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Post by scrapaddict702 on May 31, 2016 17:41:23 GMT
My husband took our daughter to an early morning check up today. It's for 15 months. My husband said they spent an hour explaining that she's too small and how bad it was that she has been under 5th percentile in weight for 3 appointments in a row (this is the same kid that took until 1 month to get back to her birth weight, she's ALWAYS been small and barely been on the charts at any point). She often eats more than our boys do and chugs milk constantly (the Vitamin D kind), she's just petite. They coupled it with the fact that she doesn't speak yet. Mind you, she has hit every other milestone.
I am furious by this 'diagnosis' because it has such a negative stigma and I don't feel it applies to my child. Sure she's small, but she's ALWAYS been small. She wasn't premature, but she's just never been one to put on weight rapidly. BUT she's GROWING. She was 16lb 2oz at 1 year, she's up to 17lb 13oz now and to me, that's progress even if she's not on the charts. She knows how to tell us what she wants (I learned the other day that my 5 year old apparently taught her the 'more' sign and she's been doing better about the 'milk' one, mostly she just whines and waves her hand around, but that's enough for us to know what she wants, especially if she is refusing to eat...if she's thirsty, she won't eat until she gets milk and we easily recognize that's why she's refusing to eat within a minute).
They said to feed her pediasure, which is fine, but to say that she's failing to thrive because she's ALWAYS been petite is total BS. There are cases where this would apply and bottom line, I don't feel my daughter fits the criteria. She's gaining weight at the pace she has since she was born!! She hasn't stalled except for between 6 and 9 months. Her weight at those two appointment was exactly the same. She refused to take baby food...we had to basically use a dropper (the one for vitamins) and force it into her throat...we slowly transitioned to just squirting it into her mouth and then finally moved to a spoon...however, she had only been eating baby food for 2-3 weeks by her 9 month check up. If ANY time she should have been diagnosed with FTT, it would have been then and I expressed MASSIVE concern and they brushed it off like it was no big deal. But now that she is gaining weight and perfectly fine other than being small, now they have something to say. WTF?
ETA: We love our pediatrician, but time is an issue. The main doctor there usually means a 3 hour wait from our appointment time. So we've been seeing other doctors (since about 1 for my second child) because time has been a major issue for us (especially with three restless kids). The main doctor is one of the best in the state and on the pediatric board...so there is a high demand. We never felt it was essential to see her because our kids were normal and didn't need any expert attention to make the wait worthwhile. Clearly I am going to deal with the wait for her next appointments (and drive to the other side of town if that's the only practice she has openings at) and make arrangements for my sons elsewhere because of this. I'm just furious by the whole thing. My daughter struggled (and caused me to struggle immensely because I couldn't leave the house for more than a few minutes when she was nursing since she wouldn't take a bottle...thank goodness for straws!!) early on, but no one cared when I did. My husband said he basically nodded and dismissed what they had to say because he feels the same about our daughter being fine.
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Post by Outspoken on May 31, 2016 17:55:12 GMT
I can see why you would be upset. FTT has a negative connotation and almost makes it seem like they are blaming you for something.
My daughter (15 now) has always been very thin. She weighs 93 now and is almost 16. But, our doctors have always said they would rather see a healthy child on the thin side than an unhealthy child who is overweight. She was almost 2 before she weighed 20 #s. She didn't walk until about 15-16 months. But, again, my pediatrician was never concerned.
I think, if I were you, and only because they specifically said FTT, I would make an appointment with a nutritionist to get a 2nd opinion. Mostly for your own satisfaction.
Good luck, Mom. Raising kids is hard!
ETA - my DD can out eat my son on a good day. Some kids are just thin!
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Post by pridemom on May 31, 2016 18:02:36 GMT
It sounds like you are using common sense. I think an appointment with the regular ped is warranted. Review her growth and developmental charts, as well as the childhood growth charts of you and DH if you have them.
When my girls were babies and toddlers, WIC was concerned about their tiny sizes. DH and I were both runts, and our doctor took this into consideration. He was never concerned.
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Post by ntsf on May 31, 2016 18:08:14 GMT
I would not let the dx throw you for a loop..I would take the opportunity to make an appt with doct, and nutritionist.. and follow through. maybe she is delayed on development..the county has help for that. take advantage of resources available. better they say something than make assumptions.
