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Post by purplebee on Aug 5, 2014 14:37:28 GMT
Donna, Phil. 4:6-7 says Do not be anxious about anything but instead pray about EVERYTHING. I didn't see the verse that instructs"except jury duty!"
Everyone has different opinions and attitudes, and when you jump in here you're going to hear it all, as previous posters have said. I also think that folks with no experience with working at school (I do) have no clue as to the stress that the first few weeks can create.
Hope your first few weeks go smoothly and easily, that's what I'm hoping for when I return to school in a couple of weeks. Come back!
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Post by scrappinmama on Aug 5, 2014 14:38:53 GMT
I'm sorry your feelings got hurt. Take a break and come back when you feel better. Don't let this get to you.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2014 14:45:55 GMT
 I just don't understand this whole drama. There was ONE semi-snarky comment on the THIRD thread. I'm shocked that a long time NSBRer would be this prickly about one dissenting opinion. It sounds like you definitely need a break. If you can't handle dissenting opinions, this is not the board for you. I'm surprised you didn't figure that out back on 2peas years ago.  I hope your school year goes well.  |
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Post by sisterbdsq on Aug 5, 2014 15:08:04 GMT
While I am sorry you had for feelings hurt, I believe astounded is quite dramatic. To you, your possible jury duty could have been a catastrophic life altering event that you felt you had to post about multiple times. To others, it was something to deal with. I'm sorry you didn't get all the sympathy you felt you deserved, but it's really nothing to be all sad about to the point you threaten to leave in a cloud of tears. Buck up. It didn't happen, and life is good. You DID get a LOT of hand stroking, so that should count for something in the law of pea averages.
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Post by loco coco on Aug 5, 2014 15:29:50 GMT
dont let this get to you, the comments werent even that bad. Take a break and enjoy your new class!
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Post by Merge on Aug 5, 2014 15:37:15 GMT
Maybe she thought as a long-time member without a lot of dramatic history, she'd be cut some slack?
It only takes a little imagination to read between the lines and see that what she was really asking for prayers for was that her students wouldn't have to start the year with a sub. And is that really so terrible and unworthy of prayers?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2014 15:40:04 GMT
The thing is jury duty is almost always an inconvenience for everyone. From the person with children, to the person who's job doesn't pay when they go, to the one at the busiest time in their job, etc etc. It is part of life and we all just have to deal with it.
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Aug 5, 2014 15:45:37 GMT
Maybe she thought as a long-time member without a lot of dramatic history, she'd be cut some slack? It only takes a little imagination to read between the lines and see that what she was really asking for prayers for was that her students wouldn't have to start the year with a sub. And is that really so terrible and unworthy of prayers? I think this gets to the heart of the matter. I'm sorry you were hurt and hope you come back after some time. Time can often change perspective. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2014 15:55:26 GMT
Maybe she thought as a long-time member without a lot of dramatic history, she'd be cut some slack? It only takes a little imagination to read between the lines and see that what she was really asking for prayers for was that her students wouldn't have to start the year with a sub. And is that really so terrible and unworthy of prayers? That's a good point.
The problem is that anyone who has been around Two Peas for any length of time knows that jury duty can be a contentious subject.
That said, I'm not sure that one very vague and general comment should warrant such hurt feelings after two threads of support. I can only hope that perhaps the OP is emotionally stressed in other areas and not that sensitive on a regular basis or the world could be a very hurtful place.
Edited to change a word to be a little more sensitive to the OP
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Post by beachbum on Aug 5, 2014 16:30:35 GMT
Maybe she thought as a long-time member without a lot of dramatic history, she'd be cut some slack? It only takes a little imagination to read between the lines and see that what she was really asking for prayers for was that her students wouldn't have to start the year with a sub. And is that really so terrible and unworthy of prayers? That's a good point.
The problem is that anyone who has been around Two Peas for any length of time knows that jury duty can be a contentious subject.
That said, I'm not sure that one very vague and general comment should warrant such hurt feelings after two threads of support. I can only hope that perhaps the OP is emotionally stressed in other areas and not that thinned skin on a regular basis or the world could be a very hurtful place.
