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Post by workingclassdog on Jun 13, 2016 17:00:19 GMT
OMG... my 19 year old dd and I "share" her room. It's her bedroom but also my office. Long story why but it works for the both of us and the room is huge. So it is a good set up and she uses my desk/computer when needed.
BUT that said... I ended up picking up several glasses of water/tea/whatever's on her side of the room to put in the dishwasher. I typically yell at her to do so, but I was just headed downstairs and turned around to grab them and OMG she had one of those cups you mix smoothies with.... even thinking about it is making me gag... this is WORSE than the old baby bottle behind the bed.. 20 times worse. She had already left for work and I couldn't sit here at the computer knowing it was just sitting inches from me. I took the nasty stuff and held it arms length away from me.. dropped in the sink and let the water run over it... now while doing this I start dry heaving. I swear to God this was probably the most nastiest sh*t I have ever seen in my life.
I sent her a picture and said HOW OLD is it... she said a couple of days old.. NO WAY... It has to be longer... ***shivers***
I would have normally just thrown it out but those dang cups go with the blender and I don't think you can just buy replacements. I don't drink out of them either.. so she can take her own chance.
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Post by iluvpink on Jun 13, 2016 17:06:18 GMT
Ewwww!!!! I remember finding old sippy cups of milk. So nasty!!!
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Post by Jamie on Jun 13, 2016 17:06:35 GMT
I hear you - my stepdaughter was living with us a few years ago. One day I just couldn't stand the stench anymore from her room so I went investigating. I found a cereal bowl with milk in it, on the shelf in the closet. OMG - I about lost it right there. Who in their right mind would put that in the closet and for what reason
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Post by Deleted on Jun 13, 2016 17:07:49 GMT
Yuck. My sister used to do that. Probably still does. Her bedroom was in the basement. She would take bowls of cereal, glasses, etc every day but only bring them back up once a week. She did this as teenager and did it until she bought her own place at 35. Yuck. I haven't been in her house in a while. I don't know if she's still that lazy.
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Post by workingclassdog on Jun 13, 2016 17:11:49 GMT
I hear you - my stepdaughter was living with us a few years ago. One day I just couldn't stand the stench anymore from her room so I went investigating. I found a cereal bowl with milk in it, on the shelf in the closet. OMG - I about lost it right there. Who in their right mind would put that in the closet and for what reason That sounds like something dd would have done... thank goodness the shelves are high up and she can't reach them without a stool.. I picked up four glasses (one was mine from last night) and a bowl and I bet if I do some digging I could find something else!!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 13, 2016 17:16:52 GMT
at 19 she really should know better!
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Post by mom on Jun 13, 2016 17:32:26 GMT
Totally not acceptable.
At 19, she needs to know its not ok to live like a pig. Especially in my house.
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Post by IAmUnoriginal on Jun 13, 2016 17:35:17 GMT
I don't care if she's 9 or 19. New house rule for her is no glasses or other dishes are to be used outside of the kitchen. That is disgusting. Until she's grown up enough to clean up after herself, she gets the 5 year old's rules.
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Post by luvnlifelady on Jun 13, 2016 17:38:31 GMT
OMG... my 19 year old dd and I "share" her room. It's her bedroom but also my office. Long story why but it works for the both of us and the room is huge. So it is a good set up and she uses my desk/computer when needed. BUT that said... I ended up picking up several glasses of water/tea/whatever's on her side of the room to put in the dishwasher. I typically yell at her to do so, but I was just headed downstairs and turned around to grab them and OMG she had one of those cups you mix smoothies with.... even thinking about it is making me gag... this is WORSE than the old baby bottle behind the bed.. 20 times worse. She had already left for work and I couldn't sit here at the computer knowing it was just sitting inches from me. I took the nasty stuff and held it arms length away from me.. dropped in the sink and let the water run over it... now while doing this I start dry heaving. I swear to God this was probably the most nastiest sh*t I have ever seen in my life. I sent her a picture and said HOW OLD is it... she said a couple of days old.. NO WAY... It has to be longer... ***shivers*** I would have normally just thrown it out but those dang cups go with the blender and I don't think you can just buy replacements. I don't drink out of them either.. so she can take her own chance. Oh yah, my 19 yo DD is the same way. She recently bought a cubbie set from Target (white of course). Well, she left a bag of cheeries on it and of course they rotted and leaked all the way down. Fruit flies were circling it was so bad. Disgusting! DS regularly leaves rotting apple cores in his room along with the other remnants of what he powered through that day.
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Post by workingclassdog on Jun 13, 2016 17:40:29 GMT
Oh I know.. general rules are to clean up after yourself. But it happens. Generally I would be getting onto to her but in this case she was at work and I wasn't going to sit next to it either. blech. I remember being that same age and my mom upset with me about the same stuff.... She does normally keep it half way decent, but again she is a teen and she will try to get away with whatever. But I suppose there are those perfect kids out there mind their parents and who wouldn't dream of leaving a dirty dish in their room
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Post by dancingwithpaper on Jun 13, 2016 17:53:57 GMT
Honestly I feel like this kind of stuff is not worth fighting about. Talking with her about it, setting limits, yes...but fighting is NEVER going to make her change. Speaking as a young adult, it just comes with time and maturity, or it doesn't come at all. My mom yelling at me never made me want to do my chores, it was only once I was old enough to recognize all that she did for me that I finally got it and did my chores without complaint. Sounds like you know that OP, just putting in my two cents!
