Waitstaff saying HERE'S THIS, and HERE'S THAT when serving

I say "no problem" or "not a problem" all of the time. I guess I will have to curb that.

The restaurants I go to usually have food runners deliver the food instead of the waiter/waitress, so they have to say the item's name because they don't know who ordered what.

The only people I hear using "no problem" are teen boys. I've never heard a server saying "here's this, etc".

We heard ABSOLUTELY so many times during our last dinner out, that now it is a joke in our house.

I've never noticed a server saying "Here's this." I'll have to pay attention next time we go out.

Do you mean they are actually saying Here's this, or are they saying Here's your cheeseburger. If the former, that is bizarre - there is no reason to say anything then. If the latter, I suppose it's a way to make sure they hand out the right food to the right person.

Here's my pet peeve : there is a server at our Red Robin who calls me (and I am assuming other female customers) "Miss Lady". Not ma'am, not miss, Miss Lady. It makes me want to throw flatware at her.

I haven't noticed that when going out to eat at a restaurant, but we have had that happen (numerous occasions, numerous servers) when going through the drive-through at Dairy Queen. It must be part of their training. And they're specific. "Here's your hot fudge sundae and here's your vanilla ice cream cone." We're always pleased they specify because we surely don't want to eat the wrong one!

I haven't noticed the restaurant thing at all, but I have noticed the substitutions for "You're Welcome"

I get the feeling that we have sort of created 2 categories of responding to Thank Yous. The "You're Welcome" perhaps is seen to be more formal by people, and is used as such, and the "No problem" is more casual??

I know I catch myself saying "Sure thing" to people in place of "You're Welcome" sometimes, and I'm not sure why.

But I think I do for extremely small things that elicit thanks. Holding a door open, letting the guy with just a coffee in front of me at the store....things that require almost no effort at all from me.

Or things that don't have as much feeling behind them. The more heartfelt my action that brought about the Thank You the more likely I am to actually say "You're Welcome".

I don't really know why, or when I started it, but that's my best guess now that I think about it.

I rarely eat out so I maybe that is why I have never heard anyone say that while serving me.

I am guilty of saying no problem. At work people are very quick to notice if someone does not say please and thank you so when someone says thank you to me I answer you're welcome it was no problem. And I say that because it sounds more polite than you're welcome it is my job to do that.

I am too busy checking out the food to pay attention to what the server says. Some of you may remember from the other board that my friend and I ate the wrong entree at PF Chang's one night. The server mixed up our orders and set down the wrong one in front of us. We each ate the wrong entree. I wish the server had said what it was when he set it down.

My biggest rant is when the server comes up and says who had the whatever, a hand is raised then who had again whatever another hand is raised. A good server keeps track of who ordered what and places proper dish in front of proper person and says what the meal is.

Now I can understand if it's a huge party of 15 or more but I always am impressed with the server who knows who gets what.

I guess I should explain further . I probably wouldn't care if a server said "no problem." And in the case if someone is saying sorry , I wouldn't be bothered by "no problem".

I think when I say "thank you" about something kind, like if someone sent a card, and the response is "no problem", it bothers me. It makes me feel like I don't understand..no problem, why would it have been a problem? I didn't assume it was a problem!?

I usually say "my pleasure" or "you're very welcome" or even "no thanks necessary, I wanted to."

I haven't noticed it but will probably laser beam onto it now!

I understand what you mean about "no problem". It usually doesn't faze me, but there have been times I've noticed and wanted to scream . Can't think of a specific , I'm sure it involves someone tediously NOT doing the job they are being paid to do, while costing me time in addition to money, why YES it was a problem. You aren't doing me a favor, you are being paid for a service.

Yeah, I know I can get twitchy