 Could just be the straw that broke her camel's back. As a retired teacher I do understand how important the first couple of weeks of the school year are - you set the tone for the entire year then, especially with little ones. This time of year most teachers are walking balls of nerve endings. |
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Post by caro on Aug 5, 2014 17:06:24 GMT
Actually, I think it might be about this thread: 2peasrefugees.boards.net/thread/4644/jury-duty-tomorrowThe OP mentioned snide remarks in HER thread, and OTHERS as well. There's a couple remarks in the one I linked, nothing too harsh IMHO. I'm sorry your feelings got hurt though, Donna [br Wow, that 's my thread. I didn't 't think anything I said was snarky or hurtful to anyone. I didn't 't ask for prayers but that had nothing to do with Donna 's thread at all. SMH |
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Post by Nink on Aug 5, 2014 17:13:05 GMT
Actually, I think it might be about this thread: 2peasrefugees.boards.net/thread/4644/jury-duty-tomorrowThe OP mentioned snide remarks in HER thread, and OTHERS as well. There's a couple remarks in the one I linked, nothing too harsh IMHO. I'm sorry your feelings got hurt though, Donna [br Wow, that 's my thread. I didn't 't think anything I said was snarky or hurtful to anyone. I didn't 't ask for prayers but that had nothing to do with Donna 's thread at all. SMH I think someone within the thread commented that they were glad you weren't asking for prayers. At least that's the only thing I saw that could have been taken to heart. It wasn't anything you posted I don't believe. |
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Post by Goldynn on Aug 5, 2014 17:16:47 GMT
Actually, I think it might be about this thread: 2peasrefugees.boards.net/thread/4644/jury-duty-tomorrowThe OP mentioned snide remarks in HER thread, and OTHERS as well. There's a couple remarks in the one I linked, nothing too harsh IMHO. I'm sorry your feelings got hurt though, Donna [br Wow, that 's my thread. I didn't 't think anything I said was snarky or hurtful to anyone. I didn't 't ask for prayers but that had nothing to do with Donna 's thread at all. SMH Sorry, I wasn't very clear. I don't think you said anything hurtful at all. There was a comment in your thread about someone saying they were glad that "prayers" weren't requested regarding jury duty - that's all I was referencing because I just didn't see any snide or hurtful comments anywhere else that could've upset Donna. I think they were only making the point that some feel jury duty isn't something to "pray" over. Hope that makes sense. |
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Post by Zee on Aug 5, 2014 17:26:29 GMT
Maybe she thought as a long-time member without a lot of dramatic history, she'd be cut some slack? It only takes a little imagination to read between the lines and see that what she was really asking for prayers for was that her students wouldn't have to start the year with a sub. And is that really so terrible and unworthy of prayers? If you're praying for her not to have to do it, you're praying that someone else does. Maybe their time is valuable too. And if there is a god who lets people off jury duty while children die of cancer, i want off this planet. |
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Post by melanell on Aug 5, 2014 17:39:21 GMT
It only takes a little imagination to read between the lines and see that what she was really asking for prayers for was that her students wouldn't have to start the year with a sub. And is that really so terrible and unworthy of prayers? I think you are right. My son had to start one year with a sub and it's definitely not the most ideal way to start a year. His sub was fabulous, but kids are usually eager to get to know their new teacher and I can understand someone hoping that that will be able to happen. However, I also know jury duty is typically a hot topic around here, so I am actually surprised that there were so few snarky comments over the course of 3 threads. To Donna, I hope you have a great year! |
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 5, 2014 17:44:08 GMT
"Donna, Phil. 4:6-7 says Do not be anxious about anything but instead pray about EVERYTHING. I didn't see the verse that instructs"except jury duty!"
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Ok. I am going to try and attempt to voice how I feel about prayer. I'm sure I'll screw it up. I look at prayer as a very personal, private thing. Beween you and god, or whoever. It's a time for YOU to reflect on what you should do, how you feel, how you should do things, whats happened, whatever. It is NOT a time to ask for things to be given to you, or others to ask for you. So if 100 people ask God to save someone's child from cancer, vs 500 Ps ask for someone not to go to jury duty, they win? Get what I am saying? I don't look as prayer as asking, or getting, but time to reflect within ourselves. I don't know when it ever became about asking for stuff?
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Post by anniebygaslight on Aug 5, 2014 17:44:58 GMT
Mixed feelings over this.
1. I don't pray, ever, but if I did, it would not be to ask that someone avoid their civic duty. Having said that;
2. I understand the OP's reasons for not wanting to disrupt her pupil's return to school.
3. Jury service is seldom convenient for anyone, but in a civilised society, it is essential.
4. Never post on a message board in the expectation of everyone seeing things from your point of view.
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Post by mzza111 on Aug 5, 2014 17:51:40 GMT
Maybe she thought as a long-time member without a lot of dramatic history, she'd be cut some slack? It only takes a little imagination to read between the lines and see that what she was really asking for prayers for was that her students wouldn't have to start the year with a sub. And is that really so terrible and unworthy of prayers? Yeah, in my opinion it is. If there is a god, there are more important things to pray for. There are multiple wars going on right this very second, several plane crashes, disease and famine...I think those trump jury duty.  If a little snark is going to hurt your feelings, this board isn't for you. |
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Post by lucyg on Aug 5, 2014 17:54:24 GMT
I think it's probably a mistake to post anything at all here if a little disagreement is going to bother you so much.
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Post by Skypea on Aug 5, 2014 17:55:40 GMT
I missed that thread. I went to it and posted. on praying (what a shock), from the view of someone who can't serve on a jury and someone who has worked for courts and dealt with the jurors.
donna - don't let some snark (even if it's me) keep you away. Do take time for the start of school tho since it is important to you - and those kids!
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Post by LAM88 on Aug 5, 2014 18:19:23 GMT
Is this our first official Pea hair flip or have I missed another? I don't count Adam as a real hair flip because he was never really a part of this community, just out to make some $$$.
