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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Aug 1, 2014 13:54:35 GMT
I've learned that I am not a dog person. I wanted to be, but the thought of having slobbery kisses and walking multiple times a day, and the cost of vet care, and the dog hair, and the barking, and the worry that the dog might get loose, and what if he ever bit someone?......... I just can't do it. Dogs are cute to pet. Nice to be around for a few minutes at a time. But I know I'm not up for the full responsibility.
I've learned that I should not love or trust blindly. Or easily, even. Not everyone has the same sense of loyalty that I do.
I've learned that I am a much stronger woman than I thought I was. I might be afraid, but I still have to try.
I've learned to embrace liking what I actually like, instead of trying to like what others like to fit in. I like the color orange and turquoise together when decorating. I don't like wearing a ton of makeup. I've given up on wearing high heels. They hurt and from the second I put them on I'm just waiting for the minute I can take them off.
I've learned that I'd rather spend a night with a good book than a room full of people I don't know well. I'm just not that into socializing and trying to meet new people.
I've learned (and maybe just accepted) that I will never be thin. It's just not going to happen. Now I'm working on healthier. Try to limit the sweets I eat. Continue eating the veggies. Switch from ice tea to water.
I've learned I will never be rich. Accepting that, I need to continue being grateful for what I have and make a plan to make the money i do have work for me long term.
I could probably go on, but I'd like to hear what you have to say.
What have you learned?
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Post by needtime2scrap on Aug 1, 2014 14:03:23 GMT
I've learned that I can very determined when I want to be. That I'm stronger than I realize. I'm very good at public speaking (who knew?!) That I enjoy working with teenagers! That I have more to offer than I thought when I was younger. That I don't tolerate people well who complain about all aspects of their lives yet do nothing to change things even when they are totally capable. That I've learned to be a runner and love it! Totally never saw that coming lol! I'm sure that there is more but I'm only on coffee [HASH]1
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sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Aug 1, 2014 14:11:54 GMT
I've learned that I'd rather spend a night with a good book than a room full of people I don't know well. I'm just not that into socializing and trying to meet new people. I agree about the book vs people! I've learned that the reality of the impending "bad" situation I'm dreading is not usually as bad as my imagination forecasts it will be. And that no matter what, men will pee on the floor near the toilet.
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brandy327
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Post by brandy327 on Aug 1, 2014 14:12:26 GMT
I've learned that it's ok for people to not like me. It's taken me a long to be ok with that.
I've learned that I *CAN* lose weight, I just need to stay focused. (130 lbs lost with about 50 more to go)
I've learned that no matter how much you love a person, sometimes it's just not enough.
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quiltz
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Jun 29, 2014 16:13:28 GMT
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Post by quiltz on Aug 1, 2014 14:23:14 GMT
From the author of The Road Less Travelled: Life is not fair, Realise it, deal with it and get on with your life.
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Post by alibama on Aug 1, 2014 14:23:39 GMT
I've learned that it's ok for people to not like me. It's taken me a long to be ok with that. I've learned that I *CAN* lose weight, I just need to stay focused. (130 lbs lost with about 50 more to go) I've learned that no matter how much you love a person, sometimes it's just not enough.
Wow I couldn't let that go with out say WOW that is amazing! 130lbs is a huge achivienment. I have lost 62 but still have another 30 to go.
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brandy327
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Post by brandy327 on Aug 1, 2014 14:29:30 GMT
Thanks alibama! It's taken me a long time (10 years) and several setbacks to get where I am. I hope to be to my goal weight within a year.
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Post by disneypal on Aug 1, 2014 14:40:01 GMT
I have learned that, unlike the saying, time does NOT heal all wounds but time does makes it easier to learn to live with those wounds.
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marimoose
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Post by marimoose on Aug 1, 2014 14:44:45 GMT
I've learned that it's ok for people to not like me. It's taken me a long to be ok with that. I've learned that I *CAN* lose weight, I just need to stay focused. (130 lbs lost with about 50 more to go) I've learned that no matter how much you love a person, sometimes it's just not enough. This is very inspirational. The words " I CAN" are so powerful and when those words are learned, I think you can take on the world. Congrats!!!! This is such a positive to read first thing in the morning. Everything you wrote is hands down true.
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purplebee
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Post by purplebee on Aug 1, 2014 14:47:06 GMT
I have learned that I don't have to like some things just because those important to me do. Different strokes and all that. Doesn't make me a bad person.
