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Post by chaosisapony on Jun 3, 2016 1:48:22 GMT
There's a lot of back story but I'm seeing red and don't have the patience to write it all out. Bottom line is, I came home from work today to find that my HOA hired landscapers and they ripped out my hydrangea. In it's place is a scraggly ass, ugly agapanthus. Oh hell no.
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Post by LeaP on Jun 3, 2016 2:27:41 GMT
That is super irritating. From the tales I hear here I would not want a HOA.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Jun 3, 2016 2:30:28 GMT
Not good. I'm sorry.
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Post by paget on Jun 3, 2016 3:17:57 GMT
Oh goody, I have a vent! I started a new job yesterday. I noticed a file cabinet in my cubicle full of files. The coworker next to me slightly sheepishly explained she "didn't have room in her cubicle for it so she hoped I didn't mind it there." Wtf?! So I don't even have a File cabinet yet so when they bring me one I'll have mine and hers in my cubicle?! The reason she doesn't "have room" is because she brought other things in to her cubicle like a another file cabinet for other papers and a book shelf for decorative items. If anything, her cubicle is bigger than mine.
It's one of those situations where of course she's wrong and being rude but somehow if I say anything I'll be the rude one! Ugh. I wasn't going to say anything on my first day when I obviously didn't need the space anyway. I'm hoping when my file cabinet gets moved in someone will notice and say something?! Crud.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2016 3:30:05 GMT
Oh goody, I have a vent! I started a new job yesterday. I noticed a file cabinet in my cubicle full of files. The coworker next to me slightly sheepishly explained she "didn't have room in her cubicle for it so she hoped I didn't mind it there." Wtf?! So I don't even have a File cabinet yet so when they bring me one I'll have mine and hers in my cubicle?! The reason she doesn't "have room" is because she brought other things in to her cubicle like a another file cabinet for other papers and a book shelf for decorative items. If anything, her cubicle is bigger than mine. It's one of those situations where of course she's wrong and being rude but somehow if I say anything I'll be the rude one! Ugh. I wasn't going to say anything on my first day when I obviously didn't need the space anyway. I'm hoping when my file cabinet gets moved in someone will notice and say something?! Crud. Don't hope. This is why women are walked on. We don't want to be seen as rude. Speak up. You can say "this isn't my file cabinet can it be moved out of my cubicle" and not have it be rude. If you don't speak up no one is going to notice. The people who move furniture assume you want/need two file cabinets. Your supervisor will assume it is empty and you want both of them. If you don't speak up you can plan to live with them the rest of the time you work there.... and plan on her coming into your cubicle when she needs her files even if it disrupts your work. |
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 3, 2016 3:36:01 GMT
Oh goody, I have a vent! I started a new job yesterday. I noticed a file cabinet in my cubicle full of files. The coworker next to me slightly sheepishly explained she "didn't have room in her cubicle for it so she hoped I didn't mind it there." Wtf?! So I don't even have a File cabinet yet so when they bring me one I'll have mine and hers in my cubicle?! The reason she doesn't "have room" is because she brought other things in to her cubicle like a another file cabinet for other papers and a book shelf for decorative items. If anything, her cubicle is bigger than mine. It's one of those situations where of course she's wrong and being rude but somehow if I say anything I'll be the rude one! Ugh. I wasn't going to say anything on my first day when I obviously didn't need the space anyway. I'm hoping when my file cabinet gets moved in someone will notice and say something?! Crud. Don't hope. This is why women are walked on. We don't want to be seen as rude. Speak up. You can say "this isn't my file cabinet can it be moved out of my cubicle" and not have it be rude. If you don't speak up no one is going to notice. The people who move furniture assume you want/need two file cabinets. Your supervisor will assume it is empty and you want both of them. If you don't speak up you can plan to live with them the rest of the time you work there.... and plan on her coming into your cubicle when she needs her files even if it disrupts your work. This is so true. Very few men would put up with it. I would just ask that the movers move it back when they bring you yours. I get the play nice thing, but it will bother you. |
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Post by chaosisapony on Jun 3, 2016 3:44:35 GMT
That is super irritating. From the tales I hear here I would not want a HOA. I won't ever live in a place with one again. I've been here for 8 years without ever having a problem until this year. This year they have been crazy about stuff. I'm on the board and I try to keep in reined in but despite my best efforts stupid crap still happens. The HOA will be purchasing me a new hydrangea. It won't be a birthday gift that I have lovingly taken care of but I don't care. They don't get to throw away my possessions without notice without giving me compensation for them. Grrr. |
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Post by grammanisi on Jun 3, 2016 3:55:24 GMT
I am having "one of those days". You know the kind, you want to cry but don't know why. You're pissy, but again don't know why. Depressed, but don't know why. Blah, blah, blah!!
