nickle831
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Post by nickle831 on Aug 3, 2014 14:28:48 GMT
If someone walks into a room that they had to open the door to enter, and then when they walk out they leave the door open. Should I have to say please when I call out to them to close the door? I don't think I should. Especially to an adult that should know better. What do the peas say?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 3, 2014 14:34:57 GMT
Even thought they are rude to not close the door that doesn't excuse rudeness on your part. Say please.
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Post by SockMonkey on Aug 3, 2014 14:39:20 GMT
Even thought they are rude to not close the door that doesn't excuse rudeness on your part. Say please. Gonna have to agree with this. |
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Post by myboysnme on Aug 3, 2014 14:39:46 GMT
I think Please close the door is a message that will be received better by the intended. If someone says to me, "Close the door" after I haven't, then it seems more like a chastisement.
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Post by Goldynn on Aug 3, 2014 14:40:59 GMT
I think Please close the door is a message that will be received better by the intended. If someone says to me, "Close the door" after I haven't, then it seems more like a chastisement. This. |
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Post by hop2 on Aug 3, 2014 14:41:54 GMT
I think Please close the door is a message that will be received better by the intended. If someone says to me, "Close the door" after I haven't, then it seems more like a chastisement. yes I agree |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 3, 2014 14:42:12 GMT
IMO, please and thank you are never dependent on another person's actions.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Aug 3, 2014 14:42:14 GMT
'Please' never does any harm.
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Post by colleen on Aug 3, 2014 14:45:14 GMT
IMO, please and thank you are never depenent on another person's actions.  |
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Post by peabay on Aug 3, 2014 14:50:42 GMT
Say please.
And this isn't a hill to die on. Choose your battles wisely.
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Post by Minnesota*Mom on Aug 3, 2014 14:56:22 GMT
Even thought they are rude to not close the door that doesn't excuse rudeness on your part. Say please. I agree with this! |
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Post by originalvanillabean on Aug 3, 2014 15:00:08 GMT
I think Please close the door is a message that will be received better by the intended. If someone says to me, "Close the door" after I haven't, then it seems more like a chastisement. Agree. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 3, 2014 15:00:36 GMT
Even thought they are rude to not close the door that doesn't excuse rudeness on your part. Say please. |
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Post by GiantsFan on Aug 3, 2014 15:01:07 GMT
Yes. Why would you not?
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Post by Trixie Bender on Aug 3, 2014 15:03:44 GMT
'Please' never does any harm. If said with any amount of snark it might. I agree with Peabay, but I would watch my tone of voice. |
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 3, 2014 15:10:37 GMT
As a child of the south, I tend to preface or end all requests with a please/thank you without even thinking about it.
Gah. Now I have Barney in my head singing "please and thank you, they're the magic words..."
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Post by cmhs on Aug 3, 2014 15:13:07 GMT
Don't be stingy with "please" and "thank you".
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Post by pattipea on Aug 3, 2014 15:15:39 GMT
Just because the person leaving the door open showed no manners, it shouldn't bring you down to his/her level of rudeness. Simply saying please and/or thank you is such an easy thing to do, but unfortunately, seems to be something we're hearing less and less these days. Be the bigger person.
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Post by msliz on Aug 3, 2014 15:16:16 GMT
I think Please close the door is a message that will be received better by the intended. If someone says to me, "Close the door" after I haven't, then it seems more like a chastisement. I wanted to add, sometimes a chastisement is in order, but even that can be done with a "please." |
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Post by lillieleigh on Aug 3, 2014 15:17:20 GMT
It costs so little to say please and thank you!
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Aug 3, 2014 15:18:11 GMT
I agree. They're being thoughtless. Don't let them drag you down too.
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nickle831
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Post by nickle831 on Aug 3, 2014 15:23:26 GMT
Say please. And this isn't a hill to die on. Choose your battles wisely. Lol oh I'm not dying on the hill over this one. We are at work, at a police dept. I'm in dispatch and was working on paper work the officer walked out and I just yelled out hey "ofc insert name" door. He came back in and flipped out that I didn't say please. So of course I went on the defensive and said okay fine please close the door that you left open after having to open it to begin with to come into the room. He Cussed, slammed the door and left. I'm not worried about it though he's had a bad day and I'll remember to say please next time. We are in the south. |
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Post by myshelly on Aug 3, 2014 15:25:50 GMT
I would absolutely say please.
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 3, 2014 15:26:42 GMT
Say please. And this isn't a hill to die on. Choose your battles wisely. Lol oh I'm not dying on the hill over this one. We are at work, at a police dept. I'm in dispatch and was working on paper work the officer walked out and I just yelled out hey "ofc insert name" door. He came back in and flipped out that I didn't say please. So of course I went on the defensive and said okay fine please close the door that you left open after having to open it to begin with to come into the room. He Cussed, slammed the door and left. I'm not worried about it though he's had a bad day and I'll remember to say please next time. We are in the south. And there is your answer really. LOL I have to admit I bristle a little if there is no please included...it sounds a bit harsh to my ears.  |
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Post by liv2297 on Aug 3, 2014 15:31:51 GMT
I agree, say please.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Aug 3, 2014 15:33:22 GMT
"An adult who should know better" Funny I was thinking that most adults should know better than to issue commands without extending common courtesy such as a Please. Good luck with that.
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Post by sharlag on Aug 3, 2014 15:34:39 GMT
I think if the dumbass has done this over and over and you're sick and tired of the non-door closing dumbassery, you're exempt from nicety.
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Post by myshelly on Aug 3, 2014 15:36:00 GMT
In the exact situation that you described in your subsequent post I think you need a please. I think it sounded like a very rude command and I would have bristled at it, too. Especially in the South  |
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nickle831
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Post by nickle831 on Aug 3, 2014 15:36:19 GMT
Lol oh I'm not dying on the hill over this one. We are at work, at a police dept. I'm in dispatch and was working on paper work the officer walked out and I just yelled out hey "ofc insert name" door. He came back in and flipped out that I didn't say please. So of course I went on the defensive and said okay fine please close the door that you left open after having to open it to begin with to come into the room. He Cussed, slammed the door and left. I'm not worried about it though he's had a bad day and I'll remember to say please next time. We are in the south. And there is your answer really. LOL I have to admit I bristle a little if there is no please included...it sounds a bit harsh to my ears. Lol |
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Post by phoenixcov on Aug 3, 2014 15:37:54 GMT
Close the door please is what I would of shouted.
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