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Post by LiLi on Jul 23, 2016 21:28:05 GMT
Or you could just not talk trash about people you know on the internet. I don't. I might ask help in dealing with a non-drama friendship situation or a silly work vent I need constructive advice on how to handle. But geez, nothing nasty about people for others to laugh at. @dknitter Unless your profile pic is the same on facebook, not sure how someone would find you in the group? Did carblover have a profile pic? I don't remember. I don't think it's random pea, it has to be someone that knows both her and her bil, and knew of the invite, so it had to be a family member. It's not cyber bulling to call someone out on their shit. It doesn't take a profile picture to match up usernames from here and profile pictures on FB. All it takes is someone knowing at least part of your real name. Since all profile pictures on FB are public, if someone wanted to, they could do a search for any Annabella or variation of that name within the 2peas group, go through their previous profile pictures until they find one that matches. My picture on here was once my FB picture. It's not now but one could do a search for me and probably find my profile if they know my name. Also, if the event was public, you can find that event and its guest list. The host is public, the guest list is public. It is cyber-bullying to go through the trouble of tracking someone down and causing problems for them, family member or not. That is my opinion. I don't care what yours is. All it takes is a reverse image search. I just did this on your pic out of curiosity and it showed a few places where you are established online. A friendly suggestion, Don't use your face if you would like to stay anonymous. I kind of agree with Anabella. I do think it is inappropriate to contact someone like what was done here. But, Carblover did post a lot of shit on her family. I remember reading a different one, about bedbugs maybe? And thinking, wow this girl really thinks she's above this family. Kind of sad, since that is where her husband came from :/ I have a personal opinion on this kind of stuff though. Something like this hit my family with a sister in law and another family member. My overall opinion, don't talk shit about your family. Especially if you are embellishing for effect. If you think you you are anonymous, and you are using a picture of yourself or kids online, you're probably wrong.
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Post by refugeepea on Jul 23, 2016 21:35:58 GMT
Soooo, someone from this board went on facebook, found bil and told on carblover? Please, please, please tell me that my reading comprehension sucks donkey balls and this didn't happen. This place has once again proven to be shitty. I can't wrap my head around a grown a$$ woman pulling this kind of shit.
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Post by bil on Jul 23, 2016 21:45:40 GMT
Carblover was always a bitch, so karma just came to bite her and she ran away with her tail between her legs. She obviously embellished the story and her bil has been nothing but polite here in setting the record straight. Polite??? Lol, I think your own bitchiness has altered your perception of reality. We canceled the party due to a lot of scheduling conflict. It was to be next weekend.
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Post by Zee on Jul 23, 2016 21:47:08 GMT
I have nothing against carblover personally. I like her. But if any of you knew someone was here posting shit about your family trying to get a laugh, you'd be livid. I don't get all the hate directed at bil, at all. He didn't make her run off, she did that herself.
And now there's a family feud in the making, and almost everyone here is blaming that on bil? That's ridiculous.
She overshared in a place where some people know her real name through Facebook. You should never be shocked that this can happen--it can and it does, all the time, which is why I don't make fb friends here and don't post many actual identifying details. You have no idea who's watching and reading.
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Post by gar on Jul 23, 2016 21:47:08 GMT
Really takes the shine off the place doesn't it :frown: So disappointing.
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Post by christine58 on Jul 23, 2016 21:55:19 GMT
I agree. This was personal. I removed myself from the group because I do not want someone to have a personal vendetta against me and try to match up any vent on here with an actual person and then rat me out. And yes, whoever gave the BIL the link to this place should be ashamed. When people talk about cyber-bullying, I believe this kind of crap falls within that category. You might also then want to delete the link to your Facebook page...
