raindancer
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Post by raindancer on Jun 7, 2016 13:39:15 GMT
I am struggling with ways to keep my teen and almost teen somewhat busy this summer without camps. We didn't sign up for any due to not being able to forsee what summer would bring. We have a gym membership and they are signed up for advanced swim lessons to work on strokes etc. Plus they have regular fun swim times. I have an expectation of daily chores but they have them year round. They also have always had to read for at least 30 min. Each day since they were small so we plan on that as well. My daughter will be a little more busy since she is going to be in highschool marching band, but my son is a mine craft junkie.
I have lots of weekend opportunities, but I'm trying to figure out ways to avoid big sloth like and on screens all the time when they are not doing stuff.
How do you keep kids busy with a fully unstructured summer? I have never dealt with a full 12 weeks since we have always been in year round school and so it's easy to fill in the non busy days when you only have 6 weeks.
Just curious how others handle it and what you incorporate to not over manage their time but also avoid then just turning into vegetables.
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psiluvu
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Jun 25, 2014 22:52:26 GMT
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Post by psiluvu on Jun 7, 2016 13:49:46 GMT
Well my 16 yr old has a full time job (50 hours a week) for July and half of August as a camp counsellor. She is also taking an online summer school course for the month of July and hoping to attend most nights of a 10 day music festival. She gets the last 3 weeks of the summer to do whatever she wants which will include a couple of shifts at her part time job other than that I figure she earns the choice to do whatever she wants.
My 13 yr old will be umpiring baseball, he is also going to volunteer at the camp his sister works at a couple of days a week and football practices start the end of June. As he is pretty busy too I am going to let him pretty much do whatever he wants too. If that means a rainy day full of PS4 that's okay with me because it is going to be once in a while not everyday all day.
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Post by Zee on Jun 7, 2016 13:50:42 GMT
I honestly looked forward to summer just so they didn't have to do anything. That meant I didn't have to do anything, either. No running from here to there, no games, projects, papers, stress. They don't very much longer to enjoy a summer free of school or work so I let them vegetate.
DS just finished up his senior year and he will be starting a full time job. I almost feel bad for the little freeloader. His carefree life is over!
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J u l e e
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Jun 28, 2014 2:50:47 GMT
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Post by J u l e e on Jun 7, 2016 13:58:21 GMT
We are big volunteers and had a regular schedule at the shelter where we volunteer. We got up early and people and kitties were counting on us. We also trained to run a race togethers last summer, so had a mileage schedule we stuck to. It got us up and dressed and moving. We have a vegetable garden and a bee/butterfly garden where we spent time almost everyday. We love to hike and are into nature photography so we would plan outings to hike around and take photos of different places. We're also big readers and could sit on the patio for hours with books. We're good at relaxing without being mindless. Then there were days with friends and days with errands. Mostly we spent it together, because I have a teenager who still thinks I'm pretty awesome to hang out with and she is amazingly easy to be with as well. And I keep thinking four more summers!!!
So, really, just stuff we love doing. Nothing overly scheduled or rushed.
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Post by peano on Jun 7, 2016 14:04:21 GMT
Once DS, who is 16 and will be a junior next year, got too old for our town camps and activities, I stopped imposing structure, partly because of my inherent laziness and pushback from DS, who isn't interested in visiting NYC museums etc. But partly because I think there's some benefit to having unstructured time...for everyone. There are always lots of impromptu sleepovers and swim parties in the summer
He will have a 10-day trip to Wisconsin with some friends from school, our week-long summer vacation to the beach, and two weeks of 8 hour-a-day band camp the two weeks before school starts back at the end of August. He's got some projects around the yard to help me with. In addition, we are going to do some day trips and tour colleges in the area. There are always lots of impromptu sleepovers and swim parties in the summer. Since he isn't out of school until Friday, that doesn't really leave a whole lot of time for much else.
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Kerri W
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Jun 25, 2014 20:31:44 GMT
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Post by Kerri W on Jun 7, 2016 14:08:52 GMT
I can't remember a summer my kids didn't have sports practices and my kids are all 7 years apart with the youngest being 10, so there's always been somewhat of a component of babysitting or helping with errands which works for our family. That aside, some things we routinely do...
