Anyone have siblings that don't want a relationship w/you?

You posted this just for me. How thoughtful! My sister and I have not spoken or acknowledged each other's existence on the planet for probably 5 years, maybe longer. I had finally had enough of her horrid treatment of me and I told her not to ever contact me again in life. Around the first of the year she forwarded some 10 year old emails to me that I had sent to her, along with her nasty comments added and I deleted them and returned an email with the subject: Don't ever contact me again. She also sent some of my emails to other family members just to be a bitch.
I only feel bad because my sister also cut off my mom because my mom would not cut me off. The two grandchildren don't even come and see my mom - they are adults and live just an hour away. I really hate my sister for that. I could fill the board with stories of what my sister has done to me and still only cover a portion. I feel very sad that I don't have a sister relationship, but not with her. I love that she is not in my life.

My 2 brothers - well we are not close, never have been. One ne'er do well brother lives with my mom and I see him more often. He's OK, sort of, but we have our history too. My other brother - we are only 11 months apart and he is someone I don't really like; very braggy, doesn't even pretend to like me really, but I can be in his presence for very short periods. He's an alcoholic and is usually drunk when I'm around him.

I have 3 half siblings. I was not raised with them but was around them a whole lot when they were young. I see their posts on facebook. That's about it.

You know my uncle was dying when I was pregnant with my second child. He said, "Teach your boys to be friends. Here I am dying and I have no relationship with my brother (my dad)." I tried to teach them to be good friends, but I think there is something genetic in my family where we just can;t get along with our siblings. Now they are adults and occasionally talk or get together, but I have no inclination that they will ever be loving siblings. Both my mom and my dad moved away when they turned 18, so they never were around their families either. I think that has something to do with it when you aren't close to your family of origin and your kids grow up without seeing close family bonds. Just a thought.

This I could have written myself except I *do* see my brother when he sort of puts his foot down and attends family events. He won't go without her though!!! So if she doesn't want to go, he doesn't go. He says that she is his wife and he has to live with her and doesn't want to deal with the backlash of having to listen to her bitch for days if he goes.

We all tell him to get some balls and step up and tell her that we are HIS family and he will see us no matter what! His kids don't know any of us because she thinks she is so much better than our family.

I will never understand that if we are so lowlife to her and that we aren't "good enough" for her, why she married my brother in the first place. It's just bizarre to me.

I a member of this club as well.

I am the youngest of 3 girls (5 kids total). Me and my middle sister have no relationship. She is just manipulative. She is at my dads house (2 min away) for Fathers Day (she lives 8 hours away). No phone call, no email. nothing to say she was in town. But, she will go on facebook complaining that she is all alone, her friends are her family because her family doesnt care, etc.

You know how you finally get to a place where you're just done with a person? Im so there.

The only family I have left is my sister and her son. She lives about 10 minutes from me and I see them maybe once every few years and that is usually to meet for lunch at a resteraunt. Other than that the only time I hear from her when she needs money, but I never give her any yet she persists in that venue. Even when we were children we did not really have a relationship, no like or dislike it just we are very different.

She is three years older and she is ok, just never grew emotionally and is very immature. I never really had a relationship with her or my nephew who is 30 years old and still lives with her, though I have tried. Funny thing is he has a career but just has not moved on, just like her I guess.

We get along fine. There are 5 of the 6 still living. I have a strained relationship with my youngest sister. I would have called her my best friend until my DH was diagnosed with cancer. I don't know what happened, but she disappeared from my life. She and my other sister do things together frequently, but I am never included. I cried buckets over the years, now I just don't care. I don't have the energy to deal with it.

This sad club is growing by one. I am the middle child of nine - five brothers and three sisters. 

I have not  had contact with my eldest brother since our mother died in July 1989. I have had no contact with my eldest sister, younger sister and two younger brothers since December 1999. 

As as you can see there is not many left - I have regular - weekly visits and phone calls during the week - with the remaining sister and regular phone calls with an older and younger brother. Both brothers live interstate so only see them occasionally. 

I have grieved for these relationships but asked myself "if I was to meet these people in a social situation would I make a friend of them?" The answer being no makes my life easier. I really don't need or want their drama. 

Sad ad but a fact of life unfortunately. Have some really great friends though. 

Just because you share the blood does not mean that you have to have a relationship.
I refuse to have contact with people who have been a major source of contention in my life. They do well without me and I do well without them.

I agree whole heartedly! Life's way too short to have that crap in your life and a person should not feel that because we are related I need to have you in my life.

After reading what some of you have gone though it makes me thankful I never got the sibling I so wanted as a child.

Unfortunately, yes. My brother pretty much fell off the face of the earth after our father died 26 years ago. Brother was a young adult at the time). At that time brother was living in Colorado, I'm in Seattle. For a while he would be in touch with family members (including grandparents, aunts, and uncles) sporadically when he needed something. The last time I set eyes on him and spoke with him was about 17 ish years ago when he stopped by my house unannounced (after first stopping by my mom's and harassing her) and wanted me to buy some herbal something or other that he was selling.

As more time went by he decided he hated everyone, except my sister. He Would be in touch with her when he was in town. She died 6 years ago. I have no idea where he is or whether he's alive or dead. I don't expect any of us will ever hear from him again.

When my mother died 5 years ago I had to hire a private detective to try and track him down (at the courts request) because she left him a bequest. We had no luck. To this day I have no idea what prompted his disappearance. 

I think sometimes siblings do much better without each other. I don't know your circumstances  but my sister has just ruined her kids and grand kids, caused my wonderful father a lot of grief, has no respect for herself or others, has NEVER worked or supported herself and leeches off of everyone, hangs out with the scummiest people on the planet. i will be so happy when I don't have to deal with her any more. I get sick at my stomach when I get a phone call or email from her because I know it will be more drama.

I'm sorry you don't have a good relationship with your brother, if you would like to be close.   Maybe he is the jerk. My sister would tell you that I am the problem because I don't associate with people like her and think that I am better than everyone else.  Not true by the way.

I have 4 siblings. We've never had a falling out, but they are all busy with their own lives. Ironically, I'm the closest with the sister I fought the most with when we were younger. I don't like to have a close relationship with them. They do mean well, but invariably they have to tell mom what I have told them out of concern.

I am sorry.

I have two brothers and we are very close. We fight sometimes (like the time my younger brother racked up a couple thousand dollars worth of tolls on my car). I thought then about ending my relationship with him. But I just cannot imagine doing that. I know that he is a really good person who made a really bad mistake. I love him and I have forgiven him. I know that when it comes down to it, both of my brothers would do anything for me--just as I would for them.

For example, I took my older brother to get a colonoscopy last week. And – got a play-by-play on the prep. That's love.