peabay
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Jun 25, 2014 19:50:41 GMT
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Post by peabay on Jun 3, 2016 10:37:14 GMT
She doesn't need love, she needs a sense of humor.
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raindancer
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Jun 26, 2014 20:10:29 GMT
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Post by raindancer on Jun 3, 2016 10:44:24 GMT
It's much like the newly pregnant or people with no children at all who spout unsolicited child rearing advice. Like my sister who criticized us for having our little one in our bed. She got hers. She had SOOO much trouble getting her preschooler out of her bed! LOL. So much for "I'd NEVER let my baby sleep in my bed." Love her anyway. OMG my brother said that to me too. And guess who had an amazing athletic kid who could climb out of a crip and into his parents bed?! Love him too, he has learned that child rearing instructions rebound. OP someday your DH's cousin's carb prince will come in the form of humble pie My sister constantly made comments on my son's picky eating and how she would not tolerate that. Our boys are 6 weeks apart and her boy will eat anything. Very adventurous eater which is awesome. But it bit her in the butt later. Her second child is picky and has sensory issues. He makes my kid look easy. She has to accommodate all sorts of food issues now. she apologizes often for being a snot about it.
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momto4kiddos
Drama Llama
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Jun 26, 2014 11:45:15 GMT
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Post by momto4kiddos on Jun 3, 2016 10:54:02 GMT
lol good luck if this relationship lasts and they have kids...then she can tell the family how they should've raised them too Some people are just the authority on it all. My sister is like this, ignoring is usually the best course of action. One day I announced I had to leave our grandmother's birthday party to get home to dd who had a cold. Made mention I needed to go before store closed so I could get some medication. With her first baby on hip, sis proceeded to tell me the best medication for my dd's illness... Mind you dd was my 4th child and i'd been a mother for 10+ years. Thank god for sis, how I managed before she became a mom is a mystery
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tuesdaysgone
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Jun 26, 2014 18:26:03 GMT
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Post by tuesdaysgone on Jun 3, 2016 11:03:33 GMT
I'd just have to smile and step away from her naivete. When I got married (22 years ago), my sister wrote me a long letter about the realities of married life and real love. I was so arrogant and naive at the time, that I dismissed most of her sage advice and I think I even threw the letter away. I cringe now at my behavior and have since thanked her for the letter. Life experience is the only thing to cure you of the expertise you enjoy in new love.
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Post by shescrafty on Jun 3, 2016 11:37:05 GMT
New experts are the best!
I have a friend in her 40s who recently got remarried. Her now husband has two children from a previous marriage. My friend and her husband each live in a different state because they each had strong careers in a different place. They are together half the time. Half the time that they are together, they have his children with them. (Are you following that? Basically she sees the kids 25% of the time.)
She is constantly posting stuff about what a great job she and her husband are doing raising the kids, all the impact she is having on them, and all the changes she is making in their lives. I just have to roll my eyes and think, "yeah I bet I would be the perfect mom and always patient if I only had to deal with parenting 25% of the time."
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jun 3, 2016 12:28:27 GMT
her vocal fry alone makes me want to punch her in the craw. She's about the worst I've heard. It makes young women sound so hideous. When my four boys were little, I used to commiserate with a friend who also had four children. We were both good moms, but agreed that we weren't exactly pulling off that Utopian motherhood we had always pictured. She gave me a book called, "...And Then I Had Kids." The author's opening story was about always finding fault with mothers whose children had snotty noses, untied shoes, dirty clothes, etc... and then she had kids. Lol. I would have to use a little humor to pick back at the advice post the OP received. I'm not sure I could let that go without a little good-natured ribbing about her new-found expertise.
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Post by Florida Cindy on Jun 3, 2016 12:55:01 GMT
If you want her drama, read it but refuse to reply.
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Post by peasapie on Jun 3, 2016 13:02:12 GMT
Sounds like many of the college students I know who just learned three things and want to pontificate on them.
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MerryMom
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Jul 24, 2014 19:51:57 GMT
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Post by MerryMom on Jun 3, 2016 16:57:28 GMT
RIP Doris Roberts and Peter Boyle, they were the best couple on TV ever!!!
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raindancer
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Jun 26, 2014 20:10:29 GMT
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Post by raindancer on Jun 3, 2016 17:27:47 GMT
New experts are the best! I have a friend in her 40s who recently got remarried. Her now husband has two children from a previous marriage. My friend and her husband each live in a different state because they each had strong careers in a different place. They are together half the time. Half the time that they are together, they have his children with them. (Are you following that? Basically she sees the kids 25% of the time.) She is constantly posting stuff about what a great job she and her husband are doing raising the kids, all the impact she is having on them, and all the changes she is making in their lives. I just have to roll my eyes and think, "yeah I bet I would be the perfect mom and always patient if I only had to deal with parenting 25% of the time." That and the fact that she isn't actually their parent. Good grief. How obnoxious.
