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Post by pierkiss on Jul 25, 2016 13:03:19 GMT
oh wow that sounds a lot like the invasion of 'privacy' that happened here what a mess all around It is. The guy posted his email and it was pointed out that all you had to do was put the email into FB search and his account came up. I think that's how it worked. Anyway, This whole mess sucks. I am the one that tested his email address in the Facebook search bar. It took me straight to his page. I can affirm that there are 2 posts on his wall that would indicate that this is carblovers brother in law and that he was upset about the thread here. One said "wow" and the other was a JPG of a guy with a bunch of knives stabbing him in the back that said something along the lines of "when you think your family has your back but instead stabs you in the back". What I couldn't verify by looking at his page (that is set to public and has his friends list set to public)was that carblover was related to him. Because I couldn't find any image that *I* thought looked like her avatar pic here, nor do I know her real name. Lessons to be learned: 1. Set your facebook page to private! 2. Set your friends lists to private! 3. Don't hand out your personal email address to an Internet board full of strangers. (For what it's worth he did take that email address off his facebook page so it will no longer take you there if you type it into search).
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Post by christine58 on Jul 25, 2016 13:05:05 GMT
I am the one that tested his email address in the Facebook search bar. It took me straight to his page. I can affirm that there are 2 posts on his wall that would indicate that this is carblovers brother in law and that he was upset about the thread here. One said "wow" and the other was a JPG of a guy with a bunch of knives stabbing him in the back that said something along the lines of "when you think your family has your back but instead stabs you in the back". I just tried...didn't work for me
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Post by pierkiss on Jul 25, 2016 13:07:18 GMT
I am the one that tested his email address in the Facebook search bar. It took me straight to his page. I can affirm that there are 2 posts on his wall that would indicate that this is carblovers brother in law and that he was upset about the thread here. One said "wow" and the other was a JPG of a guy with a bunch of knives stabbing him in the back that said something along the lines of "when you think your family has your back but instead stabs you in the back". I just tried...didn't work for me I know. Like I said at the bottom of my post he changed it after I made the original post pointing it out to him.
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Post by christine58 on Jul 25, 2016 13:45:14 GMT
I just tried...didn't work for me I know. Like I said at the bottom of my post he changed it after I made the original post pointing it out to him. I missed that part of your post.
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Post by anxiousmom on Jul 25, 2016 14:07:08 GMT
Gosh, I go away for a couple of days and all hell breaks loose.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2016 14:22:28 GMT
The whole thing ticks me off because the Peas post "look at this crazy invitation" threads ALL THE TIME. It's always in good fun and one of our regular ongoing topics here. We all have those crazy relatives! It's just total BS that some bitch decided to make it personal. Carblover did not deserve to have someone do this to her, and it does make me question posting anything remotely personal here.
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Post by freebird on Jul 25, 2016 14:50:26 GMT
You know, since BIL has told some of the story (and said Carblover is wrong) how about he finish the story and tell us who contacted him. Yeah, thats not going to happen, I know. Its chickenshit for him not to say who contacted him. If you want to bitch and complain about a message board post, then grow a set and give all the details. I completely agree. I think he should name the person who contacted him. From this thread, my guess is Annabella.
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Post by annabella on Jul 25, 2016 14:54:23 GMT
I completely agree. I think he should name the person who contacted him. From this thread, my guess is Annabella. Freebird, you never stop being a bitch. I'm not friends with her on facebook or even know her name. Your guess is so absurd it's laughable. Maybe you should be worried about your post history with all the vents you write on here about people you don't like. Every day you're angry and unhappy about something. I feel sorry for you.
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Post by tincin on Jul 25, 2016 15:26:51 GMT
If I were carblover I would leave too simply because I would feel like the asshat bil would be stalking me forever on the board. I would also tell my DH about it because you know that crap is going to come out. Any fool immature enough to worry what a bunch of us on an anonymous board think about him is definitely going to get drunk and start shit. If not at this drunkfest then at another.
