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Post by Belia on Jul 25, 2016 1:06:00 GMT
BIL:
The invitation you put out there was about a combined party for a 1yo and a 27yo with drunkenness proclaimed as an integral part. You have a post stating that if you want to have a beer after your kid's party, it is not a big deal. Those are two very different scenarios. Had your invitation been more in line with your post, your sil would never have posted about it. We would have never had the responses that were posted. For that matter, your sil and db would have had very different feelings about the invitation. You bear some culpability in this kerfuffle.
bil
Seriously? You don't think maybe the invitation might have been embellished for the Pea tacky invite hall of fame? I really don't get the bil bashing, if you (general you) found out that a member of your family had been posting trash about you on a message board wouldn't you react in some way? Now I know the adult, mature thing to do would be confront them in person but sometimes showing that person up in public feels great. IMO neither side of this argument have behaved well. Nope. Don't think I would. If someone posted about something I did on a message board, and it was roundly criticized, I would read the responses and see what the fuss was about. Might even change my thinking on the topic, if everyone seemed to be unanimously of a different page than me. But I'm introspective like that. And my opinion might not change at all, tbh. I'm sure that somewhere online there are quite a few posts written about me by my bible-thumping, evangelical SIL describing me as a sinner x1000 because I drink wine and let my kids watch PG13 movies. If I was directed to those posts, I would roll my eyes and go about my day. I'm also sure that my sister has posted about her "crazy, left-wing, bleeding heart liberal" sister somewhere. So what? Now if personally identifiable information about me was posted at the same time, I *would* be angry and upset. Think about it this way: Ever read Dear Abby? Or Ann Landers? I'm sure someone somewhere has read a letter on there and thought, "Dang! That sounds just like MY life!" And it turned out to be true. But that letter writer is never excoriated like carblover was. She did nothing wrong.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2016 4:07:29 GMT
Carblover was always a bitch, so karma just came to bite her and she ran away with her tail between her legs. She obviously embellished the story and her bil has been nothing but polite here in setting the record straight. Always a bitch? I've never seen her be anything but nice, much less ALWAYS a bitch. Are you the only one that has seen or experienced this from her?
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Post by inkedup on Jul 25, 2016 4:19:23 GMT
I really liked Carblover and am sad she is gone. I can't believe someone outed her via FB. It's so vile and petty. I wish bil had outed the stalker rat and hate that we won't learn the identity of the psycho spreadsheet keeper.
I will say that there were a lot of cheap and ugly things said to him and about his family by many of the peas. I think he was actually quite restrained in light of the way he was attacked.
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Post by theshyone on Jul 25, 2016 4:31:00 GMT
Congratulations @carblover443 with this thread you're officially part of RPea's history and lore! 'Cause you know this is one that going to come up again and again. It's a gift that keeps on giving, much like the hangovers some of the guests are going to get. I know I'll think of it every time an invitation thread pops up. Oh, man, did you call it. Wow!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2016 4:48:40 GMT
I have nothing against carblover personally. I like her. But if any of you knew someone was here posting shit about your family trying to get a laugh, you'd be livid. I don't get all the hate directed at bil, at all. He didn't make her run off, she did that herself. And now there's a family feud in the making, and almost everyone here is blaming that on bil? That's ridiculous. She overshared in a place where some people know her real name through Facebook. You should never be shocked that this can happen--it can and it does, all the time, which is why I don't make fb friends here and don't post many actual identifying details. You have no idea who's watching and reading. I think people have the right to be pissed that a Pea member went all stalker on another member. That shit ain't right. It wasn't right when it was Mrs Tyler and it's not right now. It wasn't right when done to Mrs. Tyler or when done to Lynlam. I don't think we ever found out who did it to Mrs.T, but the one who attempted it with Lynlam was banned from the this board. I wonder if the 3 instances are connected in any way.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 25, 2016 5:06:11 GMT
I missed that one. When did that happen?
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 25, 2016 5:16:55 GMT
Why is this a public board? What is the benefit? To get and keep members?
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Post by lucyg on Jul 25, 2016 6:10:47 GMT
I think people have the right to be pissed that a Pea member went all stalker on another member. That shit ain't right. It wasn't right when it was Mrs Tyler and it's not right now. It wasn't right when done to Mrs. Tyler or when done to Lynlam. I don't think we ever found out who did it to Mrs.T, but the one who attempted it with Lynlam was banned from the this board. I wonder if the 3 instances are connected in any way. It was the pea formerly known as LimaPea who got in touch with Mrs. T's employer. Another crazy bitch.
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Post by mlynn on Jul 25, 2016 6:21:04 GMT
It wasn't right when done to Mrs. Tyler or when done to Lynlam. I don't think we ever found out who did it to Mrs.T, but the one who attempted it with Lynlam was banned from the this board. I wonder if the 3 instances are connected in any way. It was the pea formerly known as LimaPea who got in touch with Mrs. T's employer. Another crazy bitch. OMG! Someone contacted a pea's employer to start trouble? I cannot even imagine. Is there a thread? Can you post a link?
