Parents of teen girls! Need opinions

I have a 16 year old DD and a 14.5 year old DS. My one rule is that they are not allowed to have friends in the house while I'm working. We live in a pretty urban area and there are places where they can walk to hang out with their friends. I do allow that but they have to text me periodically so I know where they are going and when they arrive safely at their destination. My DD hopes to have a car and a driver's license by the end of summer. We will revisit the rules a bit once she's officially driving.

I'm the first to admit that I'm pretty conservative. I'm guessing your DD is a rising 10th grader?

-When DD was that age, I allowed "dating", but only in a group. And one of the other kids had to be female.

-She did a lot with a big group of kids--swimming, movies, hanging out at the park, singing show tunes (she goes to a performing arts HS.) She was not allowed to go over to someone's house if there wasn't a parent home. But they were always welcome here and I have the summers off.

-I didn't really set a curfew or how long she could be gone--it was a case by case basis. (She's 17 now and driving. Now, she has to be home by 10 on a school night, 11 on other nights unless it's something special like prom, which I set a midnight curfew.)

-I let her go whenever it worked for us. I remember being a teen and wanting to just be with my friends. If we are doing something as a family, she is expected to join the family.

-Driving was the new one for me, as she is almost the youngest kid in her class. She could not drive with friends at all that summer between her sophomore and junior year. They were all new drivers and just--no. I did drive her wherever she needed to go with very little hassle if I could make it work, but all of her friends are local. It hasn't been until this year (junior year) that I've allowed her to drive with friends. But she (and they) had to hold a license for 6 months and be accident free. She is now allowed to drive one other kid (state law), but I have to approve the kid first.

I volunteer with teens--even the good kids can do dumb stuff, especially with a group mentality when they are bored. I was really surprised at how reluctant other parents were to impose rules on her friends, but as soon as they heard DD's rules, they were all on board and made similar rules in their family. It seems to work for us and DD rarely ever pushes back. She will be 1,300 miles away at college in a year. I've been slowly giving her more freedom as time goes on and she proves herself responsible.

We also don't have many blanket rules for our 17 year old. We haven't really had to as dh works nights so he is at the house every day either sleeping or awake The big one is if she has someone over they should be quiet and not wake up her dad. 

We do have a rule that she can't just wander around the neighborhood. When she takes a walk she needs to take her German Shepherd Dog. Her dog is very protective of her so we feel more comfortable with them being together. 

For driving we are kind of picky about who she can go with. Our state also has restrictions on young drivers so that helps. 

I have an almost 15 and almost 11 year old. I don't have any blanket rules other tthan they can't spend 24/7 on the Playstation or xbox.

But I teach, so I am home too.

hanging out same gendered groups two to three when I'm not home and I have to know the kids well. More than that or mixed gendered a parent has to be home.

I'm pretty loose on things. I want my kids hanging out with friends because they do more and are more engaged with life that way. When they aren't hanging with friends they are just sitting with a screen in front of them. I have guidelines for summer activities and productivity, but it's easier to get them to get up and do stuff when a friend is engaged with them.

My kids in return have really been great at not breaking my trust when it comes to friends.

The only rule I had was no girls in the house when we were gone. Thankfully all of their friends couldn't drive before them so that helped too. They only had one friend in the neighborhood since we didn't live in their school district. Last fall, my then 19 year old son asked me if he could have his gf in his room to watch a movie. I had to laugh because they have been dating for six years and he hasn't ever been alone with her in his room (well, at least when I have been home!). Apparently he thought that rule meant for life.

My mom always told me that trust is earned and once broken it takes a long time to get back.  I can see why you are thinking ahead on this.

my daughter is newly 16 and a rising Junior. No license yet but eligible to test in 2 weeks.

We've told her she's not driving other teens when she first gets her license. Riding with them is case by case.

I've offered up our house as a meeting place for her and her friends - rule is that her bedroom door stays open if there are guys in the group. I'm a sahm so that's an option. I've just asked that I have warning so I can have enough snacks/lunch supplies on hand

She is dating - it's pretty casual as neither has a license yet so either DH drives them or BF's mum does - no curfew for now (if it's needed then it'll happen)

For us, we would have the same rules for both sons and daughters.

But I have a 16 yr. old daughter that will be a senior, (and a 13 and 18 yr. old) and we really don't have specific rules for kids hanging out. They are great kids and we trust them to make good decisions. They are pretty much what you would consider a "goody-goody", which is wonderful! My 16 yr. old has boy friends that were always over last summer and a lot now too. She is the only girl in a group of boys most of the time. She fits in much better with the boys it seems. They are great kids, so no "rules" for them hanging out. She went to their houses a lot too. Now she has a boyfriend and they are at his house a lot, but also hang out here.

Now there are 2 girls that she is friends with that my husband and I do not trust (long story), so we prefer that they not come to our house. If they are over, we are close by at all times.