I have learned - but am still struggling with practicing - worry, especially about things completely out of my control, will not accomplish anything except cause a lack of sleep and make me cranky. Let it go....easier said than done though....
I will never be thin. But if I can be active and healthy, and try to eat reasonably, the extra 20 will just have to stay.
I'm sure there is a bunch more, but that's what comes to mind at the moment.
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Post by creativegirl on Aug 1, 2014 14:49:23 GMT
I've learned that it is ok to say, "I don't know" or "I made a mistake."
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Post by snappinsami on Aug 1, 2014 14:53:53 GMT
... I've learned that I am a much stronger woman than I thought I was. I might be afraid, but I still have to try. I've learned to embrace liking what I actually like, instead of trying to like what others like to fit in. ... I don't like wearing a ton of makeup. I've given up on wearing high heels. They hurt and from the second I put them on I'm just waiting for the minute I can take them off. I've learned that I'd rather spend a night with a good book than a room full of people I don't know well. I'm just not that into socializing and trying to meet new people. I've learned (and maybe just accepted) that I will never be thin. It's just not going to happen. Now I'm working on healthier. Try to limit the sweets I eat. Continue eating the veggies. Switch from ice tea to water. I've learned I will never be rich. Accepting that, I need to continue being grateful for what I have and make a plan to make the money i do have work for me long term. I'll borrow some of yours as a start, because they're DEAD ON for me. I've learned that I don't need to always please my parents. I'm my own person, and while they may not like all of things I do, say, or think, this is MY life, not theirs. I'd like for them to at least appreciate the choices I make, but if they don't that's on them. (Yes, I'm 46 years old, but this was like an epiphany for me.) I've learned the importance of standing up for what *I* want and not always giving in just to make other people happy. In January, I declared to my family that I was going to focus more this year on doing things for myself. I'm not trying to be selfish, but I'm no longer going to be a pushover, either. I've learned that I enjoy good food, wine, and luxury, but I also love comfort food and cozy clothes. I don't enjoy paying for things just because they're popular or "in;" I'd rather have quality and things I like that things that other people think are important or cool. I've learned I'm a cat person. Who knew? I've learned that parenting a (teenage) girl is both the best and most frustrating thing I will probably do in my life. There's TONS more, I'm sure...
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Post by scrapcat on Aug 1, 2014 15:36:38 GMT
^^these are good. I make mental 'life lesson numbers' when I find myself repeating mantras.
As an adult I've def learned it's ok to not be perfect, it's ok to say no, it's none of my business what other people think of me....
I've learned that time is way more valuable to me than money or material things.
I've learned to stay quiet and listen more.
I've learned I don't always have to be right and it can be even more rewarding admitting when I'm wrong! (hard one to accept!)
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Post by nesser01 on Aug 1, 2014 15:50:41 GMT
I've learned that just because they are your family, it doesn't give them the right to treat you like crappy.
I've also learned that, you need to motivate and push yourself. There isn't always going to be someone there to cheer you on.
I've learned that there are going to be people that will never be happy no matter what you do.
I've learned that its better to look at things in a more positive way.
I've learned that despite being sort of shy and introverted, I really enjoy work where I am interacting and helping people face to face. And sitting at a desk all day is not something I enjoy.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Aug 1, 2014 15:58:49 GMT
I've learned that when I am not true to myself, it bites me everytime.
I've learned to observe more than I used to.
I've learned that a great weekend is one spent in my sewing room, not making plans to shop and eat.
I've learned that I won't like everyone I meet and they won't all like me. I'm ok with that, completely.
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Aug 1, 2014 16:08:27 GMT
I've learned how very, very short 18 years is. My oldest DD is heading off to college and I can't believe that we/I only get 18 years to teach, shape and watch them grow. I'm learning about my personality type and how/why it influences my choices and actions. Arguing with someone will not ever make them change their mind. Happiness is not the main goal in life. Being kind, giving and loving to others is. I believe these things will cause happiness for yourself and others. God is real and will never leave me. I may or may not ever lose this extra 20 lbs. I'm learning to be okay with it either way. Speak up, share your feelings, show your love, don't keep it all in.
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Post by Sassenach on Aug 1, 2014 16:38:35 GMT
I've learned that it is OK to be an introvert. I can finally stop feeling bad about myself because I'm not nor will I ever be the"life of the party."
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Post by Anne-Marie on Aug 1, 2014 16:57:42 GMT
I am in the process of learning/accepting that sometimes people that really do love you still hurt you. No one is perfect, everyone slips up. Me included, no matter how hard I may try.
