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Post by mikklynn on May 13, 2016 19:42:23 GMT
It would bother me, but I wouldn't say anything.
My dad can't get my MIL's name right (pronunciation, not spelling), even though I have been married 37 years! It's Carolyn, not Caroline, LOL.
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Post by melodyesch on May 13, 2016 19:44:40 GMT
I actually make this mistake on occasion. At work I deal with a man named Greg quite often and have for years. My husband is Gregg. When typing into the TO field, I just start with the last name of the person and it fills in the rest. But yes, I see it right in front of me. But just by habit when I start to type in the body of the email, it will be on occasion, "Hi Gregg, blah blah..."
I KNOW his name is Greg. I do try to make every effort to pay attention but sometimes it's quick emails back and forth on an issue. He's never mentioned it, but I have apologized the few times it has happened. He always says it doesn't matter to him at all but I still feel bad when I do it. Mostly because my husband gets irritated when people he works with frequently can't remember the extra "g" on the end of his name.
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Post by Merge on May 13, 2016 19:51:16 GMT
Happens to me all the time. I'll sign an email "Kris," and the response will be addressed to "Chris." It's literally right there! I don't get it. I wouldn't say it bothers me, but I do kind of roll my eyes when it happens.
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Post by flopsykitty on May 13, 2016 20:01:56 GMT
Yes this would bother me. My name is changed all the time - from Kathleen to Kathy, and I don't understand it, especially with new work contacts. My email signature is Kathleen, and I sign everything as Kathleen, why would you think my name was Kathy?
I correct them - immediately, but I'm very polite about it. "Hi, (new work contact), this might sound awkward, but my name is Kathleen, not Kathy."
After all, it is MY NAME - nothing more personal to me than that, and I have never offended anyone by asking them to address me by my name.
But the person who answered the phone as "Missy", then freaked out when the person called her "Missy"? I'm sorry - that's just so snotty.
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Post by JustTricia on May 13, 2016 20:07:46 GMT
Only one person at work does this. I've worked in the same smallish office as her for seven years. It's in my email address, it's in my signature, I sign every email with my name. It also is WELL known around the office that I am not Trish, that's not my name, my name is Tricia and I won't answer to Trish (I've worked there four years this time, but over the last twenty-two years I've worked in this office for fifteen years ~ left and came back; I've known half the office for over twenty years and there's only maybe 70 of us).
One woman canNOT spell my name correctly. I have corrected her multiple times via email, never get a response until the next email when she spells it wrong. I've given up; luckily I get an email from her maybe ten times a year, every other interaction is in person.
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Post by JustTricia on May 13, 2016 20:10:19 GMT
Yes this would bother me. My name is changed all the time - from Kathleen to Kathy, and I don't understand it, especially with new work contacts. My email signature is Kathleen, and I sign everything as Kathleen, why would you think my name was Kathy? I correct them - immediately, but I'm very polite about it. "Hi, (new work contact), this might sound awkward, but my name is Kathleen, not Kathy." After all, it is MY NAME - nothing more personal to me than that, and I have never offended anyone by asking them to address me by my name. But the person who answered the phone as "Missy", then freaked out when the person called her "Missy"? I'm sorry - that's just so snotty. I am SOOO with you on this. If I introduce myself as something, why would you take it upon yourself to change my name? I don't care if a nickname is more common, use the form that I used to introduce myself. If it's someone I will never see again, I ignore it. If it's someone I will see again, I correct them. I don't feel it's awkward, it was rude on their part.
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Post by scrappert on May 13, 2016 20:11:51 GMT
Yes, it would bother me. And I am one to make a joke of it so they know how to spell my name. I have a name that also can be spelled various ways. I'm fine if I don't work with you and you get it wrong the first time, but after that, please get it correct. It is just respectful to spell a persons name right.
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Post by myboysnme on May 13, 2016 20:21:27 GMT
This happens to me by everyone. My name is not hard. I tell people that my mother gets very upset when my name is misspelled. For some reason that seems to help!
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Post by Dori~Mama~Bear on May 13, 2016 20:25:52 GMT
No it wouldn't bother me it would PISS ME OFF! all my life I have had people misspell my name and mispronounce my name.
This is part of the reason I am changing my name except for Dori
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Post by azredhead on May 13, 2016 20:31:08 GMT
yes it would bother me. Ours is our last name. It's TWO ss. and it's O not and E. One s Dh's cousins. It gets very confusing otherwise. My poor mom can't even get it right. The changing is Swedish but if has a different spelling it a different orgin and how you say it. It mostly people who know me or Dh, that don't do it right that would bother me the most.
