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Aug 4, 2014 18:15:16 GMT
Post by manda on Aug 4, 2014 18:15:16 GMT
I didn't follow the Mr. Darcy threads. Was he a co-worker by chance? Maybe he went to HR and filed harassment charges? He was a co-worker. I work in HR and while stories of a co-worker may be nutty, it's not harassment.
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Aug 4, 2014 18:16:53 GMT
Post by back to *pea*ality on Aug 4, 2014 18:16:53 GMT
I didn't follow the Mr. Darcy threads. Was he a co-worker by chance? Maybe he went to HR and filed harassment charges? He was a co-worker. I work in HR and while stories of a co-worker may be nutty, it's not harassment. I didn't say it was. But that might not mean he didn't file a complaint. And there's always a backstory...
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Aug 4, 2014 18:20:26 GMT
Post by mzza111 on Aug 4, 2014 18:20:26 GMT
I'm so confused. I've tried reading this thread and I just get more confused...maybe posts were deleted.
Is there confirmation that Benem was making all this stalking stuff up? Or was she just over sharing on the net?
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Post by katieanna on Aug 4, 2014 18:21:31 GMT
This is such a large thread that after reading the first two pages I'd decided to read the last two.... I was going to post in support of Benem and hope that all is going well for her... Now I don't know what to say.
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Post by lovetodigi on Aug 4, 2014 18:27:50 GMT
Wow - lots of drama this weekend! I have questions about some of the things mentioned here. First off - someone contacted Mrs. Tyler's employer? Really? When did this happen and did anyone figure out who it was? That is completely unbelievable to me (not that I am doubting the story - but WHO does that???) I'm not that surprised. All she sdeven, lynlam, skybar etc have to say is "boo" and the vitriolic harassment follows. If you go over and look up that thread (on 2 Peas) that talked about that happening, you will see that, even the people that do not agree with the peas that you listed, were upset by what happened to Mrs. Tyler and defended her. It was a former Pea that had been banned from 2Ps that threatened Mrs T on that blog and apparently carried out her threat. No one was happy with what happened to Mrs. Tyler. That was way overstepping the line. Even if we don't always agree with each other on here, the majority of refugpeas/Peas still care about each other and do not wish anyone harm in any way, shape or form. When Skybar disappeared, there were a lot of Peas that don't usually agree with what she says, sincerely concerned about her. Just because we don't agree on things does not mean that we don't care.
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Post by admin on Aug 4, 2014 18:33:24 GMT
I'm so confused. I've tried reading this thread and I just get more confused...maybe posts were deleted. Is there confirmation that Benem was making all this stalking stuff up? Or was she just over sharing on the net? No, there is no confirmation.
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Aug 4, 2014 18:47:21 GMT
Post by MDscrapaholic on Aug 4, 2014 18:47:21 GMT
Thanks for verifying Fairy Podmother. I guess we will all just have to wait and see what happens.
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Post by penny on Aug 4, 2014 18:53:47 GMT
I wish for the OP what I wish for everyone here - a happy, healthy, safe existence... I have no idea what the truth is, and I don't actually care - something unhealthy is happening and I hope it gets resolved in a positive way...
Before I sound too Pollyanna, if this is created drama I have no patience for it... A lot of Peas have gone through threatening, stalking, abusive situations and this kind of thing not only diminishes their struggle and survival, but can also act as a trigger... I hope any Pea who's feeling on edge because of things brought up soon is able to relax and feel safe...
There something special about how so many of us come together on issues... Like with MrsT, agree or not, like her or not, the Peas were fiercely protective... I hope that in this situation Pea radar is accurate and that our outrage is directed where it should be...
FPM - I trust that you did what you felt was right based on information that was shared with you... Doing what you feel is best for another person is a kindness I respect, so thank you for that...
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Post by freebird on Aug 4, 2014 18:59:11 GMT
I'm so confused. I've tried reading this thread and I just get more confused...maybe posts were deleted. Is there confirmation that Benem was making all this stalking stuff up? Or was she just over sharing on the net? No, there is no confirmation. I don't think I like this thread much. I went back and read and saw nothing but people throwing out "theories" and then someone picking that up and running with it. By the end people are calling her a crazy nut job and talking about how much of a blowhard she has been.
Maybe she is, but maybe she's not.
I've always liked Benem/Mariah. I don't know if she likes me or not. I've always found her interesting and intelligent. What I DON'T like is quotes getting deleted by admin. That' seems to go quite against one of the 10 commandments of the pod "#4 'you know the rules'" and you get quoted for posterity.
