luvnlifelady
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 31, 2016 21:17:03 GMT
19 yo DD got home about 2 weeks ago from being away at college for her first year. We also have 16 yo DS but the noise level with the two of them around is staggering as is the mess. He was pretty quiet when by himself. She did finally get a job and starts today but it's not many hours. DS is done with school on Thursday so I hope to get him out to find a job ASAP.
I'm used to having mornings as quiet "me time" since I typically work afternoons/evenings/weekends. It's been quite the adjustment and I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed. DD isn't quite unpacked yet and things are in a bit of upheaval there and it's just a bit much to take in. I'm sure once we get into a summer routine (hopefully), it will improve. I also want to set up expectations as far as mess and quiet times at night so DH and I can sleep (DS is a major nightowl as it is).
Do you have any other tips? I don't want to be working more hours (at a physical job) and then come home and have to clean up after them.
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CeeScraps
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Post by CeeScraps on May 31, 2016 21:22:23 GMT
We gave our dd a week to get her college stuff organized and repacked for the Fall. She pulled out what she needs while she is home otherwise the rest of the stuff is boxed and in the basement.
Daily....room/bathroom not picked up she can't go anywhere. If she "forgets" and leaves when we aren't here, then no car the next day.
It hasn't been too bad. According to her she did the cleaning in the dorm room. The roommate wouldn't clean up. So, now that she's home she seems to "get it". We've asked her to do chores and she has done them without a hassle.
All I can say is that for now.....things are good. She's been home since the end of April. I can only hope it lasts until she returns in August.
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Post by monklady123 on May 31, 2016 21:24:31 GMT
It is an adjustment after them being away for awhile. But I love when mine are both home. It is extra work, mostly in cooking (since I hate to cook, lol). As for the messes, yes mine will leave stuff laying around. But I don't clean up after them, I just say "hey C. go clean up your stuff from the living room" and she'll say "ok". I've got them both trained to clean up after they cook or bake anything, so that's most of that battle. Took me awhile though with dd, to get her to realize that part of baking is also cleaning up. lol. Can't blame her really because I hate the cleaning up also. But of course we do it because we have to. It doesn't take long though before we're back in the summer routine (my dd is a junior so I've had a bit more practice at this than you have so far), then I miss her when she goes back to school. My ds is older and lives in Georgia but will be home for the summer also.  He's handy to have around because I make him earn his keep by hauling my groceries in for me, or carrying stuff up and down the basement stairs, or taking out the trash and recycling, etc. lol.  |
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amom23
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Post by amom23 on May 31, 2016 21:30:31 GMT
Yep, it's hard to adjust to having college age kiddos home for the summers. They are used to their freedom and you are used to them being gone. Good luck finding a balance - I know it isn't easy.
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luvnlifelady
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 31, 2016 21:34:25 GMT
Thanks for the tips. My DD isn't returning (she is staying home to go locally) so this is our new normal.
She thought of going Vegan and tried to 2 recipes and gave up. She said cooking took forever (and the first time, that didn't include clean up). I then had to tell her that was part of the process.
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Post by 950nancy on May 31, 2016 21:52:19 GMT
Both of mine are home and working 32+ hours. My husband is the problem. He's always home in the summers and that is cramping my style. I would encourage your daughter to find an additional job or be in charge of meal planning or something at the house.
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Post by maryland on May 31, 2016 22:07:39 GMT
My 18 yr. old daughter just got home 2 weeks ago! It's been great so far! She goes to school 5 hrs. away and 20 min. from my parents. We kept a lot of her stuff at their house so we don't have to move it far. But she brought all her clothes home so I rewashed it all and we organized it. The winter stuff will go home with my parents when they visit.
She is so easy going (all three of my pre-teen/teen daughters are) so we haven't had issues yet! My 12 yr. old (will be 8th grade) and 16 yr. old (will be a senior) and finishes Friday.
My older kids are slobs (their rooms are disasters)! But the three of them helped me with 10 yds. of mulch this weekend, so I was happy about that. My husband is in New Zealand for a week, so he got out of helping!
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He's handy to have around because I make him earn his keep by hauling my groceries in for me, or carrying stuff up and down the basement stairs, or taking out the trash and recycling, etc. lol. 