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Post by KelleeM on Jul 23, 2016 22:05:11 GMT
Really takes the shine off the place doesn't it :frown: So disappointing. Sure does.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2016 22:05:50 GMT
I agree. This was personal. I removed myself from the group because I do not want someone to have a personal vendetta against me and try to match up any vent on here with an actual person and then rat me out. And yes, whoever gave the BIL the link to this place should be ashamed. When people talk about cyber-bullying, I believe this kind of crap falls within that category. You might also then want to delete the link to your Facebook page... Good point. Maybe I will. I forgot that was on there.
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Post by bil on Jul 23, 2016 22:09:45 GMT
Everyone here has blow this way out of proportion. I symply was made aware of the fact that my sister in law was talking trash about me and my family. In confronted her in the same place she thought it was ok to talk behind my back. I didn't make her delete her acct she deleted it her self. I'm guessing to try and hide from it. Idk. Nor do I care. She did also make a post about bed bugs. We had a couple living with us and they gave me bed bugs. And then moved out and stuffed me on rent. The fact is I have a message in my fb inbox from someone who I don't know telling me that my sister Inlaw is talking shit about my family and telling people I have bed bugs. Do you see my problem with that. Someone neither of us know know I have bed bugs because she decided to put it here. As far as they party I was havin for my sons first birthday that happens to be two day off of mine. I originally created a fb event for my freinds to come up to our new house and have a cookout/birthday party. And then my gf said we should do them both on the same day. Yes I said lets get drunk. That doesn't mean I'm gonna be pounding shots at 1 pm while my son eats his cake. The description also never said all your ducking botches better come. It's simply said "dylan don't be a bitch". Now in one of the comment where dylan responded. It said "don't be a ducking botch". If you knew my relationship with dylan you would know this is normal. To the people who commented I feel bad for this kid please don't. The reason I struggle everyday and work so hard. Is because the place we were living was not a good environment for a child to be brought up in (alcoholism). So I fight tooth and nail every day to do the best by my family. No body is perfect. No I will not name the person who gave me this info. I didn't post on this thread to appease you. I was simply standing up for my family and self. So I don't owe you anything. I have no need to embellish or contourt anything iv said because I have nothing to hide from. Until 11 am this mourning I had no idea this forum even existed. And after this post I don't need to deal with this any more. If you think I was trying to be a dick or asshole. Please go sit down and think about your life alittle. And put your self in my shoes. Thanks
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Post by gar on Jul 23, 2016 22:15:55 GMT
bil - the point about all this is someone here, someone who is part of our 'community' told tales outside of this forum. They took it into the outside world and caused problems. That's all we're bothered about. None of us know you so it doesn't affect how we feel about you but now we don't trust one of our group.
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Post by bil on Jul 23, 2016 22:22:22 GMT
bil - the point about all this is someone here, someone who is part of our 'community' told tales outside of this forum. They took it into the outside world and caused problems. That's all we're bothered about. None of us know you so it doesn't affect how we feel about you but now we don't trust one of our group. Well now I can't trust someone from my family. I think I would be alittle more concernd about being able to trust for family then someone is a group. I mean I actually had someone iv never even knew existed tell me that I had bed bugs. That's super personal shit. How would you feel is you had herpes and someone contacted you sayin someone in a forum was talking about your herps.
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Post by LiLi on Jul 23, 2016 22:26:29 GMT
bil - the point about all this is someone here, someone who is part of our 'community' told tales outside of this forum. They took it into the outside world and caused problems. That's all we're bothered about. None of us know you so it doesn't affect how we feel about you but now we don't trust one of our group. You should never have trust in online strangers. ANY group online has potential for this to happen.