*I have each child choose something they'd like to learn about and dive into that over the summer. I encourage going to the library to learn about it, etc. DS1 has really gotten into hiking so he has been doing some local hikes and planned and went on a 50 mile hike in TN with a couple of his buddies to celebrate their graduating (he was a Jr this year). Younger DS wants to learn about macaron making. He's watched a thousand videos and bought the supplies so we'll see where that goes.
*Our kids must volunteer for something. It's totally up to them to choose what interests them, but they must "give back" in some way. Honestly we're fairly lenient on what we consider giving back...mostly they have to do something relatively selfless and babysitting your younger sibling sometimes counts. DS1 offered to help DS2 with his daily physical activity** for example.
*We have a list of things that need to be done every day. DS1 who is 17 is good about doing things without a lot of direction so he doesn't have a list unless he gets super slackerish. DS2 has a list that includes: read for 30 min, some sort of physical activity, play with guinea pig, pick up room, empty dishwasher, etc.
**We do ask them to do something active every day. Ride a bike, go to the pool, go play frisbee, hike, etc.
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Kerri W
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Post by Kerri W on Jun 7, 2016 14:11:55 GMT
So, really, just stuff we love doing. Nothing overly scheduled or rushed. This sums up my "plan" well. I do want them to be active and give guidance as needed about how to fill their day so they aren't in front of a screen for 23 hours, but it's very low-key and there is plenty of opportunity to just simply have fun and hang out. SaveSave
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Post by fredfreddy on Jun 7, 2016 14:26:05 GMT
I don't not really. I work 9-1pm all summer and they are still asleep when I leave. I do give them a written list of chores every morning that take maybe 20-30 minutes each and expect them to be done by the time I get back. We are doing quite a few trips. I also work on merit badges with them during the summer (or in this case Eagle project for older and merit badges for younger). The older is working 10 hours a week this summer. The younger still had parkour classes and swim team. We have our HOA pool and a shopping center they can go to anytime.
Other than that, they are on their own. They are 13 and 16 and haven't been in summer camp since they were each 10.
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Post by monklady123 on Jun 7, 2016 14:32:10 GMT
Actually we were pretty sloth-like in the summers. When my kids were younger we belonged to a local pool and we'd go there just about every day. We'd take snacks and lunch and just lounge around. The kids would swim with friends, lie in the sun, whatever. We gave up that membership when dd (my younger) was in middle school because we just weren't using it enough to justify the cost. But friends still had their membership so dd would often go along with them as a guest and I'd just pay the guest fee. Dd always has done babysitting although not all day until she was older. In high school she had dance classes a few times per week. When ds was older -- maybe when he was 15 or so -- he started as a camp counselor at a strategy gaming camp. Otherwise they just hung out, spent lots of time on screens, went out with friends (movies, Starbucks, etc.). We'd do some things as a family, such as go to concerts at our local outdoor venue (Wolf Trap, for you locals), or go down to exhibits at the museums. We've always gone over to Arlington Cemetery regularly and in the summer we like to do that in the evening. That's about it. I'm a great believer in sloth-like summers.
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Post by GamGam on Jun 7, 2016 14:34:31 GMT
During the summer when my youngest son was between grades 7 & 8, I "bribed" him to read 10 novels. I asked a friend who taught high school English to make a list of 10 novels which would challenge him, but also interest him. They were not easy reads. I can't remember the whole list, but what I remember are: the Old Man and the Sea, A tale of Two Cities, the Glass Menagerie; Call of the Wild; Lord Jim; Etc. I asked that there not be fanatsy books because he was reading only that genre. The pay off was a dinner at any restaurant of my son's choice.
He took the challenge, and it was such a good summer for him. I read some of the books after he did if he asked me to so we could discuss them. Of course, this was back in the days when there was no internet competing for his time/attention. But it is good to look back on this summer and how his reading world was expanded.
