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Post by nantini on Aug 4, 2014 12:33:28 GMT
As a parent that had a dd in those dance intensives, I can see your point. But, I wouldn't make waves if my dd was thinking about a permanent spot in their company. Sometimes it's the little things that can get you red marked.
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Post by melodyesch on Aug 4, 2014 13:01:47 GMT
Glad you got it somewhat straightened out. Sounds like that one counselor just got a stick up her butt about something.
The whole think is ridiculous for casual attire that is worn outside of class when they are hanging out in their dorms and whatnot. I guess spaghetti strapped tops that covered that one inch of stomach would be ok? I see teens walking around our neighborhood in similar outfits during the summer and think nothing of it. As long as their boobs aren't hanging out and their ass isn't showing, it looks fine to me.
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Post by tuva42 on Aug 4, 2014 14:04:42 GMT
Do you have a 17 yr old daughter? Or are you projecting? I would highly recommend not turning this thread into something else. I do not have the patience for it. And I do not care what you think you would and would not allow your own 17 yo college student to wear. I have a 16 year old DD. I wouldn't let her wear shirts like that. I don't think the general public needs to see her abs, fit or otherwise.
That being said, your DD's camp counselor should not have changed the rules mid-camp. I am, however, surprised that you are surprised that the counselor doesn't think the shirts are appropriate. I suppose, though, if all of your DD's friends are wearing these shirts to school regularly, then you would not find them overly revealing. Perhaps we live in a more conservative area, but girls wouldn't get away with wearing those shirts to schools or camps.
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garcia5050
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Post by garcia5050 on Aug 4, 2014 14:29:40 GMT
I have a 9 year old DD. I don't let her wear stuff like that but they sell so much worse (and for really young girls). She wants to wear the crap because some of her friends do. My goal is that by the time she reaches high school, her limits will have been well established. Probably not, but I can hope. That being said, I think if my daughter wore an outfit like the one in the picture as a 17 year old, I think I'd be doing a pretty good job. I'm just stunned at the outfits I see on those high school girls when I happen to drive by. Butt cheeks hanging out, see through tops, I've seen the no bra look with under boob peeking out. Way more than an inch of midriff. It's crazy. I'm just glad the super low rise Jean is no longer the norm. i guess I am saying I'm also a prude, but that outfit is not bad. At 17, I would allow.
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Post by MerryMom on Aug 4, 2014 15:22:46 GMT
Sorry, but I wouldn't let my daughter dress like that, regardless of the dress code.
It looks like the "Fly Girl" look is back.
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Post by wenchie on Aug 5, 2014 22:02:21 GMT
Do you have a 17 yr old daughter? Or are you projecting? I would highly recommend not turning this thread into something else. I do not have the patience for it. And I do not care what you think you would and would not allow your own 17 yo college student to wear. I have a 16 year old DD. I wouldn't let her wear shirts like that. I don't think the general public needs to see her abs, fit or otherwise.
That being said, your DD's camp counselor should not have changed the rules mid-camp. I am, however, surprised that you are surprised that the counselor doesn't think the shirts are appropriate. I suppose, though, if all of your DD's friends are wearing these shirts to school regularly, then you would not find them overly revealing. Perhaps we live in a more conservative area, but girls wouldn't get away with wearing those shirts to schools or camps. Geez. I love how pearl clutchy people are about a shirt and shorts. Nothing is showing! I think it is modest and age appropriate. No butt no boobs. SMDH
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Post by gryroagain on Aug 5, 2014 22:24:44 GMT
My daughter is younger than yours, so we're just dipping our toe into summer intensives. My observation is that there is a high level of unreasonable expectations on flexibility and unlimited money. I'm sure it's partly due to the fact that particularly for the top tier programs, many, many more dancers want to attend than they can accommodate - then you add on the utterly insane fees which the parents pay - it's not too surprising that in their mind, picking up a few tanks at target isn't a huge deal when you're already in for several thousands of dollars. The number of last minute skirts, jazz shoes, different colored leos etc. is mind boggling. Most of it was communicated before we actually shipped her off, but in general we've been pretty unimpressed with the overall organization of the programs we've participated in - if the actually ballet company is well run, I'd call that success.
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Post by gryroagain on Aug 5, 2014 22:27:58 GMT
Well that was weird- I meant to quote Darcy!
But this, times 1000. It seems like in ballet the expectation is unlimited time, money and hoop jumping from parents and students...when we are the customer, here, after all! Not fair to have a dress code implemented halfway through, you were right to fight it.
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