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Post by worrywart on May 21, 2016 3:22:29 GMT
I have a friend who has been talking to me for the past year and a half about all of her problems that she is going through. I have never not listened and been supportive. Today, I just was taking 2 minutes to tell her about something and of course she was not listening or paying any attention at all..honestly I don't think she heard a word I said  |
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Post by jenjie on May 21, 2016 3:29:50 GMT
I realized this morning that in 40 days Fred will have been gone a year. Crazy isn't it! I wrote a very thoughtful and personal post on Facebook. There were some very kind comments which I really appreciate.
But then comes the one clueless one...
"Jenn, wonderful commentary on 40 days.!!!! At first I thought you were wrong about Frederick & 40 days, but then I did some quick math and realized how quickly a year went.!!!"
Do ya think? You don't even know his name isn't Frederick but you think you know better than me about how much time has passed since he died? Really? I'm the one that is living it every day.
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Post by chaosisapony on May 21, 2016 3:29:58 GMT
I have a friend who has been talking to me for the past year and a half about all of her problems that she is going through. I have never not listened and been supportive. Today, I just was taking 2 minutes to tell her about something and of course she was not listening or paying any attention at all..honestly I don't think she heard a word I said That's happened to me before. It sucks and it hurts and in my case when you mention it they claim to have no idea what you're talking about. |
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Post by 950nancy on May 21, 2016 3:56:31 GMT
Not really a vent, but it is more of a sad observation. I volunteered at a school today that had a field day. By noon, there were dozens of kids trying to call home because they weren't enjoying it. They were hot or tired or just plain done. The weather was sunny, but it was in the 60's this morning. I wish kids were able to be outside more and had more experiences outdoors. When we would go on a field trip that involved a hike in the mountains, many kids would say they had never been on a hike before. We live about 15 minutes from at least a dozen trails.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on May 21, 2016 13:01:27 GMT
I have a friend who has been talking to me for the past year and a half about all of her problems that she is going through. I have never not listened and been supportive. Today, I just was taking 2 minutes to tell her about something and of course she was not listening or paying any attention at all..honestly I don't think she heard a word I said (((hugs)))) Sorry. It's hard when a friend doesn't give the same concern and time to you that you do to them. |
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on May 21, 2016 13:03:38 GMT
I realized this morning that in 40 days Fred will have been gone a year. Crazy isn't it! I wrote a very thoughtful and personal post on Facebook. There were some very kind comments which I really appreciate. But then comes the one clueless one... "Jenn, wonderful commentary on 40 days.!!!! At first I thought you were wrong about Frederick & 40 days, but then I did some quick math and realized how quickly a year went.!!!" Do ya think? You don't even know his name isn't Frederick but you think you know better than me about how much time has passed since he died? Really? I'm the one that is living it every day. Eww! That person is a douche and just typing to see their own words appear. (((hugs))) to you. Let the kind words come through louder than the inconsiderate ones. |
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Post by scrappington on May 21, 2016 13:04:44 GMT
I realized this morning that in 40 days Fred will have been gone a year. Crazy isn't it! I wrote a very thoughtful and personal post on Facebook. There were some very kind comments which I really appreciate. But then comes the one clueless one... "Jenn, wonderful commentary on 40 days.!!!! At first I thought you were wrong about Frederick & 40 days, but then I did some quick math and realized how quickly a year went.!!!" Do ya think? You don't even know his name isn't Frederick but you think you know better than me about how much time has passed since he died? Really? I'm the one that is living it every day. There is ALWAYS one insensitive cog. Unfortunately THEY don't know the are the ONE. I'm so sorry u have to go thru that. I always wanted to respond to those people. |
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Post by mikklynn on May 21, 2016 13:09:56 GMT
I realized this morning that in 40 days Fred will have been gone a year. Crazy isn't it! I wrote a very thoughtful and personal post on Facebook. There were some very kind comments which I really appreciate. But then comes the one clueless one... "Jenn, wonderful commentary on 40 days.!!!! At first I thought you were wrong about Frederick & 40 days, but then I did some quick math and realized how quickly a year went.!!!" Do ya think? You don't even know his name isn't Frederick but you think you know better than me about how much time has passed since he died? Really? I'm the one that is living it every day. What a dip! Good grief. I can't imagine arguing with you about how long it's been. Was it my DH's sister? Is her name Kathy? I am sure this will be a difficult time as the one year mark approaches. Please know that your friends are here to listen. |
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Post by mikklynn on May 21, 2016 13:13:16 GMT
More of a whine than a vent - We have tickets to the Twins baseball game today. DH loves all sports, but I could not care less. I have to spend my precious Saturday pretending to enjoy the game. We share season tickets, so nine more games to go, LOL.
I sometimes have him take a friend or our daughter, but he gets mad if I do it too often.
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Post by jenjie on May 21, 2016 17:03:34 GMT
I have a friend who has been talking to me for the past year and a half about all of her problems that she is going through. I have never not listened and been supportive. Today, I just was taking 2 minutes to tell her about something and of course she was not listening or paying any attention at all..honestly I don't think she heard a word I said I had a friend like that when I was In high school. We met working at summer camp. We didn't live too near each other. I wouid make the phone calls and he would do all the talking. The day I figured that out was the last time I called him. And he never picked up the phone to call me either. |
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Post by jenjie on May 21, 2016 17:10:57 GMT
I realized this morning that in 40 days Fred will have been gone a year. Crazy isn't it! I wrote a very thoughtful and personal post on Facebook. There were some very kind comments which I really appreciate. But then comes the one clueless one... "Jenn, wonderful commentary on 40 days.!!!! At first I thought you were wrong about Frederick & 40 days, but then I did some quick math and realized how quickly a year went.!!!" Do ya think? You don't even know his name isn't Frederick but you think you know better than me about how much time has passed since he died? Really? I'm the one that is living it every day. What a dip! Good grief. I can't imagine arguing with you about how long it's been. Was it my DH's sister? Is her name Kathy? I am sure this will be a difficult time as the one year mark approaches. Please know that your friends are here to listen. LOL no! Something good that came out of it - her response reminded me of something my mother would say. The one I'm not close with and often speaks out of her butt things that she hasn't earned the right to speak. But my mother's comment on my post was probably the most perfect thing she has ever said to me, exactly what I needed to hear and even more appreciated after the other person's clueless comment. Thanks for your sweet words my friend. Yeah it's hard. Fil took ds11 to an event today. I asked him to bring him home early because he needs to work on a project. I ended up driving over there to say I changed my mind, he could stay as long as fil wanted him. Later fil, Who hardly ever talks about it, told me he was having a hard time bc that event last year was the last time he and dh spent together. So I'm glad I said ds could stay. Fil needs him today. |
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Post by imsirius on May 21, 2016 22:47:37 GMT
I bought a ton of food for my son and his friends tonight. DS didn't want a party party, just a few close friends over for dinner and some gaming. All said yes. ( his birthday was Mon).
Two boys called today ,about two hours before dinner, saying they couldn't make it after all..didn't give DS any real concrete reason just that they changed plans.
Third boy fell off his bike and is in hospital which we totally understand and hope he is ok.
Last boy shows up late for dinner, we said 5:30 and he comes at 6. (He was out with a friend) says he already ate and he can only stay for about an hour because they are leaving at 6 am to go see his grandma tomorrow.
None of this was brought up until today. DS is really upset and I'm left with a crapload of junk food that we don't usually eat and the boys all requested a sundae bar which I bought a TON of stuff for!
I'm just so over the lack of respect kids have these days.
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