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Post by christine58 on Jul 23, 2016 22:29:08 GMT
bil - the point about all this is someone here, someone who is part of our 'community' told tales outside of this forum. They took it into the outside world and caused problems. That's all we're bothered about. None of us know you so it doesn't affect how we feel about you but now we don't trust one of our group. Well now I can't trust someone from my family. I think I would be alittle more concernd about being able to trust for family then someone is a group. I mean I actually had someone iv never even knew existed tell me that I had bed bugs. That's super personal shit. How would you feel is you had herpes and someone contacted you sayin someone in a forum was talking about your herps. You should have confronted her in person...not here...so who was the message from on Facebook? I don't think you have balls enough to tell us
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Post by johnnysmom on Jul 23, 2016 22:41:49 GMT
All it takes is a reverse image search. I just did this on your pic out of curiosity and it showed a few places where you are established online.. Dude, I was *thisclose* to changing my profile pic from the kiwi to my business logo. But if y'all (general y'all) are going to reverse image me and use that info for evil then I may just have to stick with the pretty green fruit. (Send a bit in jest but it does give me pause)
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Post by cannmom on Jul 23, 2016 22:42:22 GMT
I don't know. Something feels off to me about bil's posts. The phrasing and misspellings seem not right. He has used phrases that most men I know would not use. Also the spelling almost looks like someone trying to misspell on purpose. I might be wrong; but something just doesn't ring true for me.
If it is real I feel badly for Carblover.
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Post by katybee on Jul 23, 2016 22:44:32 GMT
I hope the person who did this is proud of herself. Not only did you chase away a longtime Pea, you ripped apart a family and made us all feel like a place we enjoy coming has been tarnished forever.
Did you think you were doing the BIL a favor? We ALL come here to vent. It's cathartic. Carblover did not identify her BIL. The only way he found out was because YOU told him. You did NOT do him a favor:
Why DID you do it? Did Carblover hurt your feelings? Do you not agree with her politics? Were you jealous of her?
Are you proud of yourself? I doubt it. Otherwise, you'd have the balls to admit it was you. But you won't do that. Because you know it was a shit move.
I know we'll never know the truth, but I for one hope you NEVER come back here and pretend that you did nothing wrong... Like you are a trusted, welcomed member of this community. Go away. Stay away. You won't be missed.
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Post by gar on Jul 23, 2016 22:44:45 GMT
bil - the point about all this is someone here, someone who is part of our 'community' told tales outside of this forum. They took it into the outside world and caused problems. That's all we're bothered about. None of us know you so it doesn't affect how we feel about you but now we don't trust one of our group. You should never have trust in online strangers. ANY group online has potential for this to happen. Of course, I'm well aware of that. I was just explaining the facts to bil as he was bothered about what we know about him but since he's a total stranger that's of no interest to most of us.
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Post by peatlejuice on Jul 23, 2016 22:49:28 GMT
I have nothing against carblover personally. I like her. But if any of you knew someone was here posting shit about your family trying to get a laugh, you'd be livid. I don't get all the hate directed at bil, at all. He didn't make her run off, she did that herself. And now there's a family feud in the making, and almost everyone here is blaming that on bil? That's ridiculous. She overshared in a place where some people know her real name through Facebook. You should never be shocked that this can happen--it can and it does, all the time, which is why I don't make fb friends here and don't post many actual identifying details. You have no idea who's watching and reading. I can't speak for the others, but (1) I wouldn't be livid about shit my family might post about me, because I seriously don't give a damn what Internet strangers think of me; (2) I did and continue to call bullshit on bil being so hurt, because if he truly didn't want his family's shit on the Internet and was so humiliated at being talked about online, he wouldn't have come here to start the war. His actions have nothing but prove to me that the OP was right about him all along. I feel sorry for her having to be married into that family, and I sure as shit hope he raises his son to have a tougher skin than he does. And (3), yes, there's an inherent danger in oversharing on the Internet, but I think people have the right to be pissed that a Pea member went all stalker on another member. That shit ain't right. It wasn't right when it was Mrs Tyler and it's not right now.