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Post by sarahyoo72 on Aug 1, 2014 17:54:57 GMT
That it's OK to say no.
That I don't have to please everyone, all the time.
That the ugly duckling I see in the mirror is actually a swan in other people's eyes.
How to be comfortable in my own skin.
That things and people change.
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Post by Lindarina on Aug 1, 2014 17:56:27 GMT
I've learned that I'm not a jerk whisperer. Some people are just not worth my time or my anger. Being angry at jerks only affects me negativly. And I've learned that I don't have to try to be liked by everyone. I've learned that I'm not a tree stuck to the ground. If I'm not happy somewhere, I can remove myself from that place. But I've also learned that some things are worth fighting for. Sometimes it's better to fix things than to run away, to hang in there for the long haul. I'm always working on knowing the difference between what's trash and what's treasure in my life I've learned to accept and love being an introvert. I'm at peace with myself now, focusing on the things that makes me happy and suits my personality.
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Aug 1, 2014 18:16:12 GMT
Always trust your first instinct. That gut feeling is generally spot on.
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Post by shamrock on Aug 1, 2014 18:24:39 GMT
I've learned that it's ok for people to not like me. It's taken me a long to be ok with that. I'm learning this! I know it, but it isn't always easy for me to accept I've learned to say no to things more often. I don't need or want to be involved in everything.
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Post by peased2bhere on Aug 1, 2014 19:22:19 GMT
Happiness is not the main goal in life. Being kind, giving and loving to others is. I believe these things will cause happiness for yourself and others. This is so simple yet profound! I love it, and have written it down. I am working on my Masters in Counseling right now and think that this approach could help so many people that report being unhappy. People are in search of what will "make" them happy, and overlooking the very things that happiness is a byproduct of. I promise to give you credit Susie Homemaker if I share it with anyone. Great thread!!
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Post by Princess Amy on Aug 1, 2014 19:40:10 GMT
I've learned that just because I'm a nice person, does NOT mean people will reciprocate. In other words, people are selfish turds.
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Post by bluepoprocks on Aug 1, 2014 19:56:27 GMT
I've learned that it's ok that people think I'm weird and I've learned to embrace my weirdness.
I've learned life is to short to care what other people think of you.
I've learned I'm not always right but I still have a hard time admitting to people when I'm wrong. It's something I'm working on.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 1, 2014 21:00:38 GMT
I have learned that I'm a lot more independant than I ever gave myself credit for. I am able to stand on my own two feet if I need to.
I have learned I am more accepting of people's lifestyles, decisions they make. Everyone doesn't have to think, worship, like the same things that I do and our world is a much better place because of this.
I have learned I don't need 100 different friends - I need 2-3 really good ones and I'm happy with that.
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scrapaddie
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Post by scrapaddie on Aug 1, 2014 21:10:08 GMT
Oh my! I am 62 years old, have been married for 35, divorced for seven, and I've learned Waymore than I could ever list here. If I were to sum it up, I would say that I have learned I am me.
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duopenotti
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Jun 30, 2014 15:02:10 GMT
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Post by duopenotti on Aug 1, 2014 21:13:02 GMT
Thanks for letting me think about this!
I've learned it's ok to let go of things sometimes. I don't need to be in control all the time!
I've learned I'm a strong woman. Lots has happened in the last years, but I made it. I'm still standing!
I've learned it's ok to dress different than those around you.
I've learned that I am beautiful. Inside and out.
I've learned I am a mama-bear even though I don't have biological kids. I love my stepdaughters and am very protective of them!! I hate the word "step"..
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Post by jcmom04 on Aug 1, 2014 21:28:22 GMT
I have learned to love freely and fiercely (my dh and kids). I knew I was a strong person but almost losing my dh and DS confirmed I could stand up to anything. But I learned grief in its most personal form when, after caring for my mom in our home for 5 years, she died. I learned how to rely on others and God when my sweet DS could not deal with her loss and I didn't know how to help him. A year of group counseling for both of us was amazing and I look at my dd now who was my DS's age at that time and I marvel at where we are now. I learned I was braver than I thought possible when I started my own practice as the market crashed in 2008.
Kristin
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Pamelou
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Post by Pamelou on Aug 1, 2014 21:46:49 GMT
Wow you ladies have learned tons...I've learned it's okay to say NO without an explanation for my decision.
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