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anaterra
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Post by anaterra on Jul 25, 2016 6:27:58 GMT
Happened on the old board..Mrs Tyler is a teacher.. some pea thought she was on the boards to much during the school day.. found her school n called her principal... craaazzzyyyyy
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2016 6:33:02 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2016 6:36:37 GMT
It wasn't right when done to Mrs. Tyler or when done to Lynlam. I don't think we ever found out who did it to Mrs.T, but the one who attempted it with Lynlam was banned from the this board. I wonder if the 3 instances are connected in any way. It was the pea formerly known as LimaPea who got in touch with Mrs. T's employer. Another crazy bitch. I didn't know that. I remember LimaPea, any connection to Foolana or LizandJuan? If I remember right Foolana and LizandJuan were one in the same?
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Post by lucyg on Jul 25, 2016 6:40:31 GMT
It was the pea formerly known as LimaPea who got in touch with Mrs. T's employer. Another crazy bitch. OMG! Someone contacted a pea's employer to start trouble? I cannot even imagine. Is there a thread? Can you post a link? What anaterra said. It was at the old board. And I suppose I should be nicer about her, because I think she really did have a diagnosable mental illness. But that was one crazy bitch.
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Post by lucyg on Jul 25, 2016 6:45:50 GMT
It was the pea formerly known as LimaPea who got in touch with Mrs. T's employer. Another crazy bitch. I didn't know that. I remember LimaPea, any connection to Foolana or LizandJuan? If I remember right Foolana and LizandJuan were one in the same? No, I don't think so. Her real name was Teresa or some variation. She had been a member for a long time under a different name, fairly quiet, and then suddenly she changed her name and started attacking people. I paid attention because I was the first person she went after. Batya was second. I might have saved the old threads, but my computer died. My son downloaded a bunch of stuff for me from the hard drive, but I really don't know what he saved and I'm not even really sure where that EHD went.
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Post by joelise on Jul 25, 2016 9:59:08 GMT
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Post by mollycoddle on Jul 25, 2016 10:07:09 GMT
I think people have the right to be pissed that a Pea member went all stalker on another member. That shit ain't right. It wasn't right when it was Mrs Tyler and it's not right now. It wasn't right when done to Mrs. Tyler or when done to Lynlam. I don't think we ever found out who did it to Mrs.T, but the one who attempted it with Lynlam was banned from the this board. I wonder if the 3 instances are connected in any way. Off topic, but where IS lynlam? I haven't seen her lately.
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Post by mollycoddle on Jul 25, 2016 10:10:12 GMT
I didn't know that. I remember LimaPea, any connection to Foolana or LizandJuan? If I remember right Foolana and LizandJuan were one in the same? No, I don't think so. Her real name was Teresa or some variation. She had been a member for a long time under a different name, fairly quiet, and then suddenly she changed her name and started attacking people. I paid attention because I was the first person she went after. Batya was second. I might have saved the old threads, but my computer died. My son downloaded a bunch of stuff for me from the hard drive, but I really don't know what he saved and I'm not even really sure where that EHD went. Wait-what? Limapea had been a member for a long time under another name? I had no idea. I wonder what her other name was. I should change my name to clueless pea!
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Post by leftturnonly on Jul 25, 2016 10:42:50 GMT
It was the pea formerly known as LimaPea who got in touch with Mrs. T's employer. Another crazy bitch. I didn't know that. I remember LimaPea, any connection to Foolana or LizandJuan? If I remember right Foolana and LizandJuan were one in the same? No. She had a type of manic disorder that gave her a lot of energy all the time, and she had a difficult situation with an ill daughter. For some reason, she was reading at Peas and the Blog and decided that what was said at the Blog was true. She was morally outraged and decided to do something about what she believed was an injustice. Got Mrs. T in enough hot water with her employer that she deleted her account and never came back.
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Post by christine58 on Jul 25, 2016 11:05:30 GMT
It was the pea formerly known as LimaPea who got in touch with Mrs. T's employer. Another crazy bitch. OMG! Someone contacted a pea's employer to start trouble? I cannot even imagine. Is there a thread? Can you post a link? It was ugly...really ugly.