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Post by admin on Jul 23, 2016 22:54:35 GMT
WTF?? That BIL needs to NOT be here. Report his posts. The admin needs to boot him. This is ridiculous. To be fair, this is a public message board and he really does have the right to respond on it. Do I like what he says (once I work it out)? Not really, but he hasn't said anything that would get a 'regular' member banned in a forum argument. Exactly. This is a public forum, and there are no restrictions on who can join. bil has just as much right to be here as the rest of us, regardless of how anyone feels about that, unless he breaches the TOS. There is also no way to know whether the person who contacted bil is even a member here, let alone one who has posted. Again, it is a public forum, which means that anyone at all can read these posts.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2016 22:58:46 GMT
I have nothing against carblover personally. I like her. But if any of you knew someone was here posting shit about your family trying to get a laugh, you'd be livid. I don't get all the hate directed at bil, at all. He didn't make her run off, she did that herself. And now there's a family feud in the making, and almost everyone here is blaming that on bil? That's ridiculous. She overshared in a place where some people know her real name through Facebook. You should never be shocked that this can happen--it can and it does, all the time, which is why I don't make fb friends here and don't post many actual identifying details. You have no idea who's watching and reading. I agree and people should also remember insulting bil may not be actually helping the situation for their friend carblover. I'm sure out there somewhere carblover is wishing this thread and it's contents would die. From what I've seen bil is pretty tame given the insults being thrown at him from the perfect pea party.
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Post by bil on Jul 23, 2016 22:59:17 GMT
I hope the person who did this is proud of herself. Not only did you chase away a longtime Pea, you ripped apart a family and made us all feel like a place we enjoy coming has been tarnished forever. Did you think you were doing the BIL a favor? We ALL come here to vent. It's cathartic. Carblover did not identify her BIL. The only way he found out was because YOU told him. You did NOT do him a favor: Why DID you do it? Did Carblover hurt your feelings? Do you not agree with her politics? Were you jealous of her? Are you proud of yourself? I doubt it. Otherwise, you'd have the balls to admit it was you. But you won't do that. Because you know it was a shit move. I know we'll never know the truth, but I for one hope you NEVER come back here and pretend that you did nothing wrong... Like you are a trusted, welcomed member of this community. Go away. Stay away. You won't be missed. I'm not very book smart. Sorry.
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Post by petenthusiast on Jul 23, 2016 23:06:46 GMT
Carblover was always a bitch, so karma just came to bite her and she ran away with her tail between her legs. She obviously embellished the story and her bil has been nothing but polite here in setting the record straight. Wow. I don't know if there has ever been a more blatantly guilty statement ever made. WTF you complete psychopath?!!! When was carblover EVER a bitch? Projecting much? "Polite"? Interesting (ass-kissing) descriptor. However, when 'bil' sees the same borderline nutcase we've come to know continue her menacing by fucking with HIS life the way she did his SIL I have no doubt canaries will then sing. FFS! Get a damn life you whackjob
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Post by LiLi on Jul 23, 2016 23:12:08 GMT
Carblover was always a bitch, so karma just came to bite her and she ran away with her tail between her legs. She obviously embellished the story and her bil has been nothing but polite here in setting the record straight. Wow. I don't know if there has ever been a more blatantly guilty statement ever made. WTF you complete psychopath?!!! When was carblover EVER a bitch? Projecting much? "Polite"? Interesting (ass-kissing) descriptor. However, when 'bil' sees the same borderline nutcase we've come to know continue her menacing by fucking with HIS life the way she did his SIL I have no doubt canaries will then sing. FFS! Get a damn life you whackjob If talking shit on your own family as if they are below you isn't being a bitch, I don't know what is.
