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Post by littlemama on Jun 14, 2016 16:48:26 GMT
I don't think I've ever really been able to compete in the tacky invite contests here, but I might have one now. First a little background - in our area, when kids go to each other's grad parties, they do not take a gift, unless it is a really close friend. DS' graduating class was about 370 kids, and he is invited to at least 50 parties, so you can kind of see the rationale - that and the kids don't have that kind of money! So, anyway, one grad party he was invited to - first of all, is at a location an hour away. Most kids aren't going to go because there are many, many parties each day and if your venue is an hour away, people aren't going to commit that kind of time.
Now to the tacky part: Today, she posted this on her facebook event page: "Guys if you are coming please make sure you bring me a little congrats gift/money in a card. I don't want you guys to show up and think you are just gonna party cause that's not right, and I will never hear the end of it from my mom."
Discuss.
UPDATE JUNE 18:
4:00 fb post : "Guys, the party starts at 5 not 8." (I have seen a bunch of invites where fb is screwing up the time, so this isn't surprising)
730 fb post "Hey where is everyone at?!?!? Y'all need to get here"
8:00 fb post: "hey guys I'm sorry about my time changed and all I expect more of you showing up at 8-830 and tomorrow everyone is leaving at 12 or 1 pm ok see you guys soon."
945 fb post "Hey where is everyone"
I'm pretty sure if no one is at your party at 945 pm and it's an hour away, no one is coming, especially if they saw the original demand post. I'm feeling bad for her because she clearly doesn't know how to act and doesn't understand the repercussions of that.
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Post by bigbundt on Jun 14, 2016 16:49:42 GMT
Sounds like she took after her mom in the etiquette department.  |
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Jun 14, 2016 16:49:54 GMT
Some people are just so tacky!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 14, 2016 16:49:56 GMT
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Post by mellowyellow on Jun 14, 2016 16:53:58 GMT
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Post by hop2 on Jun 14, 2016 16:54:55 GMT
Well, if I were going to drive the hour, I'm not now. Lol
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Post by mom on Jun 14, 2016 16:56:40 GMT
Tacky.
And completely sounds like Mom has already been complaining.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 14, 2016 16:57:49 GMT
Unless this child was related to me, I would not be going.
I really can't see classmates going either unless this was the only party that day.
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At least she is being honest. Mom will be angry if you don't bring a card/gift. Mom is not saying this aloud, girl just knows how mom feels. Mom probably feels like you are being disrespectful if you show up empty handed.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jun 14, 2016 16:58:22 GMT
 Well, obviously she needs the money for etiquette classes. Wow, I would be mortified if my kid posted that.
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Post by bigbundt on Jun 14, 2016 17:03:25 GMT
I'm so glad grad parties are not the norm here.
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Post by Woobster on Jun 14, 2016 17:04:25 GMT
Balls that clank. Seriously.
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Post by smginaz Suzy on Jun 14, 2016 17:06:07 GMT
I'd wanna post back that my Mom is only letting me attend parties without a cover charge.
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Post by ilikepink on Jun 14, 2016 17:11:51 GMT
Wow. If this girl is being raised like this, I wouldn't want to to see what her shower/wedding/baby shower will be like.
BTW, when my sons graduated it was the same - way too many kids/parties to give gifts - only for the "bff"s
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Post by Just T on Jun 14, 2016 17:17:07 GMT
Yikes! That is tacky!! I don't often have tacky things to share here, but one thing this weekend made me roll my eyes. My daughter graduated a couple of weeks ago, so she is now making the rounds of grad parties. Our whole family has been invited to some (her boyfriend's and some of her close friends who I know well). One of her best friend's party was this past weekend. I was planning to give her money, but my daughter told me the day of the party that the girl had been telling people "My mom is going to give you $50, just so ya know!" I told my daughter that is wonderful, but, I can't give $50 to all of her friends. I doubt the girl's mom knew her daughter was saying that because I know her, and she would probably be mortified. |
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Post by BoilerUp! on Jun 14, 2016 17:22:13 GMT
I'd wanna post back that my Mom is only letting me attend parties without a cover charge. Best post of the day goes to you smginaz Suzy!!!! |
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Post by AnotherPea on Jun 14, 2016 17:26:33 GMT
Oh my.
I wouldn't be so quick to blame Mom though. She might be mortified when she finds out. I work with teens and there have been times that parents were shocked at what their kids said. And the beliefs they've held. Teens don't always get their ideas from home.
