tincin
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Post by tincin on May 19, 2016 12:14:45 GMT
I work with men. Two weeks ago one told me that I was "grouchy" all day. (I was working 12 HR days and exhausted, so I just stayed quiet most of the day) I did tell him I was so very tired. Last week, 2 of them told a third (and my boss) that I was bitchy, that they "were walking on eggshells" in another room, afraid to come out because I was bitchy! That day, I came in with a job to do, that plan changed (they knew but I did not, boss was out for a bit) and when I asked what I was supposed to do, they both shrugged and said they didn't know, so I went into another room and just started working on things that needed to be done. I said nothing mean, rude, or bitchy! One of them finally came in a few minutes later and told me I could work on a particular job. I said no problem, got to it and stayed by myself in the other room working on that. Yet they had the nerve to tell my boss I was a bitch. I mentioned it today, because he said that I was purposely upsetting him today --I was like WTF? He wasn't there when I got to work, didn't actually see him until after 3 pm and not once said anything to him that wasn't a question about work (3 in total)! He said maybe I wasn't bitchy the other day, I was just unpleasant!!!! Never mind I heard both of them making cracks/fun of me I didn't run and tell on them! Some men can be very passive aggressive and it sounds like you are dealing with at least one who is going out of his way to smear your reputation. Don't play the game. Men are allowed to be grouchy but we women are expected to be pleasant. Just be yourself and go on with your work. I work with mostly men as well and don't let anyone tell you that they aren't just like women are. They gossip, spread rumors and BS just like us. |
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Post by sweetpeasmom on May 19, 2016 12:34:16 GMT
My son's 8th grade graduation is tonight. I told my mil and 2 sils about this 2 months ago. And again 1 month ago today. One of my sils already told me she wasn't sure if she could make it because she is leaving for Europe tomorrow (so I totally get that). She is actually very good about showing for things. It's my mil and other sil that aren't. Par for course neither are able to make it. Now their reasons are good ones (this time). But it's just the fact that it's typical for them to not show or tell me last minute something came up. This time it was my bil getting an award tonight and my mil having car trouble. Ok, like I said good reasons. But still....
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Post by schizo319 on May 19, 2016 13:37:47 GMT
Found out yesterday that everyone in the office received a 2% raise in March except me. I worked on a huge important project last year (which wouldn't have made the deadline if not for my effort) so I know I earned it - I even received a commendation from our customer which I attached to my annual review. Apparently it was a clerical oversight - thankfully, my direct supervisor is incredible and is going to stay on corporate until it's resolved (with back pay) - I sure do hate that it adds to his workload though.
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Post by breetheflea on May 19, 2016 13:58:29 GMT
Our school carnival is tomorrow. I have left a message, and emailed the bounce house company and gotten no response about when they will be delivering the thing. I don't live at the school so I'm not going to sit there all day waiting for it to show up. Answer my messages!
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oh yvonne
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Post by oh yvonne on May 19, 2016 14:02:31 GMT
I had a procedure (burned) to remove some skin cancer off my shin.
It's a huge gaping wound, a crater. Ugh. It's messy, painful, and seems like going to take forever to heal. I'm grossed out by it and I'm sick of changing the bandages twice a day.
I'm sure it's going to leave a nasty scar, too.
I know, stop my whining. It could be worse, yadda. Pfft. Right before summer, too. I wish I'd had it checked last fall. By now I'd be able to wear short dresses.
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Post by mikklynn on May 19, 2016 15:24:54 GMT
Do I get two vents? I am taking two, lol.
1. I am so sick of my DH's selfish, self-centered family.
2. Dear District Manager - stop volunteering my time for projects. You have no idea what my work load is. You don't talk to me or my supervisor about my work load. I am saying NO!
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Post by Deleted on May 19, 2016 15:36:59 GMT
Totally first world and completely out of my control and petty but it was announced today that an university's high school marching band day is going to be the same day as a major invitational so a good chunk of the high schools that would participate can't.
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Post by anonrefugee on May 19, 2016 16:58:28 GMT
DH is wearing a boot for a foot injury. We'll know in a few weeks if he needs surgery.
I'm sorry for him. But also for our family, we wanted to take a vacation in July.
I'm trying to regroup but having a hard time thinking of places not involving hiking or city walking.
(This really is a vent here, I feel sorry for DH. If you have an idea please suggest a place. )
Edited to move question to Moab thread.
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Post by peasful1 on May 19, 2016 17:12:03 GMT
In all fairness, it's likely the stadium management company that messed up, not the school. I'm guessing whomever was booked first is the one who is getting to keep the date. That is a PITA, though.