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Post by bil on Jul 23, 2016 23:13:00 GMT
I hope the person who did this is proud of herself. Not only did you chase away a longtime Pea, you ripped apart a family and made us all feel like a place we enjoy coming has been tarnished forever. Did you think you were doing the BIL a favor? We ALL come here to vent. It's cathartic. Carblover did not identify her BIL. The only way he found out was because YOU told him. You did NOT do him a favor: Why DID you do it? Did Carblover hurt your feelings? Do you not agree with her politics? Were you jealous of her? Are you proud of yourself? I doubt it. Otherwise, you'd have the balls to admit it was you. But you won't do that. Because you know it was a shit move. I know we'll never know the truth, but I for one hope you NEVER come back here and pretend that you did nothing wrong... Like you are a trusted, welcomed member of this community. Go away. Stay away. You won't be missed. I'm not very book smart. Sorry. People over the Internet always talk trash. That will never get me overly heated. It's only when someone I'm supposed to be able to trust that does it that it truly bothers me. In a week this will not matter to most of the people commenting on this thread. A lot of them are just mad that their friend is gone. I get it. But in a week and even longer I'm still going to have a problem with this.
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Post by pierkiss on Jul 23, 2016 23:13:13 GMT
Carblover was always a bitch, so karma just came to bite her and she ran away with her tail between her legs. She obviously embellished the story and her bil has been nothing but polite here in setting the record straigh Other than a handful of posters on this board I can't remember from one moment to the next who is nice or nasty. The thing that I am focused on here is that some asshole,who is a poster here, actually invaded another poster's privacy to this extent. That is a disturbed individual. This is exactly why I keep my footprint on the Internet small and would never, ever do facebook. This is exactly why I am not facebook friends with any of the peas. I would love to be friends on there with tons of you guys. But I have a strict, "I must know all of my facebook friends in real life" rule for facebook. And not just a casual, I met you once at a random party meeting. I must have some kind of relationship with the other person to let them into my life like that. I hate that this has happened to carblover. I've enjoyed her posts, esp about her adorable kiddo. I hope she comes back someday.
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Jul 23, 2016 23:18:57 GMT
Wow. This certainly turned into a shit storm, didn't it? I click on the thread, read the first few posts and figured the ones on the last page would be about the party itself, only to find . . . kablam!
Sure, if I found out someone in my family was badmouthing me on the internet, I'd be ticked off & hurt. But everyone needs to vent. This is the place to do that for a lot of us. I will also admit that I vent a lot (not necessarily here, but in general) and I just take it for granted that since I do, most other people do. I just don't want to know about it. This is my issue. The Pea who outed carblover should be ashamed. What purpose did it serve? You wreaked havoc on that whole family. Proud of yourself?
And while I realize that we are all technically strangers, I think a lot of us do look at this as a safe place to come for justification, advice, consoling, honest opinions & a good laugh. 'I'll air my dirty laundry & you can air yours and no one outside the Pod needs to know anything'. It worked. At least for me, anyway. Not so much anymore, I guess.
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Post by peatlejuice on Jul 23, 2016 23:19:25 GMT
Yes I said lets get drunk. (Edited for space) The reason I struggle everyday and work so hard. Is because the place we were living was not a good environment for a child to be brought up in (alcoholism). Hold up. You are trying to avoid an environment of alcoholism for your child but yet you choose, by your own admission, to get DRUNK after same child's birthday party? I think you need to spend more time working to avoid the alcoholism environment instead of haunting your SIL's message board.
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Post by bil on Jul 23, 2016 23:22:31 GMT
Well considering its my birthday also and I'm adult of proper I believe I can have a drink from time to time and not consider myself and alcholic
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Post by peatlejuice on Jul 23, 2016 23:25:46 GMT
I'm not very book smart. Sorry. People over the Internet always talk trash. That will never get me overly heated. It's only when someone I'm supposed to be able to trust that does it that it truly bothers me. In a week this will not matter to most of the people commenting on this thread. A lot of them are just mad that their friend is gone. I get it. But in a week and even longer I'm still going to have a problem with this. Then deal with it in real life. I get it, you thought you'd come be brother bad ass by humiliating your SIL here. But honestly, you have made yourself look a thousand times worse than she ever did. This is your shit storm, not hers.
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Post by christine58 on Jul 23, 2016 23:28:57 GMT
Stop feeding the troll all....
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