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Post by bc2ca on Jun 14, 2016 17:40:18 GMT
This party would be dropped from the ones DD attended. With so many parties going on in the 2 weeks around graduation, DD and friends mapped out their route each day and spent 30-60 minutes at each party. She went to a magnet charter school, so the parties weren't in our neighborhood. There is no way a party that required 2 hours of drive time would make the cut unless (maybe) it was her BFF. Gifts were only given to & received from her closest friends.
Some parents seem to think their kid is the only one graduating and having a party.
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 14, 2016 17:44:33 GMT
I'm so glad grad parties are not the norm here. Usually they are fun. You can just hop from one to the other. Good time to catch up with people you haven't seen for a while. If I get a graduation announcement from a former student, I always send back a gift card from Target, but that is not the norm. I think gifts from relatives are the norm, but other than that, most people are just happy to see your face and feed you for a few minutes. |
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 14, 2016 17:46:59 GMT
Oh my. I wouldn't be so quick to blame Mom though. She might be mortified when she finds out. I work with teens and there have been times that parents were shocked at what their kids said. And the beliefs they've held. Teens don't always get their ideas from home. I saw it differently. I did suspect the girl had been hearing comments from her mom. Either way though, it is wrong. In the past I was always quick to blame the parents, but since I have had kids, my opinions have changed!  |
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Post by raindancer on Jun 14, 2016 17:48:17 GMT
Wait. I've seen on Plenty of threads that if you are invited to a wedding your gift should at a minimum be worth enough to cover the costs of the food and venue for everyone in your party.
It's pretty easy to see how this could be expected to trickle down to lesser events.
I think both expectations are tacky.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 14, 2016 18:16:49 GMT
Not sure what to think other than it's a bit forward. Perhaps something happened in the past (birthday party?) where people showed up without bearing gifts or that this is her first exposure to grad parties? Is this party at a special venue with only a few invited guests? DS went to one grad party on a boat where only a few classmates were invited and he did bring a gift to that one. I guess the saving grace is that she did say a "little" gift so she's not expecting much, but simply a small token.
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 14, 2016 18:20:06 GMT
Wait. I've seen on Plenty of threads that if you are invited to a wedding your gift should at a minimum be worth enough to cover the costs of the food and venue for everyone in your party. It's pretty easy to see how this could be expected to trickle down to lesser events. I think both expectations are tacky. In my head, I see that a wedding gift was to send the couple onto a new life together. Traditionally speaking, joining two people to make one home. Kids graduating from high school don't technically start a new life where they would need support. We have had several graduations in the past 3 years and gifts were really only given from the family. His science teacher gave him Herpes. It was a little bright yellow smiling stuffed animal that was a cell of the herpes virus. She said it reminded her of him. |
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Post by bwife on Jun 14, 2016 19:04:41 GMT
it sounds like to me that maybe she is taking a hint from mom. maybe mom has been complaining about the cost of this and that.... the Venue, the food, the decor. Maybe she has made comments like "this better be worth it and you better get lots of gifts". I know a few people that would say / have said these exact things. I will go on to say it is not me! I am just glad when people can join us. We had a big grad party for our son. It was NOT about the gifts, it was ALL about friends and family coming together to congratulate him and see him before he went off to college.
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Post by gina on Jun 14, 2016 19:09:03 GMT
I am embarrassed FOR this girl right now. Good God.  |
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Post by Loydene on Jun 14, 2016 19:16:20 GMT
And then someone will post an "help me make this girl happy" post that no one came to her graduation party so we should all send cards or contribute to her "go fund me" page or something else as inane.
I'm hoping that the natural consequences of such a post will be a life long lesson.
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Post by calgal08 on Jun 14, 2016 19:34:36 GMT
What the what!!!! Beyond words
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Post by keesha on Jun 14, 2016 19:44:02 GMT
Since this girl probably isn't going to learn what is appropriate behavior from her mom I hope someone can clue her in nicely...
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Post by anniefb on Jun 14, 2016 20:02:17 GMT
Sounds like she took after her mom in the etiquette department. Yeah that ^^ |
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Post by anxiousmom on Jun 14, 2016 20:04:33 GMT
(or she is that girl who didn't really want to have a party, has had to listen to her mom complain about how much it is going to cost and hopes people bring gifts so out of self-preservation she posted to her friends so that she really doesn't have to listen to her mom.)
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Post by Mary_K on Jun 14, 2016 20:08:15 GMT
HOLY *(^%!
We're going to need a follow up post for this! The party outcome and any details!
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Well, obviously she needs the money for etiquette classes. 