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Aug 4, 2014 19:05:39 GMT
Post by christine58 on Aug 4, 2014 19:05:39 GMT
I didn't follow the Mr. Darcy threads. Was he a co-worker by chance? Maybe he went to HR and filed harassment charges? He was a co-worker. I work in HR and while stories of a co-worker may be nutty, it's not harassment. It could be if what she posted here and what she actually said or did were two different things...
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Post by elaine on Aug 4, 2014 19:09:07 GMT
"applause applause applause" is also a line from a Lady Gaga song Yes, and she chose it as her motto/status tag on 2Peas. If someone tells you what motivates them - "I live for the applause, applause, applause" - there is no reason not to believe them. Given her interactions with the group of pearefugees on the Mr. Darcy threads, it appeared that the praise she got from people was a big motivator for her regular updates. People even started threads asking where she was if she missed her daily update on that saga, and she appeared to really enjoy that.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 4, 2014 19:09:46 GMT
No, there is no confirmation. I went back and read and saw nothing but people throwing out "theories" and then someone picking that up and running with it. By the end people are calling her a crazy nut job and talking about how much of a blowhard she has been. That's just wrong.
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Post by smartypants71 on Aug 4, 2014 19:21:05 GMT
I agree. I doubt I'll ever know the truth, but I don't like the idea of throwing out the terms crazy, nutjob, etc. What a pile on this is turning out to be. I'm still confused on what events occurred to bring on this thread though. Why the hell is my quote feature messed up? I was quoting Freebird's post just a few posts above mine.
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Post by lisasahm on Aug 4, 2014 19:24:59 GMT
*sits in corner with wide eyes*
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Post by luckyexwife on Aug 4, 2014 19:29:22 GMT
This thread is full of speculation and pure meanness. We have no idea what the truth is, and some of the comments by some long time peas are very shocking. Yes, we all have theories of what the truth is, but that is all they are. How sad the torches and pitchforks are so close at hand for so many here.
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Post by annabella on Aug 4, 2014 19:35:28 GMT
I agree. I doubt I'll ever know the truth, but I don't like the idea of throwing out the terms crazy, nutjob, etc. What a pile on this is turning out to be. I'm still confused on what events occurred to bring on this thread though. Why the hell is my quote feature messed up? I was quoting Freebird's post just a few posts above mine. ITA I think we should end the pile on. My opinion of Mariah or her threads isn't important, I think everyone's got their 2 cents in, this has turned into a mean girl pile on.
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Post by lucyg on Aug 4, 2014 19:39:21 GMT
Wow - lots of drama this weekend! I have questions about some of the things mentioned here. First off - someone contacted Mrs. Tyler's employer? Really? When did this happen and did anyone figure out who it was? That is completely unbelievable to me (not that I am doubting the story - but WHO does that???) I'm not that surprised. All she sdeven, lynlam, skybar etc have to say is "boo" and the vitriolic harassment follows. I have two more pages to read, so maybe this has been addressed already, but: Sabrina, don't you dare try to lay that one at the feet of the liberals! We were limapea's first and continuing victims. Mrs. Tyler was a sidetrack for her. She may call herself a liberal, but she is a flaming wacko and we don't take responsibility for her.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 4, 2014 19:41:27 GMT
If Benems mental state is fragile then I hope to goodness she isn't reading any of this. To laugh at someone who might be in need of genuine help is just mind boggling. I always liked her posts but took them with a grain of salt, she obviously embellished for entertainment value, maybe it got her through the day, who knows?
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Post by mzza111 on Aug 4, 2014 19:42:04 GMT
I went back and read and saw nothing but people throwing out "theories" and then someone picking that up and running with it. By the end people are calling her a crazy nut job and talking about how much of a blowhard she has been. I think this is what was so confusing. I totally get all of the "get off the internet" responses to the OP but the rest of this thread is weird. People are talking as if they are posting facts about her. As the admin said, there is no confirmation of anything from the OP.
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Post by Sam on Aug 4, 2014 19:43:41 GMT
I don't think I like this thread much. I went back and read and saw nothing but people throwing out "theories" and then someone picking that up and running with it. By the end people are calling her a crazy nut job and talking about how much of a blowhard she has been. I'm with you on this - it's one thing to question, another to have a full blown Lord Of The Flies gang-up on someone. I'm certainly not beyond reading it, but feel a little uncomfortable with how much fuel is being added to the fire here. I'm also not handslapping - free speech and all that.. but there is also the OP and, given that so many seem to think she has 'issues' and how people respond in a defensive way over others who do in their own lives, it's a little disingenuous to be quite so gleeful in the attack. She's an adult and reaps what she sows, but I will give some benefit of the doubt because I am in a good mood tonight! Oh, and I didn't realize that so many didn't know that she was Mariah2 - she was quite open about that on 2Peas as far as I remember.