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Post by christine58 on Aug 5, 2014 18:30:57 GMT
Maybe she thought as a long-time member without a lot of dramatic history, she'd be cut some slack? It only takes a little imagination to read between the lines and see that what she was really asking for prayers for was that her students wouldn't have to start the year with a sub. And is that really so terrible and unworthy of prayers? I think this gets to the heart of the matter. I'm sorry you were hurt and hope you come back after some time. Time can often change perspective. Great point both of you.... |
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Post by donna on Aug 5, 2014 20:36:21 GMT
I want to thank you all for your comments. You gave me a lot to think about.
I hope my post will not count as the first official hair flip because it was a rather lame one. We need to hold that distinction for someone who really does it with style.
Over the years I have tried really hard, with success, to not get my feelings hurt when things don't go my way in one of my threads. Because of this, I feel that I have learned a great deal from you. Hey, I work with around 100 teenagers every day. I am usually pretty tough. When my feelings do get hurt I get over things pretty quickly. You have to in my family or you will stay hurt a lot.
First, I did not realize there was a posted list somewhere about what was an acceptable topic for prayer requests. I will have to find that list and laminate it. I grew up in a southern Baptist church and we pray about a lot of things.
Second, I can usually handle criticism when it is said to my face. I have a hard time with it when it is said behind my back. The comment in Caro's thread was the one that got my big girl panties out of whack. My panties were already a little askew because of something that had happened offline earlier in the day. If you don't like something that I say, either tell me to my face or better yet just roll your eyes and move on. I try my best to treat each and every one of you the way I want to be treated.
I come her because I enjoy your company and really do learn so much from you. I think I am a better person because you guys help me see things from other perspectives. The next time my feelings are hurt I will step back for a bit and mull things over before I post.
I hope you all have a good day. I have to go pick my dh up from work.
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Post by 1lear on Aug 5, 2014 20:44:55 GMT
I'm glad you're not hairflipping!
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Post by smartypants71 on Aug 5, 2014 21:01:42 GMT
First, I did not realize there was a posted list somewhere about what was an acceptable topic for prayer requests. I will have to find that list and laminate it. I grew up in a southern Baptist church and we pray about a lot of things. This made me think of a line from my favorite movie!  Maybe she's praying for Marshall and Drew and Belle. Maybe she's praying for us because we're gossiping. Maybe she's praying because the elastic is shot in her pantyhose! Who knows! She prays a the drop of a hat these days |
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Post by craftykitten on Aug 5, 2014 21:04:19 GMT
I want to thank you all for your comments. You gave me a lot to think about. I hope my post will not count as the first official hair flip because it was a rather lame one. We need to hold that distinction for someone who really does it with style. Over the years I have tried really hard, with success, to not get my feelings hurt when things don't go my way in one of my threads. Because of this, I feel that I have learned a great deal from you. Hey, I work with around 100 teenagers every day. I am usually pretty tough. When my feelings do get hurt I get over things pretty quickly. You have to in my family or you will stay hurt a lot. First, I did not realize there was a posted list somewhere about what was an acceptable topic for prayer requests. I will have to find that list and laminate it. I grew up in a southern Baptist church and we pray about a lot of things. Second, I can usually handle criticism when it is said to my face. I have a hard time with it when it is said behind my back. The comment in Caro's thread was the one that got my big girl panties out of whack. My panties were already a little askew because of something that had happened offline earlier in the day. If you don't like something that I say, either tell me to my face or better yet just roll your eyes and move on. I try my best to treat each and every one of you the way I want to be treated. I come her because I enjoy your company and really do learn so much from you. I think I am a better person because you guys help me see things from other perspectives. The next time my feelings are hurt I will step back for a bit and mull things over before I post. I hope you all have a good day. I have to go pick my dh up from work. What a gracious post  |
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Post by Goldynn on Aug 5, 2014 21:07:11 GMT
Glad to see you back!
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Post by lovetodigi on Aug 5, 2014 21:23:55 GMT
Awww, we knew that you couldn't live without us. Just kidding. Glad that you have decided to stay. |
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Post by purplebee on Aug 5, 2014 21:25:03 GMT
Glad to see you back.
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Post by leftturnonly on Aug 5, 2014 21:34:52 GMT
That's a good point.
The problem is that anyone who has been around Two Peas for any length of time knows that jury duty can be a contentious subject.
That said, I'm not sure that one very vague and general comment should warrant such hurt feelings after two threads of support. I can only hope that perhaps the OP is emotionally stressed in other areas and not that thinned skin on a regular basis or the world could be a very hurtful place.
Could just be the straw that broke her camel's back. As a retired teacher I do understand how important the first couple of weeks of the school year are - you set the tone for the entire year then, especially with little ones. This time of year most teachers are walking balls of nerve endings. |
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Could just be the straw that broke her camel's back. As a retired teacher I do understand how important the first couple of weeks of the school year are - you set the tone for the entire year then, especially with little ones. This time of year most teachers are walking balls of nerve endings.
