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Post by lindas on Aug 4, 2014 19:54:57 GMT
I'm this close to blowing a gasket at DH. We're at the last phase of completing our basement, just end to get plumbing hooked up and carpet down. So, I decided that I would start cleaning today. I washed all the Sheetrock dust off his pool table and side chairs and gave them a good polishing. Then I started on the cabinets. This is where I started to lose it. I opened the first cabinet to wipe down the inside and DH had filled it with his CDs and other misc junk. The rest of them were just as bad. So now I not only had all the dust inside but dust on everything he had stuffed in there. He knew I had to clean before I started putting things in those cabinets or drawers so why, why, why would he think it was ok to do this.  How can you be married to someone for 44 years and not know that this kind of crap would set them off. I don't mind doing the cleanup behind his projects but damn, don't make me have to do double the work. I'm going to count to 10, about a dozen times  , drink a cup of tea then go finish this mess and since it's 4pm dinner is on him tonight. |
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Post by alibama on Aug 4, 2014 19:59:31 GMT
Might I suggest wine instead of Tea. It might help more  |
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Aug 4, 2014 20:01:50 GMT
Might I suggest wine instead of Tea. It might help more Exactly what I was going to write lol Good luck! |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 4, 2014 20:02:47 GMT
I feel your pain. My SO left the house this afternoon at the same time we have someone coming to look at furniture that we're trying to sell.
I don't get it.
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 4, 2014 20:04:03 GMT
I would like to say I would make him clean it up, but realistically, I would be doing it! Dinner on him is a good idea |
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Post by mommaho on Aug 4, 2014 20:10:29 GMT
Or give him a rag and sit with him while you drink your wine and he dusts his things |
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Post by marianne on Aug 4, 2014 20:11:19 GMT
I would suggest, along with the wine, handing said clean-up supplies to said H - for purposes of this post, I'll omit the D - and tell him to have at it. Then I would relax with my glass of wine and perhaps a listen to one of the CDs.
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Post by caro on Aug 4, 2014 20:38:40 GMT
Might I suggest wine instead of Tea. It might help more [br Yes! |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 4, 2014 20:43:00 GMT
I find that when I'm bugged by something DH or kids have done and I'm cleaning up or fixing, I stop right then and there. If it's something that the kids can finish, I make them finish. If it's not, then I ask DH to do it. I usually hand over the unfinished project over to DH and say, know what? This is your mess, you clean it up. I have no problem maintaining the house but I will not be treated like a maid. If it's a mess of your doing, you clean it up unless we agreed ahead of time of how things were going to be handled.
And if wine isn't your thing, then spike that tea with some rum or go get your favorite beer.
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Post by stampnscrap1128 on Aug 4, 2014 21:02:34 GMT
If it is his property that got all dusty, then I'd leave it alone and let him handle it. If it is mutual property, I'd clean it and ask him to either help or make dinner tonight.
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Post by Debbie on Aug 4, 2014 21:06:32 GMT
I would have suggested vodka instead of wine.
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Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Aug 4, 2014 21:17:42 GMT
I'd bag it all up in a big garbage bag and have him take it outside to clean it. I feel your pain. Maddening. Why don't they get that the best thing to do is PREVENT a mess, not create a bigger one.
Wine, and dinner on him, too!
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Post by IAmUnoriginal on Aug 4, 2014 21:21:33 GMT
I would have suggested vodka instead of wine. I was headed straight for the tequila with a frozen margarita. |
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Post by cycworker on Aug 4, 2014 21:26:01 GMT
Might I suggest wine instead of Tea. It might help more I would head straight to hard liquor. Rum and Coke, baby! I am sorry. That sucks |
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Post by mallie on Aug 4, 2014 22:01:17 GMT
Yeah, it's time for him to man up and clean up his own mess.
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Post by maurchclt on Aug 4, 2014 22:05:32 GMT
MEN!!!!
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Post by doxielady on Aug 4, 2014 22:08:21 GMT
As I have grown older, I tend to be calmer about most things. Most things.