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Post by tduby1 on Jul 25, 2016 11:46:21 GMT
Bil said "Someone saw the posts she was making about me and found her threw fb and then found me. This is someone neither of us knew." People keep saying that a Pea has "betrayed" Carblover, and yes it might have been a Pea, but it doesn't have to be. Admin pointed out that this is a public forum. Anyone with a computer and the URL for this site can see this. You don't have to have an account here or be a Pea to read this thread. This is posted from the bottom of the Home page: Users Online in the Last 24 Hours 0 Staff, 880 Members, 4,246 Guests. Look at that. Nearly 5 times more unidentified (unidentifiable?) lurkers than registered members. Just today. How many people here, in the recent meet-up threads, have discovered that they live in the same town as someone else on here and they hadn't known? It's quite freaky. And then someone posts "You live in Sticksville too? So do I! I'm right on the corner of main and second - where are you?" "I'm across from the high school, well what do you know?" and now any lurker, who might have only arrived here from Googling Sticksville, knows precisely where those "anonymous" Peas live and potentially who they are. I think that this is a lesson to us all - there is no safe place for venting on the internet. This doesn't mean that we need to delete our accounts, just be aware that it is not a private forum, and be careful what we say. When registered members read without signing in they show as guests. I often do that.
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tduby1
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Post by tduby1 on Jul 25, 2016 11:48:04 GMT
I beg your pardon, it was 4 words! I typed in "instant pot issues Proboards", which anyone might do if they had trouble with their appliance and wanted real conversation and resolution rather than the official hype. It would be easy for anyone to find the discussion, get what they needed from it, then spend some time browsing around the threads a little, getting sucked into the drama and sticking around. As has been pointed out before, this is a strange little corner of the internet, full of useful and useless information, funny stuff, political stuff, topical stuff, well-written and well-reasoned arguments - plenty to get people pulled in. You don't even need a common interest. That's why I'm here. Ok, I see what you mean. That would be really random though wouldn't it...to come across this board for some unconnected reason and then browse around, read that thread then decide to cause havoc in someone's family just because....? But sure there's some weird people out there!! I fully believe it is a pea. I am seriously re thinking my participation here.
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tduby1
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Post by tduby1 on Jul 25, 2016 11:52:14 GMT
I truly believe this was personal towards carblover. I don't want to think it's someone who is going to start outing others for kicks. Perhaps, but what would stop this person from doing the same to others she disagrees with in the future?
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ginacivey
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Post by ginacivey on Jul 25, 2016 11:55:27 GMT
i've often wondered if i could trust this place (here and 2peas) - some peas do have some haters
i keep that in mind when posting threads about friends and family
i pretty much don't
i also don't make fun of people on a public forum
that shit will bite you in the ass...eventually
gina
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Post by mollycoddle on Jul 25, 2016 12:01:50 GMT
Looks like sdeven deleted her account...... I don't think that implicates her at all. I think it's a sign she no longer trusts this place. I am debating doing the same. I dunno. It just seems like this is the world that we live in now. Using your picture in your profile, your name, etc carries a small risk. Over sharing also carries a risk. I think that we just have to adapt, whether it is here or anywhere else. Even IRL. Look at all of the stuff that shows up as video. It's sad, really.
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ginacivey
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Post by ginacivey on Jul 25, 2016 12:09:56 GMT
i made it thru 6 pages..
how are y'all so sure this 'bil' is actually her brother in law
1. how does he know we use the acronym 'bil'? 2. in a long rambling, misspelled paragraph- 'he' uses the word 'appease' 3. he figured out pretty quickly how to quote
something just feels 'off' to me about the whole damn thing
gina
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tduby1
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Post by tduby1 on Jul 25, 2016 12:12:51 GMT
i made it thru 6 pages.. how are y'all so sure this 'bil' is actually her brother in law 1. how does he know we use the acronym 'bil'? 2. in a long rambling, misspelled paragraph- 'he' uses the word 'appease' 3. he figured out pretty quickly how to quote something just feels 'off' to me about the whole damn thing gina Read the whole thread. It is him. Connections were made.
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Nink
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Post by Nink on Jul 25, 2016 12:14:23 GMT
i made it thru 6 pages.. how are y'all so sure this 'bil' is actually her brother in law 1. how does he know we use the acronym 'bil'? 2. in a long rambling, misspelled paragraph- 'he' uses the word 'appease' 3. he figured out pretty quickly how to quote something just feels 'off' to me about the whole damn thing gina This was brought up and one of the other peas found his FB page and said that there were some posts there in line with this incident and his posts there and here matching that she was fairly sure it really was him.
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ginacivey
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Post by ginacivey on Jul 25, 2016 12:14:41 GMT
okay...i'm going to go ahead and trust you on that!
but kudos to the dude for 'appease'
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ginacivey
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Post by ginacivey on Jul 25, 2016 12:16:07 GMT
one of the other peas found his FB page and said that there were some posts there in line with this incident and his posts there and here matching that she was fairly sure it really was him. oh wow that sounds a lot like the invasion of 'privacy' that happened here what a mess all around
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Nink
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Post by Nink on Jul 25, 2016 12:18:58 GMT
one of the other peas found his FB page and said that there were some posts there in line with this incident and his posts there and here matching that she was fairly sure it really was him. oh wow that sounds a lot like the invasion of 'privacy' that happened here what a mess all around It is. The guy posted his email and it was pointed out that all you had to do was put the email into FB search and his account came up. I think that's how it worked. Anyway, This whole mess sucks.
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