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Post by Monica* on Jun 7, 2016 14:36:18 GMT
17 year old b/g twins:
DD:
work at mall job pt volunteer as church camp counselor study for ACT
DS:
work at restaurant pt work for tree trimmer pt going on church teen retreat for a week study for ACT
Additionally, we will be taking a long weekend trip to Boston to see family. Besides all that, they will hang with their friends/girlfriend -- movies, amusement park (my son and friends bought a summer season pass for cheap). I'm sure there will be plenty of time on Minecraft, Netflix and all that. DS is trying to work out more, so he goes to park to run, do parkour, etc. DD spends a lot of time researching colleges, careers. She is also getting going on her summer reading assignment for school.
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Post by mom on Jun 7, 2016 14:43:18 GMT
My ons are 15 & 17.
The oldest works 32 hours a week + has cross country practice M-F. So he is only home before 10-3pm each day. He has a couple of chores, but they only take about 15 min to complete. He also is spending time on college apps and researching where he wants to go.
The youngest has a pretty free schedule. He dogs sits for my dad when he is out of town, but thats not an every day deal. Younger son also always helps me make dinner. His chores take about 30 min of his day. We do cut his screen time off when he starts getting moody. But he likes to watch tv with us in the evening so we almost always watch a movie at night together.
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Sarah*H
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Post by Sarah*H on Jun 7, 2016 14:43:19 GMT
Sports fills up a lot of the time - dd still has 16 hours of gym practice a week plus add in an art class and diving on the weekends. She has one voluntary and one mandatory week of gym camp. I'm happy to let her do whatever she wants in her unstructured time. DS only has 5 hours of official practice a week but probably adds in another 5-6 hours of training. He has 2 voluntary soccer camps but that's his choice. He has a list of things he needs to accomplish this summer: coding class, SAT/ACT prep and volunteer hours but I'm leaving it up to him to schedule those things. There will still be many more hours of mindless gaming than I would prefer every day. He is also vacationing with friends in addition to our own vacation.
Because of dd's training schedule, we never end up having enough time for the pool and for fun day trips but we manage some.
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Post by freecharlie on Jun 7, 2016 14:47:32 GMT
Mine are almost 15 and almost 12 and I am a slacker parent. All I really require is that they help around the house and don't spend 24/7 on electronics.
The older DS has drivers ed this week and has summer basketball, summer weights, and summer football, but realistically they are all optional (he does do them though).
Both boys are also in boy scouts, but we are lazy on that in the summer too.
We hike, go to the pool...this year we will be decluttering for a move, but nothing is structured with day and time.
I love summer.
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Jun 7, 2016 14:48:45 GMT
DD(13) is volunteering at the local zoo 2-3 days a week this summer. On the days she isn't volunteering, she is expected to do some extra chores at home, but, otherwise, it is up to her how she fills her day.
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Post by melanell on Jun 7, 2016 15:56:38 GMT
We swim (recreational not competitive) at least every other day. My teen also likes to occasionally do things like mini-golf, bowling, paintball, laser tag, etc. In my case, there is a younger sibling, so I can get my older one to put down the remote or phone or mouse for things that may be considered too young for most teens, but that he'll do to play with his brother.
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Post by cmpeter on Jun 7, 2016 16:56:56 GMT
I only have 1 teen at home now, she's 15. She will be taking drivers ed this summer, has a couple week long vocal camps and one family trip. The rest of the time is more chill, she hangs with friends, goes to the gym, works on music composition and piano. But, I am also fine with her being a sloth as long as she takes care of her few chores.
My oldest is 20. He lives at home while going to college. He will work 4-5 days a week, go camping, the gym and hang with friends. He also helps drive his sister and has his own list of chores.
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Post by bc2ca on Jun 7, 2016 19:11:09 GMT
My kids are both working this summer which is a first for us.
Our summers have always been pretty unstructured with a balance of beach/pool/gym time, chores, friends and screen time. In the last few years I have had the kids plan our road trips and lots of day trips (many for college tours). They figure out the logisitics and come up with activity suggestions and restaurants. I also have them do a lot more menu planning and meal prep than in the winter.
We still have daily reading and DS always has some required academic work for AP classes (he also had summer reading/essay assignments in MS).
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