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Post by workingclassdog on Jul 28, 2016 3:43:11 GMT
I think if the current job can match the pay and benefits I would stay. Your child is only going to be 8 for a short time. Before you know it they will be off to college and you can focus on your career then. Now, having said all that...it's the path I chose, and some days I regret it. I put my career on hold, and now, at 43, I'm finding it hard to find a step-up job, I think they will make me an offer and I am willing to see what it is to determine if I might stay. But I have a feeling they won't be able to come close. Which sucks. But the health benefits will even play more of a factor because we pay A LOT through DH work and he is also commission, so if his hours are cut (like the last two weeks) the money is just not there. If the health insurance is good and 1/2 the price, right there would be a huge factor. Plus full time hours. I am 48 and it's taken me 2 years to find this. I am pretty certain this is going to be one of my last big chances in getting in somewhere. I KNOW there isn't supposed to be an age discrimination thing going on, but there are so many younger and qualified people for jobs these days, I am starting to feel like I should take it now. My DD is 8. My other two kids are nearing 20 and 21. I worked full time with them and they are great kids and doing awesome in life. I feel blessed that I have had the last two years doing just that with my youngest.. field trips, working at her school, etc. and I still can do some things, just not as often. My dream would be just stay where I am at, work 20 hours a week, flexible. In reality, we can't do that. SOOO depending what they offer and what this new job offers.. we will see what happens. We are not getting all the bills paid. My mom has helped out and I can't keep asking her for help. I never have ever asked my parents to help out until the last six months. Thank God she is in the position to do so and I also will be paying her back. OHH if I win the lottery, well all this will be a mute point eh??? lol
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scorpeao
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Post by scorpeao on Jul 28, 2016 4:01:33 GMT
Oh, I'm a firm believer that age discrimination is real. Like I said, I'm 43 and having a hard time finding a new job that isn't a lateral move.
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Post by jennyap on Jul 28, 2016 8:49:08 GMT
We are not getting all the bills paid. That makes all the difference to me - you can't afford the luxury of the flexibility in your current job unless they can match the pay and benefits of the new one (subject to that firm offer, of course). I would already have said to take the new job based on your age and how long you've looked for something, but this is the clincher to me.
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Post by Mary_K on Jul 28, 2016 14:02:15 GMT
And it will be harder to be there for my 8 year old. This right there would tip the scale for me. Mary K
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oh yvonne
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Post by oh yvonne on Jul 28, 2016 14:30:53 GMT
If I loved the people I worked for and they made me a good offer, I'd stick with them due to the flexible hours. As a parent, that is worth a lot! Yep. This. Having the flexibility now to go on the field trips or be able to drop work at a moment's notice if your DD gets sick at school is a pretty big deal. I would love to have that! If I were in your shoes, I'd be thinking that the timing of the other job just wasn't right. If DD was say, 12 instead of 8, it might be a different story. I agree with this. You and I are pretty much in similar circumstances. When I was laid off after 25 years about 4 years ago, I discussed with DH how far I should go (commute wise) for my job search. I stayed local, at a lower pay than I could be making, however, I work whatever hours I want and I'm there for D, who very much needs me still. To me, the quality of our life with me being there for her is worth it. Good luck, I hope you can work things out with your current employer! <hugs> I'm sorry for all the stress you've been through with all this!
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Post by oh yvonne on Jul 28, 2016 14:33:37 GMT
I think if the current job can match the pay and benefits I would stay. Your child is only going to be 8 for a short time. Before you know it they will be off to college and you can focus on your career then. Now, having said all that...it's the path I chose, and some days I regret it. I put my career on hold, and now, at 43, I'm finding it hard to find a step-up job, I think they will make me an offer and I am willing to see what it is to determine if I might stay. But I have a feeling they won't be able to come close. Which sucks. But the health benefits will even play more of a factor because we pay A LOT through DH work and he is also commission, so if his hours are cut (like the last two weeks) the money is just not there. If the health insurance is good and 1/2 the price, right there would be a huge factor. Plus full time hours. I am 48 and it's taken me 2 years to find this. I am pretty certain this is going to be one of my last big chances in getting in somewhere. I KNOW there isn't supposed to be an age discrimination thing going on, but there are so many younger and qualified people for jobs these days, I am starting to feel like I should take it now. My DD is 8. My other two kids are nearing 20 and 21. I worked full time with them and they are great kids and doing awesome in life. I feel blessed that I have had the last two years doing just that with my youngest.. field trips, working at her school, etc. and I still can do some things, just not as often. My dream would be just stay where I am at, work 20 hours a week, flexible. In reality, we can't do that. SOOO depending what they offer and what this new job offers.. we will see what happens. We are not getting all the bills paid. My mom has helped out and I can't keep asking her for help. I never have ever asked my parents to help out until the last six months. Thank God she is in the position to do so and I also will be paying her back. OHH if I win the lottery, well all this will be a mute point eh??? lol oh gosh, I guess I answered too soon. Under these circumstances I think the money would *have* to take precedence. What if one of you gets really ill? Oh honey. It will work out but now that I know this, you really should go for the more stable, better paying job. Hopefully you can work those crazy shifts a while and the transition to better shift?
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Post by workingclassdog on Jul 28, 2016 15:08:27 GMT
I think they will make me an offer and I am willing to see what it is to determine if I might stay. But I have a feeling they won't be able to come close. Which sucks. But the health benefits will even play more of a factor because we pay A LOT through DH work and he is also commission, so if his hours are cut (like the last two weeks) the money is just not there. If the health insurance is good and 1/2 the price, right there would be a huge factor. Plus full time hours. I am 48 and it's taken me 2 years to find this. I am pretty certain this is going to be one of my last big chances in getting in somewhere. I KNOW there isn't supposed to be an age discrimination thing going on, but there are so many younger and qualified people for jobs these days, I am starting to feel like I should take it now. My DD is 8. My other two kids are nearing 20 and 21. I worked full time with them and they are great kids and doing awesome in life. I feel blessed that I have had the last two years doing just that with my youngest.. field trips, working at her school, etc. and I still can do some things, just not as often. My dream would be just stay where I am at, work 20 hours a week, flexible. In reality, we can't do that. SOOO depending what they offer and what this new job offers.. we will see what happens. We are not getting all the bills paid. My mom has helped out and I can't keep asking her for help. I never have ever asked my parents to help out until the last six months. Thank God she is in the position to do so and I also will be paying her back. OHH if I win the lottery, well all this will be a mute point eh??? lol oh gosh, I guess I answered too soon. Under these circumstances I think the money would *have* to take precedence. What if one of you gets really ill? Oh honey. It will work out but now that I know this, you really should go for the more stable, better paying job. Hopefully you can work those crazy shifts a while and the transition to better shift? I know exactly what your saying in both counts!!! I hope maybe getting my foot in the door will lead to a better shift position down the road!!
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Post by Anita on Jul 28, 2016 15:10:19 GMT
Have you heard anything yet?
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Post by jamielynn on Jul 28, 2016 16:50:05 GMT
I didn't read responses; but your current job doesn't find enough value in you to make an offer for a change (hours, wage, benefits). I wouldn't let them counter me on the principle that you are only worth those things to them when they are losing you to someone who sees that value in you.
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