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Post by scrapaddict702 on May 31, 2016 18:14:07 GMT
It sounds like you are using common sense. I think an appointment with the regular ped is warranted. Review her growth and developmental charts, as well as the childhood growth charts of you and DH if you have them. When my girls were babies and toddlers, WIC was concerned about their tiny sizes. DH and I were both runts, and our doctor took this into consideration. He was never concerned. According to my mom and mother in law (I constantly express fascination at how petite she is), all of the kids in both sides of our family were chunky. I just presumed she has a gene that skipped a generation or something. I am just annoyed because she had 2 appointments of no weight change...we were FORCING her to eat (squirting food into her throat and forcing her to swallow on reflex, not because she wanted to eat) and brought it up and they basically told us 'some kids are like that', but now that she's consistently gaining, just not on their charts, there is suddenly a problem. To me, with her history, a nearly 2 pound gain in 3 months is GREAT. Where was this concern when it was an actual issue? At the time, I was struggling emotionally and mentally because of her constant need for me (I had a freezer full of milk she wouldn't drink) and I feel like I missed the signs that the doctors we were seeing then failed us because I was literally just trying to make it one day at a time without completely breaking down from the fact that I couldn't leave her with my husband for 2 hours and not come home to find out she had been screaming her head off from the moment I left until the moment I got home...but now that they are trying to say there is an issue when we are THRILLED with the progress she's been making, it is so obvious that more should have been done then telling us 'oh, it's normal, some babies are like that' at her 9 month appointment.
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Post by kellybelly77 on May 31, 2016 18:15:14 GMT
My niece was also diagnosed FTT. She was about 9 mo old when her DR started questioning her weight. She was right under 7# at birth and never really lost any. But she never really gained any either. She was only about 13# by 1yr. The DR sent her to a specialty hospital and they did every test known to man to determine if there was a medical problem. Turns out, there wasn't. She's just a tiny petite person. They were sent to a nutritionist and they came up with a meal plan to give her high calorie foods around her 1st birthday. She has a super high metabolism like my sister and she gains, just really slowly. Once the tests ruled everything out her DR settled down and didn't bring it up again.
My sister was pretty frustrated because of all the time, money and energy spent dealing with a non issue.
My sis is 5'5 and weighs maybe 100# soaking wet. My BIL is 5'9 and weighs probably 150#. They are tiny people. My niece is now 6 and she only weighs 37#. I can wrap my fingers around her arm. And she has never been on the growth charts. Just tiny. She is the smallest kid in her class and unfortunately the kids tease her for it. Their second child is a more normal weight. He is 2 and weighs about 25#.
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Post by gsquaredmom on May 31, 2016 18:15:15 GMT
She chugs milk constantly? Is she eating anything else? Low weight and constant thirst might trigger testing for diabetes. Did they do that?
Does she have a metabolic disorder? I had a super skinny, petite student who has to eat 5000 calories a day. Not an athlete. She has some sort of metabolic issue. I could see this sort of thing coming up, her feisty mom questioning it, and making them test further.
I certainly would not like the diagnosis, but if she is eating appropriately, this may be a blessing in disguise to see if something is wrong. Press for the less obvious answer. Most doctors see horses when they hear hoofbeats. This may be a zebra.
As for not talking, have her hearing checked. My son had heaps of ear infections and constant fluid in his ears. Cleared that up and he started speaking clearly in complete sentences.
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Post by Basket1lady on May 31, 2016 18:15:33 GMT
I too had a FTT baby. I feel your pain. She was born with some pretty severe jaundice and it took her 3 weeks to get back to her birth weight. She never was a rapid gainer and at about 8-9 months, they labeled her a FTT because she wasn't taking in a lot of solids and wasn't gaining a lot. It's been 17 years, so I don't remember all of the details, but it was sort of a joke because she was chubby and weighed fairly close to the 50th percentile. I had a ped who I trusted (she had 4 boys under the age of 6!) and questioned the diagnosis. I seem to remember that it was simply that she hadn't had more than a pound of weight gain in her last 2 check ups.
The ped said it wasn't a bad thing--that it just meant another check up in between the normal ones. That if it was nothing, it was an opportunity for me to ask any little questions that I had. And if it was something, they would be watching for it. But the ped did say that she looked great and that she wasn't concerned. The ped herself did the next several weigh in, as she said the volunteers don't always do the conversion between lbs and kilos correctly.
Try not to take it personally. Your DD may just be on the small side (mine was until puberty hit. She was 95 lbs and not even 5 feet tall in 7th grade. By 9th grade, she was 5'10" and her weight was still in the 50th percentile.) The only thing that jumps out at me is the feeding with an eye dropper. It could be that your DD has some sensitivity issues, which often comes out in food textures. Extreme cases may need OT for that, but there's lots you can do at home. And the good news is that those kids seldom put things in their mouth they shouldn't!