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jun 3, 2016 4:00:52 GMT
There's a lot of back story but I'm seeing red and don't have the patience to write it all out. Bottom line is, I came home from work today to find that my HOA hired landscapers and they ripped out my hydrangea. In it's place is a scraggly ass, ugly agapanthus. Oh hell no. I'm sorry. That sucks.  I love hydrangea and they won't grow in my too sandy, too shady yard. |
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Post by paget on Jun 3, 2016 4:15:52 GMT
Don't hope. This is why women are walked on. We don't want to be seen as rude. Speak up. You can say "this isn't my file cabinet can it be moved out of my cubicle" and not have it be rude. If you don't speak up no one is going to notice. The people who move furniture assume you want/need two file cabinets. Your supervisor will assume it is empty and you want both of them. If you don't speak up you can plan to live with them the rest of the time you work there.... and plan on her coming into your cubicle when she needs her files even if it disrupts your work. This is so true. Very few men would put up with it. I would just ask that the movers move it back when they bring you yours. I get the play nice thing, but it will bother you. I agree. I meant I will hope that happens but if it doesn't I will actually say something. I'm really not a Doormat person but didn't want to say something within my first hour of meeting everyone! It's just rude of her to put me in that position in the first place! |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2016 4:31:14 GMT
This is so true. Very few men would put up with it. I would just ask that the movers move it back when they bring you yours. I get the play nice thing, but it will bother you. I agree. I meant I will hope that happens but if it doesn't I will actually say something. I'm really not a Doormat person but didn't want to say something within my first hour of meeting everyone! It's just rude of her to put me in that position in the first place! Yes, it was! And it would put my on notice that she will be the type of co-worker that will push things off on me if given half a chance. I understand not wanting to say anything the first hour. But don't let it go beyond the second day. There is a point that the longer you've allowed it the ruder it actually seems to re mediate the problem later. |
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Post by canadianscrappergirl on Jun 3, 2016 4:42:46 GMT
My vent is from the weekend but still pissed and hurt over it. Youngest son graduated from HS. it was a fight for us to find out any info on the grad thru out the planning stages, fight to get a time to go and get a suit find out when his formal pics were etc you get the picture lol.
So day of grad we go to local arboretum to have photos done and before professional photographer comes to take class photo we are standing and waiting. He acts like he doesn't want to be seen with us I ask if he would like some pics of him with friends he says later hmm okay. He then goes over by his friends I managed to get one photo of him with brother and one with hubby got not one of him alone or with both of us.
Come to find out we could have had family photos done earlier that day when his friend let's it slip. Son says oh well I didn't tell you we can do it another day uh no forget that!
I got a total of maybe 4 photos of the day all crappy.
Between the ceremony and dance when they are taking down chairs etc and people all over the pace he then says can you get some photos of me and friends uh yeah no I am not now going to try and take photos in a banquet hall with people coming and going and working around that shit.
He was a total dink all thru the whole process up to the day and a dink the day of. I told hubby I want to delete all 4 or 5 of the.photos, I want no memory of the damned day!
Between that and the asshole grad parents who treated us like lepers it was a shitty day I have no desire to keep in my memory bank.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2016 5:11:10 GMT
Back to back houseguests!!!! I've just had one who didn't do a damn thing to help around the house all week. She knew I was crazy busy, and the most she did was make cups of coffee for herself. Dis graduating this week and I was also in charge of teacher appreciation for my 4th graders class after my co room mom decided she was too busy to help ( whole other vent). I took my houseguest sightseeing every single day and she didn't offer to pay for lunch once. She also talked about nothing the entire time.
