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Post by donna on Aug 5, 2014 2:44:16 GMT
I debated if I should say anything, but I have decided it is important to not just suck this up.
I am astounded and hurt that people would question the validity or need for a prayer request I made the other day about jury duty. Over the years on Two Peas I have seen a huge variety of prayer requests. I don't think I ever remember people questioning if the subject of the prayer request was important enough. Even if I thought it was a little odd, I would never say anything because the request was important to that particular person.
My request was important to me and my students. If it was an odd request, you could just move on and not say anything. You definitely didn't need to make snide remarks in my thread and in other ones as well.
I am going to take a break for a bit and focus on starting my school year well.
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Aug 5, 2014 2:51:07 GMT
I am confused...I just went and read your thread requesting prayers about your jury duty, and I didn't see any snide remarks. Were they deleted?
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Post by peasful1 on Aug 5, 2014 2:51:28 GMT
What are you talking about? Your original request had all positive responses. Your second post on it was the same. Your third post about it didn't have anyone crap all over you. One or two said it's a part of being American.
Did I miss a thread where people were putting you or your request down? Because most of what I saw were people rooting for you.
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Post by SnowWhite on Aug 5, 2014 2:56:44 GMT
What are you talking about? Your original request had all positive responses. Your second post on it was the same. Your third post about it didn't have anyone crap all over you. One or two said it's a part of being American. Did I miss a thread where people were putting you or your request down? Because most of what I saw were people rooting for you. I'm pretty sure she's talking about this thread. Not the prayer request thread, not the updated thread but the third thread from the OP about her jury duty. Glad to see I'm not the only one who had to go hunting for it and still doesn't really understand the butt-hurt.
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Post by peasful1 on Aug 5, 2014 3:03:13 GMT
yes, that's the third one I was referring to. I still don't see what was so mean about it. Oh well. WE all have our sensitive moments, I guess. I was just surprised after so many positive responses in THREE threads on the subject, that she would post a fourth thread about it to focus on what she perceived as negative.
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Post by Goldynn on Aug 5, 2014 3:06:50 GMT
Actually, I think it might be about this thread: 2peasrefugees.boards.net/thread/4644/jury-duty-tomorrowThe OP mentioned snide remarks in HER thread, and OTHERS as well. There's a couple remarks in the one I linked, nothing too harsh IMHO. I'm sorry your feelings got hurt though, Donna
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Post by elaine on Aug 5, 2014 3:12:25 GMT
I debated if I should say anything, but I have decided it is important to not just suck this up. I am astounded and hurt that people would question the validity or need for a prayer request I made the other day about jury duty. Over the years on Two Peas I have seen a huge variety of prayer requests. I don't think I ever remember people questioning if the subject of the prayer request was important enough. Even if I thought it was a little odd, I would never say anything because the request was important to that particular person. My request was important to me and my students. If it was an odd request, you could just move on and not say anything. You definitely didn't need to make snide remarks in my thread and in other ones as well. I am going to take a break for a bit and focus on starting my school year well. Donna, please do what you need to do to take care of yourself. Come back when you can, please!
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Post by Nink on Aug 5, 2014 3:15:51 GMT
I'm sorry something happened to upset you. I hope you don't leave for good, but just take the break you feel you need. Good luck starting the school year.
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Post by megop on Aug 5, 2014 3:23:03 GMT
Try to let it go. Everyone has opinions and they don't walk in your shoes. Do what is right for you and pay no mind to what others have to say.
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Post by Sassenach on Aug 5, 2014 3:30:25 GMT
Donna, you seem to be a very dedicated teacher and I think you had valid reasons to be concerned about the possibility of missing the beginning of the school year. I'm glad things worked out for you. Good luck with the next school year.
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Post by Cheesy on Aug 5, 2014 3:36:13 GMT
Donna--I did see the post and thought it might upset you. I'm not religious so prayer is personally not something meaningful to me, BUT, I do understand that it is very important to someone who does pray.
We all ask for support in different ways; who's to say one way is ok but another way isn't ok?
I thought it was fine that you asked for prayers, and I would encourage you to continue to do so any time you'd like to.