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Post by scorpeao on Jun 13, 2016 18:00:39 GMT
I laugh at those who insist "my house, my rules." Or what? You kick your kid out because they leave dishes in their room? This is a battle that is fought by every generation. My sister is 49 and I remember my mom yelling at her not to take dishes into her room. I never took anything more than a glass of water to my room, but then again I moved out at 18.
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Post by houston249 on Jun 13, 2016 18:16:49 GMT
How about a dollar fine for every dish you find? Cereal? Bowl and spoon? Two dollars! Call it your retirement plan!
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Post by Really Red on Jun 13, 2016 18:19:08 GMT
I have 2 19yo girls and a 15yo boy. Yes. Nasty is what they live with. Even the neat-as-a-pin child. UGH. And like scorpeao I laugh at "my house, my rules." I have them, too! But you know what? I'm sure I've found some disgusting things I accidentally left behind as well. I just delete my memory banks on my own!
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Post by workingclassdog on Jun 13, 2016 18:32:06 GMT
Honestly I feel like this kind of stuff is not worth fighting about. Talking with her about it, setting limits, yes...but fighting is NEVER going to make her change. Speaking as a young adult, it just comes with time and maturity, or it doesn't come at all. My mom yelling at me never made me want to do my chores, it was only once I was old enough to recognize all that she did for me that I finally got it and did my chores without complaint. Sounds like you know that OP, just putting in my two cents! I'm not yelling yelling.. but doing the typical mom "Brooke, bring all your dishes down so I can load them up!" Getting upset and all that, no not really.. she is 19. I can remember 19.
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Post by cath4k on Jun 13, 2016 18:36:54 GMT
I am a naturally clean and organized person. I organize things for fun and constantly purge stuff out of my house. I have a very sensitive sense of smell and can taste everything in my food because of it. I was even like that as a child. As a teen when my mom opened her own business and was no longer home all the time, I cleaned the whole house. BUT...my room. Egads. I don't know how I could stand it. I remember the days I would call my mom and ask her if I could go out with friends and she would say, "Not until you clean your room and get all the dishes out of there." She would know it was time because there wouldn't be any glasses left in the kitchen!! Every glass in my house would be in my room. Many would be half filled with chunky milk. It would take me hours to bring all the dishes out and clean them. They couldn't just be rinsed and put in the dishwasher - they had to be scrubbed. One time, I had a watermelon rind on a plate. My mom found it and set it up on end like a rainbow to see how long it would take me to notice. I didn't notice. My mom was/is super clean, but picked her battles with me. She just never came in my room because she couldn't stand it. Something weird definitely goes on in the teenage brain (well, many things, I guess.) I really don't know how I could be like that for a few years. HOW could it not bother me when it was the opposite of who I was as a child and later as an adult?? Anyway, I understand how an intelligent, responsible, thoughtful teen can live like a slob for a few years.
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Post by workingclassdog on Jun 13, 2016 18:37:41 GMT
I laugh at those who insist "my house, my rules." Or what? You kick your kid out because they leave dishes in their room? This is a battle that is fought by every generation. My sister is 49 and I remember my mom yelling at her not to take dishes into her room. I never took anything more than a glass of water to my room, but then again I moved out at 18. Thank you... I am not kicking my otherwise brilliant snowflake into the streets. There are mom's on here that probably wishes this was their complaint. Mom's who deal with much much harder things in life, drugs, alcohol, mental issues.. I have read all those types of threads. Thankfully, I feel like sometimes I have a crappy life, with it seems like I have been looking for a job for EVER, a husband who loves me and our children, but otherwise can drive me literally up the wall with his issues... my issue with my DD and sometimes DS (who lives on his own) who comes to visit, all they do is leave some dirty dishes behind. I have good kids and thankful for that.... I shared the story because I KNOW there are many many of us out there with less than perfect kids. And that damn cup is still soaking.. belch
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Post by miominmio on Jun 13, 2016 18:39:35 GMT
DS forgot a lunch box with sandwiches still in it, in has school bag last year. Just before summer break was over, he complained about the smell in his room. We had to throw that bag away, there was no way we would ever get the mold and smell out of it.
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Post by Menjiness on Jun 13, 2016 18:42:09 GMT
Augh, when my oldest moved out, we mucked out her room. Disgusting. I never realized how bad my house smelled until we cleaned it out. Funny how one person can make a HUGE difference in your home. Funny part now is that she is mostly neat and clean now. She realized just how hard it was to clean up thing if you let them go. Thank goodness.
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Post by Zee on Jun 13, 2016 18:47:29 GMT
Both of my kids are disgusting pigs and I feel your pain. All the yelling and threats and rules have done nothing. I guess I'm glad that's the worst issue they've ever made me deal with.