I agree with previous posters that it's a shame someone on here didn't have ovaries enough to call out carblover on the board but was dick enough to go behind her back. She was hurting no one because none of us know this guy or his gf. We vent here all the time about family, friends and rude invitations of which his qualified.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 25, 2016 15:51:09 GMT
If I were carblover I would leave too simply because I would feel like the asshat bil would be stalking me forever on the board. I would also tell my DH about it because you know that crap is going to come out. Any fool immature enough to worry what a bunch of us on an anonymous board think about him is definitely going to get drunk and start shit. If not at this drunkfest then at another. I agree with previous posters that it's a shame someone on here didn't have ovaries enough to call out carblover on the board but was Dick enough to go behind her back. She was hurting no one because none of us know this guy or his gf. We vent here all the time about family, friends and rude invitations of which his qualified. I think I would leave the original username ad active, but not use it. Then I'd start another one. I would think bil would stalk me if I continued under the first namemail. (I might have edited my posts first)
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Post by freebird on Jul 25, 2016 15:57:40 GMT
From this thread, my guess is Annabella. Freebird, you never stop being a bitch. I'm not friends with her on facebook or even know her name. Your guess is so absurd it's laughable. Maybe you should be worried about your post history with all the vents you write on here about people you don't like. Every day you're angry and unhappy about something. I feel sorry for you. I never stop being a bitch to vapid bitches... which on here, is just you. Sorry it hit home. There's nothing here that anyone in my family can't read. Anyone that I bitch about that I hate, knows I hate them so no big shockers there.
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Post by femalebusiness on Jul 25, 2016 16:01:01 GMT
I hope carblover comes back with a new name and no picture in her avatar. Don't let one disturbed bitch stop you from having fun here. I think we all know who the vicious twat is.
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Post by annabella on Jul 25, 2016 16:02:41 GMT
I never stop being a bitch to vapid bitches... which on here, is just you. Sorry it hit home. There's nothing here that anyone in my family can't read. Anyone that I bitch about that I hate, knows I hate them so no big shockers there. Lana, I don't know why you're so obsessed with me on this board, I usually just ignore your silly posts because I see how unhappy you are in life, but geez lady you gotta work out your problems.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2016 16:04:36 GMT
I think we all know who the vicious twat is. Actually I don't think we do. You might have your suspicions but that is all you have.
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Post by freebird on Jul 25, 2016 16:05:07 GMT
I never stop being a bitch to vapid bitches... which on here, is just you. Sorry it hit home. There's nothing here that anyone in my family can't read. Anyone that I bitch about that I hate, knows I hate them so no big shockers there. Lana, I don't know why you're so obsessed with me on this board, I usually just ignore your silly posts because I see how unhappy you are in life, but geez lady you gotta work out your problems.
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Post by JustTricia on Jul 25, 2016 16:06:46 GMT
Off topic, but because it has been mentioned multiple times ~ do people really think men can't use big words / know internet acronyms / use a message board?! I'm really surprised at some of the posts that have basically said it can't be a man because they used bigger words or know how to quote on a page.
Millions of people use Reddit or Tumblr, etc, there are dozens of message boards for fantasy football or other sports or hobbies. Is it really that big of a shock that some of those people are men?
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Post by scrapaddie on Jul 25, 2016 16:16:22 GMT
Soooo, someone from this board went on facebook, found bil and told on carblover? Please, please, please tell me that my reading comprehension sucks donkey balls and this didn't happen. My first thought... Why would a pea do that!! So nasty!!!
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Post by scrapaddie on Jul 25, 2016 16:26:05 GMT
Carblover was always a bitch, so karma just came to bite her and she ran away with her tail between her legs. She obviously embellished the story and her bil has been nothing but polite here in setting the record straigh Other than a handful of posters on this board I can't remember from one moment to the next who is nice or nasty. The thing that I am focused on here is that some asshole,who is a poster here, actually invaded another poster's privacy to this extent. That is a disturbed individual. This is exactly why I keep my footprint on the Internet small and would never, ever do facebook. Agreed about the invasion of privacy... That is REALLY going beyond. Someone is messed up!