However, any type of remodel, i.e. extreme dust, debris and noise, will make me go slightly crazy. I have broken down and cried over dust of all things! Remodeling just simply makes me nuts. I don't know what it is exactly, but there is something about it that sets me off. I usually love the planning and the end result - but the in between - WHOA!!
I agree with everyone else - wine is indeed indicated here. and I understand completely! |
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Post by cahwoo on Aug 4, 2014 22:09:34 GMT
I find that when I'm bugged by something DH or kids have done and I'm cleaning up or fixing, I stop right then and there. If it's something that the kids can finish, I make them finish. If it's not, then I ask DH to do it. I usually hand over the unfinished project over to DH and say, know what? This is your mess, you clean it up. I have no problem maintaining the house but I will not be treated like a maid. If it's a mess of your doing, you clean it up unless we agreed ahead of time of how things were going to be handled. And if wine isn't your thing, then spike that tea with some rum or go get your favorite beer. |
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Post by cahwoo on Aug 4, 2014 22:11:36 GMT
dkintter you took the words right out of my mouth. I would do the exact same thing and have
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Post by Deleted on Aug 4, 2014 22:13:24 GMT
I feel for you.
Me? I would put all his stuff in a box, clean the inside of the cabinet, hand him the box and tell him that the cabinets are clean and he needs to clean his stuff before he puts it back in the cabinet.
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Post by lovetodigi on Aug 4, 2014 22:18:06 GMT
Might I suggest wine instead of Tea. It might help more That was my first thought too. I'm sorry. Try not to do anything that will end with you in jail. |
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Aug 4, 2014 22:21:26 GMT
Bless their hearts. Some people are just missing the common sense gene that would tell that putting stuff in the cabinet before the renovation is complete means that stuff now has to be cleaned too. He's a defective model. Trade him in. Edited to add -- I hope you understand I'm posting tongue-in-cheek.  |
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Post by lindas on Aug 4, 2014 22:23:48 GMT
As I have grown older, I tend to be calmer about most things. Most things.
However, any type of remodel, i.e. extreme dust, debris and noise, will make me go slightly crazy. I have broken down and cried over dust of all things! Remodeling just simply makes me nuts. I don't know what it is exactly, but there is something about it that sets me off. I usually love the planning and the end result - but the in between - WHOA!!
I agree with everyone else - wine is indeed indicated here. and I understand completely! This is soooo me. I didn't want the basement finished, we didn't need the added space. I hate dust but sheetrock dust is the absolute worse. I covered everything in the storage area with plastic, tucked it in good and tight and there is still a layer of dust on things and inside boxes. He he did offer to clean it himself but after looking at his workshop that he so proudly proclaimed was cleaned up I decided it was better to do it myself. He did make dinner and I will be breaking out a bottle of wine to enjoy with the ball game. He can go watch TV in the bedroom and he's taking the dogs with him. |
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Post by lindas on Aug 4, 2014 22:26:11 GMT
Bless their hearts. Some people are just missing the common sense gene that would tell that putting stuff in the cabinet before the renovation is complete means that stuff now has to be cleaned too. He's a defective model. Trade him in. Edited to add -- I hope you understand I'm posting tongue-in-cheek. I would but I doubt at his age he has much value left. Cheaper to keep him then to break in another model. |
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 4, 2014 22:31:24 GMT
And what will make it even worse, is when you tell him how "aggravexed" you are, he will act like it is no big deal.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 4, 2014 22:38:20 GMT
Yeah, it's time for him to man up and clean up his own mess. Yup!! |
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Post by styxgirl on Aug 4, 2014 23:15:30 GMT
He picked his junk up and put it away on a cabinet?! ;-) I think he deserves BIG hugs for just that! ;-) LOL I understand how you feel!
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How can you be married to someone for 44 years and not know that this kind of crap would set them off. 
, drink a cup of tea then go finish this mess and since it's 4pm dinner is on him tonight.
