Confession - shifting roles...

Thanks, ladies. I think I really just needed to vent and muse about the situation. I think one of the reason is I was sad that one of the things I "lost" in his retirement was a new found interest in cooking. Everyone finally grew up enough that they didn't say "eww" at new recipes, DD got a new fiancé that likes to eat and it's been kinda fun for a little over a year. Then he retired and I never got to cook. I really did want to let him do his own thing in his retirement - not have a list of honey-dos or rain on his parade. I will own that I was resentful, but I didn't want him to feel bad b/c he seemed to be enjoying cooking so I just said nothing. I've sorta gotten past that - I try new recipes on the weekend. I find recipes and show him this cool recipe I found, and have learned to wait to see if he is interested in cooking it. If he doesn't, then I do some weekend down the road.

I guess I do better mulling things for a while. Otherwise, I feel like a nag or unhappy, whiney, what have you. I posted that after leaving the kitchen with dirty dishes and ants. Yes, I was cringing.

We do talk, but it's usually much better after a nice good cooling-off period, if you know what I mean. Last night, I cooked (he hadn't started so I jumped right in). And he walked off after dinner, so I asked him to come back and wipe the counter tops down (which he did). And I washed the pans also.

Sometimes it just feels good to whine to you all.