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 5, 2014 3:41:39 GMT
I am sorry that you were hurt. I do think that the desperateness in your posts and your three threads wanting us to pray for you not to have an inconvenience in your life was a little overboard. In the grand scheme of things, while jury duty during this time of year would suck, it isn't the end of the world. I didn't say anything in your threads, just rolled my eyes and moved on, but since you brought up the snide comments, I think the people who commented have the same validity that you had with your request.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Aug 5, 2014 6:12:49 GMT
I am sorry that you were hurt. I do think that the desperateness in your posts and your three threads wanting us to pray for you not to have an inconvenience in your life was a little overboard. In the grand scheme of things, while jury duty during this time of year would suck, it isn't the end of the world. I didn't say anything in your threads, just rolled my eyes and moved on, but since you brought up the snide comments, I think the people who commented have the same validity that you had with your request.
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Post by inkedup on Aug 5, 2014 6:30:10 GMT
I'm not sure how much support you expected or wanted, but it seems like you received plenty in all three of your posts regarding jury duty. On a board where people are asking for prayers for terminally ill loved ones, long term unemployment and other personal crises, people still took time out to respond to your many requests for prayers that you not have to attend JURY DUTY. That, coupled with this hairflip, makes me wonder if you are lacking a little bit of perspective in your life.
Maybe a time out from this place will be good for you.
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Post by gar on Aug 5, 2014 11:03:13 GMT
Are you? Looking at the threads you got roughly 90% positive support - I think that's pretty good going and starting a Poor Me thread isn't really justified is it? Really? And while I know you can't compare tragedies and degrees of heartache I think you certainly got the support you asked for on something that perhaps isn't as desperate as many of the prayer requests we unfortunately see.
ETA - unfortunate in terms of it's sad that so many people go through such tough times.
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Post by 1lear on Aug 5, 2014 11:13:16 GMT
I'm sorry you were hurt-I hope you'll come back and participate in the board.
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Post by grinningcat on Aug 5, 2014 11:20:46 GMT
I don't really understand how prayers help someone get out of jury duty... but I am not Christian and even when I "was", I thought prayers were hokum. But anyway... sorry you were hurt. You have to remember that there is a wide variety of people here and that everyone has their own world view. Some would think that prayers for something as mundane as jury duty makes total sense, others don't.
For the record, my mother had to miss the first month of school one year due to health issues, she had no problem getting things back on track for the remainder of the year when she returned. So while it sounds catastrophic, it may not have been that bad.
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Post by peppermintpatty on Aug 5, 2014 12:01:51 GMT
Okay, take all the time you need but I read the posts and I didn't find anything that even remotely hurtful in the responses.
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Post by akathy on Aug 5, 2014 12:26:56 GMT
I'm so sorry your feelings got hurt I think every long time pea should know that no matter what you put out there it's open to criticism. This is after all the NSBR and sometimes we get snarky. You can't take that stuff personally. Like I said, I'm sorry you were hurt but maybe some time off is exactly what you need. Good luck with the start of another school year.
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Aug 5, 2014 12:35:11 GMT
Hi, Donna, I wrote a supportive post, but, truth be told, didn't pray for you. I don't think prayer works that way. If it does, what becomes of the people who nobody is praying for? Good luck with the upcoming madness.
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Post by christine58 on Aug 5, 2014 12:44:44 GMT
Donna I am going to say what I always say....when you take the risk to post here (or anywhere) be prepared to take the risk of the responses. I agree with your point about not wanting to start the school year with a sub...those of us who are teachers get that. When we have the pressures of kids tests scores determining our jobs etc, it is hard to be out of the classroom. Take a short break....we all need that from time to time. Not everyone here is going to agree with everything everyone writes. Think of how boring that would be.
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Post by gailoh on Aug 5, 2014 12:48:30 GMT
Hope all goes well for you...
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Post by Merge on Aug 5, 2014 12:57:33 GMT
Sometimes I feel like this board is a strange twilight-zone version of the old one ... there are people here who are just needlessly nasty who I don't recall ever being that way on the old board.