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Post by inkedup on Jul 25, 2016 16:36:04 GMT
I think we all know who the vicious twat is. Actually I don't think we do. You might have your suspicions but that is all you have. I agree with Lainey. I don't think it's fair to point fingers, and I don't think Anabella is the rat. I doubt she would be dumb enough to out Carblover to her bil and then come here and be one of the few people to admit she disliked her. I am so glad I don't mix my real life and my pea life. How bored and malicious do you have to be to purposely try to mess with someone's life because you don't like them on a message board?
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Post by justkat on Jul 25, 2016 16:37:03 GMT
Off topic, but because it has been mentioned multiple times ~ do people really think men can't use big words / know internet acronyms / use a message board?! I'm really surprised at some of the posts that have basically said it can't be a man because they used bigger words or know how to quote on a page. Millions of people use Reddit or Tumblr, etc, there are dozens of message boards for fantasy football or other sports or hobbies. Is it really that big of a shock that some of those people are men? That's not how I read it. I don't think anyone is saying that men can't use big words or use a message board. I think some people were surprised, for lack of a better word, that a brand new member would have such a quick learning curve on a new-to-them forum. Men can and do use internet message boards. But not all boards are created equal and here's some dude brand new to the peas and he knows how to use this forum, doing things a lot of long time peas don't know how to do (avatar pic etc). As far as big words. Of course men use big words. I think this was a reference to his overall style of writing/speech. He isn't using paragraphs. He is misspelling a lot of words in general and a lot of little words in particular. But then he correctly spells and uses a big word. I think some people just found that odd, as though it was intentional. I took it not as men are stupid but that maybe this isn't actually the BIL but a pea trying to play at being the BIL for who knows what reason. It's sad no matter how we look at it.
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Post by Zee on Jul 25, 2016 16:42:49 GMT
I think we all know who the vicious twat is. Actually I don't think we do. You might have your suspicions but that is all you have. Yeah, I really don't want to see anyone start bashing annabella over this. You have no idea who's reading and not commenting, just wanting to stir up trouble. I've seen worse than this go on on other boards, many times, and that's why I'm not at all shocked by it. But you will never know who really is behind it, and suspicions just tear the board apart. Don't play into that.
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Post by flute4peace on Jul 25, 2016 16:59:11 GMT
Everyone here has blow this way out of proportion. I symply was made aware of the fact that my sister in law was talking trash about me and my family. In confronted her in the same place she thought it was ok to talk behind my back. I didn't make her delete her acct she deleted it her self. I'm guessing to try and hide from it. Idk. Nor do I care. She did also make a post about bed bugs. We had a couple living with us and they gave me bed bugs. And then moved out and stuffed me on rent. The fact is I have a message in my fb inbox from someone who I don't know telling me that my sister Inlaw is talking shit about my family and telling people I have bed bugs. Do you see my problem with that. Someone neither of us know know I have bed bugs because she decided to put it here. As far as they party I was havin for my sons first birthday that happens to be two day off of mine. I originally created a fb event for my freinds to come up to our new house and have a cookout/birthday party. And then my gf said we should do them both on the same day. Yes I said lets get drunk. That doesn't mean I'm gonna be pounding shots at 1 pm while my son eats his cake. The description also never said all your ducking botches better come. It's simply said "dylan don't be a bitch". Now in one of the comment where dylan responded. It said "don't be a ducking botch". If you knew my relationship with dylan you would know this is normal. To the people who commented I feel bad for this kid please don't. The reason I struggle everyday and work so hard. Is because the place we were living was not a good environment for a child to be brought up in (alcoholism). So I fight tooth and nail every day to do the best by my family. No body is perfect. No I will not name the person who gave me this info. I didn't post on this thread to appease you. I was simply standing up for my family and self. So I don't owe you anything. I have no need to embellish or contourt anything iv said because I have nothing to hide from. Until 11 am this mourning I had no idea this forum even existed. And after this post I don't need to deal with this any more. If you think I was trying to be a dick or asshole. Please go sit down and think about your life alittle. And put your self in my shoes. Thanks I admit to only being halfway into this thread, but 'BIL" isn't doing himself any favors when he opens his mouth.