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Post by anonrefugee on May 19, 2016 18:23:57 GMT
In all fairness, it's likely the stadium management company that messed up, not the school. I'm guessing whomever was booked first is the one who is getting to keep the date. That is a PITA, though. Or a repair issue that won't be completed as expected. We had that happen on one of DS teams. They called it a scheduling conflict, instead of slow contractor. |
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Post by canadianscrappergirl on May 19, 2016 18:32:58 GMT
So pissed right now!
Youngest graduates on the 28th. When tickets for grad dinner came out we made it clear to him that his 2older brothers whom do not live at home were not welcome to be at banquet. They have both treated us terribly , told is we were terrible parents and have verbally attacked us on FB numerous times. Second oldest told us in March he wanted nothing to do with us.
At the banquet grads sit on stage with their class and families sit on banquet floor at round tables one family per table.
So we ordered our tickets for me, hubby, graduating son and his brother who still lives at home and our elderly neighbors who he is close to. Graduating son said he was fine with other 2 brothers not coming to dinner and if they wanted they could just come to ceremony and sit on their own.
So I get an email this am from school secretary asking me to please pay for my son(one that said he wants nothing to do with us) and his wife's banquet tickets
WTF!!!!
I phone my son that is graduating and say what is going on he says the wife called and said basically that they were coming no matter what.
I refuse to sit at the same table with either one of them. She has done nothing but cause trouble and has made sure our son will have nothing to do with us.
When hubby finds out he will not want to go ugh.
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Post by theroadlesstraveledp on May 20, 2016 3:40:10 GMT
Mine is the belief/attitude that our middle schools have ingrained in our students and the parents. That a decent attitude, decent behavior and a desire for a good grade should automatically mean a passing grade. In the past week I've had two parents email me about how much their kids want to pass my class. That's it. No explanation for low grades or even poor excuses. Just stating the desire. And I've had kids ask if they could clean my room for extra credit. Had one parent say over and over that her son did the best that he could on a paper. Which he earned a C on. Mom believes that since he tried his hardest he should be given a higher grade. That's how our middle schools work. If a child fails the teacher has to give all sorts of opportunities for him to bring up his grade. And principals still pass along the ones that don't do anything. The "good" kids end up getting higher grades due to behavior and/or taking advantage of the chances created for those that are failing. It's a messed up system that teaches families that content knowledge isn't important. Bangs head on wall...you are preaching to the choir here. |
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Post by freecharlie on May 20, 2016 3:54:00 GMT
So pissed right now! Youngest graduates on the 28th. When tickets for grad dinner came out we made it clear to him that his 2older brothers whom do not live at home were not welcome to be at banquet. They have both treated us terribly , told is we were terrible parents and have verbally attacked us on FB numerous times. Second oldest told us in March he wanted nothing to do with us. At the banquet grads sit on stage with their class and families sit on banquet floor at round tables one family per table. So we ordered our tickets for me, hubby, graduating son and his brother who still lives at home and our elderly neighbors who he is close to. Graduating son said he was fine with other 2 brothers not coming to dinner and if they wanted they could just come to ceremony and sit on their own. So I get an email this am from school secretary asking me to please pay for my son(one that said he wants nothing to do with us) and his wife's banquet tickets WTF!!!! I phone my son that is graduating and say what is going on he says the wife called and said basically that they were coming no matter what. I refuse to sit at the same table with either one of them. She has done nothing but cause trouble and has made sure our son will have nothing to do with us. When hubby finds out he will not want to go ugh. I assume you didn't pay for them? Perhaps the money will stop them from coming. |
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Post by canadianscrappergirl on May 20, 2016 4:42:01 GMT
So pissed right now! Youngest graduates on the 28th. When tickets for grad dinner came out we made it clear to him that his 2older brothers whom do not live at home were not welcome to be at banquet. They have both treated us terribly , told is we were terrible parents and have verbally attacked us on FB numerous times. Second oldest told us in March he wanted nothing to do with us. At the banquet grads sit on stage with their class and families sit on banquet floor at round tables one family per table. So we ordered our tickets for me, hubby, graduating son and his brother who still lives at home and our elderly neighbors who he is close to. Graduating son said he was fine with other 2 brothers not coming to dinner and if they wanted they could just come to ceremony and sit on their own. So I get an email this am from school secretary asking me to please pay for my son(one that said he wants nothing to do with us) and his wife's banquet tickets WTF!!!! I phone my son that is graduating and say what is going on he says the wife called and said basically that they were coming no matter what. I refuse to sit at the same table with either one of them. She has done nothing but cause trouble and has made sure our son will have nothing to do with us. When hubby finds out he will not want to go ugh. I assume you didn't pay for them? Perhaps the money will stop them from coming. No I didn't pay for them. My son texted his brother and told him he couldn't come. |
