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Post by Sandie on Jun 2, 2016 16:43:40 GMT
DH's cousin has not been in a relationship for very long while, which we have never understood because she is really a pretty wonderful woman. She started a new relationship about three weeks ago, and it has been (generally) adorable and we have been happy for her. Except now she has become an expert on love and how to keep the fire burning lol. I posted a line on Facebook that said "I think my soulmate may be carbs" (mainly because I was eating a bowl of pasta at the time lol)and she proceeded to write on my wall that shouldn't DH be my soulmate, and how hurt her cousin would be to see that he comes after food. DH, at the time, was eating out of that same pasta bowl and was telling that he would leave me for the person who made the pesto cream sauce on the pasta whether it be male or female lol. And that she thinks maybe we should make an effort to do things together to recapture the fire the she and her new boyfriend seem to have. She has also said similar things to her own brother (apparently they need to reconnect as they will be empty nesters soon), and to DH's sister (who needs to make sure that she takes care of the needs of her man and not just the children) regarding their relationships. She has never voiced her opinion on these matters before and,in fact, all three marriages are solid and happy, but says that her eyes have been opened now to what it takes to keep a relationship going and wants everyone to be as happy as she is. I am happy for her, she deserves a good man and to have a good relationship and it is cute to see them but I really really REALLY need her to get past this stage haha. Attachments:
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Jun 2, 2016 16:45:57 GMT
That would be so annoying!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 2, 2016 16:48:58 GMT
Reminds me of the Raymond episode where newlywed Amy thinks she needs to dole out marriage advice. Have her watch this, or better yet, the whole episode  |
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Post by MorningPerson on Jun 2, 2016 16:49:08 GMT
 I think I'd look forward to those posts just for the entertainment value!
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Post by angieh1996 on Jun 2, 2016 16:49:34 GMT
I may have injured myself rolling my eyes. Haha.
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Post by freebird on Jun 2, 2016 16:51:58 GMT
I'd be Sooooo tempted to say "thanks for thinking of me, I'll be sure to ask you again on your tenth anniversary" or something totally snarky. I'd probably put in tongue emoticon.  ETA: reminds me of this video I saw last week. her vocal fry alone makes me want to punch her in the craw. lol |
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Post by River on Jun 2, 2016 16:54:29 GMT
Awe, young new love! So very sweet and completely nauseating.
Plug your ears and skip her post. Let her have her time to be a love expert. Some long time married family and friends always wanted to bust my bubble about real life.
Unfortunately this time will pass for her soon enough as a long term relationship sets in.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 2, 2016 16:59:58 GMT
I'd be rolling my eyes so far back I wouldn't see daylight for a month! Three weeks in she barely knows the guy let alone all the secrets of a burning hot relationship  |
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Post by melissa on Jun 2, 2016 17:09:06 GMT
It's much like the newly pregnant or people with no children at all who spout unsolicited child rearing advice. Like my sister who criticized us for having our little one in our bed. She got hers. She had SOOO much trouble getting her preschooler out of her bed! LOL. So much for "I'd NEVER let my baby sleep in my bed."  Love her anyway. |
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Post by scrapmaven on Jun 2, 2016 18:42:10 GMT
She's been in the relationship for 3 whole weeks. That makes her relationship expert of the century. Try and find some humor in it.
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Post by jenjie on Jun 2, 2016 18:52:04 GMT
Well bless her heart! this is beautiful!!! Is humor not her strong suit?
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Post by anniefb on Jun 2, 2016 18:53:19 GMT
I may have injured myself rolling my eyes. Haha. LOL made my morning  |
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Post by krazykatlady on Jun 2, 2016 19:13:55 GMT
I know it's best to look the other way but I couldn't do it. I'd have to respond with something like, "so good to see that a three week relationship makes you an authority. Not sure how we made it all these years without your expertise". Like I said I know it's not the best way to handle it but i just couldn't keep my mouth shut.
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Post by refugeepea on Jun 2, 2016 19:31:36 GMT
Honestly, if she had been in a 20 year marriage, I would have been annoyed. Who wants unsolicited advice on their marriage? Your post was obviously just for fun!