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perumbula
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Location: Idaho
Jun 26, 2014 18:51:17 GMT
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Post by perumbula on Jun 3, 2016 18:28:42 GMT
There's a young lady I'm facebook friends with who got married about a year ago. She and her spouse are in their early 20s. The month she came home from the honeymoon she started a blog giving advice on marriage. It's been so popular she's now teaching marriage classes to young married people. It's mostly decent advice, but it's all given from such a naive perspective. Like "we had a busy month and I learned all about how important it is to reconnect!" sort of thing. Yes it's important, but get back to me when you aren't young single college students and we'll talk about how to make time to reconnect.
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Oct 8, 2024 6:39:54 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2016 19:06:08 GMT
Yes, I have one young lady who just finished her first year of college away from home that is now an expert on (catholic) faith and boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. She writes all sorts of blog postings with her "knowledge". And my niece at 8 months of marriage is this way too although I think she keeps the advice/perspective on Facebook.
I just roll my eyes and do a silent "bless your heart" most of the time.
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Post by woodysbetty on Jun 3, 2016 19:48:57 GMT
How lovely of her to be your comic relief!!!
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mlana
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Jun 27, 2014 19:58:15 GMT
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Post by mlana on Jun 3, 2016 20:48:38 GMT
My mom ran into something like this last night.
My nephew just recently married a sweet young woman who has never had a family of her own; she grew up in a series of foster homes. Shelly seems to be enjoying her experience of being a part of a loud, male oriented family, though she hasn't quite reached the point where she is comfortable hugging everyone. She does, however, seem to be comfortable giving my mother advice on what she should be doing with her life.
Background: My mom left my dad just shy of 40 years of marriage because he refused to work for anyone but himself. He had all these great ideas of how he was going to make a killing; meanwhile, my mom was killing herself just trying to keep them afloat. Just before she left, my dad had been pressuring her to sell everything they owned and move away from their family so he could live out his dream of opening a small engine repair shop - with the money they got from the land and house my mom had worked so hard to pay for, of course. When Mom left, she hoped he would get his act together. Instead, he found another woman to live with. Mom filed for divorce as soon as she found out and has never considered going back. Dad didn't stay with the other woman long (guess she didn't keep him in the same style Mom did) and he has been after Mom to take him back ever since. He lives with my brother and has helped raise my 3 nephews.
So, last night my brother invites my mom over for a BBQ. They're all sitting around the dinner table when Shelly looks over at Mom and asks why she hasn't remarried Dad. Mom said her jaw just dropped and everyone stopped eating and stared at the young woman. Shelly either didn't see or ignored everyone's reaction and went on to tell my mom how much 'Pop' loved her and marriage is supposed to be forever and they should be together...yeah, definition of awkward. LOL
Mom said my brother jumped in with a weather report, SIL started talking loudly about her grand baby, nephew tried to shush her, and my dad just sat there and looked longingly at Mom. When Shelly stopped to take a breath, Mom said she told her that she had been there, done that, and saw no reason to go backwards. Shelly just kept going, though, talking about how much Dad loved Mom and how she owed herself to give it another chance. My nephew finally said 'stop' very loudly and she did. Everyone was quiet for a minute, then Mom said she told Shelly that she loved her and appreciated her intentions, but she'd appreciate her silence on the subject even more. When Shelly opened her mouth again, my brother told her to drop it or go home - she was making his mom uncomfortable. Shelly shut up.
When I talked to Mom this morning, she tried to pass it off as not having embarrassed her, but it was very obvious that it had. I'm pretty sure either my brother or SIL will have something to say to Shelly, hopefully in private, about this, but the damage is done. Mom had not gone over to my brother's too often because my dad lived there and she didn't want to give him any reason to have any hope of reconciliation. Now that someone has spoken out in favor of them reconciling, she won't be able to go over nearly as often or Dad will be telling everyone that she's changing her mind.::slapped:: She let him pull out her chair once at a family dinner and he went home and told my brother that he was going to need to get a new babysitter because they were getting back together and he was going to living with Mom at Granny's instead of living at my brother's. Guess how fast my phone rang with that one?
Here's hoping the bloom doesn't go off the rose too soon, but they wise up just a bit!
Marcy
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Post by scrapperal on Jun 3, 2016 23:08:53 GMT
Oh marcy, how uncomfortable for your Mom! It sounds like she was the picture of grace. I'm sorry Shelley didn't have a clue.
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Post by *KAS* on Jun 3, 2016 23:55:08 GMT
Aww bless her. She means well. haha I'd probably tell her it was a good thing you found your carb soul mate since your husband is leaving you for the pasta sauce maker. That will really twist her head up!
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