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Post by grammadee on May 31, 2016 18:20:55 GMT
My youngest dgs is very tiny too. At 9 months, he's a happy little guy, and he can do everything physical that any other kid that age can do, but he is the size of a much younger baby. Likes what he likes to eat, and drinks lots of milk. He too is at the bottom of the charts which is worrying, but he doesn't seem to be ill in any way, and since food goes in and seems to be digested, they have decided to just wait it out.
Seeing a pediatrician and a nutritionist sounds good. Can you get her growth records to take with you? When ds & dil took their little guy to the pediatrition, he wanted to do the 3 month follow up again.
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Post by Basket1lady on May 31, 2016 18:22:31 GMT
It sounds like you are using common sense. I think an appointment with the regular ped is warranted. Review her growth and developmental charts, as well as the childhood growth charts of you and DH if you have them. When my girls were babies and toddlers, WIC was concerned about their tiny sizes. DH and I were both runts, and our doctor took this into consideration. He was never concerned. According to my mom and mother in law (I constantly express fascination at how petite she is), all of the kids in both sides of our family were chunky. I just presumed she has a gene that skipped a generation or something. I am just annoyed because she had 2 appointments of no weight change...we were FORCING her to eat (squirting food into her throat and forcing her to swallow on reflex, not because she wanted to eat) and brought it up and they basically told us 'some kids are like that', but now that she's consistently gaining, just not on their charts, there is suddenly a problem. To me, with her history, a nearly 2 pound gain in 3 months is GREAT. Where was this concern when it was an actual issue? At the time, I was struggling emotionally and mentally because of her constant need for me (I had a freezer full of milk she wouldn't drink) and I feel like I missed the signs that the doctors we were seeing then failed us because I was literally just trying to make it one day at a time without completely breaking down from the fact that I couldn't leave her with my husband for 2 hours and not come home to find out she had been screaming her head off from the moment I left until the moment I got home...but now that they are trying to say there is an issue when we are THRILLED with the progress she's been making, it is so obvious that more should have been done then telling us 'oh, it's normal, some babies are like that' at her 9 month appointment. Honestly, I'd be more irritated with the previous visits than the current one. It sounds like maybe there are some feeding issues going on. And as she gets closer to 2, her dependence on milk for her calories should lesson as solids take over as her main nutritional source. Some kids are picky eaters. Some have texture issues. Almost all of them outgrow it! Now that they are watching her more closely, that sounds like a good thing. It's probably nothing that she won't outgrow, but this may open up more resources to you to help her get over this hurdle quicker.
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Post by flute4peace on May 31, 2016 18:22:55 GMT
It sounds like you are using common sense. I think an appointment with the regular ped is warranted. Review her growth and developmental charts, as well as the childhood growth charts of you and DH if you have them. When my girls were babies and toddlers, WIC was concerned about their tiny sizes. DH and I were both runts, and our doctor took this into consideration. He was never concerned. I completely agree! I had an itty-bitty too. The Dr always said it didn't matter if she was "on" the growth chart, what mattered was that she made her "own" growth chart - meaning as long as she was consistently growing he wasn't all that concerned.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on May 31, 2016 18:24:59 GMT
Do they say/tell you/advise WHY she is not eating?
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Post by scrapaddict702 on May 31, 2016 18:25:18 GMT
She chugs milk constantly? Is she eating anything else? Low weight and constant thirst might trigger testing for diabetes. Did they do that? Does she have a metabolic disorder? I had a super skinny, petite student who has to eat 5000 calories a day. Not an athlete. She has some sort of metabolic issue. I could see this sort of thing coming up, her feisty mom questioning it, and making them test further. I certainly would not like the diagnosis, but if she is eating appropriately, this may be a blessing in disguise to see if something is wrong. Press for the less obvious answer. Most doctors see horses when they hear hoofbeats. This may be a zebra. As for not talking, have her hearing checked. My son had heaps of ear infections and constant fluid in his ears. Cleared that up and he started speaking clearly in complete sentences. She likes to drink a lot when she eats and she loves her milk. By the time my son's were this age all they wanted was juice...they refused milk unless it was in daddy's cereal because it tasted sweet. She will drink anything given to her, but she really loves to have something to drink when she eats. Clearly, when we're eating at home, because of the caloric benefit of the milk, that's what we give her almost exclusively. They sent home paperwork with my husband for a metabolic test to be done. I didn't see that as a bad thing so much as the FTT stuff in the stack. I will have to ask about her hearing. My husband said they are going to be calling us next week about scheduling something (he's pretty bad at translating things from one person to another when it's not something he knows...I found out about what was going on at her appointment by the paperwork they sent home with us) but I don't know what. My husband was super skinny his whole childhood...mostly because he lived on cereal and didn't know he was lactose intolerant...he gained a lot of weight when he learned this in his late teens/early 20's and switched to lactose free milk. He and I are both heavier now. I expected weight issues with my kids, but not them being too skinny. They can eat junk food from sun up to sun down (not that we let them) and you wouldn't know it. My second kiddo is taller than average (not off the charts, though) and is also pretty skinny, but he's on the charts so it's never been a problem to them. Between 1 and 2, he looks sickly without a shirt on because you could see his ribs constantly, but he was ALWAYS on the charts...just tall and lanky. My oldest is the only one with any chub on him at all, but he's still in the healthy ranges.