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Post by mlynn on Jun 3, 2016 1:08:02 GMT
If they are having to work so hard at it in just three weeks, they are doing something wrong.
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Post by rst on Jun 3, 2016 1:14:03 GMT
OMG -- you have to collect them all and create a photo book. Or at least a slide show with her quotes superimposed over generic romantic photos. It will make a lovely wedding gift. Or at least you and your DH will find it amusing.
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Post by cmpeter on Jun 3, 2016 1:16:52 GMT
My 91 year old grandma loves to call and give me relationship advice. She did have a wonderful marriage 50+ years with my grandfather before he passed away. But, no one wants grandma telling them to "always put out for their husband even if you are tired."
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Post by mom on Jun 3, 2016 1:19:21 GMT
OMG -- you have to collect them all and create a photo book. Or at least a slide show with her quotes superimposed over generic romantic photos. It will make a lovely wedding gift. Or at least you and your DH will find it amusing. I think this could become a permanent thread here at 2Peas if the OP would post what 'advice' she gets on a regular basis. I'd look forward to reading it! |
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 3, 2016 1:20:43 GMT
And the really sad part will be when they break up, she will be so upset you won't be able to rub any of it in her face. I am afraid I couldn't keep my mouth shut. I would try to find humor in your responses to her. She's in love and that makes you completely forget reality for a while.
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Post by jenjie on Jun 3, 2016 1:28:35 GMT
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Post by padresfan619 on Jun 3, 2016 1:31:58 GMT
I don't believe in soul mates with people but I certainly believe in carb soul mates! I would just roll my eyes and tell her it's a joke, of course I love my husband, but sometimes carbs are so much better. Hopefully once she has to start picking up his dirty laundry off the floor and wiping his beard trimmings from the sink she will gain some real life perspective.
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 3, 2016 1:34:30 GMT
I don't believe in soul mates with people but I certainly believe in carb soul mates! I would just roll my eyes and tell her it's a joke, of course I love my husband, but sometimes carbs are so much better. Hopefully once she has to start picking up his dirty laundry off the floor and wiping his beard trimmings from the sink she will gain some real life perspective. Nothing squashes that love feeling more than living together! |
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Post by scrappychick on Jun 3, 2016 1:49:01 GMT
My reply to her would be a vomit emoji, followed by the info that DH was considering leaving me for whoever made the cream sauce on your pasta. I'd thank her for being so adorable, and let her know that when she's been in a relationship as long as you have, humor can also keep the fires going.
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Post by cmpeter on Jun 3, 2016 3:14:14 GMT
LOL, love that meme! That's so my grandma too.
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Post by chaosisapony on Jun 3, 2016 4:00:12 GMT
I would have responded with the quote from your husband and left it at that. Someone's taking themselves just a little too seriously... |
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Post by AussieMeg on Jun 3, 2016 4:22:11 GMT
I agree with scrappychick and chaosisapony, I would definitely have responded with your husband's quote about the pesto. It wouldn't have been rude, and it would have put her mind at rest that you're not the only one putting food ahead of their marriage!  |
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Post by oldcrow on Jun 3, 2016 5:27:54 GMT
Now maybe you can understand why she has not been in a relationship for awhile.
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Post by LeaP on Jun 3, 2016 5:42:22 GMT
It's much like the newly pregnant or people with no children at all who spout unsolicited child rearing advice. Like my sister who criticized us for having our little one in our bed. She got hers. She had SOOO much trouble getting her preschooler out of her bed! LOL. So much for "I'd NEVER let my baby sleep in my bed." Love her anyway. OMG my brother said that to me too. And guess who had an amazing athletic kid who could climb out of a crip and into his parents bed?! Love him too, he has learned that child rearing instructions rebound. OP someday your DH's cousin's carb prince will come in the form of humble pie  |
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jun 3, 2016 8:40:37 GMT
Reminds me of the Raymond episode where newlywed Amy thinks she needs to dole out marriage advice. Have her watch this, or better yet, the whole episode This was my first thought. ELR. The best!! ETA: omg, now I just spent almost two hours down the YouTube rabbit hole watching Everybody Loves Raymond scenes and laughing out loud:) |
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I think I'd look forward to those posts just for the entertainment value!
Love her anyway. 
