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Post by shescrafty on Jun 7, 2016 15:12:19 GMT
This will be an odd question, but I am hoping you all can help me with some wording.
We had many people generously donating to a gofundme page when we knew my daughter Phoebe was going to go home with hospice care. Our friends set it up for us and set the amount. Our plan was (and is) to use the money to help pay for expenses related to her care and also use the money to help others.
We recently donated to our local hospice chapter and gave 5 scholarships for other children who have suffered loss to be able to attend a grief camp if their families cannot afford it. We don't want to post this on our Phoebe page to get credit, but to let people know where some of the money is going. Our plan is to find many different opportunities to help other children in need. For example we are also donating for scholarships for other children to attend a zookeeper camp at the Maryland Zoo since we have such a bond with the zoo and she wanted to be a penguin keeper as an adult.
So my question is-is it appropriate to let people know how we are using some of the donated money and if so how would you word it? Likely we will not post anything until the event(s) take place but I want to have a kind of template to use.
Thanks for your ideas!
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RosieKat
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Post by RosieKat on Jun 7, 2016 15:19:15 GMT
Maybe something like "Your kind donations have allowed us to assist with our expenses for Phoebe's care. Your generosity has also been shared with other children in need in the following ways: blah, blah, and blah."
Kind of stilted, but a place to start. I think it is also important to make sure people know that you've used it for her care, as that's probably what most people intended - but that once your expenses have been covered, you wanted to share with other families in ways that would have mattered to Phoebe.
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Post by shescrafty on Jun 7, 2016 15:25:24 GMT
Maybe something like "Your kind donations have allowed us to assist with our expenses for Phoebe's care. Your generosity has also been shared with other children in need in the following ways: blah, blah, and blah." Kind of stilted, but a place to start. I think it is also important to make sure people know that you've used it for her care, as that's probably what most people intended - but that once your expenses have been covered, you wanted to share with other families in ways that would have mattered to Phoebe. That is a good point and why I want input from others! We are still getting medical bills from the hospital but for the most part they have slowed down and we are able to handle them. What we don't want is people to think we are using donated money for things like our vacation or anything like that. The wording was done by my friends and they did a good job of stating that the money would be for her care and also keeping her memory and legacy alive. |
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Post by eleezybeth on Jun 7, 2016 15:37:04 GMT
What about something like this:
Being a recipient of your kindness and generosity during Phoebe's last days was very much appreciated. The medical bills are being paid and your donation towards them will forever put us in your debt. Our goal has shifted from paying those bills to honoring Phoebe's spirit. We would like to share with you some ways we are helping keep Phoebe's spirit with us. As many of you know, Phoebe wanted to work with penguins. From your contributions, we are sponsoring children with similar issues (or loss) to spend a day at Zoo Camp. As many of you know, Phoebe was also big hearted. To honor that legacy, we have also created a scholarship for other children and families to attend grief camp. Her legacy, her memory, her service lives on and we are so thankful for your support.
Obviously, you'll add your adjectives but if I received something that noted how the project honored the person I'd be cool with whatever they did with the money!
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Post by shescrafty on Jun 7, 2016 16:02:59 GMT
That is wonderful-thank you!
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Post by jenjie on Jun 7, 2016 17:33:28 GMT
I think it's wonderful that you are doing this to help others in Phoebe's memory. It will help your heart just a bit knowing you are able to make a difference in someone else's life while honoring your precious Phoebe.
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Post by shescrafty on Jun 7, 2016 23:04:23 GMT
Thank you  |
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Post by valleyview on Jun 8, 2016 0:31:56 GMT
Thank you for being so thoughtful. I had friends in a similar situation, and I remember how difficult it was for them to navigate monetary gifts. eleezybeth expressed it well. This is a legacy for Phoebe, and I love that you're considering the Penguins and grieving siblings. Hugs. |
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Post by shescrafty on Jun 8, 2016 1:22:01 GMT
Thank you for being so thoughtful. I had friends in a similar situation, and I remember how difficult it was for them to navigate monetary gifts. eleezybeth expressed it well. This is a legacy for Phoebe, and I love that you're considering the Penguins and grieving siblings. Hugs. We were and are so grateful for all the financial help we received. It really helped take a big weight off of our shoulders when we had so much else to focus on. I just really want to ensure that we do good not only for Phoebe, but for all the people who gave to us and helped us at the worst time of our lives. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2016 2:13:32 GMT
You've gotten some great suggestions, but I just wanted to say I think it's wonderful that you're giving back to other families in need. I hope it comforts you to know that Phoebe's life is impacting others for good. She lives on through your generosity. Hugs to you, shescrafty.
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Post by craftsbycarolyn on Jun 8, 2016 2:49:20 GMT
It's a wonderful thing you are doing.
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