caro
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Post by caro on May 24, 2016 19:09:36 GMT
Her phone was off the hook for 12 hrs. She's healthy for her age, lives alone but she did not know her phone was slightly off hook. I tried calling last night once but figured she was talking to a friend. I tried again this morning a few times. Then I got concerned.
I went to her house, pounded on her front door, looked in all the windows that I could and nothing. So I called the police for a welfare check. I didn't want to go into her house alone and been the one to find her in case she had passed. I have a key to go in her house but holy moly, I don't want to do this.
So glad all was well and she was asleep sitting in a chair in her bedroom. And I'm glad the county Sheriff was so nice to me and to her.
She doesn't have a cell phone anymore. We tried several but she can't figure out how to answer one.
It sure is hard to parent the parent.
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Post by mikklynn on May 24, 2016 19:11:28 GMT
Oh my gosh, that would have been terrifying. I am glad she's ok.
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Post by lucyg on May 24, 2016 19:15:21 GMT
Whew, very scary. Mine is 87 and very healthy and active, but still ... she's starting to slow down. I didn't used to worry about her, but now I do. It's hard.
I'm glad your mom was okay!
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Post by candygurl on May 24, 2016 20:01:08 GMT
Scary! That happened a few times with my grandma and it was scary each time. Glad she is okay!
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on May 24, 2016 20:11:18 GMT
Her phone was off the hook for 12 hrs. She's healthy for her age, lives alone but she did not know her phone was slightly off hook. I tried calling last night once but figured she was talking to a friend. I tried again this morning a few times. Then I got concerned. I went to her house, pounded on her front door, looked in all the windows that I could and nothing. So I called the police for a welfare check. I didn't want to go into her house alone and been the one to find her in case she had passed. I have a key to go in her house but holy moly, I don't want to do this. So glad all was well and she was asleep sitting in a chair in her bedroom. And I'm glad the county Sheriff was so nice to me and to her. She doesn't have a cell phone anymore. We tried several but she can't figure out how to answer one. It sure is hard to parent the parent. They have cell phones for seniors that have very limited keys on the pad so it's not confusing and the keys are very large so it's easy to see. I would Google a bit and see if you can find a phone like this. |
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Post by FLA SummerBaby on May 24, 2016 20:51:16 GMT
Oh my goodness -- I have had similar situation with my mom and not hanging the phone up properly. It is scary! Glad that things were ok and that the sheriff was understanding and kind about it all. You are so right, very hard when the roles reverse and we have to "parent the parents". Hang in there.
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Post by anniefb on May 24, 2016 20:53:30 GMT
Wow very scary. Glad to hear she's ok.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on May 24, 2016 22:04:47 GMT
I'm sorry. We had something similar with my grandma when she was approaching 90. Your heart just jumps out of your body, doesn't it? Big hugs to you, and I'm SO glad your mom was OK.
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2016 22:14:10 GMT
Scary. Do you have phone numbers for her neighbors? Also, have you considered possibly getting an indoor security camera? It would be helpful for you to be able to check in on her that way as well.
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Post by lisae on May 24, 2016 22:17:03 GMT
That is so frightening when you can't get in touch with them. It is good that you checked. And it is very hard to parent a parent.
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Post by hannahruth on May 24, 2016 22:33:45 GMT
This happened to us with FIL and MIL as you say very frightening.
We we have been called the "sandwich" generation - between our children and our parents both of which need parenting! Tough at times.
Hang in there - this too will pass.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on May 24, 2016 22:40:38 GMT
What caught my eye first was that's she 91. My mama just turned 91 today!
My mama had been living alone until about 6-8 months ago when my oldest son moved in with her. It is helping him to save some money and get ahead a little financially (well, now that he's caught up by paying off bills - lol). And it's reassuring to her to have someone there. He gets the groceries and runs her errands. It's really been a blessing because we were getting worried about her being alone. She does use a cell phone, but she'll leave it where she can't hear it ring and then we get worried because she's not answering.
I hope your mama - and mine - continue to do well. I understand your worry about her all too well.
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Post by caro on May 25, 2016 0:10:48 GMT
I wish I knew someone who could move in with her. My kids are all married w/kids and no great grandchild is old enough. She is so stubborn and in some ways I can't blame her. NO ONE wants to give up the things you can control in your life. She was still active and driving until she turned 90. I thought it would be a battle to take her keys and it would have except she drove her car into the garage, hit the house and did damage to her car. My brother refused to get it fixed. Thank goodness the house wasn't damaged. So, as I said, it's hard to parent the parent and it's very hard to see them age.  |
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Post by Mystie on May 25, 2016 0:16:58 GMT
Oh, that would have scared me, too! I was talking on the phone (landline) with my grandma in Missouri once years ago, and the line just went dead. I couldn't reach her, I can't remember now if it rang with no answer or what, but I was so concerned. I called my aunt who lived nearby and had her run over and check. It was just a dead line!
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Post by mztfied on May 25, 2016 1:32:21 GMT
This same thing happened with my elderly parents but they were 3000 miles away. My dh finally called their local police dept. and they sent an officer to check on them. This small southern town police dept. was so gracious about this. The officer called us back to report that all was ok. Told us anytime we had a concern to just call and they would make a well check.
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Post by scrapmaven on May 25, 2016 1:42:48 GMT
I'm relieved that she is OK. My mil is 86 and lives alone, very healthy and sharp but we still worry about her. She is old and she sometimes forget information that we give her. It's hard when you transition from being the child to being the parent.
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 25, 2016 3:28:34 GMT
She doesn't have a cell phone anymore. We tried several but she can't figure out how to answer one. They have cell phones for seniors that have very limited keys on the pad so it's not confusing and the keys are very large so it's easy to see. I would Google a bit and see if you can find a phone like this. This is the one that's always advertised in our newspaper. Jitterbug Phone for Seniors
I would also see if there was a neighbor or someone close by that I could call if it happened again. Scary stuff.  |
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