Donna, I'm sorry your feelings were hurt. I'm not much for prayer but I don't think it's wrong to ask for support when you're facing a potentially stressful situation. I'm glad things worked out well for you and that you have a great start to your school year. We had a teacher who was out for the first six weeks of school last year for maternity leave, and she says that if she ever had a baby due in August again, she'd bring it with her and be in her classroom for those weeks! She struggled so much with getting the kids on track.
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Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Aug 5, 2014 13:11:25 GMT
I understand why you don't want jury duty during the opening of school. And, I understand that you are teaching AP science courses and preparing students for AP exams, factoring into this situation. I am sorry your feelings were hurt and hope you will be refreshed by a break and return soon.
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Post by julieb on Aug 5, 2014 13:18:01 GMT
I agree. I pray and I didn't pray for you to NOT have jury duty. Silly.
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Post by hop2 on Aug 5, 2014 13:20:23 GMT
Donna I'm sorry you were hurt. I know your posts going back years and you seem like a kind and dedicated teacher who always put her students needs first. Enjoy your break, have a great start to the school year ( hopefully with all the necessary textbooks ! ) see you when your back! <3 But I'm not too sure I'd be "astounded", to me, that denotes some kind of surprise, and you shouldn't be surprised. Your a long time pea, and you know how NSBR rolls, so you know 'someone' isn't going to agree. Very rare is the thread where all peas agree. And multiple threads just multiplies that chance. Try not to let it get to you overly much. We've all had to deal with varying forms of slappityness over the years, sometimes deserved, many times not really. But the wide range of opinions and diversity is what attracts so many if us to NSBR in the first place, so once in awhile it's not going to shake out your way. Concentrate on the best of it and take the rest with a big ole grain of salt. For the most part I've seen so much more support and encouragement here than not, and I greatly appreciate that. We have been just a touch more respectful here in the new home and I like that too ( hope it continues that way ) I hope you'll be able to sort thru your threads and take the positive from it. {{{hugs}}}. ( and yes spreadsheet peas you can repost my words back to me if I need them in the future, as I'm sure I may )
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Post by lovetodigi on Aug 5, 2014 14:14:50 GMT
I just wanted to say that I am sorry that your feelings have been hurt. It happened to me a couple of times at the "other place". I just took a couple of days, licked my wounds, briefly thought about never, ever going back and then jumped right back in. Sometimes things come across differently than the poster meant for them to. Sometimes, it is hard to get the tone of your post across on a message board. Different people can read the same thing and see it differently. I hope that you come back soon. Try not to be too hurt. You belong here. I am sure that the jury duty is a big deal for you, it would be for many others too. There are also many others out there that would take it with an "oh heck", I got jury duty. Some might even find it an adventure. There are people out there that have served jury duty and made money from it by writing a book afterward. Everybody is different and everybody see things differently. It does not make one wrong because some disagree. Different people use prayer for different reasons. I have a sister that prays about every little thing in her life. I am okay with that. I have told her that I only pray about the big things and prayers of thanks, because if I pray about everything in my life, God would be so busy, He wouldn't have time for anyone else's prayers. We do things differently, yet I respect and admire her dedication to prayer. Different people use prayer differently. I hope that the beginning of school goes well for you. I am sure that it is a stressful time, but once you are settled in, I hope that you come back. Sending you a (((hug))).
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Post by Zee on Aug 5, 2014 14:18:16 GMT
Well I'm sure my response was one of the ones that you didn't care for, but I still feel that asking for prayers to get out of jury duty considering the state of the rest of the world is... misguided, at best. If you find that so hurtful you have to leave the board, I do apologize and hope you will reconsider after you've had some time to think.
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Post by kelkel on Aug 5, 2014 14:23:30 GMT
I can only guess that someone deleted their comment because I saw absolutely nothing that would cause anyone to be "astounded and hurt"
ETA: As a proponent of the judicial system, I wasn't going to pray for someone to get out of jury duty. Sorry.
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Post by freebird on Aug 5, 2014 14:27:16 GMT
You do realize that you're at the bucket right? (part deux)
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