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Post by jenjie on Jul 1, 2016 5:09:40 GMT
A year ago today I said goodbye to my Fred. You walked through his illness and this year after with me. I went back and read those threads again. You have blessed and encouraged me more than you know. You have validated me, advised me, wept with me, extended kindness upon kindness to me. My fb pea friends are probably tired of me posting parts of our story all week. I did copy and paste bits that I had shared with you guys. Now I'll share with you what I posted on Facebook tonight about our day: "I did it. It was grueling. I wasn't sure I was up to the task but I prevailed. I overcame. Although this picture could represent how I feel a lot of days, This is me in the middle of an intense game of Sorry - Fred's favorite game. He knew exactly how many spaces it would take to get home from any spot on the board. He was like a Sorry savant. First the kids made me to go to Texas Roadhouse. I survived. Next was Rita's water ice, Fred loved their gelatis. Then this never ending game of Sorry, where my kids took glee in trying to trounce me. I went from saying we should play once a week to we should never play again. But I am the champion my friends! I whipped their Sorry butts!"  Dd showed me this picture for the first time. It was from last Fathers Day. She had asked him to take a selfie together. This makes me laugh because it was Fred through and through.  |
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Post by lumo on Jul 1, 2016 5:16:38 GMT
I can't believe it's been a year. Hugs to you, lady. Your grace and strength have been an inspiration to many this past year.
And I love that pic your daughter shared.
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Post by flanz on Jul 1, 2016 5:23:11 GMT
Much love to you and your kiddos! Thanks for the gifts you share with us time after time. Your willingness to be raw and honest and vulnerable is a blessing to all of us.
xo
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Post by olbrwneyedgirl on Jul 1, 2016 5:23:54 GMT
Their "Sorry butts!" HA!
Jenjie...you have taught all of us so many things. The transparency with which you have shared your journey will ripple forth from this community. You have helped us to understand grieving just a little better and in the future you will be there, in spirit, as we comfort others.
I know it's been a year, but again...I am so sorry for your loss. Blessings to you, your family, and all who loved Fred.
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Post by peano on Jul 1, 2016 5:24:10 GMT
You have given us the rare and intimate gift of letting us witness your experience of loss and grieving. I feel honored you were willing to open up and share that with us. I love the photo of Fred and your DD.
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Post by scrappinspidey2 on Jul 1, 2016 5:28:15 GMT
Big big hugs!!!
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Post by Delta Dawn on Jul 1, 2016 5:31:09 GMT
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Post by finally~a~mama on Jul 1, 2016 5:33:18 GMT
((hugs)) to you
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Post by papersilly on Jul 1, 2016 5:35:07 GMT
I appreciate you allowing us to share this journey with you. You have provided such an intimate view of loss and grief and yet served as a great example of grace and resilience.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 1, 2016 5:36:27 GMT
Jenjie, I want to say thank you for sharing your journey with us, and being such a great example of love and perseverance. I have a close family member who lost her spouse 3 years ago, and has not handled it well at all. It has devastated what's left of our family. You give me hope. I feel the love you have for Fred and your family in all your posts-- it's beautiful and it's inspiring.  |
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Post by valincal on Jul 1, 2016 5:44:25 GMT
I'm glad we peas have brought you a bit of comfort...you deserve every bit of it. Hugs.
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Post by MsKnit on Jul 1, 2016 5:48:11 GMT
You have been incredible through this awful journey. You are an inspiration.
I so wish you would never have went through this. However, we RP were honored by your willingness to share.
((((Hugs))))
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Jul 1, 2016 5:52:58 GMT
Sending you love, hugs, and prayers.  |
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Post by utmr on Jul 1, 2016 5:59:25 GMT
Hugs and peace to you.
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Post by mom on Jul 1, 2016 6:12:43 GMT
You've handle this past year with grace. I am certain Fred is beaming with pride!
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Post by gar on Jul 1, 2016 6:27:37 GMT
I can't believe it's a year! You are an inspiration and I wish you and your children peace of mind and happiness on your journey forward  |
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Post by stargazer on Jul 1, 2016 6:38:24 GMT
Still in awe of how you've handled everything over the last few years and feel privileged that you shared that journey with us. We're proud of you & I'm sure Fred is too.
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Post by ModChick on Jul 1, 2016 6:39:24 GMT
Hugs and much love to you.
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Post by lucyg on Jul 1, 2016 6:50:22 GMT
Hey Jenjie. You got through today. So glad for you. I hope that is a weight off your mind now. Also: I haven't played in probably 35 years now, but back before we had kids, DH and I used to play killer cut-throat games of Sorry that would take all evening. We'd each play two markers so the whole board was in play. Good memories.  Hugs to you. |
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Jul 1, 2016 7:38:05 GMT
Love the selfie of Fred and your daughter! There is joy in the midst of sadness, and Fred knew that. What a precious photo!
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Post by Mystie on Jul 1, 2016 7:40:59 GMT
There are so many mile markers on this journey, aren't there? And now you've gotten past a big one. And now you keep on walking. I think you have helped many of us here, because we all have had to say good-bye to beloved people, and/or we know we will have to in the future. Your generosity in sharing your experiences helps us to process and think about our own big griefs. Hugs to you, dear.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 1, 2016 7:43:48 GMT
It's so hard to believe that it has been a year since you lost Fred. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences along the way, I'm sure you have been and will continue to be a help to others who will sadly go through the same thing. Hugs to you and your family. xx
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Post by DinCA on Jul 1, 2016 7:56:05 GMT
Even in your grief, you always bring a smile to my face!
I'm so glad you shared how you and your kids celebrated your husband - and the selfie photo! So awesome! You and the kids will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jul 1, 2016 8:03:39 GMT
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jul 1, 2016 10:14:49 GMT
Much love and gentle hugs to you and your children, sweetie. You are a strong, courageous woman who has shown so much grace as you traveled this road no one wants to go.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 1, 2016 10:19:00 GMT
Because of your openness, I have been able to help others walking this same path. You have handled it with such grace and strength, and you have touched many people. Praying this next year for your family will be filled with fun memories of Fred and the making of new family memories.
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Post by tuesdaysgone on Jul 1, 2016 10:32:55 GMT
I can only agree with what so many have said so well already, your willingness to share your pain over the past year has been very inspiring. I'm so glad to hear that this community has brought you some comfort and strength. In honestly sharing your story, you've done the same for so many. Continued peace as you and the kids move forward.
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Post by littlemama on Jul 1, 2016 10:35:37 GMT
jenjie your faith , strength, and grace in this horrible time should be an inspiration for all of us. Thank you for leaning on us when you needed us and allowing us to be of some small comfort to you through Fred's illness and passing and the year since.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 1, 2016 10:41:28 GMT
I've been thinking and praying for you and your family!
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