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Post by rst on May 31, 2016 18:27:03 GMT
I agree -- don't take it personally. FTT's an unfortunate term, but honestly, it doesn't have negative connotations except when you're the mom. I know it feels like a criticism of how you're doing as a parent, but try to let go of that. It's totally not about you. It's just a medical way of saying -- hey-- kiddo's not growing as expected. We should watch evaluate and figure out why. If anything, it sounds like the doc is affirming something that has been of some level of concern for you for a while. You've come to terms with it, seeing her as a small person. But your professionals are saying, wait, hold on, there may be something more. Let's watch and make sure all is well. They're going to watch her development, and maybe give some thought to her metabolism and ability to use the calories she's taking in -- this is a good thing. You want them to be alert to possible concerns early on. It's great that she's communicating so well. The signs are a really nice tool for kids who are pre-verbal, and that will help with communication. It
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Post by scrapaddict702 on May 31, 2016 18:30:05 GMT
I too had a FTT baby. I feel your pain. She was born with some pretty severe jaundice and it took her 3 weeks to get back to her birth weight. She never was a rapid gainer and at about 8-9 months, they labeled her a FTT because she wasn't taking in a lot of solids and wasn't gaining a lot. It's been 17 years, so I don't remember all of the details, but it was sort of a joke because she was chubby and weighed fairly close to the 50th percentile. I had a ped who I trusted (she had 4 boys under the age of 6!) and questioned the diagnosis. I seem to remember that it was simply that she hadn't had more than a pound of weight gain in her last 2 check ups. The ped said it wasn't a bad thing--that it just meant another check up in between the normal ones. That if it was nothing, it was an opportunity for me to ask any little questions that I had. And if it was something, they would be watching for it. But the ped did say that she looked great and that she wasn't concerned. The ped herself did the next several weigh in, as she said the volunteers don't always do the conversion between lbs and kilos correctly. Try not to take it personally. Your DD may just be on the small side (mine was until puberty hit. She was 95 lbs and not even 5 feet tall in 7th grade. By 9th grade, she was 5'10" and her weight was still in the 50th percentile.) The only thing that jumps out at me is the feeding with an eye dropper. It could be that your DD has some sensitivity issues, which often comes out in food textures. Extreme cases may need OT for that, but there's lots you can do at home. And the good news is that those kids seldom put things in their mouth they shouldn't! She's really good with food now. She is still learning textures (my middle son won't eat solid fruits or veggies because of the texture, he never properly transitioned from baby food to solids...we're working on that with him) but she eats or at least tries just about everything now. The first thing she ate that wasn't baby food (before she wouldn't even take baby food) was french fries. We'd go out to eat and give her one that she would basically just slobber all over and not eat. Several dinners out like that and we soon discovered she was actually eating the fries...it was our saving grace...not long after that is when we started to make progress with the baby food. I mentioned the dropper and her gnawing on fries and our struggle with foods, all of it and we didn't receive an ounce of concern from the people we saw. I really thought we were just crazy and that we were the ones doing something wrong since the doctors and PA's didn't care. But suddenly now it feels like they are blaming us for her being petite when we are feeling like we're finally making progress with her.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2016 18:30:46 GMT
Yeah, that FTT diagnosis can throw you for a loop. I left a pediatrician because of it. Once I sat down with the new doctor, explained what had happened with my the last one and provided family history, the FTT diagnosis was thrown out.
She is 16 now and eats more than a 300 pound NFL linebacker but doesn't have a roll of fat to show for it. Then again, she dances 8+ hours a week. Maybe that's what you doctor needs to do...