They still make me want to lose my mind when I find cheese growing in a milk cup or can smell something rotten in the hallway. I almost popped a vein the time I traced the source of stink to a cereal bowl purposely stuck inside a dresser drawer, while we were trying to sell the house. WITF? who DOES that?
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Post by compwalla on Jun 13, 2016 18:55:41 GMT
My son is 19 and his room goes between two extremes. It's either neat as a pin or completely disgusting. I don't get it. A few weeks ago I found three pizza boxes in his closet. Wtf, dude?
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Post by Peal on Jun 13, 2016 19:04:10 GMT
We are in the process of moving, after ds's (14) room was packed up and empty I went through with a vacuum. Tucked in the corner of his closet was a petrified fried chicken wing. It wasn't moldy or stinky, but there it was. I couldn't tell you the last time we had fried chicken. I also often found dried up clementine peels by the side of his bed.
I feel your pain. I'm just glad the Packers didn't wrap the wing in paper and put it in a box.
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Post by workingclassdog on Jun 13, 2016 19:13:42 GMT
DS forgot a lunch box with sandwiches still in it, in has school bag last year. Just before summer break was over, he complained about the smell in his room. We had to throw that bag away, there was no way we would ever get the mold and smell out of it. OMG that reminds me of my 8 year old.. she has 4 lunchboxes. One 'new' one for the year, one from last year (in case she loses the other one) and one her grandma gave her that she picked up cheap (or free) and some misc one from preschool ... she is ALWAYS leaving them at school. always always always... When she gets them home.. eggggsss... so we had a long talk about throwing away all the food in the trash unless it was wrapped up from the store and not cold stuff. Like chips or a snack. Because the one time she left her yogurt container opened in it and didn't bring it home.. there was mold all over her lunchbox.. I tried to wash it but it didn't even come close to clean, so in the trash it went. She finally learned her lesson... she might still forget her lunchboxes but now they are always empty!! You should have seen her walking across the field on the last day of school, her and her three lunchboxes... and a little giggle.
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Post by pridemom on Jun 13, 2016 19:14:19 GMT
21yo DS is moving out on the first of July. His room is a sty! He brings home food from work and leaves the packaging in his room. I told him he has to clean the room after his things are out because I refuse. It is nas-stay! His little sister wants to move to his room, but I told her she might want it to air out for a few days first. I peeked in this weekend and shuttered.
But he's a good kid, takes care of his own bills, mows, and brings me lunch or Sonic drinks to my work. He does nice things for his sisters and is a free house sitter. I choose my battles.
His room is down in the basement, so I don't have to see or smell it daily. That helps me ignore it.
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Post by meridon on Jun 13, 2016 19:38:08 GMT
No food or drink outside the kitchen. For anybody. At all. Ever. in my house (ok, if you're just home from the hospital or really sick, but that's it). I would at the very least gag, if not actually get sick at finding either the cherries or the milk. Bleh!!!!
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Post by mom on Jun 13, 2016 19:41:38 GMT
No food or drink outside the kitchen. For anybody. At all. Ever. in my house (ok, if you're just home from the hospital or really sick, but that's it). I would at the very least gag, if not actually get sick at finding either the cherries or the milk. Bleh!!!! This is the rule at our house as well. Not negotiable for the bedrooms, but will give some leeway on the living room if we are all in there watching a movie, etc.
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Post by Jennifer C on Jun 13, 2016 19:49:32 GMT
My dd is the Queen of clean. Her bedroom is spotless. Her closet and dresser is organized. She works hard to keep a clean environment around her. She even sweeps and mops the house without being asked.
My son. Lord have mercy on me. After the last time we deep cleaned his room, my husband brought a hazmat suit home from work for me. On the surface it looks ok, not clean or great, but ok. Open the wrong drawer and the horrors may jump out at you.
My dd shares a jack and jill bathroom that I clean everyday with him and I'm always getting reports of what needs to be picked up in his room.
Jennifer
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jun 13, 2016 20:05:43 GMT
But I suppose there are those perfect kids out there mind their parents and who wouldn't dream of leaving a dirty dish in their room I was that kid who would never leave dirty dishes in my room. And who kept it immaculate. Cue parenthood. I am the mother of the slobbiest kids on earth. I feel like I'm constantly nagging them to bring down the dishes in their room. And blech... the stench. I can't even fathom sleeping in a room like that, but it's like they don't even see the mess.
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Post by workingclassdog on Jun 13, 2016 20:56:47 GMT
I was a kid who did leave dishes in my room... I don't think (but it could be selective memory) it was anything that would ever mold... water glasses, pop glasses, a bowl of leftover popcorn... and I do remember my mom getting onto me... my sister was a total slob growing up with clothes and stuff but she swears she never left dishes in her room (and I don't remember)... she was was way messier than I ever dreamed of.. lol
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 13, 2016 21:35:51 GMT
My kids like to hoard mementos. Neither one of them eats in their room. I don't know why not, but I am glad of it. They do like to eat in the kitchen and leave crumbs on the counter though.
I do remember putting dirty dishes IN their rooms when they would leave them in the sink though. That ticked me off. The dishwasher was next to the sink.
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