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Post by mikklynn on May 20, 2016 9:12:29 GMT
So pissed right now! Youngest graduates on the 28th. When tickets for grad dinner came out we made it clear to him that his 2older brothers whom do not live at home were not welcome to be at banquet. They have both treated us terribly , told is we were terrible parents and have verbally attacked us on FB numerous times. Second oldest told us in March he wanted nothing to do with us. At the banquet grads sit on stage with their class and families sit on banquet floor at round tables one family per table. So we ordered our tickets for me, hubby, graduating son and his brother who still lives at home and our elderly neighbors who he is close to. Graduating son said he was fine with other 2 brothers not coming to dinner and if they wanted they could just come to ceremony and sit on their own. So I get an email this am from school secretary asking me to please pay for my son(one that said he wants nothing to do with us) and his wife's banquet tickets WTF!!!! I phone my son that is graduating and say what is going on he says the wife called and said basically that they were coming no matter what. I refuse to sit at the same table with either one of them. She has done nothing but cause trouble and has made sure our son will have nothing to do with us. When hubby finds out he will not want to go ugh. Wow, they have a lot of nerve expecting YOU to pay. Good for you for refusing. I'm sorry you are dealing with this. |
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Post by Deleted on May 20, 2016 11:27:58 GMT
I've known for a while that ex is engaged to his gf. I don't care. I'm not jealous. I'm very happily married. Yet, ex won't admit it and every time I see the gf, she has her hands shoved in pockets. Other times, she simply just hides. WTF? In the past 6 years, I've been nothing but polite towards her. I've never intentionally attempted to cause problems for them. And they're hiding this from me? How stupid are they? I may have had some less than kind opinions of her due to her not being very responsible about getting the boys to where they are supposed to be on time if at all, but I've never voiced them to get or the ex.
2020 can't get here fast enough.
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Post by mikklynn on May 20, 2016 12:45:44 GMT
I've known for a while that ex is engaged to his gf. I don't care. I'm not jealous. I'm very happily married. Yet, ex won't admit it and every time I see the gf, she has her hands shoved in pockets. Other times, she simply just hides. WTF? In the past 6 years, I've been nothing but polite towards her. I've never intentionally attempted to cause problems for them. And they're hiding this from me? How stupid are they? I may have had some less than kind opinions of her due to her not being very responsible about getting the boys to where they are supposed to be on time if at all, but I've never voiced them to get or the ex. 2020 can't get here fast enough. Wow - that is REALLY childish.
My vent is DH's brother. He was in the hospital diagnosed with colon cancer. He told DH he'd have the doctor call DH to explain what is going on. Yeah, he lied. DH is so distraught. The brother, can I call him the a-hole?, is not being truthful. Everyone is getting a different story. DH is afraid he is going to choose no treatment before he even sees an oncologist. He was treated surgically for an obstructed bowel and they biopsied, which is how he knows without seeing an oncologist.
Before you flame me - yes, he is entitled to his privacy and the decisions are his. My vent is the lying.
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imsirius
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Post by imsirius on May 20, 2016 13:25:47 GMT
My vent is DH's brother. He was in the hospital diagnosed with colon cancer. He told DH he'd have the doctor call DH to explain what is going on. Yeah, he lied. DH is so distraught. The brother, can I call him the a-hole?, is not being truthful. Everyone is getting a different story. DH is afraid he is going to choose no treatment before he even sees an oncologist. He was treated surgically for an obstructed bowel and they biopsied, which is how he knows without seeing an oncologist.
Before you flame me - yes, he is entitled to his privacy and the decisions are his. My vent is the lying. No flames here! My BFF's STBX dipshit did the same thing. Told everyone he has leukemia when in reality, it's Cirrhosis of the liver. He is getting blood transfusions every week and telling people that he's got cancer. He's a raging alcoholic who has no business taking blood each week when he is still drinking himself into oblivion. My BFF is so angry because he took their family business and ran it into to ground and wants everyone else to take the blame. I realize he's sick but man, it's just a crappy thing he's done and he won't take any responsibility for it. He even told the liver specialist that he wasn't a drinker. They "faked" the paperwork and blood work. Oh yeah...he's that delusional. My vent is that we have been waiting for a cheque from the government for over 6 weeks. It should have been here Monday as they told us that it was finally sent out. It STILL isn't here and I'm worried. Will be calling again today because this isn't a small sum we are talking about and I really hope the post office did NOT lose it. I wanted it directly deposited but the office wouldn't do it for me even though all my other tax and benefits are always deposited directly. I am freaking out. |
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Post by melodyesch on May 20, 2016 13:51:30 GMT
My work updated Outlook and Lync and now everyone is having computer issues. This morning my Outlook simply shut down while I was working and wouldn't even let me shut down without doing a hard reboot. When it DOES actually work, it's going so freakishly slow that everyone can't work efficiently. What a freaking pain.