12 hours after she left, my mil arrived for 3 weeks. Different kettle of fish. Tries to help all the time. Takes all the dishes out of the dishwasher and leaves them all over the counter because she can't reach the cupboards, or puts everything in the wrong place. Takes laundry out of the dryer before its finished and folds it up damp, so I have to collect it up and put it back in the dryer. Grrr
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2016 5:18:28 GMT
My pet chicken was killed on Monday. Most likely by the neighbor's dog. We walked the road looking for her body. What ever took yanked her out from under a tree by her beautiful tail.
I have 4 others but they are not the same as chicken
Yes, this dog has been on our property before. Yes I do keep a close eye on her, but husband let them out that morning and I slept in.
I am devastated.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2016 10:18:09 GMT
Band director announced Wednesday tuxes had to be dry cleaned and turned in on Friday. I had to scramble to find a place for ex to drop it off. Band director tells me he announced it a couple weeks ago to students and in emails. Um nope. It's not in a single email I've gotten! Ugh. Good thing it wasn't expensive. Just annoying.
Then my mom complains she wasn't told of ds band awards. Um, I didn't go. Ex dropped him off. And the award wasn't unique. Everyone got one. He got his chevron, the two ribbons from festivals and part of his graduating year number. So did 50+ other kids. He'll get the same next year and the year after that. Some things just aren't for the grandparents. And she's "heartbroken" she missed ds2's end of year concert. Oh whatever. She didn't even notice she missed ds1's concert. She missed the big holiday concert because she didn't want to deal with the crowds. She complained at the end of marching season show. Why in the hell would i want to tell her about anything else?! I don't want her there. I don't want my sister there. She brings a book and reads the entire time.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jun 3, 2016 10:25:30 GMT
I am having "one of those days". You know the kind, you want to cry but don't know why. You're pissy, but again don't know why. Depressed, but don't know why. Blah, blah, blah!! (((hugs))) |
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jun 3, 2016 10:35:01 GMT
From the tales I hear here I would not want a HOA. Me either. I'd rather risk my neighbors having multiple cars in their driveway or scrawny lawns or clotheslines (oh, the horror! LOL) than have a governing force dictate to me what I can do with a property that I'm spending tens or hundreds of thousands of dollars on. I'm so sorry. I would be so sad and angry in your position. (((hugs))) I have no desire to keep in my memory bank. Keep the crappy photos. He or you will want them one day. The anger from the way he behaved and the way the night went will dissipate over time. I'm sorry it wasn't the experience you deserved to have. That sucks. |
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Post by Gravity on Jun 3, 2016 10:52:42 GMT
My family has had a shitty year. We leave this weekend for a much needed six day beach vacation. I just found out there will probably be a tropical storm/depression in the area and rain the entire time. We bought trip insurance, so we can cancel. I'm torn over cancelling or going anyway and hoping for the best.
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 3, 2016 13:32:42 GMT
Oh goody, I have a vent! I started a new job yesterday. I noticed a file cabinet in my cubicle full of files. The coworker next to me slightly sheepishly explained she "didn't have room in her cubicle for it so she hoped I didn't mind it there." Wtf?! So I don't even have a File cabinet yet so when they bring me one I'll have mine and hers in my cubicle?! The reason she doesn't "have room" is because she brought other things in to her cubicle like a another file cabinet for other papers and a book shelf for decorative items. If anything, her cubicle is bigger than mine. It's one of those situations where of course she's wrong and being rude but somehow if I say anything I'll be the rude one! Ugh. I wasn't going to say anything on my first day when I obviously didn't need the space anyway. I'm hoping when my file cabinet gets moved in someone will notice and say something?! Crud. Don't hope. This is why women are walked on. We don't want to be seen as rude. Speak up. You can say "this isn't my file cabinet can it be moved out of my cubicle" and not have it be rude. If you don't speak up no one is going to notice. The people who move furniture assume you want/need two file cabinets. Your supervisor will assume it is empty and you want both of them. If you don't speak up you can plan to live with them the rest of the time you work there.... and plan on her coming into your cubicle when she needs her files even if it disrupts your work. Yes! Listen to voltagain. |
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Post by maurchclt on Jun 3, 2016 14:17:23 GMT
PAYPAL, GRRRR, spent over an hour on the phone, spoke to 4 different people. My problem was NOT solved and the last person "lost" me and never bothered to call me back.
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I love hydrangea and they won't grow in my too sandy, too shady yard.