Also - why are we so quick to believe what this guy says? Does he have ANY credibility? Why are we suddenly jumping on the "traitor among us" bandwagon, when all we have for "proof" is what this guy says? He appears to contradict himself twice just in the above posting alone. I thought (as did the peas, nearly unanimously at the time) that Carblover had a legitimate concern.
I dunno - I'm just not willing to tar & feather at this point. I just don't see a motive for a "traitor".
Of course, if more has come to light during the 2nd half of the thread, my thoughts at this point may be moot.
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Post by JustTricia on Jul 25, 2016 17:09:00 GMT
Everyone here has blow this way out of proportion. I symply was made aware of the fact that my sister in law was talking trash about me and my family. In confronted her in the same place she thought it was ok to talk behind my back. I didn't make her delete her acct she deleted it her self. I'm guessing to try and hide from it. Idk. Nor do I care. She did also make a post about bed bugs. We had a couple living with us and they gave me bed bugs. And then moved out and stuffed me on rent. The fact is I have a message in my fb inbox from someone who I don't know telling me that my sister Inlaw is talking shit about my family and telling people I have bed bugs. Do you see my problem with that. Someone neither of us know know I have bed bugs because she decided to put it here. As far as they party I was havin for my sons first birthday that happens to be two day off of mine. I originally created a fb event for my freinds to come up to our new house and have a cookout/birthday party. And then my gf said we should do them both on the same day. Yes I said lets get drunk. That doesn't mean I'm gonna be pounding shots at 1 pm while my son eats his cake. The description also never said all your ducking botches better come. It's simply said "dylan don't be a bitch". Now in one of the comment where dylan responded. It said "don't be a ducking botch". If you knew my relationship with dylan you would know this is normal. To the people who commented I feel bad for this kid please don't. The reason I struggle everyday and work so hard. Is because the place we were living was not a good environment for a child to be brought up in (alcoholism). So I fight tooth and nail every day to do the best by my family. No body is perfect. No I will not name the person who gave me this info. I didn't post on this thread to appease you. I was simply standing up for my family and self. So I don't owe you anything. I have no need to embellish or contourt anything iv said because I have nothing to hide from. Until 11 am this mourning I had no idea this forum even existed. And after this post I don't need to deal with this any more. If you think I was trying to be a dick or asshole. Please go sit down and think about your life alittle. And put your self in my shoes. Thanks I admit to only being halfway into this thread, but 'BIL" isn't doing himself any favors when he opens his mouth.
Also - why are we so quick to believe what this guy says? Does he have ANY credibility? Why are we suddenly jumping on the "traitor among us" bandwagon, when all we have for "proof" is what this guy says? He appears to contradict himself twice just in the above posting alone. I thought (as did the peas, nearly unanimously at the time) that Carblover had a legitimate concern.
I dunno - I'm just not willing to tar & feather at this point. I just don't see a motive for a "traitor".
Of course, if more has come to light during the 2nd half of the thread, my thoughts at this point may be moot.
Keep reading. It is him.
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Post by flute4peace on Jul 25, 2016 17:09:40 GMT
I thought I read all the posts, but I'm a bit confused as to why everyone believes that bil really is Carblover's BIL. How do we know it's not a regular troll from this board? Or someone from "the blog" that disses everyone here? Couldn't it be anyone who's already here that didn't really find Carblover on Facebook (but wants us to think she did) and didn't really out Carblover and this thread to the BIL? Just because Couldn't bil be anyone who's been a refupea here that didn't really find Carblover on Facebook (but wants us to think she did) and didn't really out Carblover and this thread to the BIL? Just because bil says it, doesn't mean it's true! It could just be some refupea here wanting to cause unrest and trouble here. Because her account is gone... If it were me, I'd delete my account too, whether it was the true BIL or a troll, out of hurt & embarrassment.