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Post by canadianscrappergirl on May 20, 2016 13:53:42 GMT
So pissed right now! Youngest graduates on the 28th. When tickets for grad dinner came out we made it clear to him that his 2older brothers whom do not live at home were not welcome to be at banquet. They have both treated us terribly , told is we were terrible parents and have verbally attacked us on FB numerous times. Second oldest told us in March he wanted nothing to do with us. At the banquet grads sit on stage with their class and families sit on banquet floor at round tables one family per table. So we ordered our tickets for me, hubby, graduating son and his brother who still lives at home and our elderly neighbors who he is close to. Graduating son said he was fine with other 2 brothers not coming to dinner and if they wanted they could just come to ceremony and sit on their own. So I get an email this am from school secretary asking me to please pay for my son(one that said he wants nothing to do with us) and his wife's banquet tickets WTF!!!! I phone my son that is graduating and say what is going on he says the wife called and said basically that they were coming no matter what. I refuse to sit at the same table with either one of them. She has done nothing but cause trouble and has made sure our son will have nothing to do with us. When hubby finds out he will not want to go ugh. Wow, they have a lot of nerve expecting YOU to pay. Good for you for refusing. I'm sorry you are dealing with this. Thanks so much! When I told hubby last night he was livid. I hate that a damper is on what should be an occasion we should look forward to! |
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Post by winter on May 20, 2016 19:45:06 GMT
My testing appointment got messed up for my college final and now I have to postpone taking the test and try and schedule another time between my professor and proctors and such. As I right this I'm getting ready for my boyfriends graduation, and I'd like to add in the sentiment that I think has been repeated many times throughout this thread that graduations are heinous  |
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 20, 2016 20:13:02 GMT
Dear 19 yo DD-welcome home from college. Glad to have you back...now, get out and get a job! Ha ha! She wants to buy $80 concert tickets even though we just co-signed to help her lease a new car. I told her no job, no concert since she may need the money she has now for a payment! She wasn't happy but is out now pounding the pavement (and has applied some online). 16 yo DS-please stop buying more frozen food than you plan to eat! The freezer has been/is overflowing and nobody else has room for their stuff. You have access to a car now so you can replenish regularly. No need to stockpile like you'll be snowed in for 6 months (while living in Southern CA)! Dear boss-please don't make me choose between my marriage and my job. We talked about me having the weekend off coming up so I could go to Marriage Encounter. I have paid a $75 non-refundable fee. Telling me now that it could be a scheduling problem does not work. I am going even if it means giving my 2 week notice. Dear Kahlua bottle-I will see you later tonight.  |
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Post by pridemom on May 20, 2016 20:26:02 GMT
My vent is DH's brother. He was in the hospital diagnosed with colon cancer. He told DH he'd have the doctor call DH to explain what is going on. Yeah, he lied. DH is so distraught. The brother, can I call him the a-hole?, is not being truthful. Everyone is getting a different story. DH is afraid he is going to choose no treatment before he even sees an oncologist. He was treated surgically for an obstructed bowel and they biopsied, which is how he knows without seeing an oncologist.
