How to pull myself up

I'm sorry. Maybe you just need to have a cry? Sometimes it feels better after you let it out a bit.

Do you have any funny movies or TV shows you can watch? That helps me often. I can usually laugh, or at least smile, at those.

Keep on making plans with friends, getting out of the house, etc. It may not feel good now, but I bet it soon will. Keep on taking care of yourself.

I don't have any advice, but I wanted to say that I'm sorry that you are facing this and I'm sending virtual hugs and support your way.

I'm sorry you are hurting. Being sad about something sad is human. If you are not ok about the divorce, let those feelings out. Write a letter to your husband telling him exactly everything you feel, be as angry or hurt as pain you feel. Then rip it up. Let it all out.

(((Hugs)))

Your husband wants your marriage to die. This is a HUGE loss in your life. You did not want this nor ask for it so of course you are going to grieve. It's a sad and terrible thing to lose. I am so sorry.

Please give yourself permission to cry. Some people don't cry and other people cry at nothing (like me) whatever you do let yourself cry. Then wash your face and see if you feel better.

Grief will come and go. I am not an expert but it will get better. I promise it will get better.

Also, listen to yoko as she has some good ideas!

Hugs to you. Remember that this is the death of a marriage and that grief is normal and real.

Your grief is very real AND very valid. It's ok to feel it and experience it (even though it sucks), so that you can eventually move through it. I agree with what volt and yoko told you. I have BTDT with a very, very difficult divorce. Sometimes, when I just couldn't take it anymore (usually at night) I'd just go sit in the car and cry, wail, yell, etc. if I was afraid the kids would hear/see me in that state (they were very, very young).

Grief and all its stages (anger, depression, etc) are pretty much hell to go through, but I can tell you from experience with a close family member who has tried repressing her grief over the death of her spouse that letting yourself feel and work through all of this now will be far, far better for you in the long run than running from the reality of facing your new life or just giving up.

I know it sounds so cliche, but things really do get better. I used to repeat that Churchill quote* to myself like a mantra at times. And sometimes I watched sad movies or played lots of sad breakup songs and cried for hours and hours at a time, sometimes I raged into my pillow or in the car late at night, and sometimes I just gave into some of the depression and lost myself in a book for a while, or binge watched movies or TV. And sometimes I forced myself or let others talk me into getting out and doing things, even if I knew I wouldn't enjoy them. After a bit, even if I didn't enjoy every minute, I did find myself having a moment or two of fun or laughter, and those moments kept increasing over time.

Journaling might help, too. It can be very freeing and cathartic to just get all that stuff out.

* "If you're going through hell, keep going."

Sending you ((hugs))

Best advice ever. 

Sorry you are hurting.