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Post by scrapaddict702 on May 31, 2016 18:35:50 GMT
Do they say/tell you/advise WHY she is not eating? She eats just fine now...they offered nothing other than 'it's normal' when we were REALLY concerned at 9 months.
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Post by agengr2004 on May 31, 2016 18:38:08 GMT
I have a petite daughter. She's seven, 38 lbs and about 42 inches tall. She's small. She hasn't been on the charts since she was about 15 months old. Our pediatrician has typically only looked at her chart and that she's growing at a speed that's consistent.
I wouldn't stress. I'd make the appointment with your regular pediatrician and insist that all her well checks are with your pedi. i too have a very popular pediatrician and have to schedule the next appointment when I'm there.
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Post by Rhondito on May 31, 2016 18:49:15 GMT
It seems everyone is saying their children were misdiagnosed, so what's different for a true case?
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Post by scrapaddict702 on May 31, 2016 18:58:19 GMT
It seems everyone is saying their children were misdiagnosed, so what's different for a true case? I would think multiple missed milestones and obvious cognitive delays in addition to low weight.
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Post by Rhondito on May 31, 2016 19:01:25 GMT
It seems everyone is saying their children were misdiagnosed, so what's different for a true case? I would think multiple missed milestones and obvious cognitive delays in addition to low weight. Ah, I see. Thanks - I have never known anyone who has dealt with FTT so I have no experience.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2016 19:08:16 GMT
IME*, many to most of today's medical people just treat their patients like items on a conveyer belt, rush through stuff, and rely on'standard charts, guidelines, treatments, etc. You either have to find a quality specialist or spend a lot of time shopping family/PCP doctors. It sucks. For me, I would make an appointment to speak with the doctor myself and get their explanation for labeling her now, and if it's solely based on a chart of norms/averages/whatever, I would seek a second opinion to ease your mind and possibly begin shopping for a new doctor or pediatrician.
I'd also be very frustrated that they wouldn't listen to you when she was actually refusing to eat, and are now quick to slap a label that really is fraught with a lot of negative connotations. If they don't have a good reason and explanation for that, I'd definitely find a new doctor.
*Yes, I'm generalizing based on my experiences (thus the IME). I'd love to feel differently, but I think that thoughtful, quality medical care is in short supply these days.
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Post by Patter on May 31, 2016 19:09:00 GMT
One of my daughters was NEVER on the chart. Not 5%, 10% nothing. She was always WAY below the chart. Our pediatrician never minded because he said at least she was growing at her own rate. She had her own curve going, and at almost 22, she is still like that. NICU would not let her leave because she wasn't 4.5 lbs. She was fine other than that. She has just never liked to eat since she was born and she is STILL that way. She had a 1/2 slice of pizza for lunch today. That's it. She eats worse than a 2 year old and always has. If she is growing, who cares what percentile she is in. She could be petite as my daughter is.
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Post by rst on May 31, 2016 19:13:27 GMT
FTT is just one thing that may be a red flag for other concerns. The comment that she always likes to have a drink with her meal together with a history of hard time eating as an infant would make me wonder if she has a hard time coordinating chewing and swallowing but has found ways to wash food down. That same difficulty could translate to speech difficulties, which might be addressed early with therapy and have no lasting impact on her life. How about this? It's just a term in the chart that justifies further investigation so you insurance will pay.
For what it's worth, my youngest son had FTT dx which was an aspect of his cerebral palsy. In his case, he needed a gtube for feedings and a lot of therapies. The label, though I dislike it, did get the services he needed in order to be as healthy, happy, and comfortable as is possible for him. So I grew to be ok with the label.
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Post by honeyb on May 31, 2016 19:19:54 GMT
I had a FTT child and she was not mis diagnosed. I was so offended. At first. I thought it reflected poorly on me, like I wasn't doing my job. She was diagnosed because she would actually lose weight between visits, and gain between others. It was inconsistent.
All the subsequent testing showed us she had bowel trouble. She was chronically constipated (still is at age 13). She was put on Miralax, and it took still few years, but by pre school she was finally consistent.
I was thankful for the testing. I had no idea why gaining was so hard. She's now a healthy and happy 13 year old.
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Post by anniebygaslight on May 31, 2016 19:40:17 GMT
I was a failure to thrive baby. Turned out that I have coeliac disease. Please allow the doctors to investigate.
