Nink
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Post by Nink on May 14, 2016 1:55:39 GMT
My name isn't spelled a normal way and I don't even correct people anymore. It doesn't bother me at all, as long as they know who they are talking to. I have "friends" on facebook who spell my name wrong and it's right there in front of their face...LOL. Yup. This. My name is Nancee. I don't ever correct anyone, but I have people I have worked with for over eighteen years that still spell it wrong. It's not only on my email, but the name badge I wear every single day.
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Post by epeanymous on May 14, 2016 2:28:14 GMT
My given name has two spelling variants, and I don't think it would bother me if someone used the wrong one, unless they were a direct supervisor or we were close. I do, however, have a few colleagues who use various nicknames for my given name when they address correspondence to me. I have never gone by those nicknames, don't introduce myself by those nicknames, and don't have any personal relationship with those colleagues (also male, FWIW), and it does annoy me, particularly when they include additional people in group messages and now those people may think that I go by some other name.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on May 14, 2016 2:49:37 GMT
I've worked with someone for 10 years and they still cannot spell my first name correctly!! And it is a woman. I'm pretty sure I can top that. My own grandmother never did spell my name correctly - she died when I was 42. So 42 years of a misspelled name! I am Toni. She always wrote Tonie. To be honest, I always did prefer her way, but never did make the switch. I don't think them being men has a thing to do with it. Some people just don't pay attention, or have a set way to spell it in their mind and that's what they write. I have the feminine spelling of my name. Nearly every woman I know spells it with a 'y'. The few times I am asked if it is with an 'i' is usually a man asking. Either spelling is better than having people write Connie or Tammy instead of Toni.
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Post by kluski on May 14, 2016 2:56:08 GMT
Yes it would as it has happened to me my entire life. I get it and I don't like it.
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Post by bostonmama on May 14, 2016 3:10:58 GMT
I have a close relative that after 35+ years STILL misspells my name. Every birthday card, every Christmas gift, every email (my email address includes my first name, as well) without fail. At this point, I just laugh about it!
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Post by MichyM on May 14, 2016 3:36:58 GMT
I have 4 friends, named Jen, Jenn, Jenifer, and Jennifer. The struggle is real...
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Post by anniebygaslight on May 14, 2016 5:51:59 GMT
It annoys the heck out of me. I have an unusual surname and people spell it wrong all the time, even though it is spelt exactly as it is said. People insist on telling me that I mean another surname which is similar. Erm, no, pal, I know my own name. I've had it for long enough.
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Post by gar on May 14, 2016 7:24:42 GMT
It annoys the heck out of me. I have an unusual surname and people spell it wrong all the time, even though it is spelt exactly as it is said. People insist on telling me that I mean another surname which is similar. Erm, no, pal, I know my own name. I've had it for long enough. One of my school friends had a teacher try to tell her she was spelling her own name wrong Exactly as you said - err, no, at age 12 I can actually spell my own name thanks!
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Post by BarbaraUK on May 14, 2016 7:54:17 GMT
It annoys the heck out of me. I have an unusual surname and people spell it wrong all the time, even though it is spelt exactly as it is said. People insist on telling me that I mean another surname which is similar. Erm, no, pal, I know my own name. I've had it for long enough. Yes, same here. I have now given up correcting people unless it really needs to be correct.
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Post by Delta Dawn on May 14, 2016 7:59:42 GMT
It bothers me to NO END. I have a name that has a masculine and feminine version. Everyone spells it the masculine way. I look at them with a dead stare, "DO I LOOK LIKE A MAN TO YOU???" They look at me like "WTF? What is wrong?" Um my name? I am not that guy.
It bugs me for you, too!
I had a boss named Cathe (Cathy) and all I had to see was the E on the end of the name and I remembered it.
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Post by miominmio on May 14, 2016 9:32:16 GMT
It annoys the heck out of me. I have an unusual surname and people spell it wrong all the time, even though it is spelt exactly as it is said. Same problem here. We are 11 (!) people in the whole, wide world with this surname,while another surname which starts with the same three letters is a bit more common, so there's a lot of people who insist on spelling it the wrong way. And my middle name is Eilin, and everyone insist it's Ellen. "no, it is Eilin" ..."You mean Ellen?" No, you stupid I said Eilin three times already! I'm not so old I don't know my own bloody name!!!
