutiae that works the (former) Peas up will never cease to amaze me. I think that often people aren't really worked up, but that this is a type of thing where not seeing and hearing the person as they "speak" is an issue. I often say "This or that drives me crazy.", but it's said with a smile or wink, and it really is just an exaggeration used to be kind of silly about something that I just don't love. So when you see just the words with nothing behind them, perhaps they seem like people are more worked up than they really are. I'm not saying that's the case for everyone in this thread, but perhaps for some or even many.
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Post by jamieson on Aug 1, 2014 1:54:53 GMT
It's my belief that everyone should be required to work retail and wait tables for at least a year of their lives.
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Post by katiekaty on Aug 1, 2014 1:57:17 GMT
Too picky! LOL
I actually like it when the waiter says what the items is when bringing something to the table as we often order the same thing "differently" like a salad minus the olives or grilled chicken instead of fried chicken. Better than getting the pate and then realizing that it isn't yours.
And I really don't have a problem when I am told "no problem". We have a lot of Hispanics and it close to a phrase in their language that is easy in to convey it is not a problem to do something extra for you. I don't consider it disrespectful in any way. I would rather hear it than Um, no we can't do that.
And as for as a waiter saying, "Miss Lady", he may still be having some issues with the language and forgets the "ma'am" at times. I hear this a lot. We have a lot of international servers here in Houston. I just smile and go on.
And when they ask in the third person "WE", "Are we going to have the cheesecake?", I always answer, "WE are most definitely not having the cheesecake, BUT I am. I do not share my cheesecake. YOU will have to get your own."
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Post by chaosisapony on Aug 1, 2014 2:07:31 GMT
I wonder if the "no problem" thing is regional. By far more people here in northern California say "no problem" than "you're welcome". It would not ever be something that offended me. I say it often when it seems like an appropriate response to someone saying "thank you". To me, it is an informal way to say "Of course, I'm happy to do it. No thanks necessary".
I have never been in a restaurant where any of the staff has said "this" or "that". They announce the dish. If it's a food runner they will usually ask "Who had the chicken strips?" since they did not take the order. But they still say what the dish is.
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Post by sharlag on Aug 1, 2014 2:39:36 GMT
Too picky! LOL And I really don't have a problem when I am told "no problem". We have a lot of Hispanics and it close to a phrase in their language that is easy in to convey it is not a problem to do something extra for you. Oh yeah--de nada? Good point.
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Aug 1, 2014 11:23:22 GMT
I'm training myself to get over the ubiquitous "No problem!", even though my brain still hears, "Don't worry about it. I wasn't doing anything else, so I thought I'd do you a favor and hand you your sack of food."If I bump into somebody, excuse myself, and they say "No problem," my brain hears, "Don't worry about it; no harm done."Yes, my brain is an old fart.
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