cycworker
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Post by cycworker on Jul 24, 2016 22:12:58 GMT
I can't find the original post, because it was from last July. Well, I probably could but I'm lazy. Some of you may recall that last year, when my brother, sister in law & niece were here, my sweet little E was freaked out by my wheelchair. They arrived last night. I had breakfast with them this morning & I'm happy to say she's pretty much over it. She still has NO interest in the elevator (which doesn't bother me - it just genuinely surprises me... most kids love that thing) and she has no interest in sitting on my knee/riding in the chair or pushing it. But she doesn't freak out when I leave the kitchen table. We were out on the sundeck blowing bubbles, we were doing puzzles, playing with toys, doing stickers... had a fun morning. Am going back tomorrow. They're off to the beach today. Oooh... and I don't know if I mentioned it but my bro & sil are expecting their second in early December. Now if I could just get my family to remember to refer to me as Auntie, rather than just Tania, we'd be all set.
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Post by monklady123 on Jul 24, 2016 22:16:59 GMT
That's great news! How old is she? (I don't remember the original post, sorry).
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oldcrow
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Post by oldcrow on Jul 24, 2016 22:21:37 GMT
I remember your post from last year and I am so glad your niece is fine with your chair. Hope things continue to improve, Auntie.
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Trixie Bender
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Post by Trixie Bender on Jul 24, 2016 22:24:06 GMT
I remember your original post. I'm so glad that the visit went so well this year!
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kate
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Post by kate on Jul 24, 2016 22:25:17 GMT
That's great! Enjoy their company.
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Post by malibou on Jul 24, 2016 22:29:31 GMT
Nice to hear it went so well this year. Congrats on the wee one that will be here soon.
J
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cycworker
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Post by cycworker on Jul 24, 2016 22:50:32 GMT
monklady123 - she will be 3 in September. Her little sibling (I suspect it's a girl, though I'm not sure) is due Dec 8.
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Post by dewryce on Jul 24, 2016 23:11:26 GMT
I didn't see the original post, but I am glad things are going better this year!
Would you mind sharing a good way to talk to children about this topic? Both before they are exposed to someone in a wheelchair and in their presence?
I ask because in another thread today we were discussing taking children to work and I mentioned how I want our (future) child to go to work with DH. He works as an occupational therapist in a nursing home, and it is important to us that they are comfortable around the elderly from the start. Reading your message reminds me they will not only be exposed to an older population than they are used to in day to day life, but also to different means of getting around including canes, walkers and wheelchairs. Any advice or thoughts you would can share would be much appreciated!
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Post by zishisak on Jul 25, 2016 1:16:29 GMT
My mom was in a wheelchair and my kids absolutely loved getting rides from her, they would play games where she would drive them to imaginary cities on her electric chair. She would also make them feel included by giving them little jobs to do... push the elevator button, help with her transfer board, push the button for the vans ramp... Hope you enjoy your family time!
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Post by rst on Jul 25, 2016 3:01:20 GMT
I'll chime in with suggestions on language to explain wheelchairs (and other mobility devices) to young kids. I've spent a lot of time doing it as an advocate for my son who's a non-verbal wheelchair user. Every year at the beginning of school, we'd take on an age-appropriate discussion with classmates and their families.
First, I think it's important to be very matter of fact about it. We don't do any big "this is a very special, magical thing" kind of speech. It's not. It's how the person gets around. You wear shoes, this person uses a wheelchair. Just like you would think it was kind of odd if someone came up and started putting on your shoes or moving your shoes around without asking, it's really inappropriate for anyone to move or handle a wheelchair unless they are invited to bu the user. It's part of their personal space. You should never push a chair or touch buttons on it unless you are told by the user that they would like you to. If a wheelchair is in front of you, don't kick the back of it -- it's annoying. If you're walking in front of a wheelchair, don't stop suddenly -- that makes it really hard to be a safe driver. At the same time, you don't have to act like it's tank about to mow you down. If you're friends with someone who uses a chair, you can get close to them or rest an arm on their tray or seat back -- pretty much the same personal boundaries rules you'd use with anyone.
Things that you can do that are helpful and nice -- push your chair under the table or desk all the way so there is space for a wheelchair to get by. Hold the door open fully. If you're not sure -- ask the person if it would be helpful for you to hold a door or if it's easier if you just get out of the way. When you are talking to someone who uses a wheelchair, make eye contact with them, not the person they're with. If someone in a wheelchair is part of the conversation, make the circle around them include them -- consciously make sure that you don't shift and leave them out. One thing that my son's friends learned to do and really enjoyed was being scouts to find the accessible pathways and be on the lookout for barriers. Recently one of his friends from Kindergarten saw me and told me that he still instinctively looks to see if places are really wheelchair accessible everywhere he goes -- something he learned hanging out with Daniel way back 11 years ago.
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Post by anniefb on Jul 25, 2016 7:13:46 GMT
Great news!
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Post by dewryce on Jul 25, 2016 7:22:27 GMT
Thank you rst that is very helpful!
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eastcoastpea
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Post by eastcoastpea on Jul 25, 2016 8:43:45 GMT
Great update. tfs
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