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Post by pierkiss on May 31, 2016 19:52:24 GMT
Weird. I have a tiny son. He's always been less than 5% for height and weight (and no dwarfism is not an issue here). I have never ever had any doctor tell me he was failure to thrive. Because, like your daughter, he eats all the time and he is growing. Our doctors simply made him a separate growth curve. As long as he stays on his curve we do not worry. He is 3.5 years old and just hit 25 pounds. And honestly I think he only hit that that day because he had just eaten and not yet pooped. I would strongly suggest a new dr. That wait is insane. We used to see one of the top rated peds in northern va. And while she was amazing, he wait was too long and the office staff sucked. And the waiting room was WAY too tiny. I found a lesser known group of peds that were well rated and was unbelievably more happy at that practice.
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Post by lbp on May 31, 2016 19:57:59 GMT
My son was labeled with this when he was 3 years old. He was totally on target for everything up until then and suddenly he started having explosive diarrhea and started loosing weight! He was check for Celiac Disease, CF, and finally it was determined he was lactose intolerant! We got rid of all dairy products and he took off growing, actually too much and gained too much weight! Check the dairy! It could be the problem.
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Post by Rainbow on May 31, 2016 22:44:31 GMT
My husband took our daughter to an early morning check up today. It's for 15 months. My husband said they spent an hour explaining that she's too small and how bad it was that she has been under 5th percentile in weight for 3 appointments in a row (this is the same kid that took until 1 month to get back to her birth weight, she's ALWAYS been small and barely been on the charts at any point). She often eats more than our boys do and chugs milk constantly (the Vitamin D kind), she's just petite. They coupled it with the fact that she doesn't speak yet. Mind you, she has hit every other milestone. I am furious by this 'diagnosis' because it has such a negative stigma and I don't feel it applies to my child. Sure she's small, but she's ALWAYS been small. She wasn't premature, but she's just never been one to put on weight rapidly. BUT she's GROWING. She was 16lb 2oz at 1 year, she's up to 17lb 13oz now and to me, that's progress even if she's not on the charts. She knows how to tell us what she wants (I learned the other day that my 5 year old apparently taught her the 'more' sign and she's been doing better about the 'milk' one, mostly she just whines and waves her hand around, but that's enough for us to know what she wants, especially if she is refusing to eat...if she's thirsty, she won't eat until she gets milk and we easily recognize that's why she's refusing to eat within a minute). They said to feed her pediasure, which is fine, but to say that she's failing to thrive because she's ALWAYS been petite is total BS. There are cases where this would apply and bottom line, I don't feel my daughter fits the criteria. She's gaining weight at the pace she has since she was born!! She hasn't stalled except for between 6 and 9 months. Her weight at those two appointment was exactly the same. She refused to take baby food...we had to basically use a dropper (the one for vitamins) and force it into her throat...we slowly transitioned to just squirting it into her mouth and then finally moved to a spoon...however, she had only been eating baby food for 2-3 weeks by her 9 month check up. If ANY time she should have been diagnosed with FTT, it would have been then and I expressed MASSIVE concern and they brushed it off like it was no big deal. But now that she is gaining weight and perfectly fine other than being small, now they have something to say. WTF? ETA: We love our pediatrician, but time is an issue. The main doctor there usually means a 3 hour wait from our appointment time. So we've been seeing other doctors (since about 1 for my second child) because time has been a major issue for us (especially with three restless kids). The main doctor is one of the best in the state and on the pediatric board...so there is a high demand. We never felt it was essential to see her because our kids were normal and didn't need any expert attention to make the wait worthwhile. Clearly I am going to deal with the wait for her next appointments (and drive to the other side of town if that's the only practice she has openings at) and make arrangements for my sons elsewhere because of this. I'm just furious by the whole thing. My daughter struggled (and caused me to struggle immensely because I couldn't leave the house for more than a few minutes when she was nursing since she wouldn't take a bottle...thank goodness for straws!!) early on, but no one cared when I did. My husband said he basically nodded and dismissed what they had to say because he feels the same about our daughter being fine. Maybe you could get a referral to an SLP who could help with the feeding issues. What you are describing is definitely a problem. I don't get the "stigma" for FTT. It isn't your fault, it just is a thing that needs to be fixed.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2016 22:56:12 GMT
She needs a complete work up.
Things to look for : Diabetes Allergies Thyroid Pyloric stenosis Cardiac performance Kidney , including the tubes. Colon health.
GERD , a child can have GERD without vomiting
Screened to see if she is on the autism spectrum.
This should be done before a failure to thrive diagnosis
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