quiltz
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Jun 29, 2014 16:13:28 GMT
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Post by quiltz on Jun 11, 2016 23:31:52 GMT
It was funny how this one happened actually - I usually don't fall for it. I messaged asking if she wanted to come do Y with me in 3 weeks. It would be beyond the pale to invite someone else to this event, so I thought I was safe. She replied, maybe, she'd see. And btw, she'd be in my town the next day, did I want to have lunch? And I was kind of excited that I was also free and in town that day, so I said, "Yes!" and it wasn't until several messages down the road that I realized it was another family affair thing I had said yes to. Arg! How frustrating. ( ( ( hugs) ) ) to you as you navigate this situation.
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Oct 7, 2024 9:28:50 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Jun 11, 2016 23:51:25 GMT
I think sometimes we have to accept people are different. No one is really "wrong" in this situation. You just have to accept that if you lunch with her, you won't know who is coming. If you can accept that, then book lunch, if you can't then don't. If you want to spend time with just her then be very specific. I wouldn't waste energy on being annoyed with her though because she really is doing nothing wrong. She's just not meeting your expectations.
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Post by houston249 on Jun 12, 2016 0:05:36 GMT
My time on this earth is to short to pussyfoot around. If you invite her, it is your party to plan, if she invites you it is her party to plan.
If you want alone time with her, you need to invite her. If I was in your shoes I would ask her straight out. "I would love to have (or spend) some, one on one time with you, you know, just the 2 of us. When would you be available to meet me at ABC?" If she questions this, tell her straight out. "I just want to have you all to myself for an hour or so."
As far as her invitations go, I would just suck it up and deal with it.
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Mary Kay Lady
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Jun 27, 2014 4:11:36 GMT
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Post by Mary Kay Lady on Jun 12, 2016 1:37:15 GMT
I frequently get together with a girlfriend for lunch/movie/coffee. I wouldn't like it one bit if a friend of mine always had a child/spouse in tow. In fact, I'd dislike it so much that I probably wouldn't get together with that friend anymore.
You could discuss it with her, but then you run the risk of her becoming offended. At any rate I don't think she's a very good friend. I wouldn't want to spend time with someone like that.
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