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Post by tiffanyannhulsey on Aug 5, 2014 20:59:24 GMT
As we all know, this place (and the other place) can be filled with snark. I love snark. It is entertaining to me. My native language is sarcasm. But, a few times, I've posted my initial reaction to a post, only to be called into question. I have been a lurker for the most part because my true comments, my true gut reaction, would not be very popular.
How many times have you had to censor yourself for the sake of bad reactions?
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Aug 5, 2014 21:07:22 GMT
I censor myself when my first reaction is hurtful snark.
That's not the person I want to be (even if I am guilty of thinking it).
I try to always remember that the people behind the screen are real, feeling people, and that my careless words can hurt them.
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scorpeao
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Post by scorpeao on Aug 5, 2014 21:18:13 GMT
I often times type out a snarky comment and then quickly close down the browser before hitting send. Like you, my native tongue is sarcasm, and at times it's not well received.
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sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Aug 5, 2014 21:30:36 GMT
Daily, because I have this *whatIthinkisamusing* inner monologue going. Well, I think it's funny as hell, but it often is pretty mean.
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 5, 2014 21:34:17 GMT
Daily, because I have this *whatIthinkisamusing* inner monologue going. Well, I think it's funny as hell, but it often is pretty mean. whatIthinkisamusing syndrome... love it I bite my tongue about half of the time that I probably should. Sometimes I revise and edit before posting and sometimes my fingers fly and I've hit submit long before my filter catches up. |
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 5, 2014 21:36:04 GMT
Oh, good one. I think in sarcasm. I just wonder how many people have to bite their tongues because of me. I have found in my "advanced years" that I have to use that mental stop sign, but I much prefer to speed away.
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Post by quinlove on Aug 5, 2014 21:36:24 GMT
Ha - just the other day, while going crazy with some gum, I actually bite my tongue and made it bleed. It hurt like crazy.
Sorry - carry on.
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Trixie Bender
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Post by Trixie Bender on Aug 5, 2014 21:37:01 GMT
I bite my tongue/sit on my hands often.
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Post by purplebee on Aug 5, 2014 21:37:22 GMT
FYI, Sharla, I looked to see if it was you asking how often do you bite your tongue- literally!!!
But yes, I have noticed, especially since the Benem situation, that I occasionally write an answer or comment, think nah.....and delete. So yeah, I do bite my tongue every so often!
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 5, 2014 21:39:00 GMT
Many times at dinner, someone is just asking for sarcasm with a stupid comment they say. My youngest, 18, will say the exact sarcastic words that I am thinking. He gets scolded by my husband. He looks at me and we do the tiny superior head nod.
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 5, 2014 21:39:58 GMT
So I will not bite my tongue and ask… what was the Benem situation?
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Aug 5, 2014 21:40:53 GMT
I'm much more sarcastic in face-to-face life than in print or on-line. Even smilies and emoticons can fail to convey the tone and expression that needs to accompany some of what I'd like to say on-line. So I suppose I take the default position and often NOT be snarky or sarcastic for fear that it will be be misinterpreted. With the people I spend the majority of my time with though, I generally let it fly more. It's just part of my charm.  |
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Post by marianne on Aug 5, 2014 21:45:54 GMT
I'm not a big fan of snark/sarcasm because, by definition, it's intentionally hurtful. I don't always succeed and have dished out my share of sarcasm, but I try very hard not to hurt people. While it may seem entertaining or amusing, the person on the receiving end is rarely amused. I try to remember that.
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Post by cycworker on Aug 5, 2014 21:50:59 GMT
I have definitely tried to think before I post more often on this board. For example, I know I'm woefully lacking in my understanding of the Middle East situation. I try to read a variety of commentary on the web, and I share what I find if it's interesting to me. But in terms of posting my own thoughts, I've leaned toward lurking rather than commenting.
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 5, 2014 21:54:46 GMT
I grew up in a house where sarcasm flew and I always felt totally loved. My hubby had/has a hard time with it. He calls is arguing. I am almost always amused by other people's sarcasm, even at my expense, but there are people I know that I never use it around (out loud) because it will hurt their feelings.
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Post by gonewalkabout on Aug 5, 2014 21:55:57 GMT
Quite often. I do not enjoy being controversial, or upsetting people. Sometimes I'd love to just say what I really feel though.
