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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2016 4:23:23 GMT
Not scrapping exactly, but about writers' responsibilities when sharing and possibly oversharing about their childrens' private and separate lives. It's a tough area. As a parent, you write about your kids, but those kids are lives of their own and at a certain point, what do you owe them in terms of privacy and permission? "I was always the narrator, the main character, even if I was also the storm-tossed heroine, the hot mess in mom jeans who couldn’t get the overalls on her 2-year-old. Or figure out fourth-grade fractions homework. I was working out my issues. My kids were always satellites to the big round-faced moon of me..... My children didn’t give me their permission to tell their stories,.... And now that I see that, I don’t want to mar my children’s glory and subvert their beginnings for my so-called art." Why I Decided to Stop Writing About My Children |
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Post by craftykitten on Aug 30, 2016 7:42:59 GMT
Your link just comes back here?
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Aug 30, 2016 9:39:33 GMT
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Post by elegantsufficiency on Aug 30, 2016 10:00:31 GMT
Interesting indeed and definitely worth reading and reflecting upon. Thanks for sharing @zingermack !
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2016 12:00:36 GMT
I feel like if I am uncomfortable saying it in my home, it doesn't belong on the Internet. So my daughter is going through puberty and it's awkward. I don't put it out there for the world because it's uncomfortable enough dealing with it privately.
I guess my filter has naturally adjusted itself as my girls grow. But then again I'm not a blogger who makes a living writing like the article lady and thousands of other mom bloggers. They started out when their kids little and now that baby boy is turning into a man I guess that forces them to make choice, keep writing or find another line of work.
I'd say this article is directed at the professional mom bloggers. Because I already know what's too private.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2016 13:12:56 GMT
Your link just comes back here? Sorry. Fixed it. |
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Post by nicolep on Aug 30, 2016 13:35:49 GMT
Very interesting indeed. I am always amazed at how it seems so many people feel the need to share every single detail about every aspect about their life. It almost seems sad to me.
Thanks for sharing!
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Post by elegantsufficiency on Aug 30, 2016 14:57:04 GMT
I'd say this article is directed at the professional mom bloggers. Because I already know what's too private I agree. I write a fairly regular blog and post on FB too, but have always protected my family and friends' identities and private lives. It just seemed wrong to invade their privacy, so I refer to them simply by their first name and never post an identifiable photograph. Imagine my horror then, when one of them posted a photograph her dh had taken of me on her FB page. He had taken the snapshot without my knowledge whilst they were staying here with us and tagged me in it. Now, neither of us has a following beyond our immediate families and friends and yet I still found the comments troubling enough to ask her to remove it. Her friends made comments (and judgements) about all kinds of things - how many books were on the shelves in the background, referred to our studio and wanted to know how big it was, what I did and more. None of their business!! We owe it to our family and our friends to protect them. When I read how the lives of some professional bloggers are scrutinised and picked over, I can't help but wonder why they do this. I know some do it for a living and yes, I enjoy reading about the nitty gritty of their everyday lives as much as anyone, but I feel very uncomfortable and agree with you nicolep and @juliehenry4 , some things are simply not for sharing. |
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Post by grammadee on Aug 30, 2016 15:08:51 GMT
I feel like if I am uncomfortable saying it in my home, it doesn't belong on the Internet. I agree. I am not on FB, and don't have a blog. I DO post scrapbook pages on Flickr, but am pretty careful to keep the names out of the titles and descriptions so they are not traceable on search engines. A few years ago one of our dgs's googled his name and the internet gave him a photo of him as a youngster at a sporting event picking his nose! The poster was a friend of his dad's and had tagged his dad, using last name, and then the first name of the kid. It was the first thing that came up in a name search eight years later... Also, since dd adopted a little guy, we have had to be even more circumspect in what we post. |
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Post by justjac on Aug 30, 2016 15:30:53 GMT
This made me think. I don't know if I've ever asked my family and friends if I have their permission to share photos of them online. I was thinking about it being MY scrapbook page, and not THEIR photo.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2016 16:31:46 GMT
The things she stated she shared were way over the top IMO....I'm shocked at her lack of common sense and so glad her dad called her on it!
I may share too much about my family. Thanks for posting this...food for thought definitely.
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Post by sleepingbooty on Aug 30, 2016 22:10:10 GMT
This made me think. I don't know if I've ever asked my family and friends if I have their permission to share photos of them online. I was thinking about it being MY scrapbook page, and not THEIR photo. This may be a cultural thing. I'm the exact opposite but I'm from a very privacy-minded culture. I never ever share a picture featuring someone else without explicitly asking their permission and I always blur a child's face even if their parents don't mind just because I feel that the child might grow up and decide s/he'd rather not have had that picture of their childhood publicly shared. And I have asked people to untag me or delete a picture of me they've posted online. I don't see why someone else should act as though they own the right to my private life. I understand there's a cultural difference that can come into play but I won't shy away from asking because of it. I was really taken aback by the author's surprise and lack of insight. But then again, it's hard to judge when you've grown up in a very different mindset. |
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