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Post by vspindler on Aug 21, 2016 2:23:30 GMT
My ds (a junior this school year) has his first girlfriend. I know about her because she is the daughter of a friend of mine (which is how they met) but he is not very open about talking about the fact they are dating. The kids go to different schools and though he may not care about homecoming at his school, my friend mentioned to me the date of their school's homecoming and that her daughter had already planned to wear a black and red dress to the dance.
I asked him if she had mentioned homecoming at all to him and he said she hadn't. Is he supposed to ask her to the dance even if it is at her school? If it was my daughter, I'd tell her to ask him. I just want to make sure if he needs any prompting (he is his father's child lol) that I am up on what is appropriate in this day and age.
i feel so freaking OLD lol!
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Post by jtmom on Aug 21, 2016 2:29:12 GMT
I would ask ds if he was aware & if they were going. Most likely if she has a dress already they have talked about it.
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Post by bc2ca on Aug 21, 2016 2:41:11 GMT
Going to a dance at a different school isn't always as straight forward as asking and buying the tickets, so you might want to prompt him and /or her to check what needs to be done  . Or talk to the other mom. My kids were at two different schools and tickets for guests were limited and not distributed until the cut-off for the school's students to buy. Guests had a form to be filled out by their school stating they were a student in good standing and the host school distributed guest tickets in the order the requests were received (with no guarantee that everyone wanting a ticket received one). Given it is her school, I would expect her to do the asking and buy the tickets (even if the split the cost). |
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Post by mom on Aug 21, 2016 2:45:16 GMT
My ds (a junior this school year) has his first girlfriend. I know about her because she is the daughter of a friend of mine (which is how they met) but he is not very open about talking about the fact they are dating. The kids go to different schools and though he may not care about homecoming at his school, my friend mentioned to me the date of their school's homecoming and that her daughter had already planned to wear a black and red dress to the dance. I asked him if she had mentioned homecoming at all to him and he said she hadn't. Is he supposed to ask her to the dance even if it is at her school? If it was my daughter, I'd tell her to ask him. I just want to make sure if he needs any prompting (he is his father's child lol) that I am up on what is appropriate in this day and age. i feel so freaking OLD lol! I hate to ask, but are you certain she plans on going with him? At my sons school, students from other schools are not allowed, except at Prom. Is it possible she is planning on going alone? Assuming she is planning on him going, I would nudge him to talk to her about it. Maybe invite her to him Homecoming and that would open the door to further discussion about her dance? |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2016 2:48:20 GMT
I hate to ask, but are you certain she plans on going with him? At my sons school, students from other schools are not allowed, except at Prom. Is it possible she is planning on going alone? I was think the same thing. Perhaps she's going with her girlfriends or another classmate. |
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Post by smokeynspike on Aug 21, 2016 3:01:23 GMT
I would say her school, she asks. But I'm not sure if that is right or appropriate. It seems to just make the most sense to me.
Melissa
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2016 3:21:47 GMT
I second that you need to check the polices at the other school.
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Post by vspindler on Aug 21, 2016 3:43:13 GMT
I'm glad I asked! It never would have occurred to me that there might be any sort of restriction.
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Post by mlynn on Aug 21, 2016 4:52:29 GMT
I think I would let the kids handle it themselves. They have a relationship, so they should be able to work things out.
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Post by momto4kiddos on Aug 21, 2016 10:56:08 GMT
I say if she wants him to attend she'll ask him. It's not out of the question that she'll go with a group of girlfriends and not want a date.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Aug 21, 2016 11:38:24 GMT
I think I would let the kids handle it themselves. They have a relationship, so they should be able to work things out. This is what I was thinking. This is their thing. Unless they specifically ask for help with the logistics, I would keep my nose out of it. |
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Post by peabay on Aug 21, 2016 11:52:34 GMT
At our school, you can't bring someone from the outside to Homecoming. Nevertheless, let them work it out.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Aug 21, 2016 11:57:45 GMT
Or talk to the other mom. Please don't be those moms who try to manage the relationship for them. They need to work this out on their own. |
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Post by maryland on Aug 21, 2016 12:28:31 GMT
I think I would let the kids handle it themselves. They have a relationship, so they should be able to work things out. I agree! In my daughters groups of friends, it's up to the one who goes to the school to ask their boyfriend/girlfriend at another school to go. |
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Post by maryland on Aug 21, 2016 12:32:22 GMT
Or talk to the other mom. Please don't be those moms who try to manage the relationship for them. They need to work this out on their own. When I try to get involved in my kids relationships (in a minor way) it never ends well! They do a much better job managing on their own! |
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 21, 2016 12:37:11 GMT
Please don't be those moms who try to manage the relationship for them. They need to work this out on their own. When I try to get involved in my kids relationships (in a minor way) it never ends well! They do a much better job managing on their own! I learned a long time ago to limit my involvement to "tell me something good that happened."  (yesterday apparently the man in front of my son and his girlfriend at the ice cream place bought their ice cream for them.) |
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 21, 2016 15:23:25 GMT
Or talk to the other mom. Please don't be those moms who try to manage the relationship for them. They need to work this out on their own. I'd agree if the mom wasn't the ops friend first, but since they are friends and that visitors how the OP knows about the dress, they could talk. |
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Post by scrapaddie on Aug 21, 2016 17:04:04 GMT
Your son is a junior ... It's his relationship.... Let him work it out, good or bad.... It is all part of the learning
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Post by gmcwife1 on Aug 22, 2016 1:55:36 GMT
I think I would let the kids handle it themselves. They have a relationship, so they should be able to work things out. This is what I was thinking. This is their thing. Unless they specifically ask for help with the logistics, I would keep my nose out of it. My dd and her bf go to different schools and I have no udea who asks who to what dances. So I agree with both of these posters  |
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. Or talk to the other mom.