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Post by admin on Aug 4, 2014 19:51:11 GMT
If Benems mental state is fragile then I hope to goodness she isn't reading any of this. To laugh at someone who might be in need of genuine help is just mind boggling. I always liked her posts but took them with a grain of salt, she obviously embellished for entertainment value, maybe it got her through the day, who knows? Quite. Anyone remember TheraPea?
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Post by wenchie on Aug 4, 2014 21:33:40 GMT
All joking aside, these kinds of threads irritate the crap out of me because, as we've seen in the past, we can only have people cry wolf so many times before we start questioning everyone on everything they post. It damages the community as a whole. I I agree with this. Holy hell! Someone called mrsT's employer?? Who does that. I didn't agree with a single thing she posted but calling her employee is low, lower than low. MrsT if you are reading this, I am so sorry that someone woud stalk and harass you.
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Post by luckyexwife on Aug 4, 2014 21:36:11 GMT
Who was TheraPea?
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Aug 4, 2014 21:55:41 GMT
Post by peanuttle on Aug 4, 2014 21:55:41 GMT
I am so sorry you are dealing with this. It truly amazes me how shi**y people can be. Sending hugs and good thoughts your way!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 4, 2014 22:07:51 GMT
I am so sorry you are dealing with this. It truly amazes me how shi**y people can be. Sending hugs and good thoughts your way! Yes, but that street runs both ways and if someone - especially someone who has a history of this under various user names - is, for their own entertainment or other reasons, playing with people here (and formerly Two Peas) then they need to accept the consequences.
I don't know what the current story is, but there's a hell of a backstory, that's for sure.
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Aug 4, 2014 22:12:24 GMT
Post by wholarmor on Aug 4, 2014 22:12:24 GMT
Therapea was someone who was known for drama, too. Later she passed away, and her son came to 2peas to announce her death. Some people didn't believe it to be true and were pretty mean to her son. The obituary was posted, and those peas were feeling pretty bad.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 4, 2014 22:17:22 GMT
Therapea was someone who was known for drama, too. Later she passed away, and her son came to 2peas to announce her death. Some people didn't believe it to be true and were pretty mean to her son. The obituary was posted, and those peas were feeling pretty bad. But that's not the whole story.
She had a previous history of some very odd posting, her son logged into her account to announce her death, and we had already had multiple "dead pea" fakes before.
And that's exactly what I mean by saying that when people do this type of thing (cry wolf) it hurts the community as a whole because there comes a day that it isn't fake.
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Post by admin on Aug 4, 2014 22:29:22 GMT
Therapea was someone who was known for drama, too. Later she passed away, and her son came to 2peas to announce her death. Some people didn't believe it to be true and were pretty mean to her son. The obituary was posted, and those peas were feeling pretty bad. That, and it has colored how I've viewed potentially similar situations ever since. I consider the cost to me if what I'm being told is untrue and I believe it, versus the cost to the other person if it is true and I am unkind to them because I assume it to be untrue. I haven't yet come across a time where the cost to me for giving the benefit of the doubt is the greater of the two.
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Aug 4, 2014 22:49:35 GMT
Benem,
I first got sucked into 2Peas because of some epic religion threads a few years ago. Under your former name, I often enjoyed your (well-written) posts because you clearly valued research-based knowledge, and you knew a lot about the history of Christianity. Even today, linking to the thread about the Salem wands, I learned from your posts about Paganism/Wicca(ism?), and thought you handled the dissenters with good humor. Your ability to synthesize themes among religions really did set you apart.
I haven't been interested in the subjects of your recent threads. Different strokes and all. The new themes also set you apart, but in a very different way than I describe above.
Since you seem to be at a crossroads, I wanted to mention that I valued your academic approach to religion discussions and would enjoy hearing more if you return.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 4, 2014 22:50:33 GMT
I agree with something Annabella posted previously. (don't want to go find it to quote her) I was certainly involved in the disbelief of this thread earlier. My last post was on page 5. As duped as I feel and as much as I still wish the OP well, I think that after 11 pages, everyone that's needed to get a dig in has had an opportunity. If OP ever comes back or reads this, I don't think she needs to read another 11 pages of people trashing her.
Perhaps it's time to call it a day and move on? Just how many more pages do we need?
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