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Post by mrst on May 13, 2016 20:35:51 GMT
My name is Jill and some people just love to be correct! and call me Gillian,Jillian or worse Jilly!!!! They get told! My husband is Glenn and it's the first part of our e mail so why do they miss the n off!!!!
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Post by paget on May 13, 2016 20:46:18 GMT
My name is julie. One of my SILs spells it July. Um, what? One of my dds is Madeline. She goes by her full name but subtitutes and other random people call her maddie. Why? Why would you just decide on your own to assign a nickname (yes, it's common, but still- and she hates it there's about 5 millions maddies and she is the only Madeline).
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Post by sparkyduchess on May 13, 2016 20:47:14 GMT
It irritates me - I'm Sasha, and there are many spellings apparently. I just think it's rude not to check when the correct spelling is right in front of you.
Missy's a pillock, who introduces themselves using a name they don't want you to use?
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Post by anniefb on May 13, 2016 21:14:42 GMT
I've known someone for 25 years and she still spells my name 'Ann' without the e. It does frustrate me a bit, but not enough to say anything about it. I often get 'Anna' as well, but not usually from people who know me pretty well. The best ones though were 'En' written on my Starbucks cup and a work email in which I was addressed 'Dear last name' - I assume because our email addresses display last name/first name. And my surname does not sound anything like a first name!
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Post by anniefb on May 13, 2016 21:15:16 GMT
It does not bother me. My name is spelled every variation of Carrie, Kerri, Carey, Kari imaginable. A new one for me today though...I received a work correspondence from melissa.lastname@blahblah.com. So I called her and she answered the phone "Hi this is Missy..." So I respond with "Hi Missy, this is KerriW" She was *NOT* impressed that I called her Missy and asked that I please call her Melissa as I did not have permission to use Missy. I certainly didn't mean any ill intent, I simply responded with how she answered the phone. It was slightly embarrassing. That is extremely odd, if you don't want to be called Missy you should not answer the phone that way, Geez...
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Post by padresfan619 on May 13, 2016 21:36:07 GMT
Yes it would bother me. My name is Laura and people are constantly calling me Lauren. On my first day of my current job, the guy I was replacing asked me "So Lauren, tell me something about yourself?" And even though I knew he would be gone at the end of the week I cleared my throat and said "Well first of all, my name is Laura, not Lauren..." and then continued with my answer. It was definitely a little rude, but I'm sick and tired of being called by the wrong name. I used to just let it go and let people call me Lauren, but I cannot put up with it any more!
Now if only my coworker Sara and I could get people to stop confusing us with each other!
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Post by peabrain on May 13, 2016 22:05:54 GMT
It does not bother me. My name is spelled every variation of Carrie, Kerri, Carey, Kari imaginable. A new one for me today though...I received a work correspondence from melissa.lastname@blahblah.com. So I called her and she answered the phone "Hi this is Missy..." So I respond with "Hi Missy, this is KerriW" She was *NOT* impressed that I called her Missy and asked that I please call her Melissa as I did not have permission to use Missy. I certainly didn't mean any ill intent, I simply responded with how she answered the phone. It was slightly embarrassing. Makes you want to say "ok look Bitch"
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Post by bc2ca on May 13, 2016 22:27:10 GMT
There are 2 people who I deal with that consistently spell my name wrong in emails. It bugs me because they are co-workers who have to select my name from a drop down list. My correctly spelled name is right there in front of them. My name is not spelled in an unusual fashion, there are 2 common variations, Kathy and Cathy. The K is a little more common than C (I'm a C). Would it bother you? If they were sending me a blind email and had no idea I wouldn't care, but my work email is my name spelled out. cathy.xxxxx@xxxx.org. They are both men, do you think they just don't pay attention as well as women? At work I would correct them. I do think it is disrespectful to pay so little attention to someone's name, even if every other person you know with that name spells it with a K instead of a C. If they can't get a name correct, what other details are they overlooking on the job? Year ago a neighbor was putting together the PTA school directory and would pass it onto another PTA member for proofreading. Every time the book came back to D, my name had the "e" dropped off. Finally D came to me and asked if she had been spelling my name wrong all these years. She had it right, the parent correcting her was wrong. In correct spelling never bothers me at Starbucks, but at work it would.