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Post by miominmio on May 14, 2016 9:34:30 GMT
It annoys the heck out of me. I have an unusual surname and people spell it wrong all the time, even though it is spelt exactly as it is said. People insist on telling me that I mean another surname which is similar. Erm, no, pal, I know my own name. I've had it for long enough. One of my school friends had a teacher try to tell her she was spelling her own name wrong Exactly as you said - err, no, at age 12 I can actually spell my own name thanks! Happened to me to. (My name is spelled Eilin, not Ellen, Eirin, Eileen, Aileen.)
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Post by KelleeM on May 14, 2016 9:47:08 GMT
It would certainly bother me. My name isn't spelled in a traditional way but it wasn't MY choice...this is what my parents named me. I like my name and don't think of myself as Kelly, Kelli, Kellie, Kelley or any other possible spelling. I'm Kellee. I make every effort to spell people's names correctly and expect the same courtesy. I probably wouldn't say anything in a work situation unless it was really important but it would irk me.
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Post by Deleted on May 14, 2016 10:01:53 GMT
oh god. See I can't hold back in situations like this. Here's my response. "long pause. Um. OK. well if you don't want people to call you Missy, I'd suggest you stop introducing yourself as Missy. ANYWAY.... I need to get xxx file from you. Thanks." My friendliness flies out the door when you're a dick. That was dick. I'm not generally timid about speaking up when somebody shows their ass but this was a sales call and I don't think my boss would have been thrilled with me to sass her back. It was most bizarre though! You are probably right. That's why I would have taken the passive aggressive route - "oh, I'm soooooooo sorry. I must have misunderstood you because I thought you said Missy."
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Post by Deleted on May 14, 2016 10:07:04 GMT
Also, as for the OP - I get it. I'm a Carla. Which is also spelled Karla. And for some reason, the Karla spelling bugs me (no offense to any Karlas with a K)
I almost always say "Carla with a C" when I am asked my name (not just casually but when I know someone is writing it down or putting it in a file) and if it was someone I had frequent contact with, I would correct it. It's likely they aren't even aware and just pulling it from a drop down list that is incorrect.
I wouldn't make it a big deal, but I would just say something like "oh hey, next time you make changes to your contact list, would you mind changing my contact information?"
On the other hand, my husband's name is Vern. He's never used anything else and never given anyone the indication that it's a shortened version of Vernon (it is not). But one of the neighbors always refers to him as Vernon. He doesn't ever correct her and at this point, it's gotten to be so long that it would almost be embarrassing for her to draw attention to it and it doesn't bother him. My guess is that she has a Vern/Vernon in her life or family and just automatically assumes.
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Post by kamper on May 14, 2016 14:04:23 GMT
In a work situation it would bug me. I think it shows lack of attention to detail.
My Dad still spells my DH's name with a G instead of a J. We've been married 23 years! LOL. I chalk it up to the fact that he has a friend who spells it with a G.
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Post by JustTricia on May 14, 2016 15:09:25 GMT
It annoys the heck out of me. I have an unusual surname and people spell it wrong all the time, even though it is spelt exactly as it is said. People insist on telling me that I mean another surname which is similar. Erm, no, pal, I know my own name. I've had it for long enough. When I was about 12 my best friend's grandfather, who I rarely saw, called me Patricia. I said that my name was just Tricia (hence my screen name). He told me I was wrong, it was Patricia. I said again, no, it really is just Tricia. He proceeded to lecture me on how that couldn't possibly be my name, it was a nickname and HAD to be, no parent would call their child that as a full name, I just must not know what my birth certificate said. I just said okay and walked away. That also reminds me that my work email used to start with T.M. I had it changed to Tricia. a few years ago, but I still get forwarded email from the T.M. one. They're all spam, but mostly come addressed to Timothy.
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Post by paget on May 14, 2016 15:30:39 GMT
I thought of another great one- my MiL spells dd Madeline's name Madeleine - the French version (we're not French) but even better, she is writing emails and letters to her own son "Steven" but she named him Stephen. Snort.
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Post by craftsbycarolyn on May 14, 2016 15:35:56 GMT
My name is Carolyn, I get Carol all the time, even my husband calls me Carol. I never refer to myself or sign my name as anything but Carolyn. Lost cause!!!