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Post by utmr on Aug 5, 2014 22:05:30 GMT
Here - not so much. I try to not be mean, or cruel (name calling, etc). But if I disagree or have an opinion I put it out there.
On Facebook? All. The. Time. Apparently my friends are split 50/50 between rabid passionate liberals and rabid passionate conservatives. I generally bit my tongue (or sit on my hands) so that IRL friends/acquaintances/friends-of-friends don't yell at me, tell me I'm going to hell, or slash my tires.
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Post by purplebee on Aug 5, 2014 22:20:21 GMT
So I will not bite my tongue and ask… what was the Benem situation? Nancy, the very condensed version concerns a refupea named benem who overshared info re a work friendship/romance, and had to ask admin to delete her posts. The situation was a reminder to me, and others I'm sure, to think about what you post and make available on the internet. |
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 5, 2014 22:25:13 GMT
Here - not so much. I try to not be mean, or cruel (name calling, etc). But if I disagree or have an opinion I put it out there. On Facebook? All. The. Time. Apparently my friends are split 50/50 between rabid passionate liberals and rabid passionate conservatives. I generally bit my tongue (or sit on my hands) so that IRL friends/acquaintances/friends-of-friends don't yell at me, tell me I'm going to hell, or slash my tires. I wonder if we have the same friends. I am a teacher (notoriously liberal profession and a special ed one at that) who lives in a small, rural town (rightest of the right wings). In my circles, the conservatives are the ones who post the angry, malicious posts and the liberals post the celebrations of their causes I am not looking forward to the political season. |
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Post by akathy on Aug 5, 2014 22:36:20 GMT
Oh, good one. I think in sarcasm. I just wonder how many people have to bite their tongues because of me. I have found in my "advanced years" that I have to use that mental stop sign, but I much prefer to speed away.  |
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Post by mimima on Aug 5, 2014 22:45:50 GMT
Smile and nod. It's my coping mechanism both here and in real life |
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Post by Sweets McPea on Aug 5, 2014 22:56:00 GMT
I have lurked on Two Peas for years. Never posted. I'm quite opinionated. I deserve a medal.
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 5, 2014 22:57:59 GMT
I lurked on Two Peas for years. Never posted. I'm opinonated. I deserve a medal. Nope, now you OWE us. Depriving us of your opinions??? For shame! |
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Post by Nink on Aug 5, 2014 23:00:19 GMT
I'm much more sarcastic in face-to-face life than in print or on-line. Even smilies and emoticons can fail to convey the tone and expression that needs to accompany some of what I'd like to say on-line. So I suppose I take the default position and often NOT be snarky or sarcastic for fear that it will be be misinterpreted. With the people I spend the majority of my time with though, I generally let it fly more. It's just part of my charm. Exactly this. |
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Post by craftsbycarolyn on Aug 5, 2014 23:18:22 GMT
Lots! hence the reason I was mostly a lurker on 2peas
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Post by MaryC on Aug 5, 2014 23:23:57 GMT
As long as I stay away from the political threads I'm fairly easy going and not sarcastic. I'm southern, so I have to watch using phrases like "bless your heart" that might come across as sarcasm where none is intended.
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Post by Meri-Lyn on Aug 5, 2014 23:26:04 GMT
I'm much more sarcastic in face-to-face life than in print or on-line. Even smilies and emoticons can fail to convey the tone and expression that needs to accompany some of what I'd like to say on-line. So I suppose I take the default position and often NOT be snarky or sarcastic for fear that it will be be misinterpreted. With the people I spend the majority of my time with though, I generally let it fly more. It's just part of my charm. I agree with this. There are lots of times where I've thought of stuff, but didn't want it to become misinterpreted. I say things to lighten up the situation, but I don't want to hurt someone's feelings. So I keep it to myself mostly. But IRL? Look out!  |
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Post by pamp on Aug 5, 2014 23:38:13 GMT
Routinely,due to a snark gene that is prominent in my "pool".In my inner circle, it is sport.
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Post by mollycoddle on Aug 5, 2014 23:59:54 GMT
Oh, daily. And I sit on my hands sometimes so that I won't post what I am really thinking. :-D. I did that a lot on the Israel threads.
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Post by femalebusiness on Aug 6, 2014 1:26:11 GMT
Not often enough. This mouth of mine has been getting me in trouble since I was a kid.
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