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Post by 950nancy on May 13, 2016 22:31:54 GMT
It does not bother me. My name is spelled every variation of Carrie, Kerri, Carey, Kari imaginable. A new one for me today though...I received a work correspondence from melissa.lastname@blahblah.com. So I called her and she answered the phone "Hi this is Missy..." So I respond with "Hi Missy, this is KerriW" She was *NOT* impressed that I called her Missy and asked that I please call her Melissa as I did not have permission to use Missy. I certainly didn't mean any ill intent, I simply responded with how she answered the phone. It was slightly embarrassing. That is extremely odd, if you don't want to be called Missy you should not answer the phone that way, Geez… Weird! Why call yourself something you don't want others to call you?
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Post by mrssmith on May 13, 2016 22:37:11 GMT
Super annoying if it's there in front of them, and they are long-time coworkers. My name gets misspelled a lot. Smith is my married name. My last name is unusual. First name is not common, but not difficult. I let it slide once or twice. I don't think I've had to correct a "repeat offender."
My DD's 2nd grade teacher misspelled her name ALL OVER THE CLASSROOM (locker, desk, pencil box...). DD did not care, as she prefers her nickname.
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Post by Drew on May 13, 2016 22:53:36 GMT
I would agree with you that it's a 'man thing' but then we'd both be wrong. It happens to me all the time but it's largely done by women and it does bug me but not on a personal level. I just wonder, on a professional level, how hard it is to either look at my email address or the signature in the email to which they're responding. I'd screw up Dalai all the time I'm sure.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on May 13, 2016 23:03:30 GMT
No, not really.
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Post by melanell on May 13, 2016 23:31:22 GMT
It does not bother me. My name is spelled every variation of Carrie, Kerri, Carey, Kari imaginable. A new one for me today though...I received a work correspondence from melissa.lastname@blahblah.com. So I called her and she answered the phone "Hi this is Missy..." So I respond with "Hi Missy, this is KerriW" She was *NOT* impressed that I called her Missy and asked that I please call her Melissa as I did not have permission to use Missy. I certainly didn't mean any ill intent, I simply responded with how she answered the phone. It was slightly embarrassing. She was being utterly ridiculous.
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Post by melanell on May 13, 2016 23:33:17 GMT
It wouldn't bother me. Some people just seem to not notice and/or have a hard time with that kind of thing. They get one thing in their head and they're sure it's right, so they don't even pay attention to places where they could verify if they have it right or not.
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Post by AussieMeg on May 13, 2016 23:39:22 GMT
I get that too in emails, from both colleagues and customers - they sometimes spell my name Meagan instead of Megan. I don't understand how if I send you an email, and before you open it you can see it is from Megan, then at the end I write "Regards, Megan" and then my auto signature at the bottom has my full name Megan Xxxx - how the heck did you miss all of that and misspell my name?!?! I think that you should raise it in such a way that you make a bit of a friendly joke about it: Come on now boys, can't you see how my name is spelled? Repeat after me - it's Cathy with a C ! And smile. Or, you could be passive aggressive and deliberately misspell their names every time you send them an email! It would bother me. My name is Shelley. Some people still leave out the second e, even after reminded. There are those that are in tune to details and some just aren't. I feel sorry for all those people with traditional names spelled funky growing up. I have a friend at work whose name is Sheli which is an uncommon spelling. She is forever getting Shelly, Shelley or even on several hilarious occasions Sheila!!
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Post by bigbundt on May 13, 2016 23:55:33 GMT
I have an unusual name so I've got a thick skin regarding it. It is a variation on a male name so very frequently emails are addressed to the male variation. I've been at my current job for ten years now and there is one person who never pronounces my name correctly. I don't even notice it these days. I still can't spell another co-worker's last name after ten years so I'm always careful to look it up. Weirdly enough I think common names are sometimes harder to spell because there can be many variations and if you know people by the same name but different spellings, it can be confusing when you are just trying to shoot off a quick email. I know a few women with the name "Michelle/Michele" and I sometimes get them all mixed up.
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Post by *sprout* on May 14, 2016 0:06:23 GMT
My name has an uncommon spelling - Kelli. I admit it bugs me when my name is spelled wrong. Especially when it's in the email! The barista at Starbucks made my day yesterday when she asked "Kelli with a y or an I?"
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Post by cmhs on May 14, 2016 0:07:31 GMT
I'm Cecilia (not Cecelia, Celia, or Ceil) It happens to me all the time. It's especially weird on FB when the correct spelling is right there! I find that more women misspell it than men.
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Post by scrapaddie on May 14, 2016 0:11:14 GMT
People don't pronounce my name correctly.... Even people I talk with all the time. I just let it slide after awhile
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Post by krcrafts on May 14, 2016 1:47:55 GMT
My name has an uncommon spelling - Kelli. I admit it bugs me when my name is spelled wrong. Especially when it's in the email! Exactly my answer as I am also a Kelli.
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