Kerri W
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Post by Kerri W on Aug 5, 2014 10:31:27 GMT
I need to say this out loud and I'm sure it won't be a very popular opinion.
Its not my responsibility to keep track of whether or not you are at work and what your workplace rules are for internet usage. Its not my responsibility to not quote what you put on the World Wide Web. Its not my responsibility to not use your name when you have made it public or easy for the masses to figure out. Whether you are here or not. It's history. It's public knowledge. You can't take it back and it's not an indication of class or poor manners.
(Because it will need to be said, I think it was wrong to contact Mrs. Ts employer, yada yada yada.)
It's your responsibility to monitor what you put out there. If you don't want people to know, don't say it. It is not the responsibility of the other people participating here to view things through your filter or to pick and choose only the little bits you want them to remember.
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carhoch
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Post by carhoch on Aug 5, 2014 11:03:42 GMT
I agree with everything you just say
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grinningcat
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Jun 26, 2014 13:06:35 GMT
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Post by grinningcat on Aug 5, 2014 11:11:23 GMT
I absolutely agree with everything you've said. Personal responsibility is an important trait... if you don't want the repercussions of acting like a dolt, then don't act like a dolt and be responsible for yourself.
In other words, govern yourself accordingly and you'll have nothing to worry about.
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Post by 1lear on Aug 5, 2014 11:14:51 GMT
I agree!
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quiltz
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Post by quiltz on Aug 5, 2014 12:08:00 GMT
I agree. If you post something, it is there for all the world to see and do with the information whatever they (general they) wish to do with it.
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Post by christine58 on Aug 5, 2014 12:12:04 GMT
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Post by katieanna on Aug 5, 2014 12:25:31 GMT
I need to say this out loud and I'm sure it won't be a very popular opinion. Its not my responsibility to keep track of whether or not you are at work and what your workplace rules are for internet usage. Its not my responsibility to not quote what you put on the World Wide Web. Its not my responsibility to not use your name when you have made it public or easy for the masses to figure out. Whether you are here or not. It's history. It's public knowledge. You can't take it back and it's not an indication of class or poor manners. (Because it will need to be said, I think it was wrong to contact Mrs. Ts employer, yada yada yada.) It's your responsibility to monitor what you put out there. If you don't want people to know, don't say it. It is not the responsibility of the other people participating here to view things through your filter or to pick and choose only the little bits you want them to remember. Makes perfect sense to me!
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Post by pjaye on Aug 5, 2014 12:34:19 GMT
Yep, and if you put all your thoughts, opinions and actions on here for us all to read...guess what? I'm going to have an opinion about it and I am going to express that opinion when and if I feel like it. I will also feel free to speculate about what else may or may not be happening in your life. And here's another shocker (brace yourself)- not all of it will be positive.
Those of you who feel motivated to handslap and post "if you can't say anything nice...." or "if you don't like it just move on..." feel free to take your own advice, because it won't change a thing for me.
This isn't the little bubble of like minded people you surround yourself with in your real life who will never tell you your ideas are crazy, or that you are acting like an immature teenager or that you are in fact - wrong - about something. This is a message board and there are women from all over the world here and you'll get some positive and some negative responses.
Not prepared for that? Then stop posting every thought the second it enters your head.
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lindas
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Jun 26, 2014 5:46:37 GMT
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Post by lindas on Aug 5, 2014 12:40:16 GMT
Yes and can I just add that it's not my responsibility to always validate/agree with you. Sometimes you're just flat out wrong and if you can't handle someone disagreeing with you then stick to fluff posts.
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scrappert
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Jul 11, 2014 21:20:09 GMT
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Post by scrappert on Aug 5, 2014 12:59:20 GMT
I agree with all.
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 5, 2014 13:23:22 GMT
You know, I struggle with this. I have written posts that after reading sound way harsher or more ... pretentious? condescending? I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but tone is not conveyed in a venue like a message board.
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Aug 5, 2014 13:32:27 GMT
You know, I struggle with this. I have written posts that after reading sound way harsher or more ... pretentious? condescending? I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but tone is not conveyed in a venue like a message board. I struggle with this too at times. My tone has not always been conveyed as I intended and sometimes I worry I've interpreted someone else's tone incorrectly. My feelings have been hurt (slightly) and it's entirely possible the poster didn't intend to be so harsh. I hate the thought of inadvertently hurting someone's feelings. That being said, i fully agree everyone needs to be responsible for what they put out there. Gotta take the good with the bad if you decide to post. Sometimes easier said than done but it needs to be done.