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Post by tincin on Jul 25, 2016 17:39:11 GMT
Off topic, but because it has been mentioned multiple times ~ do people really think men can't use big words / know internet acronyms / use a message board?! I'm really surprised at some of the posts that have basically said it can't be a man because they used bigger words or know how to quote on a page. Millions of people use Reddit or Tumblr, etc, there are dozens of message boards for fantasy football or other sports or hobbies. Is it really that big of a shock that some of those people are men? That's not how I read it. I don't think anyone is saying that men can't use big words or use a message board. I think some people were surprised, for lack of a better word, that a brand new member would have such a quick learning curve on a new-to-them forum. Men can and do use internet message boards. But not all boards are created equal and here's some dude brand new to the peas and he knows how to use this forum, doing things a lot of long time peas don't know how to do (avatar pic etc). As far as big words. Of course men use big words. I think this was a reference to his overall style of writing/speech. He isn't using paragraphs. He is misspelling a lot of words in general and a lot of little words in particular. But then he correctly spells and uses a big word. I think some people just found that odd, as though it was intentional. I took it not as men are stupid but that maybe this isn't actually the BIL but a pea trying to play at being the BIL for who knows what reason. It's sad no matter how we look at it. I took it to mean that two people were actually posting under bil's name.
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Post by Laurie on Jul 25, 2016 17:53:24 GMT
Well this has been a long read. I don't recall carblover being a bitch. Heck, I can't even think of any posts she has made or any background on her at all. That tells me that she is not a vicious pea or one who would provoke such a reaction to go after her.
Every once in awhile I think it would be fun to join the FB group but this reminds me why it would not be a good idea.
As far as Annabella. I agree with Lainey...nothing has proven her to be the rat. Does she rub people the wrong way and say things that come off as bitchy? Definitely. But I really don't think Annabella is responsible for this.
I also think the bil's responses are possibly 2 different people. Maybe his wife.?
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Post by Country Ham on Jul 25, 2016 18:31:59 GMT
Everyone needs a place to vent... that is what we do here... so we don't go bat shit crazy... its our free space... you bil coming here.. sorta fucks that up... It's not a private board though. I barely gave this thread a second glance till a couple of spin offs popped up. I am only on page 3 I think. It's not "our" free space, it's a public chat forum. Everyone has the right to register and post. I think sometimes we forget that. Most forums I am a part of have a secret area for hot topics or personal posts. These are accessible only after members have a certain number of posts and are established as solid participating members of the board. Save
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Post by gar on Jul 25, 2016 18:47:05 GMT
Everyone needs a place to vent... that is what we do here... so we don't go bat shit crazy... its our free space... you bil coming here.. sorta fucks that up... It's not a private board though. I barely gave this thread a second glance till a couple of spin offs popped up. I am only on page 3 I think. It's not "our" free space, it's a public chat forum. Everyone has the right to register and post. I think sometimes we forget that. Most forums I am a part of have a secret area for hot topics or personal posts. These are accessible only after members have a certain number of posts and are established as solid participating members of the board. SaveHaving been established as a Pea and having a certain number of posts seems to be meaningless unfortunately.
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Post by cannmom on Jul 25, 2016 19:40:35 GMT
Off topic, but because it has been mentioned multiple times ~ do people really think men can't use big words / know internet acronyms / use a message board?! I'm really surprised at some of the posts that have basically said it can't be a man because they used bigger words or know how to quote on a page. Millions of people use Reddit or Tumblr, etc, there are dozens of message boards for fantasy football or other sports or hobbies. Is it really that big of a shock that some of those people are men? I posted that I thought bil's posts seemed off. I didn't mean it how you took it. My thought was he seemed inconsistent with his spelling. Almost as if it were someone misspelling things on purpose. He also used the word catty (spelled caddy) and honestly that did seem to me to be a strange word for a man to use. Apparently I was wrong and he really does exist. So I'm not the greatest detective obviously. I always say that my DH who is the absolute worst speller in the world is one of the smartest men I know. I know plenty of men that use internet MBs so that wasn't part of my reasoning. Sorry for the confusion.
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Post by trollie on Jul 26, 2016 2:54:54 GMT
I don't know. Something feels off to me about bil's posts. The phrasing and misspellings seem not right. He has used phrases that most men I know would not use. Also the spelling almost looks like someone trying to misspell on purpose. I might be wrong; but something just doesn't ring true for me. If it is real I feel badly for Carblover. Yeah, put me in this camp. The grammar, phrasing, length of posts, message-board savviness. Nuh-uh. SaveHonestly, I think bil is Anabella!
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