My dad used to get mad about it and say, "If I wanted her to be called Carol, I would have named her that."
OP: I would have called her Missy, too. WTH. You don't want people to call you Missy, stop calling yourself that.
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Post by basketdiva on May 14, 2016 16:18:39 GMT
It bothers me to NO END. I have a name that has a masculine and feminine version. Everyone spells it the masculine way. I look at them with a dead stare, "DO I LOOK LIKE A MAN TO YOU???" They look at me like "WTF? What is wrong?" Um my name? I am not that guy. It bugs me for you, too! I had a boss named Cathe (Cathy) and all I had to see was the E on the end of the name and I remembered it. I'm clueless- I've never heard of a masculine version of "Elannah".
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Post by gar on May 14, 2016 16:25:56 GMT
It bothers me to NO END. I have a name that has a masculine and feminine version. Everyone spells it the masculine way. I look at them with a dead stare, "DO I LOOK LIKE A MAN TO YOU???" They look at me like "WTF? What is wrong?" Um my name? I am not that guy. It bugs me for you, too! I had a boss named Cathe (Cathy) and all I had to see was the E on the end of the name and I remembered it. I'm clueless- I've never heard of a masculine version of "Elannah". I believe Elannah's christian name is Dawn...no less confusing Don maybe, but that sounds quite different from Dawn to me and isn't really a 'version' is it? Just a different name, short for Donald.
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Post by Delta Dawn on May 14, 2016 16:46:12 GMT
I'm clueless- I've never heard of a masculine version of "Elannah". I believe Elannah's christian name is Dawn...no less confusing Don maybe, but that sounds quite different from Dawn to me and isn't really a 'version' is it? Just a different name, short for Donald. Yes, in UK and Australia they say my name as Dohn. In North America they say Dawn. So that's why it gets mixed up or people are just so ignorant. I will give them the benefit of the doubt, but it pisses me off. We learn in school that the word dawn means sunrise and it can also be a girl's name in about grade 3.
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Post by gale w on May 14, 2016 16:48:19 GMT
It would bother me a little but probably not enough to say anything. My MIL (of 22 yrs) still spells my name wrong.
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Post by gale w on May 14, 2016 16:56:10 GMT
It bothers me to NO END. I have a name that has a masculine and feminine version. Everyone spells it the masculine way. I look at them with a dead stare, "DO I LOOK LIKE A MAN TO YOU???" They look at me like "WTF? What is wrong?" Um my name? I am not that guy. It bugs me for you, too! I had a boss named Cathe (Cathy) and all I had to see was the E on the end of the name and I remembered it. I'm clueless- I've never heard of a masculine version of "Elannah". Curious why you would assume that a person's screen name is their real name.
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Post by gale w on May 14, 2016 16:58:01 GMT
It annoys the heck out of me. I have an unusual surname and people spell it wrong all the time, even though it is spelt exactly as it is said. People insist on telling me that I mean another surname which is similar. Erm, no, pal, I know my own name. I've had it for long enough. One of my school friends had a teacher try to tell her she was spelling her own name wrong Exactly as you said - err, no, at age 12 I can actually spell my own name thanks! I had a few teachers tell me I was spelling my name wrong. I always had to explain that my dad's name was Dale and that's why my name was spelled differently.
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Post by gar on May 14, 2016 16:59:23 GMT
I'm clueless- I've never heard of a masculine version of "Elannah". Curious why you would assume that a person's screen name is their real name. Because Elannah has talked about it in the past. No assuming necesary.
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Post by basketdiva on May 14, 2016 17:00:42 GMT
I'm clueless- I've never heard of a masculine version of "Elannah". Curious why you would assume that a person's screen name is their real name. I did consider that it could be her middle name or that it could just be a name she liked.
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Post by jumperhop on May 14, 2016 17:04:56 GMT
It would not bother me the slightest. Honestly I never have gotten the "how rude, they spelled my name wrong" thing. Especially for people with common misspelled names or unusual names. Unless it was my Mother spelling my name I wouldn't give it a second thought. Jen
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Post by smcast on May 14, 2016 22:05:19 GMT
I have a coworker named Shelly and sometimes I chuckle when other people spell her name Shelley.
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Post by smcast on May 14, 2016 22:06:45 GMT
Guess trying to quote someone didn't work. Oops.
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