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Post by liya on Aug 5, 2014 13:32:47 GMT
Yup to all of it.
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Post by alibama on Aug 5, 2014 13:34:37 GMT
You know, I struggle with this. I have written posts that after reading sound way harsher or more ... pretentious? condescending? I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but tone is not conveyed in a venue like a message board. Not to change the subject but this is the first time I have seen this one. anxiousmom RefuPea Fixture 754 Posts
Go Pea Fixture!!
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Post by snappinsami on Aug 5, 2014 13:35:13 GMT
I agree with everything you said. If you're going to be online - at all! - you need to take personal responsibility for what you put out there, and deal with any fallout from it. (Can I throw a "DUH!" in there as well?)
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Post by shevy on Aug 5, 2014 13:39:11 GMT
I think that sometimes it's like a rock rolling down a hill. People reveal one small thing and then another, figuring that the small things don't really matter. But like the rock, the longer it goes down the hill, the faster it goes; the more small things they revel add up to a full picture. I also think it's interesting, how compfortable people feel behind the computer monitor, the more that we go towards doing everything at home and reduce the lack of person to person contact on a daily basis.
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 5, 2014 13:49:55 GMT
You know, I struggle with this. I have written posts that after reading sound way harsher or more ... pretentious? condescending? I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but tone is not conveyed in a venue like a message board. I struggle with this too at times. My tone has not always been conveyed as I intended and sometimes I worry I've interpreted someone else's tone incorrectly. My feelings have been hurt (slightly) and it's entirely possible the poster didn't intend to be so harsh. I hate the thought of inadvertently hurting someone's feelings. That being said, i fully agree everyone needs to be responsible for what they put out there. Gotta take the good with the bad if you decide to post. Sometimes easier said than done but it needs to be done. That's just it. I deliberately didn't respond to a very innocent post this morning because, while it was a valid point within the context of the thread, the tone could have been interpreted as "let me lecture you a little bit and tell you how you should see it." *That* bothered me, then I saw this thread and thought "yes!! thank you!!" because I shouldn't be responsible for how you (the global you) interpret my meaning.
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Post by mom2emilytaryn on Aug 5, 2014 14:15:48 GMT
I must have missed something...off to see if I can figure it out!
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back to *pea*ality
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Aug 5, 2014 14:17:30 GMT
Yeah, I'm down with that kerri W and pjaye I agree with your comment. This is the nsbr and the honeymoon is over.
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Post by Heidi on Aug 5, 2014 14:43:54 GMT
Word!
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River
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Jun 26, 2014 15:26:04 GMT
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Post by River on Aug 5, 2014 14:49:37 GMT
Thanks the PSA.
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Post by magentapea on Aug 5, 2014 14:59:46 GMT
I agree. I am responsible for myself, my actions and the consequences of my actions. It's called personal responsibility.
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Post by hop2 on Aug 5, 2014 15:00:44 GMT
. And here's another shocker (brace yourself)- not all of it will be positive OMG really!!? I never could have guessed that!
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Post by hop2 on Aug 5, 2014 15:01:00 GMT
Hey just a thought here, is there a pea crawling out from under a rock emoticon? It might be helpful at times.
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Post by magentapea on Aug 5, 2014 15:06:18 GMT
You know, I struggle with this. I have written posts that after reading sound way harsher or more ... pretentious? condescending? I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but tone is not conveyed in a venue like a message board. Sometimes, though, the way someone perceives a comment says more about *them* than it does the comment or the intent. If I'm in a good mood and I read something somewhat snarky, I would probably laugh, but if I'm having an off day, it might hurt my feelings. You can't control that.
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Post by Regina Phalange on Aug 5, 2014 15:14:29 GMT
And lets add this one, because I see it SO MUCH - Yes, according to the 1st amendment you have a right to free speech (interpretation of that is a whole other post), HOWEVER, everyone ELSE has the right to tell you that you are full of shit, as well. So remember, Freedom of Speech does NOT equal Freedom from dealing with the consequences of what you said.
Kthanxbai
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Post by mellyw on Aug 5, 2014 15:21:18 GMT
Words to live by on the Internet.
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Post by dulcemama on Aug 5, 2014 15:21:52 GMT
I always feel like the handslaps and the pleas to "be nice" are a subtle form of censorship...you can't say that because it's not nice.
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Post by BuckeyeSandy on Aug 5, 2014 15:22:10 GMT
I agree with everything you just say Me too!
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Post by Goldynn on Aug 5, 2014 15:26:44 GMT
Completely agree.
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