Before you flame me - yes, he is entitled to his privacy and the decisions are his. My vent is the lying. No flames here! My BFF's STBX dipshit did the same thing. Told everyone he has leukemia when in reality, it's Cirrhosis of the liver. He is getting blood transfusions every week and telling people that he's got cancer. He's a raging alcoholic who has no business taking blood each week when he is still drinking himself into oblivion. My BFF is so angry because he took their family business and ran it into to ground and wants everyone else to take the blame. I realize he's sick but man, it's just a crappy thing he's done and he won't take any responsibility for it. He even told the liver specialist that he wasn't a drinker. They "faked" the paperwork and blood work. Oh yeah...he's that delusional. My vent is that we have been waiting for a cheque from the government for over 6 weeks. It should have been here Monday as they told us that it was finally sent out. It STILL isn't here and I'm worried. Will be calling again today because this isn't a small sum we are talking about and I really hope the post office did NOT lose it. I wanted it directly deposited but the office wouldn't do it for me even though all my other tax and benefits are always deposited directly. I am freaking out. Oh, the doctors know the difference between non-alcoholic and alcoholic cirrhosis. I have mild non-alcoholic cirrhosis and the ultrasound report specified it. The fact that he's drinking may prevent transplant eligibility but not treatment. |
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Post by lovinlife on May 20, 2016 22:07:08 GMT
So pissed right now! Youngest graduates on the 28th. When tickets for grad dinner came out we made it clear to him that his 2older brothers whom do not live at home were not welcome to be at banquet. They have both treated us terribly , told is we were terrible parents and have verbally attacked us on FB numerous times. Second oldest told us in March he wanted nothing to do with us. At the banquet grads sit on stage with their class and families sit on banquet floor at round tables one family per table. So we ordered our tickets for me, hubby, graduating son and his brother who still lives at home and our elderly neighbors who he is close to. Graduating son said he was fine with other 2 brothers not coming to dinner and if they wanted they could just come to ceremony and sit on their own. So I get an email this am from school secretary asking me to please pay for my son(one that said he wants nothing to do with us) and his wife's banquet tickets WTF!!!! I wouldn't pay either. Can your graduating son call other son and ask them not to attend? No sense in your dh being upset and think about not going. At the very least I would be sure they would not be sitting near you. I phone my son that is graduating and say what is going on he says the wife called and said basically that they were coming no matter what. I refuse to sit at the same table with either one of them. She has done nothing but cause trouble and has made sure our son will have nothing to do with us. When hubby finds out he will not want to go ugh. |
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Post by lovinlife on May 20, 2016 22:10:39 GMT
You know when you go to the store ask the sales person which paint is the best at coverage and they give you their speech on one coat coverage blah blah blah. Even the paint can states same thing. Of course it still requires 2 coats and could use a 3rd coat but that isn't going to happen
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Post by chaosisapony on May 20, 2016 22:19:34 GMT
I have worked 103.5 hours in the last 10 days. Yesterday I got to watch every single one of my coworkers go home early, yet I had to stay. Then today at 6 am one of those coworkers texted me that they were sick and couldn't work. Who was the only person to answer the text? Me. I am so incredibly sick of being in the office! When I showed up today I told my boss I was not a happy camper and did not want to be there. Luckily I have a good boss and he took pity on me and let me close the office early.
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Post by hop2 on May 20, 2016 22:53:17 GMT
First world problem for me.
I was ordered to appear in court Monday for work, got the order Wednesday! Great, thanks for the notice!!! I scramble move things dissapointed many many people.
Then today I get a call that Monday is postponed, the Judge is 'on vacation'. Thanks! You didn't know that wednesday???
Nice, I sure hope if it's rescheduled during my vacation she or he understands, but somehow I doubt I'll be given the same benefit. More like I'll be ordered to appear no matter what.
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Post by canadianscrappergirl on May 21, 2016 1:31:05 GMT
So youngest sons 18th birthday was yesterday. I had bought stuff for a nice dinner and made a birthday cake.
Hubby suggested we just take him out for pizza and wings and for a drink instead and we'll do the birthday home dinner today instead.
So we go out for dinner and when we get home son said can we have the cake tomorrow he's full I said ok.
When son got home from work he said he was going out with friends to bar and for a sleep over I said ok thinking he meant after dinner.
An hour before dinner he says okay leaving now WTH!
I said what about your birthday dinner and cake. I can have the cake tomorrow I am like whatever we're not waiting.
I am so hurt and pissed off!
Reminds me of his oldest brother and the birthday I made him a turkey dinner with all the bells and whistles and he sat in the basement with his friend and ate and didn't even say thanks. Damned kids!!
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Post by refugeepea on May 21, 2016 3:00:31 GMT
I posted my vent in another thread, but I'm still irritated, I'll add it here.
I'm trying to get someone to fill out a form that is required to be filled out by my husband's federal employer dealing with insurance. I had to call a 1-800 number (wait time 1-2 hours) because no one is can do it at his actual location with thousands of employees. Then they tell me, they can only talk to him. I have the form in an e-mail. No one is capable of saying e-mail it to this address and we'll give the form directly to your husband; it is only 2 pages. Now, he has been told to do it at work (online), because he can't do it at home. Luckily, he said he has a nice boss. At one point we were told to mail the form to Texas!
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azredhead
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Post by azredhead on May 21, 2016 3:09:00 GMT
MY FAMILY IS DRIVING ME CRAZY!! yes I typed that in call caps on purpose. My mom my siblings they're all being turds.. and I live far away! She sometimes tries to over fix things and now she's in one of her mooods and it's my fault. I'm the 2nd oldest. We're all grown. It ridiculous! It doesn't help I'm finishing that time of the month. GRRRR...
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