johnnysmom
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Post by johnnysmom on Aug 3, 2014 17:52:26 GMT
The ridiculousness of the arguments are often too humorous to not laugh.
Today my 13yo DS was brought to tears because last night while he was at his friend's bonfire (which he begged to go to) dh, ds3, and I went to get ice cream. That was it, we went for ice cream and he wasn't here. Apparently it was very unfair (nevermind we've gotten ice cream many times before with him, it's not like we never go, we usually go a couple times a month during the summer).
All I could do was laugh at the absurdity of it.
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Post by gar on Aug 3, 2014 17:56:15 GMT
Aww, bless him, those flippin' hormones getting the better of him  Usually I walked away but I did just stand and smile sometimes to see if I could get them to lighten up and see themselves as they looked to me. No harm done  |
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YooHoot
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Post by YooHoot on Aug 3, 2014 17:57:30 GMT
Hormones. It's tough. I roll my eyes A LOT but as I'm walking away from a crazy "teen" situation. He wants to be with friends but doesn't want to miss fun family stuff too. Laugh, but don't let him see it.
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Post by Debbie on Aug 3, 2014 17:58:43 GMT
Sometimes I don't even try to hold the laughter in. We are at the tail end of teen years with our three girls. Some total WTF crying jags over the last 12 years of teenhood.
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tiffanytwisted
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Aug 3, 2014 18:03:30 GMT
You grit your teeth, do the sympathetic head tilt and then come here and post so we can all laugh with you!
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wellway
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Post by wellway on Aug 3, 2014 18:10:38 GMT
You grit your teeth, do the sympathetic head tilt and then come here and post so we can all laugh with you! This !! |
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Post by Merge on Aug 3, 2014 18:24:20 GMT
Mine flipped out last night because DH finished the Oreos. World-ending tears.
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 3, 2014 18:30:29 GMT
I totally don't remember being nearly as much of a drama queen as my boys are, but my mother assures me I was. I really don't understand how the smallest thing becomes a matter of life or death...but it is. Total meltdowns because some one ate the last cinnamon roll? The world has ended and the zombie apocalypse has begun.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 3, 2014 18:33:28 GMT
Oh yea, You should have girls. it's hilarious.
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Post by lovetodigi on Aug 3, 2014 18:36:34 GMT
Awww, go get him an ice-cream.  |
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Post by Miss Ang on Aug 3, 2014 18:41:20 GMT
I have always tried to teach my kids when they react that way, they are being selfish.
One of the phrases that has always been repeated in our home is, "Life's not fair." over and over again. The other thing we have never allowed is whining. None. Whining/crying/fits means I could not hear you. My kids are now teenagers and while they aren't perfect, they did not/do not whine.
If my child had a crying fit over not getting ice cream while they were out doing something fun I would sit them down (after they calmed down, of course) and have them tell me what fun things they did last night and then ask why they think no one else in the family should have been allowed to have fun doing something when they were away; in this case, get ice cream.
Sometimes getting kids to put themselves in another person's shoes is all they need to realize their behavior is wrong. IMO, teaching our kids to be empathetic is so important.
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johnnysmom
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Post by johnnysmom on Aug 3, 2014 18:50:35 GMT
Awww, go get him an ice-cream. Dh offered, but apparently it was too little too late  |
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sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Aug 3, 2014 18:52:20 GMT
Mine flipped out last night because DH finished the Oreos. World-ending tears. This is not a cause for laughter! It sounds like a perfectly reasonable situation for tears.   |
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lesley
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Post by lesley on Aug 3, 2014 18:53:52 GMT
My DD is 19 and has never really done the whole teenage drama. (She does excel in a whole other type of drama however.) My DS is 16, and some days if I didn't laugh at his antics, I would sob myself. He thinks if he says something authoritatively enough, then I will believe him. When I point out he is talking nonsense, he starts slamming doors and shouting that we all hate him. We call him Kevin after a character in a TV show who was the archetypal teenager.
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tiffanytwisted
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Aug 3, 2014 18:54:25 GMT
This is us. I always used to tell them that whining & begging not only will not get you what you want, but it will further piss me off. To this day, they may be fresh, snarky, disrectful, argumentative and/or defiant  but they do not whine or beg. |
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caro
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Post by caro on Aug 3, 2014 18:55:49 GMT
We used the "life's not fair" quote a lot at our house. Teens are a whole different breed of the human species. Oh and so are two year olds, kind of one and the same.
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tiffanytwisted
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Aug 3, 2014 18:58:29 GMT
We used the "life's not fair" quote a lot at our house. Teens are a whole different breed of the human species. Oh and so are two year olds, kind of one and the same. They really are just like toddlers - only worse because their bodies & vocabularies are bigger. |
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Post by transprntbutterfly on Aug 3, 2014 19:38:03 GMT
Meltdowns at my house have included going to dinner or any other thing while DS2 was at his dad's house. apparently our lives are supposed to stop when he is not here.
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duopenotti
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Post by duopenotti on Aug 3, 2014 21:32:30 GMT
Oh dear, I think this is my future?? My eldest DSD (almost 14) can create quite a drama when it's bedtime, but it's like a toddler tantrum. She's special needs, but never gives any problems. I think this is her form of puberty and teenage drama. It's hilarious, allthough a bit annoying at times. My other DSD (11) is not showing any drama yet, but she's incredibly busy with the other drama in her life (their mother) so I think she enjoys the calm and stable environment at our house. I fear that if she comes and live with us (which could be soon), teenage drama will hit my house with a force like a tornado! |
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Renee
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Post by Renee on Aug 3, 2014 21:42:45 GMT
That is the age when kids totally lose their minds. Now, when it coincides with mom's menopause... It isn't pretty...
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Usually I walked away but I did just stand and smile sometimes to see if I could get them to lighten up and see themselves as they looked to me. No harm done 
but they do not whine or beg.
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