nickle831
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Post by nickle831 on Aug 1, 2014 14:13:04 GMT
My, no longer my baby cousin, is leaving for College in a month. She has always been a homebody, shy, never says no, nice as can be type of girl. I wanted to send her a letter of kind of To do's and Not to do's in college. I want her to come out of her shell, but not go buck wild crazy. I want to give her advice but more of a funny type of letter so she doesn't just blow it off either.
Things like go to the parties, but go with a friend and don't leave your drink unattended so you don't find your panties hanging from a flag pole. And you don't have to go to ALL the parties type of advice.
Don't take 8am classes, you will regret it. LOL I sure did
So what advice would you give to a college bond kid?
TIA
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Post by Deleted on Aug 1, 2014 14:23:06 GMT
from what you describe... know when to say "no"! and be willing to say it. No is a complete answer. You don't have to explain or justify it to anyone.
Be persistent. Be persistent with the faculty if you are having trouble in class. Be persistent on getting in to see your adviser or what ever staff/admin you need help from. If the person tells you "no" then ask who to talk to about the problem next. There WILL be times to escalate an issue to the next level to get favorable results.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 1, 2014 14:25:11 GMT
Ask for help. If she needs tutoring or someone to talk to about personal problems, the college is set up to help her. She just needs to ask for it.
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Post by christine58 on Aug 1, 2014 15:18:52 GMT
Feel free to admit a bit of being homesick...
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Post by Deleted on Aug 1, 2014 17:24:27 GMT
I made a "52 things to know for college" altered deck of cards for my DS when he left for college.....we didn't allow partying or random hanging out with friends, no drinking, smoking etc.....so he was a bit sheltered, and also a bit young. Just turned 17 the December he graduated, youngest in his graduating class. I had things like: Don't burn the popcorn, everyone on your floor will hate you. Share and trade your snacks from home Ask for help-a smart man knows what he knows and knows what he doesn't and asks for help (something like that) Don't wash colors and whites together, keep a roll of quarters handy for laundry Write (or call or text or skype) home often, we miss you as much as you wont admit you miss us.  Never go to parties alone, go with a friend and see to it that you both leave together and get home safely Don't do something tonight that you'll regret in the morning Not everyone who offers to sleep with you, loves you. THINK FIRST! Use the library, it's there! Smile when you pass someone on campus, don't walk with your iphone in your face..... Get to know your professors but remember you are not equals..... Make at least 1 teacher your advisor (his college allowed 2) Take something that interests you along with the necessary classes Attend the arts and music programs in campus Eat something different that you usually don't, for the experience Get to know a foreign student, teach him about your culture and learn about his Play a sport if your grades and time allow Initiate a movie night in the dorm, rent or bring a favorite movie and ask others to join you, bring snacks Lock your bike up at night Lock your room, not everyone is as honest as your like them to be... Be respectful of your roommate, he has to live with your smelly ass for the year (mostly applies to boys-  ) Lots of others too but I forget some..... Good luck to her!! |
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Post by cadoodlebug on Aug 1, 2014 17:30:47 GMT
The best thing my DS learned in college was to get to know your professors. Talk to them. He formed some awesome relationships with some great professors and it made his college experience so much better. Have fun but always remember the ultimate goal is to graduate. Many freshmen at big universities forget that part and think it's all about the football games and parties. It took me a semester to realize that. It sucks to have Saturday classes I don't think they do that any longer. When I was a freshman we had to take one because they didn't want you going home every weekend. I think I hold the record for cuts.
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bomo
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Post by bomo on Aug 1, 2014 20:08:12 GMT
Study first, play second. Lay off the starches! (Wish I had followed my own advice)
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quiltz
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Jun 29, 2014 16:13:28 GMT
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Post by quiltz on Aug 1, 2014 20:10:24 GMT
Aunt TT, that is a great list!
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raindancer
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Post by raindancer on Aug 1, 2014 20:54:06 GMT
along with the getting to know professors and asking for help, I would suggest a friendly reminder that they prefer to be called "Dr. Soandso or Professor soandso" rather than "Hey teach". And no text talk in email!!! They hate it and complain all the time about it, many in class, many to me in office hours when I go ask for help. |
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TankTop
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Post by TankTop on Aug 1, 2014 21:16:25 GMT
If you ride your bike to class or the library on a regular basis always check the bike racks in front of each building before reporting it stolen to campus police.
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nickle831
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Post by nickle831 on Aug 1, 2014 21:30:40 GMT
Awesome advice thanks ladies!
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AmeliaBloomer
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Aug 2, 2014 1:15:29 GMT
I have reason to be involved in many conversations about professors' wishes for new students, so these tips are all of an academic bent. They're neither funny nor clever, but perhaps you can doctor them: -Read your syllabi; consult them frequently. (Some professors even give syllabus quizzes.) -Take advantage of professors' office hours - also the tutoring center, writing center, disability office. -Learn what to call your professors. Never call a female professor "Mrs." or "Ms." instead of "Dr." or "Professor." (Unless you're at the University of Virginia.) -As mentioned earlier, when emailing professors, use proper salutation and closing, and write in full sentences. -Proofread! Then proofread again. -Always cite sources. -Don't grade grub. Don't get sucked into grade grubbing complaint sessions during class. -Participate in class discussions. You'd be amazed how grateful the professor will be, even if it isn't apparent. -Be fair to professors when evaluating them. These days, instructors' (especially adjuncts) continued employment is often dependent on favorable student evaluations ("customer satisfaction"). And from me: -Register for next semester's classes the second you are eligible.
-If your campus offers free rides to students at night, take advantage of it. That's why they're there.
-Talk to at least one new person every day.
-You only need one set of sheets. Really. And you probably don't need a printer. Or THAT many pairs of shoes.  |
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Post by emelle64 on Aug 2, 2014 2:15:13 GMT
My very shy DD just finished her first year of university 1000 miles from home and she did just fine! She didn't party but she socialized on her own terms. She got involved in the things she was interested in and made like-minded friends. She's home for the summer but can't wait to go back. We gave her tons of advice before she left home (and doing her laundry this summer, she clearly ignored the "don't wash your whites with your colours" rule ") but one stands out. Her dad, my DH is a university professor and gets so frustrated when kids don't come to class, don't hand in assignments and then the day before marks are due are crying the blues to him. So, we said, always, always go to class and if you fall behind or have problems don't wait until the end of the semester, go immediately to your professor or TA. If your professor actually recognizes your faces as someone who regularly attended his/her lectures, they're more likely to go the extra mile to help you out.
Good luck to your cousin. I hope it's a great experience for her.
Emelle
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Post by theboydbunch on Aug 2, 2014 2:33:43 GMT
I can't think of anything to add right now, but love what's been shared.
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