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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2016 5:17:01 GMT
Disclaimer: This is not a handslap or related to any particular thread. Just good advice I read this week. "Target" is probably a harsh word but I am just copying verbatim: How to compose a successful critical commentary ( or post on 2peas ): 1. Attempt to re-express your target's position so clearly, vividly and fairly that your target says: “Thanks, I wish I'd thought of putting it that way.” 2. List any points of agreement (especially if they are not matters of general or widespread agreement). 3. Mention anything you have learned from your target. 4. Only then are you permitted to say so much as a word of rebuttal or criticism. One immediate effect of following these rules is that your target will be a receptive audience for your criticism: you have already shown that you understand their positions as well as they do, and have demonstrated good judgment (you agree with them on some important matters and have even been persuaded by something they said). Anatol Rapoport was a Russian-born American mathematical psychologist (1911-2007).
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 8, 2016 5:21:21 GMT
While good in theory, my posts are typically not long enough to follow all those steps and I don't have time to read 5 pages of responses from people with all that information.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2016 5:34:01 GMT
While good in theory, my posts are typically not long enough to follow all those steps and I don't have time to read 5 pages of responses from people with all that information. 1. I understand your point that sometimes the philosophy of conversing seems long winded vs the reality of available time 2. Sometimes I like to just post a one liner also and feel it makes my point enough 3. I learned 5 pages is too long for you 4. I believe I got to step 4 in 45 words so permission granted to rebutt I did the above 4 steps in jest to prove the theory works without spending too much time on writing an essay Often times I see a lot of one-liners in posts and wonder if taking the more deliberate approach of Raporports rules might have circumvented a lot of wasted energy and instead just focused on the issue being discussed instead of trading rants. To me Rapoport's rules seems very much in line with mindfulness which is important in conversation....and difficult.
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Post by cmputerdazed on Jul 8, 2016 6:56:03 GMT
sounds like a civil way to converse on topics that are open to misunderstandings.
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