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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2016 15:59:02 GMT
One of the biggest struggles we've faced with our son is gaming and what has become a true addiction. Even with regular, constant therapy, this is one area we haven't been able to get a handle on. Today my husband happened to turn the Diane Rehm Show on NPR and it's like the skies parted and angels started singing. The one expert said (and I already knew), kids with Aspergers are inherently drawn into this world. If you have a kid in your house who is on their way or already addicted to the internet, in our case gaming specifically, I highly encourage you to check these links out. I'm taking this straight to his counselor next week because I finally have the information I've sought after (albeit not as fervently as I should have to this point) that I think can move the needle forward for us. I don't look for him to give up gaming all together but we need to find a way to help him balance his gaming time with other activities. That's our struggle. We all know (my son included) that he'd be far happier if we could achieve this. Internet Gaming DisorderDiane Rehm Show - How to Help Teens and Children fight Internet Addiction
Reset Your Child's Brain
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Post by milocat on Jul 27, 2016 16:38:59 GMT
I'm glad you found something, hopefully it will be helpful to his therapist. How old is your son?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2016 16:54:59 GMT
He turned 18 last month. So the "dynamics" so to speak have changed. He swears he doesn't plan to hold the "I'm an adult" card out against us but we have to be realistic that he *could*. And I'm not looking to be punitive or authoritative here, I am just searching for a balance for him that will only serve to look out for his best interests.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Jul 27, 2016 18:02:42 GMT
I hope this helps but my son would play video games from 7 pm to bedtime 10 or 11 pm every night. Weekends were solid gaming. He has(d) a PlayStation whatever, a couple of X-Boxes and a WII, PSP and a Game Boy of some sort so he was heavily into it. He had way too many people buying presents for him. (He also had a MacBook Pro as well as a gaming laptop.
This behaviour lasted until he started to work full-time (he worked for about a year). Then he was too tired to game. Then came schooling. He moved to Vancouver to go to study and he never plays. He watches a bit of TV on the weekend and has no time to game. He still plays games when he comes home but he holds the top spot in the class. He will start working on his apprenticeship in the fall and I doubt gaming will happen except on weekends. He has gone to gamer supreme to barely an hour here or there. He doesn't have an addictive personality which is a good thing, but he isn't much into gaming like he was. I hope your son outgrows it as well.
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Post by oh yvonne on Jul 27, 2016 18:09:19 GMT
This is interesting. There is a famous Youtube of a teen boy absolutely having a crazy meltdown in his bedroom that his younger brother filmed of him. His mother had cancelled or deactivated his World of Warcraft or whatever it's called. It's pretty famous and about five years old by now.
I never thought it was funny and wondered if the poor kid had some sort of developmental issues. This probably explains it.
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Post by mikklynn on Jul 27, 2016 20:14:00 GMT
DH and I saw a story about this with a college wrestler. It was really interesting and eye opening. Here is the link: link
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Post by refugeepea on Jul 27, 2016 20:16:27 GMT
Very interesting. Thanks.
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Post by luvnlifelady on Jul 27, 2016 20:34:58 GMT
There was a guy in Japan that supposedly died because he held his pee too long because of gaming. Sad. I hope you find a reasonable balance for your son. My 16 yo DS spend a ton of time online but it's more watching Youtube videos etc. Somehow he has used 13 gigs of data this month and he's mostly been home. I need to see if he's on the Home Wifi.
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Post by shannonscraps on Jul 27, 2016 20:47:47 GMT
My teens are having a hard time knowing when to disconnect too. We found a device called Circle that I can control using my smart phone and put time limits on all of our devices. It connects to your wifi and then you can put time limit for individual devices, websites that are frequented, and put bed times on devices too. If you want to be able to control your childs internet usage outside of your own wifi they have a $10 a month fee that allows you to do that. It has been a total life changer for my kids. My son would watch youtube all day if I wasn't on top of it, now I put a 2 hour time limit on youtube and when that is up he knows he is done. I can also "pause" their internet on their devices if I need to. Here is link to their website if you want more information: meetcircle.comI am not affiliated with this company in anyway, just a long time lurker that is coming out of lurkdom because this has been a game changer (no pun intended) in our family. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2016 21:18:57 GMT
Wanted to add that while my focus is gaming, the discussion on the show (and of the main site for the first link) is about all forms of internet addiction including social media, phone use, you tube etc.
Honestly, I know how easily I can get sucked in. I know how much I find myself turning to my phone or laptop. It's not just teens who have potential problems developing.
I have said in recent years that I rue the day I bought that damn Xbox. I wouldn't do it now knowing what I know now.
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Post by Sassenach on Jul 27, 2016 22:52:25 GMT
Thanks. I'm glad you posted these links.
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